367. Will I Ever Be Done Healing After My Divorce... or Does My Ex Get to Haunt Me Forever?

Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce

Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
367. Will I Ever Be Done Healing After My Divorce... or Does My Ex Get to Haunt Me Forever?
Aug 04, 2026 Season 5 Episode 367
My Coach Dawn

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Have you ever caught yourself thinking...

"I'm so tired of healing."

You went to therapy. You read the books. You journaled. You listened to the podcasts. You learned about attachment styles, your nervous system, boundaries, and trauma.

So why does it still feel like your ex is taking up space in your mind?

In this episode, Dawn, Coach Tiffini, and Joy unpack the quiet resentment so many divorced women carry: the feeling that you're doing all the work while your ex seems to have moved on without looking back.

Together, they explore why healing can start to feel like another full-time job, how self-improvement quietly turns into burnout, and why trying harder isn't always the answer.

In this episode, you'll learn:

  •  Why healing after divorce can feel like it never ends. 
  •  The difference between actually healing and endlessly processing the same pain. 
  •  How to tell if you're spiraling upward—or simply spinning your wheels. 
  •  Why comparison and perfectionism keep so many women stuck. 
  •  The surprising reason some of the smartest, most self-aware women struggle to move forward. 
  •  Why self-compassion—not self-improvement—is what finally creates lasting change. 
  •  How to know you're making progress, even when healing still hurts. 

If you've ever wondered whether you'll ever be done healing after divorce—or whether your ex gets to haunt your nervous system forever—this conversation is for you.

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