243. Cheers to "Dave": Fun Christians, Cliché Quotes, & Marriage Green Flags

Who is “Dave,” you ask? And why are we cheersing to him?
 Honestly… we’re not quite sure. He may be real. He may be a metaphor. We’ll let you decide.

This week, we’re going completely off-script and having some fun — talking about things like why Christians should actually be fun, our thoughts on random cliché quotes, and marriage green flags (which Bethany may or may not fully understand).

There may not be a life-changing takeaway in this episode — but if we can make your week a little lighter and a lot more entertaining, we’ll call that a win.

DISCLAIMER: The “bleeping” is not covering up a curse word. It exists solely to annoy you and make you wonder what on earth Corey could have possibly said that was worth bleeping out.

Transcript

Cold Open And New Setup

SPEAKER_01 0:02

That's turned off, right?

SPEAKER_08 0:04

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 0:05

That would have been bad news.

SPEAKER_07 0:08

You know what? I think that is a cheers today.

SPEAKER_00 0:14

We are at war, and it's not against our neighbors, spouses, children, politicians, or whatever else we feel like we're battling against.

SPEAKER_07 0:21

So the questions are: who's the fight against? And are we winning or losing? We're the Adkins, and we are a force to be reckoned with.

SPEAKER_06 0:30

Are you ready to join the force?

unknown 0:43

We are recording.

SPEAKER_07 0:46

How's everybody doing out there? We sound different because we feel different because we're in a new recording studio. We upgraded from the first floor to the second floor, which is technically a downgrade from our office to our bedroom.

SPEAKER_04 1:03

Our bedroom. But do I feel different? I actually feel a little more lax in here.

SPEAKER_07 1:09

I feel yeah.

SPEAKER_11 1:18

Today. Today we can't use that.

SPEAKER_01 1:28

I know we can bleep it out, and then they're gonna really want to know what I said.

SPEAKER_11 1:33

You know what?

SPEAKER_01 1:36

Today. Oh, that one's for you, Dave.

SPEAKER_06 1:42

Here's you, buddy. Who by the way, who's Dave?

SPEAKER_04 1:47

You know who Dave is. Who's Dave to you?

SPEAKER_07 1:52

What do you mean? I don't know.

SPEAKER_04 1:54

What Dave are you talking about?

SPEAKER_07 1:55

I don't know. Is it a real guy or is it a metaphor?

SPEAKER_04 1:59

Oh, he's real. I know him.

SPEAKER_02 2:03

Oh, that Dave?

SPEAKER_04 2:05

Yeah.

SPEAKER_02 2:06

Oh, Dave. How you doing, bud?

SPEAKER_04 2:09

Like I talked to that Dave probably once once a week, or at least once every other week.

SPEAKER_07 2:14

Um we're just kidding, guys. We don't know if it's real or fake.

SPEAKER_04 2:18

No, he's real.

SPEAKER_10 2:19

I know him.

SPEAKER_07 2:22

Okay. If you don't know by now, this is gonna be a fun episode. Sometimes we have, you know, life updates and productive. Sometimes we have really good interviews.

SPEAKER_04 2:34

Sometimes you gotta just let loose.

SPEAKER_07 2:36

Sometimes you just gotta let loose. And so that's what today is. It's like a what? Why are you laughing right now?

SPEAKER_01 2:47

What I wanted to say.

SPEAKER_07 2:49

What is your deal tonight? Are you like slap happy?

SPEAKER_04 2:54

I mean a little bit. It's late, dude. It's been a long week.

SPEAKER_07 2:58

Today. We hope you guys what are you drinking tonight?

SPEAKER_04 3:04

What am I drinking?

SPEAKER_07 3:05

Yeah.

unknown 3:06

Hold on.

SPEAKER_07 3:07

Is it a sleepy time tea?

SPEAKER_04 3:09

Hold on, let me just water.

SPEAKER_07 3:16

So we have three different sections that we're gonna do. Well, first give me a little update on your week because that is one thing that we always have to do. If when we're recording, it's like, okay, let them know what's going on in the world right now.

SPEAKER_04 3:32

I don't even know.

SPEAKER_07 3:32

Give the people give the people a fighting chance. A fighting chance. Yeah. No, how's work? How's life? We just talked about in earlier in the month. I'm no longer working. This week was officially a month that I haven't been working. February or January 16th. It's February 18th.

SPEAKER_04 3:50

Oh wow.

SPEAKER_07 3:50

Yeah, it flew by. What have you noticed a difference?

SPEAKER_03 3:55

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 3:58

I told um we ran into some friends when we went out to eat a couple weekends ago. And remember, we saw Britt for her birthday. Oh yeah. And I went up to her table to say hi. And they were like, Oh my gosh, how's it going? They didn't sound like that, but they were like, How's it going? Now that you're not working, how do you feel? And I was like, I mean, I feel really good. I feel good. But today, Corey told I asked Corey, I said, I feel like I'm in such a good place, things are going good. And I asked Corey, like, how do you feel about it? And he said, Oh, yeah, I noticed a difference, definitely, but you're still calling me too much, and you're still calling me too much and and projecting some stress onto me. I'm like, you gotta be kidding me, dude.

