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347. - Why Do Smart Divorced Women Keep Doing Things That Make Them Feel Worse?
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
You know what would help.
The walk.
The boundary.
Going to bed earlier.
Not texting him back.
Turning off the phone.
Booking the therapy session.
Saying no.
Asking for support.
So why does it still feel so hard to choose those things in the moments that matter most?
If you’ve ever found yourself doom scrolling instead of sleeping, people pleasing instead of speaking up, reaching for the wine, texting your ex, or choosing temporary relief over what you know would actually help… this episode is for you.
Because the truth is:
Smart women do self-defeating things after divorce all the time.
Not because they’re lazy.
Not because they’re broken.
Not because they “should know better.”
But because emotional pain, nervous system overwhelm, loneliness, fear, and familiar coping patterns are powerful.
Inside this episode, Dawn unpacks:
– Why insight alone doesn’t create behavior change
– Why short-term soothing often wins over long-term healing
– The nervous system’s attachment to familiar pain
– How childhood conditioning can make healthy choices feel threatening
– Why texting your ex, scrolling, numbing, or staying quiet often make emotional sense in the moment
– The hidden role support and accountability play in actual transformation
– A practical exercise to help you interrupt painful patterns in real time
If you’ve been asking:
“Why do I keep doing this?”
Start here.
A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
