Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
Ep. 330 Behind the Mic: The Parts of Post-Divorce Sex & Desire We Usually Hide
Mar 26, 2026
Season 5
My Coach Dawn
This Behind the Mic episode goes deeper than Tuesday’s conversation ever could.
Once the public recording stopped, the three of us got brutally honest about the parts of post-divorce sex and desire that most women feel too ashamed, confused, or exposed to say out loud.
We talk about:
- The intoxicating “drug” of being wanted again — and why it can feel like medicine (until it doesn’t)
- Using a transition relationship or affair partner as a “lily pad” just to get through the terror of leaving
- The urge to go back to your ex for physical touch, validation, or to fill the void
- Breadcrumbing from your ex and how we settle for scraps just to feel like we still matter
- Controlling (or being controlled) through sex — and the conscious choice to break that cycle
- The exhausting “taxi cab light” — constantly scanning rooms for the next person who might choose us
- What re-entry into sex and dating felt like when we were truly, dead-single: the discomfort, the sneaking out, the rejection control, and the nervous system shutdown
- The quiet question so many of us carry: Am I actually ready for love… or am I just desperate to feel wanted again?
This is the raw, unfiltered truth we usually keep behind the paywall — because it’s safer here. No sugar-coating. No performative healing. Just three divorced women (including your host, a therapist and coach) sharing the messy, human reality of desire, attachment, and learning to want ourselves again.
If you’ve ever felt ashamed of your choices, confused by your body’s cravings, or scared that you’re repeating old patterns, this episode is for you.
You are not broken. You are not alone. And you don’t have to figure this out by yourself.
💛 Thank you for trusting us with your healing journey. We see you, we love you, and we’re walking beside you.
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