SPEAKER_04 4:49

You were that first week.

SPEAKER_08 4:52

It wasn't adjusted.

SPEAKER_04 4:54

I know, I get it. This is I just thought it I didn't think you would be calling me as much. This is like I I I guess I guess I should have known better.

SPEAKER_07 5:02

I called you probably three times.

SPEAKER_04 5:04

Yeah, but they were like back to back to back.

SPEAKER_07 5:06

What was they what were they even about?

SPEAKER_04 5:08

I don't know. Well, that's when you know because you call me and you're just like that's how you know it's bad. Like, hey, how's it going?

SPEAKER_07 5:15

Right. When I'm calling you and just saying, hey, you take the hint, buddy. How long have we been married?

SPEAKER_04 5:20

And I'm like, I'm working.

SPEAKER_07 5:22

Just know what do you need? Right.

SPEAKER_04 5:25

And you're like, I just want to talk. I'm like, I don't have time for this.

SPEAKER_08 5:29

I definitely how's your day?

SPEAKER_04 5:31

I'm like, no, 100%. I've never done it.

SPEAKER_07 5:35

There's always a purpose of it. No, there's I'm trying to get stuff done.

SPEAKER_04 5:40

No, because you being home has like, I feel like there's more peace at home. And because the home is more peaceful and more of like a what is not a safe place. That's kinda.

SPEAKER_07 5:55

Yeah, no, it's like it's like I was thinking about more warm.

Home Culture, Peace, And Work Stress

SPEAKER_04 6:00

Yeah, it was more warm to come home. Yeah, and so I feel like it allows me to focus more at work, makes work less stressful. I've been able to stay longer at work, like a sanctuary, yeah for our family. Yeah, that's like I've been able to get more stuff done. Yeah, yeah, and that's honestly a big that was a big and I can and I get more stuff done, and I'm not thinking like, oh man, like she's gonna be mad.

unknown 6:24

I'm coming home.

SPEAKER_07 6:24

Well, when you're both working, it's like fighting for that schedule, and that's that was one of the things that was like the final deciding point. Our house was so bad. The culture of our home was so bad. And I'm not saying I'm not saying it's negative.

SPEAKER_04 6:43

Didn't you hear me give my testimony the other day?

SPEAKER_07 6:45

It was but I yeah, but I mean, just as far as peace goes, and like, did you feel like coming home? Like, oh, this is I want to come home. I didn't, it was miserable. I felt like there's chaos here, there's water here. Sometimes I want to hear there's too many kids here.

SPEAKER_04 7:03

Pull off into the sheets parking lot and take a nap.

SPEAKER_07 7:06

No, but seriously, listen. So then I would be like, I don't want to be here, and so I would be like, somebody needs to freaking fix my life. And then I realized, oh, it's me. I need to do that. That's like my job as the wife and mom. And so that's kind of what I'm on a mission to start doing. But with that, that's why okay, I'm almost done. Then we'll get to the fun part. Didn't mean to get into all the serious stuff. That's why I feel like the first weeks, I weeks, it was like a week, and I didn't call you as much as you're saying, but I did call you a few times today. Sure. Such an adjustment. Yeah, whatever you when you're so used to like working and and producing and meeting and meeting and meeting and like always having stuff, it's like very unsettling to just then be here. And and also I'm here and I'm like beating myself up. Oh, taking the like just hanging out with the kids, that's not enough. The how like there's so much I could do because now in my mind I have all these projects that I want to do to like make our house better and to make our more systems and implement things. Are you even following me? You don't even care about it. You don't even care.

SPEAKER_04 8:14

What do you mean I don't care?

SPEAKER_07 8:15

Yeah, I can see you finding sleep over there.

SPEAKER_04 8:18

What if I told you when you've asked me?

SPEAKER_07 8:19

And I'm like, so would you are you gonna be mad? Like, if I cut if you come home and I didn't get anything done, and all I did today is play with the kids?

SPEAKER_04 8:27

And I said no, like no, though seriously though, like why would I?

SPEAKER_07 8:32

Yeah, no, I know.

SPEAKER_04 8:34

That's kind of the point. I mean, as long as the house isn't like a heaping pile of trash, like I don't care.

SPEAKER_07 8:40

Which it can't be because if I feel like if the house is not even our house, our home happy. Yeah, I just got a lot of work to do. That's something I'm learning.

SPEAKER_04 8:52

You know, loosen up, dude. I know, isn't that what we're supposed to be talking about?

SPEAKER_07 8:56

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 8:56

Like 18 minutes into this thing.

SPEAKER_07 9:00

Why are you being so much cooler than me today?

