Ep. 297 - Day 3: Going to the Holiday Party Alone After Divorce | How to Prepare Without Losing Yourself

Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce

Dear Divorce Diary: A Fresh Approach To Healing Grief & Building A Life Of Confidence After Divorce
Ep. 297 - Day 3: Going to the Holiday Party Alone After Divorce | How to Prepare Without Losing Yourself
Dec 24, 2025 Season 4
My Coach Dawn

Welcome to Day 3 of the 12 Days of Divorce Christmas...also known as the 12 Days of Becoming Her Again.

Today we’re talking about one of the hardest moments after divorce: going to the holiday party alone.

The explaining.
The questions you don’t want to answer.
The way your body tightens when you walk into a room where you used to belong as part of a couple.

For many women, this isn’t just social anxiety — it’s identity grief.
 You were someone’s wife.
 You had a role.
 You had a place.

And now you’re figuring out who you are without rehearsing strength or pretending you’re fine.

In this episode, Joy and I walk you through how to prepare for being single at the holiday party in a way that actually supports your nervous system — instead of leaving you depleted before you even arrive.

We talk about:

  • Why your brain naturally rehearses what you don’t want to happen
  • How that rehearsal increases anxiety and self-protection
  • A simple journaling practice to shift from fear to preference
  • How to decide how you want to feel — without trying to change other people
  • Practical grounding tools you can use before and during the event
  • What to reach for when you feel yourself starting to disappear

This episode isn’t about performing confidence.
 It’s about staying in Self.

You don’t need the night to go perfectly.
 You just need a way to stay connected to you while you’re there.

And we’ll walk you through that — step by step.

🎄 ABOUT THE 12 DAYS OF DIVORCE CHRISTMAS (WITH CTA)

The 12 Days of Divorce Christmas is a daily, nervous-system-first series created to support you through one of the hardest seasons after divorce.

Days 1, 2, and 9 are available on the public feed.
✨ The remaining days — including deeper grounding tools and preparation practices — are available inside Dear Divorce Diary Premium.

Inside Premium, you’ll get:

  • Full access to all 12 days of this series
  • Episodes that help you regulate in real time (bathroom breaks, car moments, before-you-walk-in tools)
  • Monthly premium workshops for grief, anxiety, loneliness, and identity rebuilding after divorce

If this episode helped you feel more prepared, more steady, or less alone — the rest of the series is there to keep supporting you through the moments that don’t get talked about out loud.

Join Dear Divorce Diary Premium to access the full 12 Days of Divorce Christmas.

Or stay with us here today — and know you’re not doing this wrong.

You’re learning how to do it as you.

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