AA198 - Better Communication: Mastering Crucial Conversations

Arguing Agile

Chapters
0:00
Podcast Intro
0:11
Topic Intro: Crucial Conversations
0:32
The Importance of Communication Skills
1:03
Why? Observing Communication Pitfalls
3:41
Chapter 1: Defining Crucial Conversations
5:22
Examples of Crucial Conversations
6:35
Concepts of Psychological Safety
7:36
Policies and Processes Over People
8:37
Chapter 2: Essential Definitions
17:18
Chapter 3: Start with Heart
19:13
Heart (aka. Empathy)
21:49
Three Bad Behaviors
27:05
Breaking the Cycle
34:05
Chapter 4: Learn to Look
35:52
Physical, Emotional, and Behavioral Signs
38:00
Facilitating Crucial Conversations
38:56
Understanding Defensive Behavior
41:01
Silence and Violence in Conversations
41:28
Addressing Silence: Masking, Avoiding, Withdrawing
45:17
Addressing Violence: Controlling, Labeling, Attacking
46:33
Being Self Aware
48:06
Chapter 5: Mutual Purpose and Respect
53:03
Mutual Respect
55:08
Apologize, Contrast, and Create a Mutual Purpose
58:43
Contrasting Statements
1:00:31
Create Mutual Purpose
1:02:00
Chapter 6: Mastering Your Stories
1:05:27
How Feelings Drive Actions
1:11:00
Facts and Emotional Literacy
1:13:23
Understanding Clever Stories
1:13:43
Sellouts and Their Impact
1:14:51
Recognizing and Changing Clever Stories
1:15:41
Chapter 7: Speaking Persuasively
1:17:13
The STATE Acronym - Start with Facts
1:19:03
STATE - Tell Your Story
1:19:59
STATE - Ask and Talk Tentatively
1:21:24
STATE - Encourage Testing
1:23:59
How Do We Change?
1:25:07
Chapter 8: Exploring Others' Paths
1:28:27
AMPP Techniques
1:30:38
The Last P - Priming
1:31:57
The ABCs
1:33:17
Chapter 9: Moving to Action
1:34:25
Decision-Making Methods
1:38:45
Chapter 10: Tough Cases and Solutions
1:44:15
Chapter 11: Coaching for Crucial Conversations
1:46:16
Summarizing the Importance
1:46:56
Wrap-Up
Arguing Agile
AA198 - Better Communication: Mastering Crucial Conversations
Jan 15, 2025 Season 1 Episode 198
Brian Orlando

In this episode, we dive into "Crucial Conversations" by Patterson, Grenny, McMillan, and Switzler, exploring essential techniques for handling high-stakes discussions in both professional and personal settings.

Whether you're a team leader, product manager, or looking to improve your interpersonal skills, this episode offers practical strategies to transform challenging conversations into opportunities for growth and collaboration.

Listen as we discuss:

  • Creating safety in dialogue
  • Managing emotions and stories
  • The STATE method for persuasive speaking
  • Decision-making processes in teams

References:

  1. Crucial Conversations: Tools for Talking When Stakes Are High by Kerry Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan, and Al Switzler
  2. Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman
  3. Empathy: A Handbook for Revolution by Roman Krznaric
  4. The Lean Startup by Eric Ries
  5. INSPIRED: How to Create Tech Products Customers Love by Marty Cagan

#CrucialConversations #CommunicationSkills #LeadershipDevelopment

crucial conversations, communication skills, leadership, team management, conflict resolution, emotional intelligence, decision making, agile, product management, workplace communication

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