SPEAKER_04 9:03

It's supposed to be, aren't we supposed to be talking about how Christians need to be fun?

SPEAKER_07 9:07

That is the first section. Hot take. Okay. Section one. We're gonna so I think when we do these episodes, we should have a little bit of a structure to them. We're trying this, it's new. Section one, hot takes.

SPEAKER_04 9:18

Okay.

Adjusting To New Roles And Expectations

SPEAKER_07 9:18

Section two, cliche quotes, where I just made this up, so this I didn't even like chat GPT. Are you putting me on the spot? No, I'm saying a cliche quote, and then we're gonna share our thoughts on the quote.

SPEAKER_04 9:32

Okay, okay.

SPEAKER_07 9:33

And then um marriage, there's a marriage section, but this time I picked marriage green flags.

SPEAKER_04 9:41

Okay. So, yeah.

SPEAKER_07 9:43

Okay, ready? All right, so Christians being fun. What about it? Like this is an important thing.

SPEAKER_04 9:54

Yeah, and I feel like you articulated this, and this is something that I have thought, but not when did I articulate it? Uh actually, honestly, I think it was like years ago.

SPEAKER_05 10:03

Oh.

SPEAKER_04 10:04

But like growing up, when we were at least when we were kids, I feel like it's not it's less like that now. Yeah, I feel like it's less like that now, don't you? No, no, no, like Christians being fun.

SPEAKER_05 10:16

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 10:17

Like, I feel like when we were growing up, we were in middle school, high school, whatever.

SPEAKER_05 10:22

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 10:32

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 10:32

They weren't fun, they were kind of uptight and lame.

SPEAKER_07 10:35

And so, like, and you'd like hang out with them and stuff, but definitely behind the biggest. You didn't like tow anybody.

SPEAKER_04 10:39

Yeah. Like, and so like you didn't want to associate, you didn't want to be associated.

SPEAKER_07 10:44

This guy, and also I need you guys to remember that sometimes when we're talking about stuff, we're talking about the old versions of us.

SPEAKER_04 10:52

So we have like yeah, but I still feel this way a little. Um but but in all, but seriously, but now like when you think about it, you have like think about the Christian kids at our church.

SPEAKER_06 11:08

Yeah, they're cool, dude. Like they're normal than me.

SPEAKER_04 11:11

They're cool, they're like normal kids, they're not nerdy, you know what I mean? Right. And they and they have, but you like if you look across the whole landscape, I mean, look at all the college athletes. I will say that I mean, I'm talking quarterbacks, five-star recruits, guys that are getting first-round draft picks in the NBA.

SPEAKER_07 11:27

I will say that's true. I will agree with that, and this is going off on a whole other tangent that we can't go down right now. But what I will say is I do think that in some ways faith has been diluted with the coolness factor going up, the cool factor has is gone has gone down. I disagree. I feel like it has.

SPEAKER_04 11:48

Like I disagree. When you actually hear the people in their early 20s, like, think about Travion Henderson, think about that G Scott. We oh, you didn't watch that whole documentary. The one with the Hio State players. Uh shoot, what's it called?

SPEAKER_07 12:00

I did watch it.

SPEAKER_04 12:01

Redemption.

SPEAKER_07 12:02

I did watch it.

Pivot To Main Theme: Christians And Fun

SPEAKER_04 12:03

Think about how articulate or how articulate those guys are. Now think back to when we were in our early 20s, how many guys were articulate?

SPEAKER_07 12:12

Yeah, articulate, but but still that theologically sound dilution of yeah, I don't know.

SPEAKER_04 12:19

Yeah, I disagree. I think faith was more diluted when we were growing up. I think the check the box faith was diluted.

Are Faith And Coolness At Odds

SPEAKER_07 12:27

Okay, I agree. Relationship with Jesus, which is truly the most important. 10 out of 10, I would say now with this generation, lacking the knowledge, like theological, yeah, and I think that that's important because like the reason when I was when I was a kid, I'm a feeler, like I have the relationship. But then in my teenage and later years, I struggled with doubt of faith. And it was because I did not have this theological knowledge. Just today, I was talking to my uncle about the old testament and also about government. And and I was saying to him, like, like, not about government, but just about the state of America and our nation, our world right now. And I said, like, if you doubt God, just read the Bible, just have the knowledge. You wouldn't, you never would. You never would, because there the Bible that was written thousands of years ago is talking about what we're living right now. Yeah, like it's so clear. But because before I just lived on like relationship and feeling, yeah, it was all based on emotion and I didn't have the knowledge, then I had doubt. No, I'm not. Yeah, because when we were there, I had doubt because I didn't have the I had knowledge, right?

SPEAKER_04 13:45

Because when we were their age, we didn't. I think that they have it more.

SPEAKER_07 13:49

Well, I don't know.

SPEAKER_04 13:50

I honestly I genuinely think that in most in in most of the ways that the Gen Z or whatever, even a little bit younger, are better, are more close to Christ than our generation was at that age.

