355. Why Do I Feel So Out of Control Around Food & Weight Since Divorce?

Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce

Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
355. Why Do I Feel So Out of Control Around Food & Weight Since Divorce?
Jun 23, 2026 Season 5 Episode 355
My Coach Dawn

Maybe you're eating more.

Maybe you're eating less.

Maybe you're thinking about food all the time.

Maybe you've gained weight, lost weight, or feel like your body doesn't respond the way it used to.

And maybe you're wondering why something that once felt manageable suddenly feels so complicated.

In this episode of Dear Divorce Diary, Dawn, Tiffini, and Joy explore the often-overlooked connection between divorce, grief, stress, loneliness, and our relationship with food and weight.

Because the truth is, food works.

Food can create comfort, connection, distraction, relief, control, and even a temporary sense of safety when life feels overwhelming. The problem isn't that it helps. The problem is that the relief is temporary, while the deeper pain remains.

Together, we unpack:

  •  Why divorce can dramatically change the way you eat 
  •  Emotional eating, stress eating, under-eating, and food restriction 
  •  The connection between food, loneliness, grief, and nervous system regulation 
  •  Why food can become a source of comfort, control, protection, or relief 
  •  The hidden fears that often drive food and weight struggles 
  •  How childhood experiences shape our relationship with nourishment 
  •  The difference between self-soothing and avoiding ourselves 
  •  Simple questions that can help you understand what you're really hungry for 

If you've ever found yourself standing in the pantry wondering, "Why am I doing this?" or looking in the mirror and feeling disconnected from your body, this conversation is for you.

Because this isn't really about willpower.

It's about understanding what your nervous system, your body, and your grief may be trying to communicate.

One step at a time, with curiosity instead of judgment.

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