974. The 5 Regrets Of The Living

What if the regrets you carry aren’t random—they’re rooted in something deeper?

In this episode, I unpack a passage from Tolstoy that struck a nerve. He named five “sins,” but I see them as something more real, more lived: regrets.

These five regrets—gluttony, sloth, lust, anger & animosity, and pride—aren’t just ancient ideas. They show up in our everyday lives through excess, laziness, obsession, bitterness, and ego.

I walk you through each one:

• How it creeps in
• How it disguises itself
• And how it steals your momentum

But more importantly, I share how to spot it, study it, and outgrow it.

This episode isn’t about shame. It’s about self-awareness. It’s about learning how to grow through what you’ve gone through—so regret doesn’t have the final word.

📌 Which regret is holding you back?
Let’s talk about it.

Keep it simple. Keep it moving. Never settle. Stay tough. ✌🏼

—Marsh

Transcript

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You know, I love this morning's reading. It comes from Tolstoy and he said there are five major sins that torture people. Those five sins are gluttony, sloth, lust. Anger and animosity and pride, but instead of using the word sin, let me swap the word sin for regret, because that's really what it is. Things that weigh us down and keep us from moving forward. We've all had regrets. We've all made mistakes, but recognizing them and doing something about it. How we break free. So let me go through each one of these one by one. The first regret, Tolstoy call sin. The first regret is gluttony. Gluttony isn't just about food, it's excess about anything. Had a bad week, we eat or drink to cope. Had a great month. We eat or drink to celebrate. Feel rejected. We indulge to numb the pain, but here's the reality. Just 116 calories a day adds to one pound a month. A pound doesn't sound like much until it's 10 pounds in 10 months, and in 20 months it's 20 plus pounds. The reason being is the worse you feel, the more you cope, the more it perpetuates, and so the thing gets outta hand. The problem isn't food. The problem is using excess as a pacifier for emotions. Look, enjoy the food, enjoy the life, but not at the cost of tomorrow's regrets. The second regret of the living is sloth. sloth, isn't just being physically lazy. It's also mental laziness, too this is where you take things at face value. Instead of really questioning lazy in commitment, not following through for yourself and others, lazy in effort, believing so little in yourself that you don't even try, bro, just try for God's sakes, at least make it a non zero. Laziness torchers you, but effort, even if you fail, bro, is productive pain. The pain of trying is temporary. The pain of regret lasts a lifetime. The third regret of the living is lust. That lust. Isn't just a physical desire is chasing something so obsessively that you compromise everything else. It's self-serving. You want something so bad for you that you step on others to get it. That you justify bad behavior, , that you alienate others, and once you get it, you realize it's not worth it. That promotion, that relationship. That material thing that fling lust, blinds you to cost. That don't seem real until they come due. Don't chase something at the cost of who you are. I'm living proof of that, bro. The fourth regret of the living anger and animosity. Lemme be clear anger has its place. I totally believe in anger, but you can't live there. Anger should be controlled. Anger should be expressed in burst, to show dissatisfaction in yourself and in others, but it should also be used productively. Lingering anger. This is what turns into animosity and the animosity. Is what keeps you stuck? Case in point? Do you ever meet someone who's like totally bitter about something that happened 10 years ago? That's what happens when anger lingers. Look, somebody stabbed you in the back. I get it. You're pissed off. Just don't stay there, man. Let those people be, their time is gonna come. That ain't up to you. I wish them well because I am not going to let you hold me down for my future. Not gonna happen. Just let it go. It's gonna come back around. You just, you're just looking at it in too narrow of a scope. The fifth regret of the living. And I want you to live, man. I don't want you to just have a life. I want you to be living the fifth. Regret, pride. Look, take pride in what you do. Take pride in how you carry yourself. But don't be so prideful that you think that you're untouchable, because life will humble you fast. Dude, it is a fine, fine line, almost indistinguishable between success and total destruction. You can lose your health, you can lose your finances, you can lose your mental edge. That line between thriving and struggling is way thinner than you think see, I wanna be a a no at all. Not a know it all. I don't, I don't know at all. There's so many things I don't know out there. Way more things than I do know. So don't be so prideful to not evolve. Don't be so prideful to cease learning, adjusting, growing. You do that. You're just setting yourself up for the fall by your own hands. Tolstoy ends this passage with every regret comes from a lack of knowledge. I love this. And when you write these things down, I wrote this passage down and just unpacked. It ended up being like five pages long. It just took off. But every regret comes from a lack of knowledge. Knowledge isn't just about facts. It's self-awareness. See if you're gonna go through something, grow through what you've gone through. Learn, adjust, move forward. The knowledge is an acquired set of skills through experience and education. It's being a student, and so when you go through certain situations, it is important that you gain some skills. From those things. Sometimes you gotta get burned to learn, so you go through these things, but I don't shrink. I grow through 'em. So I go through these things, I analyze it, I make the necessary adjustments, and then I keep going. Don't treat it like an amusement park where you go through something and you get back in line to ride the same damn ride. And you, and you see people that are like that. Toxic relationships, toxic behaviors, dead end jobs. I mean, it's like, bro, when are you gonna get it? I mean, and we point the finger. Don't be so prideful that it can't happen to you. It has happened to you. You're just taking the heat off of you and you point it to them. That's why I, I love how these all connect, but that's so true, man. And then more importantly, you gotta know thyself. You must know thyself. What are the triggers that lead up to destruction for you? You know? You know, exactly. Stay away from those things. See, when you analyze and you study these things. Every regret comes from a lack of knowledge. See, I have the regret. I study it. I see what led up to that. I see the triggers, I see the tendencies. I know myself. Alright, I learn. See, that's a set of skills now that I've learned and I'm. I apply moving forward. So which regret is holding you back? Gotta ask yourself, am I using food, alcohol, shopping, anything in excess to cope? Am I being a sloth, lazy in thought, action, or commitment? Am I obsessing over something that isn't even worth it? In the end you think it is? Play it all the way out. Am I holding on to anger? That's keeping me stuck is someone else. Living Li is a bunch of people living rent free in your head. Could be your own family members. Cut 'em loose, cut 'em loose mentally and also physically if you have to. There are some family members in my life that are not good for me. I love them right where they are and I'll leave them be. It's all good. And lastly, am I being too prideful to learn, to grow, to change? Do I not wanna look foolish? Dude, I, I don't mind looking foolish because the foolish is how I learn. The foolish is what keeps the pride at bay. So I had take pride in what I do. I take pride in how I carry myself, but also I take pride in how I carry on after I fail. See, failing's a process is not an identity, so I don't mind looking foolish because I'm trading out a set of old skills for a set of new skills.\ and with all of my experience and a new set of skills, I become more unstoppable. see how this thing works. This is a game that's never gonna end, man. So the purpose of this message, I just want you to spot your regrets and fix them and keep evolving. Keep refining You refine yourself so that you can define success in your own life. What does success look like for you? Just keep refining that. Alright, let's get outta here. Keep it simple. Keep it moving. Never settle. Stay tough. Much love, peace.