An Evolving Man Podcast
An Evolving Man Podcast explores leadership, emotional intelligence, trauma, healing and peak performance.
Hosted by Piers Cross, the show features conversations with leading psychologists, psychiatrists, executive coaches, authors, researchers and high-performance leaders, alongside solo episodes on leadership, resilience, relationships and personal transformation.
Drawing on the latest research in psychology, neuroscience, attachment, trauma and human performance, the podcast helps leaders develop greater self-awareness, emotional intelligence and the capacity to lead with clarity, compassion and courage.
Whether you are a CEO, founder, entrepreneur or aspiring leader, each episode offers practical insights to help you thrive professionally while creating a more meaningful and connected life.
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Boarding School Syndrome: The Grief We Were Never Allowed to Feel | Piers Cross
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When my wife Michelle died in 2025, I expected grief.
What I did not expect was that her death would reconnect me with another loss that had remained hidden for decades.
The loss of my mother.
The loss of my family.
The loss of home.
The loss of safety.
The loss that began when I was sent away to boarding school.
In this deeply personal episode of An Evolving Man Podcast, I explore the striking similarities between bereavement and the boarding school experience. Drawing on the work of Joy Schaverien, Nick Duffell, Peter Sykes and Paul Sunderland, I reflect on why so many ex-boarders struggle with addiction, emotional disconnection, relationship difficulties and unresolved grief.
For many children, boarding school was not simply separation.
It was bereavement.
The difference is that society recognises one form of grief while often denying the other.
In this episode we explore:
• Why boarding school can be experienced as a profound bereavement
• The connection between grief, addiction and emotional suppression
• Why ex-boarders often struggle to access their feelings
• The impact of losing parents, home and attachment figures at an early age
• Joy Schaverien's work on Boarding School Syndrome
• Nick Duffell's reflections on British culture and emotional disconnection
• Practical ways to process grief safely
• How emotional healing supports leadership, relationships and wellbeing
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Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
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Piers Cross
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