Because grief is harder during Christmas - lets talk about whyyyyy it's harder and what you can do about it.
There is a perfect timing unfolding for you this holiday season...tune in to discover what it is.
Loooooove you <3
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When you fall into rabbit holes where the anxiety feels bigger than you...you need some strategies! Groundedness means knowing (somewhere deep down) that all is well or will ultimately be well.
Return to some of the holiday spirit by implementing some of these holiday grounding hacks! Some of them are passive (you don't need to do much to reap the benefits), and some of them take a little more intentionality.
We start with a fantastic visualization and unpack so many more strategies from there.
Sleep Assist example
CBD Tincture
Lamp I own and use
Valor I use on lower back
Cedarwood I put on bottoms of feet for sleep
**(Enjoy the vaccuum cleaner at minute 22:00 LOL)
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Diving in with a possibly *shocking* recommendation to support this part of your journey. Court (and hard things like it) can cause intense emotional reactions that are not in your favor when you are trying to do major adulting. Let's talk about this powerful strategy to help you go deeper in your healing and grounding work.
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Fun fact: A community is waaaaaayyyyyy more important to me than an audience.
This pod episode is a moment of community.
It's real-life questions about real-life moments with really useful answers. It's often easier to apply "personal development" stuff when it has to do with our day-to-day lives.
If you like this episode format, be sure to send me YOUR questions!
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The trauma convo is trending (which secretly thrills me)! Let's connect the dots between divorce, trauma, and childhood.
We are *NOT* talking about trauma to blame villains! We are talking about it so we can tap into *MORE* personal empowerment. Boom.
We are going to talk about: (just a few key things...)
What is trauma/childhood trauma?
What are the stages of trauma?
Can trauma ever be overcome?
Can you heal yourself from trauma?
How do I know if I am healing from trauma?
How does a person with trauma behave?
How do you break a (childhood) trauma cycle?
Can I get over trauma without therapy?
Why is it so hard to let go of trauma?
What are the symptoms of childhood trauma in adults?
Does trauma cause divorce?
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This book is so. freaking. funny. But also gives you what you need. THAT combination is straight-up medicine.
Bernadette's voice of reason (and also hilarity!) is just what the doctor ordered. And through it all, she is guiding you through your transformational divorce experience.
Join me on the engaging journey of what it's like when a therapist gets divorced...and transforms her life.
Also heard in this interview is a *very* cool visualization I had NEVER heard before. Bernadette is a true gem.
Find Bern's book here: Divorced as F in 7 Spiritual Steps
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Throughout my lifelong spiritual journey, I have explored many spaces. THIS; the Law of Attraction, is what has resonated SO deeply it changed everything. Let's dig in and explore what it's all about!
What is the Law of Attraction?
How the Law of Attraction helps work with negative emotion and creates more JOY!
How does the Law of Attraction work?
What is the secret to the Law of Attraction?
How do I start manifesting?
What words to not say when manifesting?
How to use affirmations and pick the right one for you to make it all easier!
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Today I come to you with a mug of chocolate and a puppy in my lap to talk about Feeling alone. These *optimal* circumstances make it hard to feel alone - but let's talk about how to deal with the "alones" even when there is no chocolate or puppy.
We talk about:
- The main cause of loneliness (hint: it goes wayyyy deeper than being divorced)
- Dealing with the symptoms of loneliness
- The solution for loneliness
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Today we talk about the illusion of wanting to be rescued by someone else as a means to solve allllll of your problems right now.
The urge to be rescued has been woven into our consciousness, and it's a beautiful process to become aware of how powerful YOU are.
Learn how to:
- Stop envying others
- Switch your focus
- Understand your relationship between pain and blocking solutions
- How to evolve beyond your temporary circumstances
- Let go of what is not serving you
- Tap into the magic inside of you <3
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You often have GREAT ideas but can't always find enough motivation to do the thing. Let's explore how to get you from point A to point B on the path of least resistance.
