If someone has ever told you to calm down after divorce—and it made everything inside you feel louder, sharper, or more volatile—you’re not broken.

You’re responding to a loss of connection.

In this Thursday Panel Rant, Dawn and the crew get cheeky, honest, and deeply real about why “calm down” is one of the fastest ways to shut a woman down—and why it so often backfires in relationships after divorce.

This episode explores:

• Why being told to calm down often feels like being told your feelings are inconvenient
• How emotional suppression turns into explosive anger later
• The link between anxiety, anger, and broken trust after divorce
• How gaslighting and dismissal train women to doubt their own reality
• The difference between nervous system discomfort from growth vs. true emotional unsafety
• Why anger isn’t the problem—it’s information

The panel also weaves in the concept of Martin Buber’s I–Thou relationship dynamic—reminding us that real connection requires honoring both people’s lived experience, not just managing the loudest discomfort in the room.

Because here’s the truth:
Women don’t need to calm down.
They need to feel seen, understood, and safe enough to tell the truth.

Instead of asking yourself to be quieter, smaller, or easier to handle, this episode invites a different question:

What feels unsafe right now—for me, or for them?

That question—asked with honesty instead of judgment—is often where regulation actually begins.

This is not a polished episode.
It’s a lived one.
A little ranty.
A little funny.
And deeply validating for any woman who was taught to silence herself to survive.

Welcome to Panel Rant Thursday.

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What if this life after divorce never gets better?
What if this is just how it is now?
What he ruined everything? What if I can't be healed?

If those thoughts have been looping in your mind after divorce, this episode is for you.

In the Season 5 premiere of Dear Divorce Diary, we’re opening a powerful six-week series devoted to naming the thing under the thing—the deeper, often invisible forces that keep women stuck in anxiety, overthinking, and emotional exhaustion after divorce.

And today, we begin with one of the scariest experiences of all:
the fear that the way you feel right now is permanent.

Here’s what most of us have never realized:
Those thoughts aren’t coming from weakness or fear.
They’re coming from a nervous system trying its best to keep you afloat while you're completely collapsed.

In this episode, we’re not fixing anxiety—we’re explaining it.
Because understanding what your body is doing is often the first moment it finally exhales.

In this episode, we explore:

• Why divorce anxiety often intensifies after the divorce is final
• The difference between panic… and the deeper fear of permanence
• How anxiety gets mistaken for identity—and why that matters
• What happens when trust has been wounded by loss, betrayal, or overwhelm
• Why solutions often arrive from places you never could have predicted
• How protective, pessimistic parts can reject help—and how to soften that pattern

You’ll also hear personal stories from Dawn, Joy, and Tiffini about moments when they couldn’t see a way forward—until something unexpected showed up and changed everything.

And at the end of the episode, we debut a new community segment:
 ✨ Small Wins, Big Shifts ✨
where we share listener-submitted moments that prove healing after divorce doesn’t have to be dramatic to be real.

If you’ve been afraid that this feeling will never end…
 If you’ve wondered whether you’ll ever trust yourself—or life—again…
 Let this episode remind you:

Nothing you’re feeling means you’re broken.
 It means your system learned how to survive.

And survival is not the end of the story.

🎧 Stay tuned for Thursday’s companion episode, where we guide you through a nervous-system practice to help your body feel safe again—no fixing, no forcing, just settling.

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This is not a lesson about divorce healing.
It’s not advice.
It’s a pause.

Day 12 of the 12 Days of Divorce Christmas is simply a blessing—offered to you exactly as you are.

If these last 12 days stirred grief, relief, exhaustion, hope, or something you can’t quite name, this episode is here to hold that with you.

No fixing.
No reframing.
No pushing forward.

Just a few quiet moments of being witnessed.

You’ve been strong longer than you should have had to be.
You’ve carried more than most people ever saw.
And nothing about what you needed was wrong.

As we step into a new year, this is our prayer for you:

That you feel chosen.
That you feel wanted.
That your nervous system learns what safety feels like again.
And that you remember—you were never meant to do this alone.

