An Evolving Man Podcast

Why Do We Self Sabotage As Ex-Boarders?

Piers Cross

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Why do we sabotage the very things we say we want?

In this episode, Piers Cross explores self-sabotage through the lens of boarding school survival patterns, trauma, leadership and nervous system regulation.

Drawing on Gay Hendricks’ concept of the “Upper Limit Problem,” Piers explains how many ex-boarders unconsciously return themselves to familiar emotional states whenever success, intimacy, joy or uncertainty begin to increase.

Topics include:

  •  Boarding school conditioning and emotional suppression 
  •  Fight, flight, freeze and dissociation 
  •  Why success can feel unsafe 
  •  Relationship sabotage 
  •  Leadership and emotional regulation 
  •  The nervous system and uncertainty 
  •  EFT, Havening and mindfulness 
  •  Expanding the window of tolerance 
  •  Compassionate leadership and healing trauma 

Piers also shares details about the upcoming free workshop:
 Why Smart Leaders Still Self-Sabotage

A reflective and experiential leadership workshop exploring unconscious patterns shaping relationships, work and performance.

 

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Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems. 

He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man. 

He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1 

For more videos please visit: http://youtube.com/pierscross 

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For Piers' website and a free training How To Find Peace In Everyday Life: https://www.piers-cross.com/community 


Many blessings, 

Piers Cross 

http://piers-cross.com/