289. Trauma Bond Signs You Can’t Ignore After Divorce (& What to Do When Your Body Wants Him Back)
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
If you’ve ever felt that tug toward your ex...not the man, but the idea of him...we've got you. That pull is your nervous system trying to finish a story it never got closure on. And after divorce, that pull gets loud.
In this episode, we break down why trauma bonds feel like soul ties and why your body keeps reaching for someone who couldn’t give you safety. You’ll learn what’s actually happening in your brain, why familiar pain feels magnetic, and how to interrupt the urge to text him back.
We also give you a simple sentence you can use the second your spiral starts, and we help you begin separating trauma from truth—because those two feel identical when you’re hurting.
And inside Cocoon this week, we’re celebrating wins, joy, and nervous-system rehab with this month’s Magic Drop giveaway. (If you’re not in the community yet… get in there.)
If peace feels unfamiliar, if chaos feels like home, if your body keeps wanting what your mind already left—this one’s for you.
Don’t miss Thursday’s premium episode. Dawn is guiding you through a nervous-system visualization designed to soften the cord where it actually lives—in your body. It’s how you break the loop for real.
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Ep. 288 - Calming Public Grief After Divorce: A Quick Nervous-System Reset (Grocery Store or Family Bathroom Edition)
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
Sometimes panic doesn’t wait for privacy.
It hits in the grocery store aisle, the Target parking lot, or right between the pasta sauce and the paper towels — the places where your body finally says, “No. I can’t hold this alone anymore.”
This premium episode is your real-time grounding track for those moments.
A full nervous-system reset you can use while you’re actively panicking — not later, not in hindsight, but right there, in public, while your heart is racing and your manager parts are trying to keep it all together.
Inside, Dawn guides you through:
- A My Body Said No moment — how to recognize it and respond without shame
- A sensory grounding ritual you can use anywhere (yes, even aisle 7)
- Gentle IFS language for your Manager, Firefighter, and Exile parts
- A somatic breath pattern (“baking bread + blowing on soup”) that brings your body back online
- A quiet reconnection to the truth: you belong to yourself, even while you’re not okay
This is your pocket guide for public panic — steadying, human, and deeply regulating.
Come back to it anytime your nervous system needs someone to sit with you and help you breathe again.
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287. The Grocery Store Aisle That Breaks You: Why Everyday Moments Hurt Most After Divorce
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
...and then there’s the moment you’re just standing in the pasta sauce aisle, realizing your life doesn’t come in a set of two anymore.
No one warns you about that part of life after divorce.
The everyday grief.
The way your stomach drops when you reach for a family-size anything and remember: it’s just me now.
In this episode, Dawn, Joy, and Tiff unpack why the tiny, ordinary moments hit harder than the big ones — and why the grocery store aisle can feel like a spiritual breakdown near the beans.
You’ll learn:
- why these moments have little to do with missing him
- what’s actually happening in your nervous system when that wave hits
- the parts of you (IFS) that come online in grocery-store grief
- why your identity feels shaky, young, or overwhelmed
- the difference between the “old hard” and the “new hard” of healing
- why your body says no long before your mind catches on
- how to honor your capacity during the holidays
- the sentence that will ground you instantly when the grief sneaks up
And later, in our My Body Said No segment, we share the real, raw ways our bodies are setting boundaries this season — and how honoring those no’s is a core part of healing divorce grief.
If you’ve ever pretended to compare marinara jars just to get a second to breathe… this episode will feel like someone finally naming what you’ve been carrying.
Love you.
See you Thursday for the grounding ritual inside our premium episode.
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Ep. 286 - A Holiday Loneliness Reset: A Nervous-System Ritual for Divorce Nights That Feel Too Quiet
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
If you pressed play on this tonight, it probably means the quiet hit differently.
Not the peaceful kind — the kind that presses against your ribs and makes your chest feel too small for your own heart.