Let yourself rest here. Sending all our love,

Dawn, Joy & Tiffini

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If New Year’s resolutions have never worked for you...especially after divorce, it’s not because you lack discipline, motivation, or follow-through.

It’s because the version of you who survived divorce is not wired to safely become the woman you’re trying to create.

After divorce, most women try to change their lives by changing their behavior.

But behavior never sticks when the nervous system doesn’t feel safe expanding.

In this New Year’s Day episode, we break down why resolutions fail specifically after divorce—and what actually creates change instead.

We talk about:

• Why “New Year, New You” language backfires on a nervous system shaped by loss
• How inherited roles, survival strategies, and emotional suppression block capacity
• The real reason desire alone isn’t enough to create change
• Why your brain will offer a thousand excuses—and why that doesn’t mean you’re failing
• What permission has to do with confidence, worthiness, and follow-through

You’ll be guided through a powerful journaling exercise we call the New Year Permission Slip—not focused on what you want, but on who you’re willing to become to receive it.

Because the woman who calls in a fuller life after divorce:

• has more capacity
• feels safer being seen
• trusts herself more deeply
• and no longer abandons herself to stay comfortable

And she doesn’t arrive by accident.

🎯 Your Invitation

Ask yourself:

• What am I calling in this year?
• And what am I willing to put on the line to become the woman who can hold it?

We believe in you.

The real question is—will you give yourself permission to believe in you too?

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New Year’s Eve has a way of turning self-criticism up to full volume after divorce.

The comparisons.
The sense that you should be further along.
The quiet question of what’s wrong with me that this still hurts?

If you find yourself being unusually hard on yourself today, this episode isn’t here to tell you to “think positive” or try harder.

It’s here to explain why this happens—and what your nervous system is actually doing when self-doubt takes over.

In this episode, we talk about:

• Why divorce retrains your nervous system to scan for failure instead of progress
• Why pride and self-validation feel uncomfortable or even unsafe for so many women
• How New Year’s Eve amplifies comparison, loneliness, and internal pressure
• A simple practice to help your system start noticing what is working

This is not about forcing confidence or pretending you’re okay.

It’s about understanding why self-criticism shows up when safety feels fragile—and how to interrupt the spiral without shaming yourself for being in it.

🎄 This is Day 10 of the 12 Days of Divorce Christmas—short, steady episodes designed to support your nervous system during one of the hardest weeks of the year.

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The holidays after divorce don’t hurt because you’re single.
They hurt because they force you to confront how unsafe it feels to need support.

In this Day 9 episode of 12 Days of Divorce Christmas, we talk about the hidden, hardest part of life after divorce—asking for help. Not logistically, but emotionally. Not politely, but vulnerably.

If feeling safe, seen, and supported came naturally to you, this wouldn’t be the relationship you ended up in—and it wouldn’t be how it ended. So when the holidays raise the volume on need, asking for support can feel threatening, activating, or even shame-inducing.

Producer Joy joins me to explore what keeps so many women stuck in invisibility—especially during the holidays and heading into the New Year. We talk about worthiness, vulnerability, and the very real fear that comes with letting yourself be witnessed after divorce.

This episode invites you to slow down and ask:
 – What do I actually need right now?
 – Who has shown me they’re safe enough to ask?
 – What would it look like to make one honest, aligned request?

This isn’t about forcing vulnerability or asking people to give what they’ve never shown they can.
 It’s about reclaiming your right to matter—and letting it begin with you.

If the holidays after divorce are making it painfully clear how hard it is to need support, this episode will help you understand why—without judgment, pressure, or pretending you’re ready for more than you are.

You’re allowed to feel the fear.
 And you’re allowed to ask anyway.

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In this Day 8 episode of 12 Days of Divorce Christmas, Coach Tiffini joins me to unpack what actually happens inside your nervous system when you try to bring old traditions into a new life after divorce...especially in this in-between week between the holidays and the New Year.

Through an IFS (Internal Family Systems) lens, we talk about the protective parts that step in when traditions carry grief, memory, and expectation. Not because you’re doing it wrong—but because your system may not feel safe enough yet to repeat what once belonged to a different life.