SPEAKER_07 14:09

I don't know.

SPEAKER_04 14:09

I agree and I disagree because then I I do look at them sometimes and I just think, all right, like how much scripture do you actually I don't think they're more close to Christ than our generation is now, currently, but I think when we were their age, they are but what I mean by diluted is like I bet you if you lined up 10 Gen Z and you said, quote me 10 pieces of scripture.

SPEAKER_07 14:32

They couldn't.

SPEAKER_04 14:32

I bet you a lot of things.

SPEAKER_07 14:33

They couldn't, and that's what I mean by dilute. I don't know. I don't know. It's just a different faith.

SPEAKER_04 14:38

I don't know, but I think they're more fun than we didn't even get on this because we started talking about fun when I was talking about how they're more cool.

SPEAKER_07 14:44

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 14:45

And we went down a little rabbit hole.

SPEAKER_07 14:47

Sorry, guys.

SPEAKER_04 14:48

Yeah, we gotta so back to being fun. So again, I think it was because of that that we thought you couldn't be cool and be Christian.

SPEAKER_07 14:56

Yeah, like I that was a lie. Viewed it as almost like when you do a diet.

SPEAKER_04 15:01

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 15:02

Like, oh okay, I'm gonna be good. I'm gonna be good. And then the weekend comes and you're out not being good, and I'm like, I'm gonna do better on Monday. I'm gonna like I genuinely did that with my faith.

SPEAKER_04 15:13

Right.

SPEAKER_07 15:14

With my faith. Can you believe it?

SPEAKER_04 15:16

Yeah, wow.

SPEAKER_07 15:17

I just how do we keep getting off of this?

SPEAKER_04 15:19

Like I did the same thing, and I even I even thought I I may have even said this to you, but I treated my faith uh a lot like I had a golden ticket.

SPEAKER_07 15:30

Oh, like you're saved, you're gonna go to heaven.

SPEAKER_04 15:32

Yeah, I'm gonna go to heaven, I can just do whatever I want.

SPEAKER_07 15:33

And you can just ask for forgiveness later. Yeah, yeah.

SPEAKER_04 15:36

And then I would feel so terrible afterwards, or in the midst of doing whatever I wanted to do.

SPEAKER_05 15:42

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 15:43

That I would cry out to God and ask him to forgive me.

SPEAKER_05 15:46

Yeah, like and I'd be saying like when you're an adult.

SPEAKER_04 15:49

Why would I why am I not? Why am I doing this?

SPEAKER_05 15:51

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 15:52

And it all stems because I thought you just couldn't have fun. Also, some of the things that I felt like were sins or wrong, like what? Actually weren't wrong. Like some of them with a sense of humor.

SPEAKER_07 16:04

Yeah. So this is yeah, this is where it gets to the Christians having fun. Christians are doing other people a disservice if you choose to not be fun. That's my hot take on it.

Knowledge, Doubt, And Scripture Depth

SPEAKER_04 16:18

You don't be a dud.

SPEAKER_07 16:20

We are called, we just we just um spoke at a break at a conference last weekend for high schoolers, and their whole um conference was about being the light. Part of being the light is being a magnetic person.

SPEAKER_04 16:38

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 16:38

How are you magnetic? You're magnetic by being fun and having good people skills.

SPEAKER_04 16:43

Get this. This is where this is a this is a really good conversation because I also remember thinking this. I also know we both know somebody that I don't want to mention their name on on here.

SPEAKER_05 16:56

But is it Dave?

SPEAKER_04 16:58

No, but you know what that reminds me of? Here's today.

SPEAKER_06 17:02

Dave, we love you, David.

SPEAKER_04 17:04

Good job. Your heart has to be in the right place with this because my heart personally? No, and just to anybody, okay, because I remember doing this, and I I know somebody that told me that they did this. Think that you can go in, like, like when we're in our early 20s or whatever, that you can go and party and that it's fine. You're a Christian, you don't want the other people to think you're some stuck up snob. So you would go out and you'd get like hammered that it was fine, like I'm not gonna be some uptight Christian.

SPEAKER_07 17:40

They're saying they used to think this, or this is true, that's what they think.

SPEAKER_04 17:43

No, this is what they used to think. I remember them telling me this when they were that age, gotcha, in like the early 20s. And I remember thinking this. I remember thinking too, like, dude, I'm not gonna be some stuck up, uptight Christian, so I'm just gonna go out and party with them. Then I'm not getting hammered, right? So there's like a line, you know what I mean? Right.

SPEAKER_07 18:00

You're supposed to be the light, but you're supposed to also be in the world and not of the world, right?

SPEAKER_04 18:05

But, anyways, my point is is that you don't have to be lame, yeah, but you also can't be like doing what they're doing, right? You know what I mean?

SPEAKER_05 18:17

Yeah, I do.