The kind of quiet that shows up after divorce, when the world is flashing warm twinkle-light romance and happy-family commercials, and you're sitting in a room trying to remember how to breathe in your own life.
This episode is your place to land.
Inside this premium session, Dawn guides you through a gentle but powerful nervous-system practice designed for the exact kind of ache that shows up when the house gets still, the loneliness gets loud, and you feel like you're carrying your healing alone.
This is not about escaping the ache.
It's about not having to feel it alone.
You’ll be held through:
- A grounding somatic sequence to bring you out of the spiral and back into your body
- A breath pattern (“baking bread breaths”) that softens the panic response
- A three-point sensory reorientation technique for moments when you feel unmoored
- A nervous-system affirmation practice to remind your psyche that you are becoming, not breaking
- A guidance sequence from your future self — the woman who cannot be lost in someone else again
- A moment of truth-telling: loneliness is not your identity; it’s a moment passing through your body
- A closing ritual that helps you feel rooted, warm, and safe enough to stay with yourself
This episode is the kind you save.
For the nights when your chest feels like a raw nerve.
For the holidays, the empty rooms, the too-quiet evenings.
For anytime you need someone to meet you in the dark and sit with you until you feel like you again.
Come breathe with Dawn.
Come anchor back into the woman you’re rising into.
You’re here — and you’re not leaving you.
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285. When Everyone Else Looks Happy & You Feel Alone: Holiday Grief During Divorce
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
The holidays don’t just remind you who’s at your table...
They remind you who isn’t.
When you’re divorced, that quiet has a sound.
It’s the clink of one mug instead of two.
The solo grocery run.
The ache of seeing everyone else’s “perfect” family photos.
And the part no one talks about?
Your nervous system feels all of it long before your mind catches up.
In this episode, Dawn, Joy, and Tiff walk you through why holiday grief hits differently... not just emotionally, but neurologically.
Your brain codes the holidays as both comfort and threat, and that dual-wiring explains so much of the confusion, anxiety, tight chest, and “I don’t belong anywhere” thoughts that tend to surface this time of year.
And today, we’re going to help you work with all of it.
In this episode:
✨ Why holiday grief feels louder in your body
— the neuroscience behind scents, memories, and tradition triggering loss and longing
✨ The real reason divorced women feel like they “don’t belong anywhere”
— and how this actually traces back to belonging to yourself
✨ The phrase to repeat at any holiday party when your chest tightens
“I am safe to be seen in this moment.”
✨ A 60-second bathroom-stall nervous system reset
Cold-water wrists, humming, squats, breath work — your new somatic toolkit for holiday overwhelm
✨ How to turn this season from performance into personal power
(New traditions, choosing yourself, claiming authenticity, and ditching the performative holiday mask)
✨ Why your circle shifts after divorce
— and why that shift is actually a sign of growth, not failure
This episode is a warm hand on your back, reminding you that nothing about your holiday pain means you’re behind, broken, or unlovable. It means your nervous system still remembers love — and is learning how to feel safe again without him.
This week’s Thursday Premium episode is a guided, real-time grounding practice for the exact moment your nervous system spirals — in the grocery store aisle, the car, or the corner of the holiday party.
If you’re not a premium listener yet, now is the season to join.
You’ll get:
– All premium healing tracks
– Monthly live workshop with Dawn
– Access to exclusive Destined Homeopathics product drops
– A private community focused on real-time support
Join Premium for $5/month inside your app.
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Take our quiz “What’s Your Divorce Recovery Nervous System Type?” to understand how your body responds to grief — and get a personalized healing map.
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Ep. 284 - You Can’t Heal From Divorce Without This Kind of Forgiveness
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
You can talk about healing all day long…
But until you learn this kind of forgiveness, you’ll keep carrying him—
in your body, your triggers, your next relationship.
In this Dear Divorce Diary Premium episode, we get real about the difference between talking about forgiveness and actually feeling it.