This isn’t about mindset.
 It’s not about trying harder.
 And it’s not about forcing yourself to “make it meaningful.”

It’s about understanding why recreating traditions after divorce can backfire—and how to stop fighting the resistance long enough to listen to what your body is actually asking for.

If the holidays after divorce feel emotionally confusing, muted, or harder than you expected—especially as New Year approaches—this episode will help you make sense of that without judging yourself or rushing the process.

Your nervous system is doing exactly what it’s designed to do.

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How ya doing babe? We're on day 7 of "The 12 Days of Becoming HER Again" and it's all pretty raw.

Today we’re talking about loneliness after divorce...not as something to fix or outrun, but as something that moves in waves.

For many women, loneliness doesn’t stay constant.
 It rises.
 It crests.
 And when it hits, it can feel overwhelming.

In this episode, Joy and I talk about:

• Why loneliness after divorce often comes in waves
• How many women try to drown it out instead of ride it
• The difference between feeling lonely and being unsafe
• What actually helps when the wave rises
• Why resisting loneliness often makes it stronger
• How to stay present without collapsing into it

This conversation is about learning how to ride the loneliness wave — letting it move through you without letting it take you under.

You don’t have to force yourself to feel better.
 You don’t have to make it mean something about your worth.
 You just need a way to stay with yourself when it shows up.

If loneliness has been hitting hard this holiday season, this episode is for you.

🎄 About the 12 Days of Divorce Christmas

The 12 Days of Divorce Christmas is a daily series supporting your nervous system and your heart through the holidays after divorce.

✨ Days 1, 2, and 9 are available on the public feed.
✨ The full series is available inside Dear Divorce Diary Premium.

If today’s episode helped you feel less afraid of the loneliness — or less alone inside it — the rest of the series is there to keep supporting you.

Join Dear Divorce Diary Premium to access the full 12 Days of Divorce Christmas.

Or stay with us here today — and come back tomorrow.

Capacity builds in connection. Hugs ❤️

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Today's convo is about a specific kind of holiday pain after divorce...
 the Christmas cards knowing exactly how to **send you.

The smiling families.
The matching outfits.
The quiet comparison that starts to creep in and makes you feel like you no longer belong to the world you used to be part of.

In this episode, Joy and I talk about:

• Why Christmas cards trigger comparison so deeply after divorce
• How performance culture keeps women disconnected from themselves
• The grief of rebuilding your life in truth while others appear “settled”
• Why comparison pulls you off your own healing path
• What it means to shift from me vs. them to me vs. me
• Why becoming yourself can feel lonelier before it feels better

We also offer a simple, creative practice for working with the cards themselves...not from bitterness, but from transformation (well maybe a little from bitterness) as a way to reclaim your power and your perspective.

This episode isn’t about pretending the comparison doesn’t hurt.
 It’s about choosing not to let it delay your becoming.

If the Christmas cards have been making you feel like an outsider this season, come hang with us!

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Capacity builds in connection. Hugs ❤️

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If you’re here today, it means your kids aren’t with you...and that absence lands in the body, not just the heart.

This episode is for the moms navigating holidays, weekends, or long stretches without their children after divorce. The quiet. The ache. The way your nervous system doesn’t know where to settle when the people you’re bonded to aren’t home.

Joy shares from lived experience what it’s like to be deeply, trauma-bonded to your children — through pregnancy, birth, illness, caregiving, and survival — and then suddenly have to function without them physically present.

In this conversation, we talk about:

• Why missing your kids after divorce can feel physically destabilizing
• How maternal bonding and trauma bonding affect the nervous system
• The urge to stay busy, numb out, or dissociate — and why that makes sense
• What actually helped during the hardest hours (movement, EFT tapping, nature, structure)
• Why “doing nothing” can feel unbearable — and what to do instead
• A simple candle ritual to honor the bond when your kids aren’t with you
• How to stay connected without collapsing or abandoning yourself

This episode is not about fixing the grief or rushing you through it.
 It’s about staying present with the truth that their bodies may be absent — but their love is not.