SPEAKER_04 18:17

So there's like there is a nice sweet spot, yeah, to where you're not sinning, you're just being fun.

SPEAKER_07 18:23

Right, I agree. You're also not to be. So, how does this translate to like families and parents? And I think that this is like one of the most important things as Christian parents and families that we have to get right, especially as we're entering into the teen years, and sometimes it's tough, it is tough because you're tired, yeah, yeah, and like we have five kids, yeah. Two of them are are one year old babies, and we're we don't want to have a million kids over, and we don't want to take them to do stuff.

Being A Light Without Compromise

SPEAKER_04 18:56

You have to, yeah, and sometimes we mess up, yeah, but you have to.

SPEAKER_07 19:01

Like, what do you mean mess up? Like, sometimes they come over and I'm just like cranky, and but what I mean and sometimes you just go downstairs and you start yelling at them like you guys need to be quiet down there, and again, it it translates into being to being a and then the third time you're like, all right, I said quiet, and then the fourth time you're like, what are you guys doing?

SPEAKER_04 19:24

I'm like calling like it's 2 a.m. I'm trying to sleep today.

SPEAKER_07 19:34

I remember so my parents would come in, like we my Andrea, she had a cell phone.

SPEAKER_01 19:42

Dude, I can picture your mom right now.

SPEAKER_07 19:44

My mom would storm in. No, my dad would storm in in his boxer briefs. Oh my god, give me your cell phone, take my friends' phones.

SPEAKER_04 19:54

They are in your house, isn't it?

SPEAKER_08 19:56

They would take your phone for the night.

SPEAKER_04 19:58

I thought it was gonna be your mom.

SPEAKER_08 19:59

Your mom's like yeah, she didn't do that.

SPEAKER_02 20:05

Hey guys, be quiet.

SPEAKER_07 20:08

We're not making fun of you, Denise, because we are you now. That's the point.

SPEAKER_01 20:14

We are we are now.

SPEAKER_08 20:16

I'm like it's 10:30 down the stairs.

SPEAKER_01 20:22

It is 9 45. It's too loud. The babies are sleeping.

SPEAKER_08 20:28

Enough snacks, too.

SPEAKER_01 20:30

No more snacks.

SPEAKER_08 20:33

We're gonna start making you do tours here to eat all our snacks.

SPEAKER_07 20:38

No, okay. We gotta get back on track. We have to get on track.

SPEAKER_01 20:42

Okay, okay.

SPEAKER_07 20:42

Yes, but speaking of snacks, this is part of being the family.

SPEAKER_01 20:45

You need to have snacks.

Parenting: Guardrails And Hospitality

SPEAKER_07 20:46

Yes, you need to be hospitable for these kids. And we've talked about this before. This is us preaching to ourselves because these are the things as tired parents that we don't know. All these got cheap snacks, but it is so like this is a huge Dollar Tree got cheap snacks, our homes are our mission fields, and uh and it you have to be a fun parent, you have to be a fun uh spouse, yeah. And when you teach your kids to be fun, that leaves a legacy of fun Christianity.

SPEAKER_04 21:20

That doesn't mean you do anything against the Bible, and you can have boundaries, like you you should. You or what's the I've heard a lot of people saying this lately, uh, but the guardrails.

SPEAKER_05 21:33

I don't know.

SPEAKER_04 21:34

You haven't hear you haven't heard people say I've I heard that talked about a lot with parenting lately from Christian parents, but anyways, you have to put up the guardrails, but then let them play within the guardrails.

SPEAKER_05 21:46

Yes. Yeah, I agree.

SPEAKER_04 21:48

You know what I mean? Like it doesn't have to be like COVID lines where you have to step on this arrow and then step on this arrow. No, it's like here's the aisle, just don't go outside the aisle. Have at it.

SPEAKER_07 22:02

Yep. And it's also hard to when you put out put the guardrails, sometimes they want to push them. They want to push them, but also sometimes as a parent, you have to be humble and say, ooh, this one was a little too narrow. I gotta loosen it up for you a little bit. Because that's something I'm learning too. That I am a huge control freak. And especially as it comes to a our son who's becoming a teenager and becoming more and more independent. And like I want to control everything, but we have to be willing to pivot as they get older. And also, I think it's as parents, it's unfair for us to say, well, this is how it was when I was a kid, so this is how the rule translates to you. Because we're living in completely different times. We are like when we were kids, we didn't have all of these gaming systems and phones and internet and technology. There, we're like writing the rule book for this type of parenting. And so to say, like, well, I didn't have a phone until I was 24. Yeah, because they didn't exist, Bob. Like they didn't exist. And so we have to kind of we have to kind of like use our discernment as a parent and and figure out in some ways our parents had it great. Yeah, they did.

SPEAKER_04 23:27

They kicked us out the house.

SPEAKER_07 23:29

They didn't call us back in until the commercial came on.

