An Evolving Man Podcast

The Loss of Identity at Boarding School | Shame, Conformity & Healing

Piers Cross

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In this short solo episode, I reflect on one of the deepest impacts of boarding school:

The loss of identity.

What happens when children learn that their name, hobbies, feelings and individuality are not safe?

Drawing on my recent conversation with Peter Sykes, I explore how institutional environments shape children into survival personalities — the complier, the rebel or the crushed child.

We also look at why many adults later struggle to know what they truly want, and how we can begin reconnecting with our authentic selves.

In This Episode:

  •  Identity loss at boarding school 
  •  Names, shame and conformity 
  •  Strategic survival personalities 
  •  Why authenticity gets buried 
  •  How to reconnect with who you really are 
  •  Journaling and healing practices 

A thoughtful and practical episode for anyone exploring boarding school trauma, identity and recovery.

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Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. 

He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. 

He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 

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Many blessings, 

Piers Cross 

http://piers-cross.com/