If you’re missing your kids today, you don’t have to disappear to survive it.
 You’re allowed to grieve and stay with yourself.

🎄 About the 12 Days of Divorce Christmas

The 12 Days of Divorce Christmas is a daily, nervous-system-first series created to support women through the holidays after divorce.

✨ Days 1, 2, and 9 are available on the public feed.
✨ The remaining days — including deeper support for grief, loneliness, and identity after divorce — are available inside Dear Divorce Diary Premium.

If this episode helped you feel less alone, the rest of the series is there to hold you through the days that follow.

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Their love is not absent.
And neither are you.

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Christmas after divorce can hit your body before your mind ever catches up.

You can know logically that other people’s celebrations have nothing to do with you—and still feel the ache, the comparison, the quiet grief in your chest when you wake up.

Today’s episode is different.

This is a short quantum healing track designed to help your nervous system release the emotional charge that gets activated when you imagine other families celebrating—and then turn back toward your own reality.

Quantum healing works by bringing awareness to how your body responds to emotional contrast, then gently clearing the stored stress response without forcing positivity or bypassing grief.

By the end of this track, many women notice:
 – less heaviness in the chest
 – a softening of comparison and loneliness
 – a calmer, more grounded nervous system
 – more space to meet Christmas Day as it actually is

No fixing.
 No reframing.
 Just relief.

Press play when you’re somewhere quiet and let your body do what it already knows how to do.

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Welcome to Day 3 of the 12 Days of Divorce Christmas...also known as the 12 Days of Becoming Her Again.

Today we’re talking about one of the hardest moments after divorce: going to the holiday party alone.

The explaining.
The questions you don’t want to answer.
The way your body tightens when you walk into a room where you used to belong as part of a couple.

For many women, this isn’t just social anxiety — it’s identity grief.
 You were someone’s wife.
 You had a role.
 You had a place.

And now you’re figuring out who you are without rehearsing strength or pretending you’re fine.

In this episode, Joy and I walk you through how to prepare for being single at the holiday party in a way that actually supports your nervous system — instead of leaving you depleted before you even arrive.

We talk about:

• Why your brain naturally rehearses what you don’t want to happen
• How that rehearsal increases anxiety and self-protection
• A simple journaling practice to shift from fear to preference
• How to decide how you want to feel — without trying to change other people
• Practical grounding tools you can use before and during the event
• What to reach for when you feel yourself starting to disappear

This episode isn’t about performing confidence.
 It’s about staying in Self.

You don’t need the night to go perfectly.
 You just need a way to stay connected to you while you’re there.

And we’ll walk you through that — step by step.

🎄 ABOUT THE 12 DAYS OF DIVORCE CHRISTMAS (WITH CTA)

The 12 Days of Divorce Christmas is a daily, nervous-system-first series created to support you through one of the hardest seasons after divorce.

✨ Days 1, 2, and 9 are available on the public feed.
✨ The remaining days — including deeper grounding tools and preparation practices — are available inside Dear Divorce Diary Premium.

Inside Premium, you’ll get:

• Full access to all 12 days of this series
• Episodes that help you regulate in real time (bathroom breaks, car moments, before-you-walk-in tools)
• Monthly premium workshops for grief, anxiety, loneliness, and identity rebuilding after divorce

If this episode helped you feel more prepared, more steady, or less alone — the rest of the series is there to keep supporting you through the moments that don’t get talked about out loud.

Join Dear Divorce Diary Premium to access the full 12 Days of Divorce Christmas.

Or stay with us here today — and know you’re not doing this wrong.

You’re learning how to do it as you.

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Welcome to Day 2 of the 12 Days of Divorce Christmas...also known as the 12 Days of Becoming Her Again.

Today we’re talking about something no one prepares you for after divorce:
 when the house is too quiet.

Not peaceful quiet.
Not restful quiet.
The kind of quiet that feels heavy, deafening, and impossible to sit in.

When the house feels too quiet, most of us instinctively want to:

• distract
• dissociate
• get busy
• scroll
• eat
• spend
• numb

Anything to avoid being alone with the silence.