You’ll walk through three powerful journal prompts that expose the exact places you’re still holding on—
and teach your body how to finally let go.
This isn’t about being the bigger person.
It’s about ending the loop.
If you’re tired of “working on yourself” but still feel the ache, this is the episode that moves the needle.
🎧 Exclusive to premium subscribers — because the real healing work deserves privacy, honesty, and depth.
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
283. When Divorce Resentment Won’t Let You Breathe
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
You swore you were past it.
You journaled, forgave, meditated, did the work.
But then a photo shows up, or someone says his name, and your chest tightens again. That’s resentment — the emotion that doesn’t move out just because you tell it to.
In this episode, we stop pretending it’s gone.
We talk about what keeps it alive, why it feeds on validation, and what’s hiding under all that anger.
Joy shares the text that broke her cool...Tiff opens up about being the one who always held it all together while he got to play the “fun dad.”...And I talk about the moment I realized my resentment wasn’t about him anymore (it was about the part of me that still didn’t feel safe alone).
We get honest about the apology that never helps, the waiting for closure that keeps you stuck, and the small ways resentment protects you from feeling the harder stuff underneath: grief, fear, loneliness, shame.
If you’ve ever thought, “Why can’t I just move on?” — this one’s for you.
✨ Join Premium where we dont just name the pain- we release it!
This Thursday episode, The 3 Questions You Can’t Avoid If You Actually Want to Let Go. Premium is where we stop talking about healing and start doing it — together.
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
282. The Missing Link in Perimenopause & Divorce Recovery
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
When your hormones and your heartbreak start tag-teaming your sanity, it can feel like your body and your emotions are working against you. You’re exhausted, irritable, sleepless, and half the time you can’t tell if you’re healing or falling apart.
In this episode, Dawn, Tiffini, and Joy unpack the missing link that brings your body and emotions back onto the same team. Together, they break down:
✨ Why somatics matter — and how real healing starts when you stop trying to “think” your way better and start working through the body.
🔥 The hormone connection — what perimenopause does to your nervous system, mood, and energy, and how to gently support balance again.
💧 The homeopathic solutions we swear by — including the Hot Flash Support blend that changed Joy’s life in under a week and the exclusive Divorce Recovery Blend designed just for Premium listeners.
💗 How to ground your grief — and move through divorce without staying stuck in survival mode.
If you’ve ever wondered why you can be doing “all the right things” and still feel off—this is the conversation that finally connects the dots.
Mentioned in this episode:
– The Divorce Recovery Nervous System Quiz
– Destined Homeopathics Hot Flash Support Blend
– Premium Divorce Recovery Blend (available only to Premium members)
**To order either Hot Flash Support or Divorce Recovery Blend, email hello@mycoachdawn.com and tell us your order!**
💫 Take the next step: Discover your unique nervous system type and how it’s shaping your hormones, emotions, and healing journey after divorce.
👉 Take the Divorce Recovery Nervous System Quiz
— it only takes a few minutes and can change how you understand your body forever.
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281. When Menopause Meets Divorce: Hot Flashes, Heartbreak & Rebuilding Your Identity
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
What happens when the biggest emotional transition of your life — divorce — collides with the biggest physical one — menopause?
It’s not just about hot flashes or sleep loss.
It’s your identity, libido, mood, memory, confidence, and worth all shifting at once.
And when menopause arrives during or after divorce, it can feel like:
💔 Am I still desirable?
🤯 Why can’t I think straight?
🔥 Is this rage normal or am I losing it?
😔 Will I ever feel like myself again?
You’re not crazy — you’re evolving.
Today, the women of Menopause Love Lounge join us for a raw, grounding conversation about:
✨ Mood swings no one warned us about
✨ Menopause amplifying divorce grief
✨ Nervous system truth when your body feels foreign
✨ Identity + confidence during midlife transitions
✨ Desire, pleasure, and reclaiming your power again
If you feel like your body betrayed you, your emotions don’t match your life, or your confidence is rebuilding from the ground up — this episode will feel like exhale + sisterhood.
