Making This Time the Right Time: A Tough Love Talk with Lesley D. Nurse | Lesley's Lessons Podcast

Get ready to ignite your passion, embrace your intention, and seize the moment like never before! Join renowned author Lesley D. Nurse, the brilliant mind behind 'How To Turn a BreakUp Into A Breakthrough,' as she elevates Lesley's Lessons Podcast to a whole new level.

In this riveting podcast episode, Lesley speaks directly to your heart, delivering unfiltered advice and boundless inspiration. It's as if she's having an empowering conversation with a close friend, charging you up and urging you to take action with unwavering determination.

If you've hesitated to seize opportunities or make bold moves in life, this is the wake-up call you've been waiting for. But fair warning: this episode is for those who are truly ready to take life by the horns and soar to new heights in the coming year. Lesley's tough love and no-nonsense approach will leave you hungry for more—more truth, more action, and more success.

Don't miss out on this momentous episode that promises to empower, challenge, and set you on the path to greatness. It's time to make this time the right time.

Chapters

• 0:00 Taking Action
• 10:00 Achieving Goals Through Focus and Prioritization

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:00

Leslie's Lessons. I'm dedicating this podcast post to anyone who feels stuck and they are ready to make a move. You probably feel like you wanted to do something a long time ago, but maybe it was money, maybe it was bad timing, maybe you were in a relationship or you had to sever ties. There was something that you needed to do in order to take action, and I'm here to just let you know this is your sign to take action. Sometimes in life we have to take a leap. We don't know our next step, but it's in our gut and something just whispers. This is the moment. Everything will be okay.

Speaker 1: 0:50

A lot of the times, some of us, you know, we want to be told. We feel safer when we have someone hold our hand with us in life, someone who is in front of us, leading us the way, and I just have to tell you if that is the plan waiting for someone to hold your hand or lead you the way. You might be waiting much longer than you think, and I also want to reiterate, not to compare yourself to someone else. You might have a great idea of an invention, or maybe a business name, or the book you always wanted to write, or you wanted to start a beauty brand or a barbershop or a business in the healthcare industry. What have you? They have like 20,000 followers and you know all of these sales.

Speaker 1: 1:44

How can you compare? Well, that is a trick question. You are not to compare. In fact, for the next 90 days, I want you to do something that you didn't do before. Whatever your tendencies are, shut it down. Now you might say how is that possible? Leslie, I've been doing this all my life. These are my habits. They are, but did you know that it takes about 30 days for you to break a habit?

Speaker 1: 2:17

Anytime you are consistent with something, you can actually train yourself to untrain yourself of doing something. It takes consistency, it takes dedication and it takes a good attitude, but it can be done. This is your moment. Repeat after me this is your moment and you have to believe it. You have to be so incredibly, delusionally optimistic at this point. No more distractions can get in your way. We're not letting the annoying coworkers, other people's problems, the annoying neighbors, the people in traffic. None of these booby traps that have been sent to knock you off your game can get the best of you any longer. We are saying no to drama. We don't hear the passive aggressiveness, the insults. Hell, we hear it, but we're not responding to it. Because what happens when you are focused on a goal and you are in your best energy? You will notice that there will be different tests that come along to knock you off your game. And what happens? Oh, you don't understand that was disrespectful, or they know that was a low blow. So that really got to me and I had to say something. Now there are things when you do have to stand up for yourself, definitely. But if it's the everyday, this can be swept under the rug. This didn't require a response. Let's do it. This is elevation time and we need all the positivity that we can get.

Speaker 1: 4:15

What you are about to do, taking yourself to another level, is going to require a mental discipline that you never did before. I'm talking about all in, completely focused. That means you are putting yourself first. That's right. You're keeping your business plans to yourself, your goals, your dreams, hell, the person who you're even in love with, new relationship. Maybe you have problems with your relationship, maybe you're thinking about moving or going out the country, or maybe you're just upset. Don't get me wrong. It is awesome if you have a listening ear close by and you can talk. You have professionals for that, you have therapists for that, you have spiritual advisors for that, and so forth.

Speaker 1: 5:06

Some things do not have to be discussed. What if you said to yourself you know what? Usually, when something's bothering me, I have to talk it out, I have to vent, I have to speak to like 10 people, tell the same scenario of what happened so I can see that they agree with me or validate my feelings. And who has time for that? And what's to say that anyone will agree with you? What then? Suppose you don't get the reaction you're looking for? Now it's more confusion. And now you have to keep getting recruiting new people to hear your side of the story or hear what you're feeling, so they can validate you. And now you're more confused and frustrated more than ever, because this was not worthy of your time.