But today, Joy and I offer a third option...one that doesn’t involve running away or forcing yourself to sit still and “process.”

We talk about why:

• Silence after divorce can dysregulate your nervous system
• Stillness isn’t always calming when you’re grieving
• Many women forget how to play, make noise, and take up space when they’re alone

And then we invite you into something different.

This episode is about:

• Using sound, volume, and movement as nervous system medicine
• Reclaiming your right to be loud in your own home
• Releasing stored emotion through music, voice, and play
• Reconnecting to parts of you that were silenced — as a child, as a wife, as a woman

This is not about being productive.
 It’s not about doing healing “right.”

It’s about aliveness.

If the quiet has been breaking you, this episode will help you meet it differently — with energy, humor, and permission to be big.

🎄 About the 12 Days of Divorce Christmas

The 12 Days of Divorce Christmas is a daily, nervous-system-first series designed to support you through one of the hardest seasons after divorce.

Days 1, 2, and 9 are available on the public feed.
The remaining days — and the full experience — live inside Dear Divorce Diary Premium.

Inside Premium, you’ll get:

• Access to all 12 days of the series
• Monthly premium workshops
• Ongoing support for grief, loneliness, anxiety, and nervous system overload after divorce

If today’s episode gave you even a small sense of relief or permission, the rest of the series is there to keep walking with you — one day at a time.

Join Dear Divorce Diary Premium to access the full 12 Days of Divorce Christmas.

You’re not meant to heal quietly 🔊

Capacity builds in connection. Hugs ❤️

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Welcome to Day 1 of the 12 Days of Divorce Christmas...also known as the 12 days of becoming her again.

If you’re listening today, there’s a good chance part of you feels like:
 “I can’t do this.”
Not the holidays.
Not the decisions.
Not the weight of doing this alone.

This episode isn’t here to convince you otherwise.

It’s here to help you understand that when you feel like you can’t, it’s not weakness or victimhood — it’s a capacity issue, not a character flaw.

In today’s episode, we talk about:

• Why feeling like “I can’t do this” often means your system is depleted, not broken
• How divorce grief and the holidays quietly drain nervous system capacity
• Why being “too strong for too long” eventually leads to collapse
• What actually increases capacity (and what doesn’t)
• A short, gentle vagal breathing practice to help your body downshift in real time

This is not a big breakthrough episode.
 It’s a grounding episode.

Water.
Food.
Breath.
Connection.

The basics that matter when everything feels like too much.

You don’t need to fix your life today.
You just need enough capacity to stay present.

And today, that’s enough.

🎄 About the 12 Days of Divorce Christmas

The 12 Days of Divorce Christmas is a daily, nervous-system-first series designed to support you through one of the hardest seasons after divorce.

Days 1, 2, and 9 are available on the public feed.
The remaining days — and the full experience — live inside Dear Divorce Diary Premium.

Inside Premium for $5/mo, you’ll get:

• Access to all 12 days of the series
• Monthly premium workshops
• Deeper, steadier support when talk therapy alone isn’t enough

If this episode helped your body soften even a little, the rest of the series is there to continue that support — one regulated day at a time.

Join Dear Divorce Diary Premium to access the full 12 Days of Divorce Christmas.

Or stay with us here today — and come back tomorrow.

Capacity builds in connection. Hugs ❤️

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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.

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After divorce, many women aren’t just grieving...they’re carrying too much in their nervous system.

Too much responsibility.
Too much self-doubt.
Too much pressure to hold it together.

That load doesn’t live in your thoughts. It lives in your body.

In this episode, Dawn guides a somatic practice that blends EFT tapping with IFS-style parts work to help the nervous system release what it’s been holding. This is not about insight, fixing, or doing it right. It’s about staying in the body long enough for real relief to happen.

The focus is simple: meet the overwhelmed part with compassion, let go of what was never meant to be carried alone, and restore capacity one layer at a time.