You are spinning a lot of plates, so let's get the cliff notes to tap into motivation. Here are some of the things we touch on:
- How to know if an idea is worth trusting and taking action on or if it's noise?
- Using a different strategy to reduce overwhelm.
- Believe more in your future than you do in your past.
- Addressing any neurobiological roadblocks you may be experiencing.
- Accepting the help and support that is offered to you.
- Implement this simple motivation strategy.
- Pouring love on the part of you that is sabotaging your motivation.
The greatest reason to cultivate motivation: YOU ARE MEANT FOR MORE <3
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Boundaries are an expression of your *authentic* self who knows what is ok and what is not ok for you.
We talk about knowing the boundary, setting the boundary, and staying responsible for your boundary...oooh that's tricky stuff.
A healthy boundary hinges on *your* empowerment.
Authentic self-expression through boundaries is a powerful way you can break the cycle of relationship struggles in your family.
By standing in your power enough times, you will feel SO STRONG.
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On today's pod, we begin with visualization and move into asking ourselves a big question. And your answer to this big question tells you where you *may* need to go next on your healing journey.
I break this topic into 5 categories or phases of the post-divorce love and dating situation. We unpack essential things to be aware of for each category and what you can do to pour some love on it!
- Not ready to date yet
- Craving to be desired
- The urge to be F*cked
- Wanting to be cherished
- Adulting is hard, and I need a partner
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In moments of desperation, we often become willing to try new things. It's in the trying that we often find magic (literally). In my post-divorce life - I used my newfound space to explore spiritual healing in divergent ways (from how I was raised).
Leaning into spiritual healing has been a necessary and rewarding path to reclaiming my power. My interview with Briana Le Wolf is particularly special because she is one of my guides. We discuss and explain Reiki, Shamanism, trauma healing, and finding our true selves. And, yes, we discuss the urge to doubt that the woo is legit.
Bri walks us through what she does in a Reiki session, her behind-the-scenes work, and all the delish energy available to you right now! We wrap up the interview with some powerful guided breathwork.
Connect with Bri here:
https://thesavvywolf.com/
And on Instagram- The Savvy Wolf Holistic Healing
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It's become clear that "letting go" is your favorite topic (so far) on the pod. So we are revisiting it! I'm answering your specific questions about letting go...this may be my favorite episode so far because it is so much about the solution to all you are feeling.
Q: Why is letting go of the past important?
Q: What does it mean to let go of the past?
Q: How do I stop dwelling in the past?
Q: How do I make peace with the past? (My favorite question!)
Q: How can I let go and enjoy life again?
Q: What is the happiest way to live?
Q: What is the secret to happiness?!
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Answering your best questions about how to do the self-love thing!
Do you feel guilty or selfish if you see yourself with the same love you hold for your dog, kid, or bestie?
Q: How do you learn to love yourself?
Q: How do I start loving myself?
Q: How do I know if I don't love myself?
Q: What are acts of self-love?
Q: How do I build up my self-esteem?
Q: Why do I not have respect for myself?
Q: How do I love myself unconditionally?
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Today we talk about how strength conditioning changes how women feel about themselves (this could be you, love). I share my journey in the gym and the incredibly positive effects lifting weights has had on my mental health. You get to meet Colleen Pomranky - an amazing strength and conditioning coach who has changed my life.
We discuss our experience with body image, our evolved relationship with food, and how we have overcome painful life experiences by becoming stronger in the body.
Colleen shares some coaching advice on where to start. Colleen is definitely living her purpose, and her passion is contagious.
Colleen Pomranky on Instagram
Gut Check Garage
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Answering the most frequent questions you've asked about being stuck and a guided journaling prompt to help you along the way!
- What does it mean that I am stuck?
- What causes me to feel lost?
- What causes emotional detachment?
- Why am I stuck in the past?
- Why do I miss someone who hurt me?
- How do I get unstuck?
- How do I love myself?
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There are a lot of rough days in this process and we need ways to shift when the feelings hit so we don't go "down with the ship".
