230: What Happened to Men Since the 1960s Sexual Revolution Will Shock You

This episode is lesson one from our Foundations of Masculinity course. I start with a true story out of Kruger National Park in 1993, where wildlife officials relocated a group of young male elephants without any older males to guide them. Within a few years, rangers started finding endangered white rhinos brutally killed, not by poachers, but by these juvenile elephants who had no elder to show them how to act. The second they flew in a few older bull elephants, the chaos stopped. When I first heard that story, it hit me like a truck, because it's exactly what's happening to men in our culture today.

From there, I trace how we got here, starting with the sexual revolution of the 1960s and Woodstock's "free love" philosophy, and how removing responsibility and courtship from relationships between men and women actually backfired, leading to a massive spike in fatherlessness that's still wrecking families today. I break down the real difference between being male, being masculine, and being a manly man, and why manhood isn't something you're born with, it's something that has to be poured into you by other men. I also get personal, sharing my own dad's story of growing up without a father and how my grandfather, a hardworking farmer, shaped an entire ethos around what it means to be a man, even without ever using the word "masculinity."

By the end of this episode, I dig into what Scripture actually says about a man's role, starting in Genesis, and I talk honestly about the different but equally valuable roles men and women carry, using some pretty relatable stories from my own marriage and home along the way. If you've ever felt confused about what it means to be a man in today's world, or if you've caught yourself acting more like a "man boy" chasing short-term gratification instead of long-term reward, this episode is for you. I close it out with a prayer over every man listening. Thanks for tuning in, and if this episode hits home, share it with a friend who needs to hear it. Stay brave, and we'll see you next week.

Chapters:
00:00 – Welcome
04:09 – The Elephant Story: What It Teaches Us About Fatherless Men
08:11 – The Sexual Revolution's Broken Promise
12:22 – Toxic Masculinity vs. True Manhood: The Confusion Today
16:32 – What Manliness Really Means: Jesus as the Model
20:42 – Man Boys: When Selfishness Never Grows Up
24:54 – My Grandfather's Farm: A Lesson in Manly Work Ethic
29:01 – The Sump Pump Story: A Man's God-Given Responsibility
33:12 – Different Roles, Equal Value: Men and Women by Design
37:17 – Don't Suppress Your Masculinity: A Prayer for Every Man

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