You’re not falling apart.
You’re becoming someone stronger.
In today's episode you’ll:
✔️ Understand the emotional + hormonal overlap
✔️ Laugh until you cry
✔️ Feel inspired to rebuild confidence + identity after divorce
✔️ Navigate libido + desire changes with humor
✔️ See this season as better with other women in your corner
If You Loved This Episode
Midlife isn’t the end — it’s the awakening.
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Ep. 280. The Ache of Alone: A Guided EFT Practice to Remember You Belong After Divorce
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
There’s a kind of loneliness that doesn’t just live in your thoughts — it lives in your body...It’s the ache in your chest when you see another couple holding hands.
The quiet in the house that feels too loud.
The impulse to pour a glass of wine or take something to help you not feel so much.
In this episode of Dear Divorce Diary, Dawn, Joy, and Tiff guide you through a custom EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique) tapping practice designed to help you release the nervous system pain of being single in a couple’s world — and remember that belonging starts within.
Before the guided sequence, you’ll learn how EFT actually works:
Why we tap on certain meridian points, what each one helps release (grief, shame, resentment, fear), and how those points help regulate your nervous system when loneliness hits hard.
Then, together, they lead you through a real-time tapping meditation to help your body feel safe again — safe to feel, safe to rest, and safe to belong to yourself.
✨ In this episode
- What EFT really does to calm the post-divorce nervous system
- The nine meridian points and the emotions they help release
- A step-by-step guided tapping sequence for the ache of being single in a couple’s world
- A nervous system reframe that turns “alone” into “at home in myself”
🧘♀️ Try it now
Find a quiet space.
Take a deep breath.
Tap along as Dawn leads the practice and notice your body start to soften — the exhale that says, I’m okay. I belong here.
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279. Single in a Couple’s World: Healing the Lonely, Left-Out Feeling After Divorce
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
Have you ever noticed the world is built for couples?
Dinner for two, “plus-one” invites, family discounts — even the way people glance at you when you’re alone after divorce. It can feel like every billboard is whispering: you don’t belong.
In this episode of Dear Divorce Diary, Dawn, Coach Tiffini, and Producer Joy get brutally honest about what it means to be single in a couple’s world. They unpack:
💔 Why loneliness after divorce isn’t weakness — it’s your nervous system’s signal for connection.
🧠 How your attachment style (anxious, avoidant, or disorganized) shows up when you’re alone.
💸 The “silent tax” of singleness — and how to shift from scarcity to self-trust and abundance.
💡 Why healing your attachment style requires more than talk therapy — and how tools like EFT, IFS, and homeopathy can rewire safety from the inside out.
Plus, in this week’s premium episode, the ladies guide you through a custom EFT tapping sequence for loneliness — a real-time way to calm your body, feel safe again, and start reprogramming attachment patterns.
If you’ve ever felt invisible, resentful, or just plain tired of a world made for pairs, this one’s for you.
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
Ep. 278 Why You Still Text Back: Healing the Trauma Bond After Divorce.
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
You could be a therapist, a coach, or the friend who swears she knows better—and still fall for an avoidant man’s games after divorce.
In this Dear Divorce Diary Premium episode, Dawn, Joy, and Tiffini get brutally honest (and hilariously real) about the ridiculous ways smart women stay hooked—the late-night texts, the lies we half-believed, the crumbs we treated like connection.
Then they flip the script with five raw, transformative questions that help you break the trauma bond for good and reclaim your nervous system.
This conversation blends cringe, comedy, and clarity—and by the end, you’ll never look at that buzz of his name lighting up your phone the same way again.