If this created even a small shift, there are three ways to continue:

• Take the Divorce Recovery Nervous System Quiz to understand how your system is organized after divorce and where it’s getting stuck.
• Join Dear Divorce Diary Premium for deeper nervous system support, guided practices, and behind-the-scenes conversations.
• Join the Cocoon Community for ongoing (free), structured support that integrates somatic work, regulation, and real-life healing.

This isn’t about becoming stronger.
 It’s about carrying less.

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The holidays can make everything feel heavier — especially when you’re freshly divorced or still deep in the weeds of it all.

In this episode of Dear Divorce Diary, we talk about three hidden patterns that often stall divorce healing and leave women feeling unsafe, unmoored, and scattered, even when the marriage is over and you’re trying to move forward.

This conversation is a teaser for Season 5 - can you believe it?!- where we’ll spend six weeks breaking these patterns down and showing you how to work with your nervous system instead of fighting it. We talk about why anxiety can increase after divorce, why many women feel foggy or shut down, and why “just pushing through” rarely helps during already overwhelming seasons like Hanukkah and the lead-up to Christmas.

If you’re listening while navigating the holidays and wondering why things still feel so hard, this episode will help you understand what’s actually happening.

And if this season already feels like too much, stay close. Our 12 Days of Divorce Christmas series starts next and is designed to support you through the moments that tend to hit the hardest.

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Today’s episode is personal, unpolished, and happening in real time.

This is the first in our new premium series, Behind the Mic—where we take you into the conversations that usually happen off-air. And this week, I’m sharing something I’m still moving through: a recent miscarriage.

Inside this conversation, we talk about how this loss collided with my lifelong pattern of staying in masculine energy—overfunctioning, overproducing, and avoiding vulnerability by handling everything myself. We explore why receiving support still feels harder than giving it, how early attachment trauma shaped that, and what happens to a woman’s nervous system and hormones when softness feels unsafe.

You’ll also hear a candid discussion between me, Joy, and Tiff about suppression, self-sacrifice, and the way so many high-achieving women are conditioned to stay “strong” at the expense of their own bodies.

This isn’t a polished teaching moment. It’s us, in the middle of it, naming patterns as they surface and practicing the very tools we teach—IFS, EMDR principles, nervous system awareness—to move through something raw and immediate.

If you’ve ever carried grief alone, struggled to step out of your masculine, or felt terrified to let yourself be supported, this conversation will land in a very specific place.

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If the holidays feel heavier this year—even the tiny decisions that shouldn’t take this much out of you—there’s a reason. After divorce, women carry an invisible load no one prepares us for. The planning, the negotiating, the managing, the remembering, the holding-it-all-together… it piles up until your body feels like it’s running on fumes.

And that overwhelm you keep blaming on weakness or poor coping?
It’s not that.
It’s decision fatigue—and the version divorced women face during the holidays is unlike anything you dealt with before.

In this episode, we break down the hidden loop that keeps you exhausted:
– why making every decision alone pushes your system into overdrive
– how living in “fix it / manage it / hold it all” mode disconnects you from ease
– the subtle ways grief shows up through your holiday choices
– and why this season feels so much harder than it looks from the outside

Most importantly, you’ll learn the first real step toward breaking that cycle—so you can stop white-knuckling your way through December and start making choices that are kind to your body, not destructive to it.

You’re not failing.
You’re not too emotional.
You’re not “bad at the holidays.”
You’re overwhelmed because you’ve been carrying more than anyone can see.

Come sit with us. Let’s walk you out of the spiral together.

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Letting go after divorce isn’t about willpower.
It’s about physiology.

Your body won’t release someone until it feels anchored somewhere safer than the place it’s been clinging.
And that’s why cord-cutting rituals, no-contact declarations, and “I’m done for real this time” moments almost never stick.

In this guided premium episode, we’re not letting go into emptiness...we’re letting go into self-belonging, the only place your nervous system actually trusts.

Inside this practice, you’ll experience:

• a guided drop-in to help your body feel held enough to release
• why your system keeps reaching for someone who once felt like safety
• the subtle shift that makes letting go feel possible, not terrifying
• a “My Body Said No” moment that clarifies what part of you is resisting
• one sentence to use when you feel the urge to reach back out

This is the deeper work:
not forcing yourself to let go...
but giving your nervous system a safer place to land.