SPEAKER_04 23:32

Yeah. Well, they were like, come in when the light when the sun goes down.

SPEAKER_07 23:36

And then the commercials would come, but you didn't have cable.

SPEAKER_04 23:38

So I did not have cable. But that's the other thing is we just watched what my dad wanted to watch.

SPEAKER_05 23:42

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 23:43

Genuinely. So you know, I'm sitting here with blippy on there. I'm like, dude, this guy might be on a list. Like, why are kids watching this? Yeah, Liz. He's got to register. Like, I'm pretty sure Blippy's not allowed within a hundred yards of a school.

Updating Rules For Modern Teens

SPEAKER_07 23:59

Don't say that. You know how I'm like a total dork, and I will look people like famous people up because I want to know like about their lives and how they got there and all that. He's a cool dude. I looked him up. Good for him. His net worth is insane. Okay. Second of all, he's like really handsome. All right.

SPEAKER_04 24:16

Jeffrey Epstein's net worth is really big too.

SPEAKER_07 24:19

He's like got a really pretty wife.

SPEAKER_04 24:22

Good for him.

SPEAKER_07 24:23

He he just was smart.

SPEAKER_04 24:24

None of this makes him any less annoying when he's on my TV screen.

SPEAKER_07 24:27

Yeah, I mean he's annoying for sure, but he's don't say that on a list somewhere.

SPEAKER_04 24:33

He creeps me out.

SPEAKER_07 24:34

You probably creep other people out.

SPEAKER_04 24:36

I couldn't act like that if somebody had a gun to my head.

SPEAKER_07 24:40

Alright. So, do you have anything else to say about being a fun Christian? People are like, if there's anybody left.

SPEAKER_04 24:48

Don't be like Blippy, bruh. It's too far.

SPEAKER_07 24:52

Alright. Next, next top talking point. Bottom line with Christians and being fun. Just be fun. And if you need help figuring out how to be fun, just send us a text and we'll we'll find you actually. We'll find you somebody that's actually fun.

SPEAKER_04 25:12

We'll send you some chat GPTs.

SPEAKER_07 25:15

Cliche quote: You become like the five people that you spend the most time with.

SPEAKER_04 25:21

Send it.

SPEAKER_07 25:22

Send it. I agree. Send it.

SPEAKER_04 25:26

Yeah, and it's not just people. You become the five foods you eat.

SPEAKER_07 25:30

Like you like five shows you watch.

SPEAKER_04 25:33

The five shows you watch, the five books you watch. It's like everything around you.

SPEAKER_07 25:39

The five rule.

SPEAKER_04 25:41

Like I know he's being funny about the five things you eat, but that is that is true.

SPEAKER_07 25:45

Yeah.

SPEAKER_04 25:45

But yeah, 100%.

Humor, Boundaries, And Blippy Riff

SPEAKER_07 25:47

Yeah, I was just thinking about it today because I was with my uncles and just thinking, they're so smart. They're so wise. And not only that, they really I mean my dad's like this too. Lovey can. Mom, I'm just gonna go down the list so I don't get in trouble. I'm just kidding. Listen up all of her family members over here. No, but seriously, if you truly, if you think about our family members and none of none of mine, none of mine are listening because you can't you can't buy a phone to listen to a podcast with wick cards.

SPEAKER_09 26:28

Your mom's feelings would be so hurt.

SPEAKER_01 26:31

She's not listening. She's like, I don't want to listen to this stupid podcast.

SPEAKER_08 26:40

When did you become a comedian?

SPEAKER_01 26:42

I'm not. I'm not. But you know what?

SPEAKER_08 26:47

Today, Dave, Dave a boy.

SPEAKER_01 26:51

All right, Dave.

SPEAKER_04 26:52

So does Dave have sleeves on his shirt or no?

SPEAKER_07 26:56

No, but yeah. He's wearing a hoodie.

SPEAKER_04 27:00

No, he doesn't. Dave doesn't do sleeves.

SPEAKER_07 27:03

Are you Dave?

SPEAKER_04 27:04

No, I mean I don't have sleeves on either.

SPEAKER_07 27:06

With me. Why do I think nothing about it when Dave wears them? But when you wear them, I don't like it.

SPEAKER_04 27:10

Because you're judgmental against me all the time.

SPEAKER_07 27:13

I don't know. It's so weird.

SPEAKER_04 27:16

Because you're a control freak and you're very opinionated. And I'm the only person you can actually tell the truth to that you won't get mad and not talk to you.

SPEAKER_08 27:27

You mean everybody in my life, if I tell the truth to them, will be mad.

SPEAKER_04 27:30

Oh, for sure.

SPEAKER_08 27:31

I know. Why? Because you're mean, dude. Silence.

Cliche Quote: The Five Rule

SPEAKER_04 27:35

Could you imagine if Jesus would have gone up to the woman that was the uh the adulteress and was just like, you gotta stop sleeping with everybody around this town.