In this episode:
• Why even strong, self-aware women ignore red flags after divorce (hint: it’s not stupidity—it’s nervous-system survival)
• How avoidant partners keep you emotionally addicted and how to spot the pattern in real time
• A simple somatic tool (ankle rolls + humming) to calm your body when you’re tempted to text back
• Five journal-ready questions that change everything about how you respond to those “Hey stranger” messages
Listen for:
- The Confession: Real stories that make you say, “Oh my God, me too.”
- The Reveal: Why your body mistakes anxiety for attraction—and how to break that cycle.
- The Breakthrough: What it takes to stop letting him control your nervous system.
Ready to heal for real?
Subscribe to Dear Divorce Diary Premium for just $5/month.
You’ll get access to:
✨ Monthly live workshops with Coach Tiffini
✨ Exclusive healing sessions and somatic tools
✨ Every uncensored episode that goes where the public feed can’t
👉 Join now—where healing after divorce gets real, one brave conversation at a time.
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
277. Divorcing an Avoidant Man: Decode His Tactics and Take Back Your Power.
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
He disappears, then drops a “just checking in” text.
He remembers the good old days, then ghosts again.
That push–pull dance isn’t love — it’s control.
In this episode of Dear Divorce Diary, Dawn, Tiffini, and Joy unpack the hidden cost of divorcing an avoidant man — the paranoia, the false connection, the endless emotional labor — and teach you how to finally flip the script.
You’ll learn:
💔 How avoidant behavior actually works (and why it’s not your fault)
🧠 The nervous-system science behind intermittent affection
🔥 The one boundary that ends post-divorce hooks for good
💬 The single question that changes how you respond to him — forever
Write this down:
Am I about to respond as the woman he trained me to be — or as the woman I’m becoming?
If that line hits you in the gut, that’s the point. It’s time to stop being who he conditioned you to be and start becoming who you really are.
💫 Grab your free 21-day Post-Divorce Roadmap using code MAGIC DROP — you’ll automatically join Cocoon, our private community with weekly Magic Drops, giveaways, and real-time healing support.
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
276. Trust Yourself Again: How Human Design Heals Decision Fatigue After Divorce
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
You’ve read the books, gone to therapy, tried to make the “right” choice… and still feel like you’re second-guessing everything. After divorce, even simple decisions can feel like emotional quicksand.
In this episode, Dawn introduces Human Design—a quantum-meets-psychology framework that reveals how you were built to make decisions, manifest, and recharge your energy. Whether you’re wired for logic, emotion, gut instinct, or reflection, understanding your design can transform the way you trust yourself again.
Dawn shares stories from pulling her own chart—and Tiffini’s and Joy’s—to show how this system validates what women already know deep down: you’re not broken, you’ve just been trying to live by someone else’s rules.
You’ll learn:
✨ Why traditional therapy can keep you second-guessing your own wisdom
✨ How your Human Design type influences burnout, boundaries, and intuition
✨ The surprising reason decision fatigue skyrockets after divorce
✨ How alignment (not hustle) creates real healing and coherence
If you’re ready to stop asking, “What’s wrong with me?” and start remembering who you are—this episode is your permission slip.
🔗 Resources Mentioned
- Human Design App by Jenna Zoe
- Follow @healthy.madeline for breathwork + Human Design insights
- Take the Divorce Recovery Nervous System Quiz
to discover your post-divorce healing type
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
275. Manifesting Money After Divorce: The Energy, Faith, and Physics Behind Abundance
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
You say you’re ready for more — but your energy still whispers “not enough.”
In this powerful rebroadcast from the Immersive Manifestation Series, Dawn exposes the hidden belief systems that keep women under-earning, under-receiving, and over-giving. You’ll unpack the roots of scarcity — from ancestral conditioning to quiet fears of losing love if you have more — and experience a live quantum healing sequence to rewire your nervous system for abundance.
Stay to the end — that’s where your energy shifts.
