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An Evolving Man Podcast
An Evolving Man Podcast explores leadership, emotional intelligence, trauma, healing and peak performance.
Hosted by Piers Cross, the show features conversations with leading psychologists, psychiatrists, executive coaches, authors, researchers and high-performance leaders, alongside solo episodes on leadership, resilience, relationships and personal transformation.
Drawing on the latest research in psychology, neuroscience, attachment, trauma and human performance, the podcast helps leaders develop greater self-awareness, emotional intelligence and the capacity to lead with clarity, compassion and courage.
Whether you are a CEO, founder, entrepreneur or aspiring leader, each episode offers practical insights to help you thrive professionally while creating a more meaningful and connected life.
An Evolving Man Podcast
Why Conflict Can Deepen Love | Dr. Judith Wright on Emotional Intelligence and Relationships | AEM #166
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In this episode of An Evolving Man Podcast, I speak with Dr. Judith Wright, relationship expert, author and co-founder of the Wright Foundation for the Realization of Human Potential.
Judith has spent more than 40 years helping individuals and couples transform conflict into connection, deepen emotional intelligence and create more meaningful lives.
We explore why conflict is not necessarily a sign that a relationship is failing. Instead, when approached consciously, conflict can become a doorway into truth, intimacy, personal responsibility and deeper love.
We discuss the seven rules of engagement from The Heart of the Fight, including taking responsibility for our own happiness, refusing to give more than 50% of the blame, telling the truth, fighting for rather than against, and assuming goodwill.
We also explore emotional intelligence, dissociation, shadow work, the drama triangle, relationship as a mirror, and how love can help us become more fully ourselves.
Dr. Judith Wright:
https://livewright.com/contact/
Piers Cross:
https://www.piers-cross.com/
Timestamps
00:00 Introduction to Dr. Judith Wright
02:00 Judith’s journey into relationship work
05:10 Working with couples across 20 years
08:05 Personal responsibility in relationships
10:15 The drama triangle: victim, persecutor and rescuer
13:20 Changing the field in relationship
16:15 Letting go of control
18:10 The seven rules of engagement
19:00 Accentuate the positive
21:10 Minimise the negative
23:35 No one gets more than 50% of the blame
25:00 100% responsibility for your own happiness
27:15 Truth, trust and no secrets
31:10 Fight for, not against
34:00 Assuming goodwill
38:30 Why conflict is not failure
42:20 How to begin having healthier arguments
45:30 Expressing likes and dislikes
49:00 Receiving love, praise and gifts
52:15 Relationship as a mirror
55:10 The womb and the crucible
57:50 What to do when a relationship reaches an impasse
59:25 Emotional intelligence in relationships
1:00:45 Final reflections and where to find Judith
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Piers is an author and a men's transformational coach and therapist who works mainly with trauma, boarding school issues, addictions and relationship problems.
He also runs online men's groups for ex-boarders, retreats and a podcast called An Evolving Man.
He is also the author of How to Survive and Thrive in Challenging Times. To purchase Piers first book: https://www.amazon.co.uk/How-Survive-Thrive-Challenging-Times/dp/B088T5L251/ref=sr_1_1?dchild=1&keywords=piers+cross&qid=1609869608&sr=8-1
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Many blessings,
Piers Cross
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