SPEAKER_07 27:46

I am not blind.

SPEAKER_04 27:47

And called her like a floosie or something. Could you imagine?

SPEAKER_07 27:50

I'm not that blind.

SPEAKER_04 27:51

No, he said, he walks up and he goes, Let any of you who have not sinned cast the first stone. Okay. And she was like, oh. And then he told him basically all those jerks to go pound sand. And then he said, I'm familiar. And then he tells her, Go forth and sin no more.

SPEAKER_07 28:12

Okay, what's that have to do with me?

SPEAKER_04 28:14

It accomplished the same thing. You're telling the truth in the same way. The one he delivered it perfectly. I tried. Obviously.

SPEAKER_07 28:21

I do try to be very careful.

SPEAKER_04 28:22

And the other one, he called her a floozy and tore stuff sleeping around.

SPEAKER_07 28:25

Sometimes you can fluff things up so much that it doesn't even get the job done.

SPEAKER_04 28:29

Oh, that's true too. So I would rather fluff.

SPEAKER_07 28:32

I would rather just cut the fluff and just yeah, but that almost never works. I think it works.

SPEAKER_04 28:38

It's not. It doesn't.

SPEAKER_07 28:40

Maybe not for you, but like in the real world, with like I'm in the real world.

SPEAKER_04 28:45

I am the real world.

SPEAKER_07 28:47

Well, it's I am real. You I just cut to the chase the most because it's just like oh right, he's right here. Yeah, it doesn't work. Cut to the chase.

SPEAKER_04 28:55

It doesn't work.

SPEAKER_07 28:57

Oh, what I was saying is I just was with my uncles and thinking we rarely get like undivided attention with with people like that that we're close with. Yeah. And I'm so lucky because I get to have recording days where it's like eight hours.

SPEAKER_04 29:12

Oh, and you're it's just you and them.

SPEAKER_07 29:14

It's just they're just doing their work and I'm just like soaking it up.

SPEAKER_04 29:18

Oh, yeah.

SPEAKER_07 29:18

And every time I'm at this recording day, these recording days, I just feel so like stretched. Like, man, they're so smart. I want to learn more. And they make me want to go home and read a bunch of books.

SPEAKER_04 29:33

You know what's wild about that is there are tons of people at the office that probably hardly ever spend any time with them.

SPEAKER_07 29:38

Yeah, I know. I feel so lucky.

SPEAKER_04 29:40

Yeah. Yeah. And yeah, not trying to blow their uh give them hot heads or whatever, you know. But in but in all honesty, I take that for sometimes I feel like I take that for granted. Like the time that I had got to spend with them because I've been there for you know 15 years and there was less people, or I was on job sites, I was traveling with them or rooming with them or whatever. You know what I mean?

Choosing People Who Stretch You

SPEAKER_07 30:04

Right. Yeah, it's so true. But I just use them as an example because like I'm not getting to sit down with my dad for eight hours. People who you genuinely care about, like you and who are they stretch you and you make you better.

SPEAKER_04 30:17

Oh, Ken, you're gonna have to start a podcast.

SPEAKER_07 30:19

You have to be intentional about it because they when you the good gauges, when you walk away from that relationship and from that conversation or for wherever you were wherever you were with that person, if you walk away feeling good, not even about yourself, but just like this was a good relationship. But if you walk away feeling like they make me feel so stupid, like I'm I'm walking away feeling I'm in a negative head space now. We were just all we ever do is complain about stuff. That's you don't those aren't the five people you want to be around.

SPEAKER_04 30:53

Right. You know what I mean? Yep. So all right, you got another quote thing? No, what was it called?

SPEAKER_07 30:57

Marriage green flags.

SPEAKER_04 30:59

Oh, so we were just on one quote, okay.

SPEAKER_07 31:02

Marriage green flags. So this is opposite of a red flag, and then this is a green flag.

SPEAKER_04 31:10

So are you giving me examples or I gotta think of things that are green flags about you?

SPEAKER_07 31:16

Yeah. I mean, it doesn't have to be about me.

SPEAKER_04 31:18

You gotta think of you mean with somebody else?

SPEAKER_07 31:20

Just what's a green flag in marriage?

SPEAKER_04 31:23

A green flag.

SPEAKER_07 31:24

I'm trying to think about it. It's like I remember one day last week, there was a day that I looked at you and I thought, oh yeah, I do like you. Because yeah, and so there must have been a green flag there.

SPEAKER_04 31:34

I wonder why. I wonder why you felt like this whole podcast. I said you thought that I didn't like you. Wonder why. You're like, oh, I didn't like you.

SPEAKER_07 31:45

People are gonna turn this in. You guys need counseling. This is how we flirt, you guys.

SPEAKER_02 31:54

Today, David, David, David, David.

Marriage Green Flags: Playful Chaos

SPEAKER_01 31:58

Uh, seriously, though.

SPEAKER_04 32:02

Um, shoot.