💰 Inside:
The real reason “money mindset” work hasn’t clicked
- How faith (not fear) fuels true manifestation
- A healing process to release shame, scarcity, and ineligibility
- Why your current life is evidence of your energetic alignment — and how to change it
💛 Ready to learn how your nervous system type impacts your healing and manifestation after divorce?
Take the Divorce Recovery Nervous System Quiz to discover your unique healing blueprint and get personalized tools to help you feel safe receiving more.
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
274. The Lies Denial Tells You: When Feeling Numb Keeps You From Healing After Divorce
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
Denial isn’t just pretending things are fine — it’s the story your nervous system tells so you don’t have to feel the full truth yet.
In this episode, we talk about how denial shows up in subtle ways:
...staying busy so you don’t feel,
...justifying behavior that hurts you,
...and, convincing yourself “it’s not that bad.”
And why breaking through it isn’t about shame — it’s about safety.
This is one of those episodes that’s worth hearing again, because the moment denial cracks, real healing begins.
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
273: Divorce - The Patterns You Thought Were Love - But Were Really Fear
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
Some relationships end, but their patterns keep living in your body long after the divorce papers are signed.
In this rerelease, we talk about the hidden patterns that you thought were love — but were really fear. The ways you chased safety, approval, and control when what you actually craved was connection. The push-pull of attachment styles, codependency, and nervous system survival strategies that kept you looping in anxiety and longing.
If you’ve ever wondered why you keep attracting the same type of partner or why you can’t stop missing someone who hurt you, this episode will help you see what was really happening beneath the surface.
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
Ep. 272. The Secrets Divorced Moms Carry: Shame, Silence, and the Search for Freedom
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
Divorced moms carry secrets no one talks about.
The things their ex did behind closed doors.
The moments with their kids they can’t admit out loud — not because they’re weak, but because protecting their children comes first.
In this premium episode of Dear Divorce Diary, we crack open the hidden stories that weigh the heaviest:
- His secrets you’ve protected — and the resentment that builds from carrying them.
- Your own secrets — the rage, the shame, the things you fear make you a “bad mom.”
- The deeper secret about secrets — why it’s rarely the story itself that keeps you stuck, but the shame welded to it.
What if true freedom isn’t about being believed… but about finding peace without anyone else’s validation?
Let’s dig in.
If you’ve felt secretly bound to your grief, know this: you’re not broken, you’re caught in a pattern that can shift. Take the Divorce Recovery Nervous System Quiz to discover how your nervous system type feeds the loop — and get tailored practices, resources, and episodes that help you move forward with confidence.
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
271. Life After Divorce: Inside the Single Mom Identity Crisis
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
You didn’t plan on single-mom life at 40. You didn’t plan on working full-time while juggling sick kids, homework, and Tylenol runs at 2 a.m. You didn’t plan on losing the “white picket fence” identity you once posted on social media.
This week on Dear Divorce Diary, we’re getting real about what happens when your stay-at-home-mom world collapses and you have to become everything—breadwinner, nurturer, disciplinarian—overnight.
Inside this honest conversation, you’ll hear:
- Why the transition from stay-at-home to single working mom is such a shock to your nervous system
- How overcompensating for your kids (or trying to be “both parents”) leaks your energy
- Simple, free grounding tools that help you become a true safe space for your kids—and for yourself
You’ll also learn why presence—not perfection—is the thing your children (and your body) crave most, and how nervous-system regulation after divorce can completely shift the way you parent.
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
Ep. 270 - Married to Grief After Divorce — Breaking the Addiction
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
For many women, divorce grief doesn’t just fade with time — it loops. You revisit the what-ifs, you cling to the ache, you replay the story until it feels less like healing and more like obsession. In this subscriber-only episode, we dive into why grief after divorce can feel like something you’re “married” to and what it really takes to break free.
Inside this episode:
- Why grief sometimes becomes an identity you can’t shake.
- How the looping “obsession” keeps you tethered to the pain.