Press play when you're ready to feel a real shift, not just think about one.

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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.

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If you’ve ever felt that tug toward your ex...not the man, but the idea of him...we've got you. That pull is your nervous system trying to finish a story it never got closure on. And after divorce, that pull gets loud.

In this episode, we break down why trauma bonds feel like soul ties and why your body keeps reaching for someone who couldn’t give you safety. You’ll learn what’s actually happening in your brain, why familiar pain feels magnetic, and how to interrupt the urge to text him back.

We also give you a simple sentence you can use the second your spiral starts, and we help you begin separating trauma from truth—because those two feel identical when you’re hurting.

And inside Cocoon this week, we’re celebrating wins, joy, and nervous-system rehab with this month’s Magic Drop giveaway. (If you’re not in the community yet… get in there.)

If peace feels unfamiliar, if chaos feels like home, if your body keeps wanting what your mind already left—this one’s for you.

Don’t miss Thursday’s premium episode. Dawn is guiding you through a nervous-system visualization designed to soften the cord where it actually lives—in your body. It’s how you break the loop for real.

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Sometimes panic doesn’t wait for privacy.
It hits in the grocery store aisle, the Target parking lot, or right between the pasta sauce and the paper towels — the places where your body finally says, “No. I can’t hold this alone anymore.”

This premium episode is your real-time grounding track for those moments.
A full nervous-system reset you can use while you’re actively panicking — not later, not in hindsight, but right there, in public, while your heart is racing and your manager parts are trying to keep it all together.

Inside, Dawn guides you through:

• A My Body Said No moment — how to recognize it and respond without shame
• A sensory grounding ritual you can use anywhere (yes, even aisle 7)
• Gentle IFS language for your Manager, Firefighter, and Exile parts
• A somatic breath pattern (“baking bread + blowing on soup”) that brings your body back online
• A quiet reconnection to the truth: you belong to yourself, even while you’re not okay

This is your pocket guide for public panic — steadying, human, and deeply regulating.
 Come back to it anytime your nervous system needs someone to sit with you and help you breathe again.

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...and then there’s the moment you’re just standing in the pasta sauce aisle, realizing your life doesn’t come in a set of two anymore.

No one warns you about that part of life after divorce.
The everyday grief. 

The way your stomach drops when you reach for a family-size anything and remember: it’s just me now.

In this episode, Dawn, Joy, and Tiff unpack why the tiny, ordinary moments hit harder than the big ones — and why the grocery store aisle can feel like a spiritual breakdown near the beans.

You’ll learn:

• why these moments have little to do with missing him
• what’s actually happening in your nervous system when that wave hits
• the parts of you (IFS) that come online in grocery-store grief
• why your identity feels shaky, young, or overwhelmed
• the difference between the “old hard” and the “new hard” of healing
• why your body says no long before your mind catches on
• how to honor your capacity during the holidays
• the sentence that will ground you instantly when the grief sneaks up

And later, in our My Body Said No segment, we share the real, raw ways our bodies are setting boundaries this season — and how honoring those no’s is a core part of healing divorce grief.

If you’ve ever pretended to compare marinara jars just to get a second to breathe… this episode will feel like someone finally naming what you’ve been carrying.

Love you.
 See you Thursday for the grounding ritual inside our premium episode.

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If you pressed play on this tonight, it probably means the quiet hit differently.
Not the peaceful kind — the kind that presses against your ribs and makes your chest feel too small for your own heart.

The kind of quiet that shows up after divorce, when the world is flashing warm twinkle-light romance and happy-family commercials, and you're sitting in a room trying to remember how to breathe in your own life.

This episode is your place to land.

Inside this premium session, Dawn guides you through a gentle but powerful nervous-system practice designed for the exact kind of ache that shows up when the house gets still, the loneliness gets loud, and you feel like you're carrying your healing alone.

This is not about escaping the ache.
 It's about not having to feel it alone.