Topics discussed:
- Fear can stop your recovery
- How to keep moving forward
- Using Daily Readers
The Language of Letting Go Daily Meditations on Codependency
Author: Melody Beattie
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Unpacking the importance of understanding and reworking your attachment style as part of the divorce recovery process.
Topics Discussed
- Netflix docuseries: Babies
- Attachment style impacts how we experience relationships
- How you can adapt your attachment style
- Getting to the root vs. weed whacking the problem
- Ways the brain keeps secrets from us
- Codependency
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Attached
Wired for Love
Wired for Dating
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Brene Brown Excerpt – Altas of the Heart Page 30
Answering this question reveals our most vulnerable places.
Ushering in self-acceptance
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At the root of us all is a longing desire for a strong sense of trust. And, learning to trust again after your divorce is hard! Trust equals security, and trust equals survival. Follow along as I guide you through some tools that will help keep you on the path of building trust in your life. The healing journey is life-long. We are always becoming better as long as we put in the work to get there.
Topics discussed in this episode:
- When a lack of trust shows up as anger or sadness, we want to turn away
- “Be wary of the naked man offering you a shirt.” – Dr. Maya Angelou
- There are no shortcuts on the journey of life
- The vulnerability to ask for help makes us the most trustworthy
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Dreams are where we process our *un*processed daily life - and in a post-divorce world, there is a lot to process. Today we work through an example of a bad dream and how to make sense of it.
Topics Discussed:
- Dream theory
- Shifting your perspective
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I break letting go down into two main camps:
1. Grief
2. Acceptance (Not Forgiveness...there is a lot of hype about forgiveness)
Topics Covered
- Grieving at a time when there is no extra time
- Why am I here?! (This was not the plan)
- How attachment style influences letting go
- Why you keep rehearsing certain aspects of letting go
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You do not have to be perfect to be loved and it's *normal* to rehash the same topic over and over again from time to time. Here's what we need to do...
- Holding on to hope about healing
- Pressure to be perfect
- Shifting problem focus to solution focus
- Uplifting tools
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We will explore how this unique type of therapy helps shorten your healing time, and explain "how you got here". Then discuss how to pick future partners differently.
Topics Discussed
- Why it seems intimidating
- The contrast between those who do EMDR and those who don't
- Overcoming the practical roadblocks
- Why it's so important
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Getting Past Your Past
The Body Keeps the Score
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(28) Grieving During the Holidays
25:15
(27) Staying Grounded through the Holiday Season
32:50
(26) Going to Court and other Hard Things (Like the Holidays)
15:24
(25) Hanging with a cup of tea answering listener questions!
28:24
(24) Overcoming (Childhood?) Trauma
45:07
(23) Divorced as F* in 7 Spiritual Steps: Interview with Author Bernadette Purcell
31:44
(22) How you can use the Law of Attraction to *change* your life
37:23
(21) Feeling Alone After Divorce FAQ
25:34
(20) Everything would be better if...(insert a Prince here?)
23:10
(19) Finding motivation when your energy is loooooow
22:33
(18) Boundaries: Learning How to Be Strong and Feel Strong
18:41
(17) Finding Love (or wanting to get F*cked) After Divorce
21:17
(16) Spiritual healing through Reiki and Shamanism featuring Briana Le Wolf
26:49
(15) Letting Go (again) Answering your top questions
27:21
(14) It's Okay To Be Annoyed When People Tell You To Love Yourself (and you don't know how)
23:18
(13) Lifting Weights: The Unexpected Game Changer in Your Divorce Story featuring Colleen Pomranky
24:40
(12) How to Understand Your Feelings and Get Unstuck
26:54
(11) Secret Weapon for Bad Days
8:22
(10) How understanding your attachment style impacts your post divorce life
18:47
(9) Struggling to love yourself? Ask yourself this.
10:50
(8) Learning to Trust Again After Divorce
16:05
(7) (Mis)Intepreting Dreams
11:28
(6) The *Hard* of Letting Go
18:47
(5) When Family Shits on Your Progress
10:46
(4) How EMDR Therapy Impacts Your Healing
14:29