- What it takes — from nervous system support to trauma-informed tools — to finally loosen grief’s grip.
If you’ve felt secretly bound to your grief, know this: you’re not broken, you’re caught in a pattern that can shift. Take the Divorce Recovery Nervous System Quiz to discover how your nervous system type feeds the loop — and get tailored practices, resources, and episodes that help you move forward with confidence.
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
269. Dating After Divorce: All the Good Men Aren’t Gone—Here’s Why You Can’t Find Them Yet
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
If you’ve been swiping after divorce and it feels like all the good ones are gone—or worse, you’ll just pick another version of your ex—pause. That’s not a dating problem. It’s a healing problem.
In this episode, we’re unpacking:
- The lies we tell ourselves about “no good men”
- Lori Gerber’s 3H Method (head, heart, hoo-ha) for clarity in dating
- How breadcrumbing + settling are really nervous-system issues
- Why your body flashes red lights during dates (and what it’s really about)
Because if love still feels unsafe, your body will tell you—loud and clear.
“You can’t fake safety. If you don’t believe love is possible, your nervous system will keep proving you right.”
Your body isn’t just reacting to texts, swipes, or dates—it’s showing you the deeper nervous system + hormone patterns that still need healing. If you want to understand your patterns, take the free Divorce Recovery Nervous System Type Quiz. You’ll discover the type of wiring that’s quietly running your love life, plus the hormonal layer underneath—and what to do about it.
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
Ep. 268 - Divorce, Codependency, and the Part of You That Still Craves Approval (A Somatic Meditation)
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
If Tuesday’s episode on addiction and codependency stirred something inside you, this one is here to help you actually shift it.
Some episodes are for learning, and some are for recovering. This is your chance to drop in, breathe deeper, and reconnect with the part of you that’s been carrying so much.
Inside this guided somatic + IFS meditation, you’ll:
- Regulate your nervous system through breath and body release
- Meet the part of you that aches for approval or love
- Feel safer giving yourself permission to actually feel
- Start loosening the grip of codependency, one moment at a time
This is about more than insight—it’s about embodiment. So if you’re ready to let your body lead the way back to safety and healing, press play and join me.
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of forgiveness and letting go.
267. Divorce Drama & Dopamine: the Addiction No One Names
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
Ever sworn you wouldn’t check his Instagram at 1 a.m. … and still did? Or did you tell yourself, “just one glass,” and finish the bottle? That loop isn’t just bad habits—it’s codependency as addiction.
In this episode of Dear Divorce Diary, dawn, Producer Joy, and Coach Tiffini unpack how post-divorce codependency functions like a hidden addiction—hooking you on approval, fixing, and being chosen. We’ll explore:
✨ Why shame (not loneliness) is the engine that keeps you stuck
✨ The breadcrumb → boundary cycle every divorced woman knows too well
✨ How “good girl” conditioning rewires your nervous system for addiction
✨ Practical ways to interrupt the dopamine-drama loop
You don’t need another glass, another scroll, or another half-love. You need a nervous system that feels safe—and that’s what we help women build every day.
👉 Ready to break the cycle? Apply now for A Different D Word, our 12-month divorce recovery program, and book your inquiry call here: Click to Apply
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
266. Exhausted, Angry & Over It: How To Move From Survival to Safety After Divorce
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
When you’re in crisis, your nervous system isn’t neutral—it’s running survival programs. Fight, flight, freeze, repeat. And when you tell yourself “not now”, that’s not laziness or failure—it’s a protective pattern your body believes is keeping you safe.
But here’s the thing: survival mode isn’t meant to be permanent. It quietly drains your energy, feeds old beliefs like “I can’t do this,” and keeps you circling the same pain.