You’ll be held through:

• A grounding somatic sequence to bring you out of the spiral and back into your body
• A breath pattern (“baking bread breaths”) that softens the panic response
• A three-point sensory reorientation technique for moments when you feel unmoored
• A nervous-system affirmation practice to remind your psyche that you are becoming, not breaking
• A guidance sequence from your future self — the woman who cannot be lost in someone else again
• A moment of truth-telling: loneliness is not your identity; it’s a moment passing through your body
• A closing ritual that helps you feel rooted, warm, and safe enough to stay with yourself

This episode is the kind you save.

For the nights when your chest feels like a raw nerve.
 For the holidays, the empty rooms, the too-quiet evenings.
 For anytime you need someone to meet you in the dark and sit with you until you feel like you again.

Come breathe with Dawn.
Come anchor back into the woman you’re rising into.

You’re here — and you’re not leaving you.

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The holidays don’t just remind you who’s at your table...
They remind you who isn’t.

When you’re divorced, that quiet has a sound.
It’s the clink of one mug instead of two.
The solo grocery run.
The ache of seeing everyone else’s “perfect” family photos.
And the part no one talks about?
Your nervous system feels all of it long before your mind catches up.

In this episode, Dawn, Joy, and Tiff walk you through why holiday grief hits differently... not just emotionally, but neurologically.
Your brain codes the holidays as both comfort and threat, and that dual-wiring explains so much of the confusion, anxiety, tight chest, and “I don’t belong anywhere” thoughts that tend to surface this time of year.

And today, we’re going to help you work with all of it.

In this episode:

✨ Why holiday grief feels louder in your body
— the neuroscience behind scents, memories, and tradition triggering loss and longing

✨ The real reason divorced women feel like they “don’t belong anywhere”
— and how this actually traces back to belonging to yourself

✨ The phrase to repeat at any holiday party when your chest tightens
“I am safe to be seen in this moment.”

✨ A 60-second bathroom-stall nervous system reset
Cold-water wrists, humming, squats, breath work — your new somatic toolkit for holiday overwhelm

✨ How to turn this season from performance into personal power
(New traditions, choosing yourself, claiming authenticity, and ditching the performative holiday mask)

✨ Why your circle shifts after divorce
— and why that shift is actually a sign of growth, not failure

This episode is a warm hand on your back, reminding you that nothing about your holiday pain means you’re behind, broken, or unlovable. It means your nervous system still remembers love — and is learning how to feel safe again without him.

This week’s Thursday Premium episode is a guided, real-time grounding practice for the exact moment your nervous system spirals — in the grocery store aisle, the car, or the corner of the holiday party.

If you’re not a premium listener yet, now is the season to join.
 You’ll get:
 – All premium healing tracks
 – Monthly live workshop with Dawn
 – Access to exclusive Destined Homeopathics product drops
 – A private community focused on real-time support 

Join Premium for $5/month inside your app.

Before you go:
Take our quiz “What’s Your Divorce Recovery Nervous System Type?” to understand how your body responds to grief — and get a personalized healing map.

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You can talk about healing all day long…
But until you learn this kind of forgiveness, you’ll keep carrying him—
in your body, your triggers, your next relationship.

In this Dear Divorce Diary Premium episode, we get real about the difference between talking about forgiveness and actually feeling it.

You’ll walk through three powerful journal prompts that expose the exact places you’re still holding on—
and teach your body how to finally let go.

This isn’t about being the bigger person.
It’s about ending the loop.

If you’re tired of “working on yourself” but still feel the ache, this is the episode that moves the needle.

🎧 Exclusive to premium subscribers — because the real healing work deserves privacy, honesty, and depth.

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A podcast exploring the journey of life after divorce, delving into topics like divorce grief, loneliness, anxiety, manifesting, the impact of different attachment styles and codependency, setting healthy boundaries, energy healing with homeopathy, managing the nervous system during divorce depression, understanding the stages of divorce grief, and using the Law of Attraction and EMDR therapy in the process of building your confidence, forgiveness and letting go.

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