Speaker 1: 5:58

You could have taken that time to save your money, to raise your credit score, look for that rental income or that property, start the business, write the business plan, but instead we have to explain what happened with the coworker, what happened in traffic, what happened with the stranger in the parking lot mall and what happened that he didn't call me. She didn't call me. I don't think they liked me. I don't know if I got the job. You know, do you see the pattern here? We have to stay clear of any distraction.

Speaker 1: 6:37

And what are we gonna do? We're going to fill up our energy, our insights, with positivity and gratitude, and let me tell you, it works. I'll let you know something I recognize people who favor me and people who do not, and what I do, because whenever I feel that there is a negative energy trying to enter my mind and I can pick up on energy and messages of what someone is saying, I will say no weapon formed against me shall prosper. And I will say that over and over again until I believe that dark energy has faded away. And then I wake up, I say thank you. I'm in full gratitude mode. I could be eating a bowl of soup and just say I'm so grateful this soup is so delicious. I'm so thankful I can be rolling in my bed. This is so wonderful. I'm so grateful for this bed.

Speaker 1: 7:40

Now, you might say that's not something to be grateful for. Who doesn't have food, who doesn't have a bed? You'd be surprised. And if you ever went without any of these things, you definitely would be singing a completely different tune.

Speaker 1: 7:59

Now, let's not get off track. This is about positivity and living intentionally, but also understanding that just because you have a goal doesn't mean life is not going to continue to life you. It doesn't mean it's going to say well, oh, now you have this focus on getting married or traveling or getting a new job. We're supposed to leave you alone. No, we're distractions. We're here to annoy you. We're here to get you upset. We're here to make you doubt yourself. And what usually happens? You listen, you entertain, you pause, stay in bed and play the thoughts over and over and over again until you are completely stressed out. This is a new day and you have the opportunity to do something great. All you have to do is commit to it. This is your life, your journey, and you deserve nothing but the best. But it's going to take you to drive the bus, no one else.

Speaker 1: 9:17

Well, you might say well, leslie, you don't know my ex. You don't know. This person tried to come back in my life. Are you available? Do you not have a do not disturb on your phone? How is your block game? Whatever you have to do has to be done, and it doesn't mean you have to be rude, aggressive or anything like that. In fact, you can wish people well, speak softly, don't let anyone egg you into being angry or get emotional and there's nothing wrong with having emotions After all, this is a fleeting feeling and they pass all the time.

Speaker 1: 10:00

What I'm trying to get you to do is to be locked in on focus so you can accomplish your goals. Your goals might be. I just want more peace in my life. I just want to be more healthy, but you know how you're going to get more healthy by having more peace. It's not going to happen if there's chaos all over your life, because how you do one thing is how you're going to do everything. You could be great with finances, right, but if you have something going on and you're distracted and all of a sudden you're not paying your bills on time or you're spending more than you make, you're going to do the same thing on the business side. You're going to not be as productive at your job or in other areas of your life, because your life is not in balance and anything, whatever comes your way, gets your attention at that moment. Instead of living a more priority based life, the goal is to make sure you have a beautiful moment for yourself so you can be the best version of you before you show up for anyone else. But in order to bless your peace, you must first protect it.

Speaker 1: 11:30

I hope you play this over and over again, whenever you feel down, whenever you feel like doubting yourself, calling that person, feeling sorry for yourself, feeling jealous, feeling left out, feeling like you need to explain yourself or overshare over, explain or argue, defend yourself. I hope you listen to this and know that you do not have to do any of those things. It is a gift to be authentic. It is a gift to walk this earth, being yourself, and that does not mean you have to be anyone else to make other people feel comfortable. It is a blessing to know who loves you and those who do not. And, in fact, the ones who do not love you, they actually love you. They are just broken souls. We are all souls, actually, but they focus they simply focus on the wrong things, so don't bother trying to change their mind. There are some people. They've been set on how they see you and how they feel about you long before you even figured it out. It is okay. In fact, turn up even more in who you are. I'm not talking about being animated, I'm just talking about being celebrated from within.

Speaker 1: 12:56

You never know when life is going to say time up, so let's make every moment count. Share those tender moments with a loved one, a friend. Really be present when you speak to someone. Exchange eye contact, Even a soft pat on the shoulder if that's appropriate and you have a they feel safe. Just be tender. I promise you it's so much better this way.

Speaker 1: 13:25

If you see that someone is trying to start with you, you know to just make problems. Don't entertain it, don't get involved, because how they see things you're not going to change their mind. They have to do that on their own and they'll resent you if you speak ahead of time and they're not ready or willing to listen. So avoid it at all costs. You're not here to boss anyone. You're not here to break up fights and arguments. Adults should not, should not need supervision. Children do. And so let's focus on you, let's focus on flourishing, let's focus on smiling, let's focus on eating healthy and just having healthier thoughts and healthier patterns. This is your moment and I want you to grab it all, indulge in it all and make no apologies for Leslie's lessons.