In this episode of Dear Divorce Diary, we explore:
✨ Why the nervous system convinces us to wait until things feel calmer before healing
✨ How beliefs like “not now” or “what if it doesn’t work” keep you locked in survival loops
✨ The energetic cost of staying in crisis—and what shifts when you allow safety to be restored
✨ What happens in the very first month of our program that helps women feel grounded, resourced, and ready for lasting change
Healing isn’t about pushing harder. It’s about creating safety, updating beliefs, and letting your body remember how to release what it’s been carrying.
🔗 Doors to A Different D Word close September 20. Book your clarity call today: mycoachdawn.com/a-different-d-word-the-online-divorce-recovery-community
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
265. You Trusted Him. It Cost You Everything. Now Money Feels Just As Risky After Divorce.
Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
Trust and money go hand in hand after divorce—yet both feel broken. When the person who swore forever betrayed you, even opening your wallet can feel unsafe.
You’ll Learn
- Why money feels emotionally risky after betrayal.
- How your nervous system links financial fear to past trust wounds.
- The first step to rebuilding safety with money in your body—not just your bank account.
💎 Want money to feel safe again? Join A Different D Word
and build nervous-system safety alongside financial confidence.
When trust is broken in marriage, it doesn’t just live in your memories—it shows up in how you relate to money. Bills, budgets, even dreams of independence can trigger the same body-wide fear you felt in betrayal.
In this episode, I share how to understand the trust-money connection, and what your nervous system needs to feel grounded again. When money feels safe, you stop shrinking and start creating a future you actually trust.
Money after divorce doesn’t have to feel unsafe—healing starts in your nervous system.
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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.
289. Trauma Bond Signs You Can’t Ignore After Divorce (& What to Do When Your Body Wants Him Back)
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Ep. 288 - Calming Public Grief After Divorce: A Quick Nervous-System Reset (Grocery Store or Family Bathroom Edition)
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287. The Grocery Store Aisle That Breaks You: Why Everyday Moments Hurt Most After Divorce
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Ep. 286 - A Holiday Loneliness Reset: A Nervous-System Ritual for Divorce Nights That Feel Too Quiet
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285. When Everyone Else Looks Happy & You Feel Alone: Holiday Grief During Divorce
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Ep. 284 - You Can’t Heal From Divorce Without This Kind of Forgiveness
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283. When Divorce Resentment Won’t Let You Breathe
38:40
282. The Missing Link in Perimenopause & Divorce Recovery
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281. When Menopause Meets Divorce: Hot Flashes, Heartbreak & Rebuilding Your Identity
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Ep. 280. The Ache of Alone: A Guided EFT Practice to Remember You Belong After Divorce
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279. Single in a Couple’s World: Healing the Lonely, Left-Out Feeling After Divorce
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Ep. 278 Why You Still Text Back: Healing the Trauma Bond After Divorce.
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277. Divorcing an Avoidant Man: Decode His Tactics and Take Back Your Power.
31:43
276. Trust Yourself Again: How Human Design Heals Decision Fatigue After Divorce
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275. Manifesting Money After Divorce: The Energy, Faith, and Physics Behind Abundance
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274. The Lies Denial Tells You: When Feeling Numb Keeps You From Healing After Divorce
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273: Divorce - The Patterns You Thought Were Love - But Were Really Fear
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Ep. 272. The Secrets Divorced Moms Carry: Shame, Silence, and the Search for Freedom
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271. Life After Divorce: Inside the Single Mom Identity Crisis
37:20
Ep. 270 - Married to Grief After Divorce — Breaking the Addiction
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269. Dating After Divorce: All the Good Men Aren’t Gone—Here’s Why You Can’t Find Them Yet
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Ep. 268 - Divorce, Codependency, and the Part of You That Still Craves Approval (A Somatic Meditation)
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267. Divorce Drama & Dopamine: the Addiction No One Names
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266. Exhausted, Angry & Over It: How To Move From Survival to Safety After Divorce
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265. You Trusted Him. It Cost You Everything. Now Money Feels Just As Risky After Divorce.
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