SPEAKER_06 32:04

You're a guy's guy, Dave.

SPEAKER_04 32:05

What were we saying? Oh, the green flags. Do I need to give my example now?

SPEAKER_07 32:11

Yeah, I didn't.

SPEAKER_04 32:12

Oh no, you never said yours.

SPEAKER_07 32:13

I can't. I'm trying to think about it.

SPEAKER_04 32:14

You said you were looking at me and you were like, oh, I do like that.

SPEAKER_07 32:17

I was trying to think about what it was.

SPEAKER_04 32:19

Okay, mine is just somebody that genuinely thinks you're funny. You actually think I'm funny, which is funny because I don't even think that I'm that funny, but you think I'm funny.

SPEAKER_07 32:30

You are pretty funny.

SPEAKER_04 32:32

Sometimes. Sometimes it just it it does depend.

SPEAKER_07 32:36

Well, yeah.

SPEAKER_04 32:36

You know, sure. Some if like there are times where I can tell a joke and one day you're cracking up, and the next day you're like, Yeah, but sometimes you're testing out new jokes and they're not funny. Wow, you gotta keep it, you gotta keep the marriage fresh.

SPEAKER_07 32:49

Yeah, so just knows. Wow, the growling thing because you sound like a bull over there.

SPEAKER_04 32:56

I didn't grow.

SPEAKER_08 32:57

Yeah, you're like I didn't mean to grow, but I you gotta keep it fresh.

SPEAKER_04 33:02

So sometimes you gotta test new jokes. What, you wanna hear the same jokes for 50 years?

SPEAKER_07 33:06

No, no, but don't be mad when I don't laugh.

SPEAKER_04 33:08

Come up with the original material, bruh. All right, give me another greenie.

SPEAKER_07 33:13

A green flag.

SPEAKER_04 33:15

What were you you never told me that you were looking at me on the couch and you're like, oh, I do like him.

SPEAKER_07 33:21

Well, it was something I said earlier in the podcast, too.

SPEAKER_04 33:25

So I don't get a new one.

SPEAKER_07 33:26

No, you do. Um I would say doing one of my chores or something. Like, for example, the other day when I I always wake up with the kids every morning. And you don't sleep in super late, but you sleep in a little bit past when I do.

SPEAKER_03 33:47

Yeah.

SPEAKER_07 33:47

And so I'm always the one to wake up with them. But the other day, there was one morning where you got up and you let me sleep. That's a green flag. That's a green flag.

SPEAKER_04 34:03

Like Aren't green flags supposed to be things that you actually like about me, not things that you want me to do more often.

SPEAKER_07 34:09

Don't you want me though?

SPEAKER_08 34:10

What was the thing you said?

SPEAKER_04 34:12

You already think I'm funny.

SPEAKER_08 34:14

Oh, okay.

SPEAKER_01 34:16

Well, the way you know it's a green flag.

SPEAKER_07 34:21

Some of your clothes recently have been nice.

SPEAKER_01 34:24

Some of my clothes recently have been nice.

SPEAKER_07 34:28

The way you've been dressing up nicer for work. Green flag. I just feel really on the spot. I know I have a green flag. Maybe I'm not understanding what a green flag is.

SPEAKER_04 34:45

You are saying green flags of things that you want me to do more of.

SPEAKER_07 34:50

No, it's like you're saying you should need to keep doing this.

SPEAKER_01 34:53

That's a green flag.

SPEAKER_07 34:54

You're already doing it. When you leave for work, that has been a green flag. When you leave for work, messing up really bad. Hold on.

SPEAKER_01 35:03

I was unemployed before last week.

SPEAKER_07 35:05

No, like it's not because you're leaving and I'm happy. It's like, wow.

SPEAKER_01 35:11

When you are never around the house, that's a green flag.

SPEAKER_07 35:16

No, what I'm trying to say is having a husband that provides for you.

SPEAKER_01 35:21

When you put your underwear in the dirty clothes basket, that's a green flag. When you don't leave your flosser on the nightstand, that is a green flag.

SPEAKER_07 35:33

No, stop. But seriously, green flag. Okay, ready for it? This is a new one, too. Newly done. What's a really green flag?

SPEAKER_01 35:40

Guys that have six packs. You know what?

SPEAKER_06 35:49

You know what? Today. This one goes out to Dave.

SPEAKER_01 35:54

You know what? I like it. I you know what's a really good green flag when your husband's taller than 5'9.

SPEAKER_08 36:04

You're gonna make me pass out. I mean, okay.

SPEAKER_01 36:13

You know, no, I you know what's a green flag? Husbands that have multiple houses. Ones on the beach, preferably. In like a private jet. It doesn't have to be a big one, but I mean, those things are all right. One that can fit a family of five.

SPEAKER_08 36:29

Really good. Those things are all really good, and I may or may not have mentioned them at one point or another.

SPEAKER_07 36:37

A lot of times, but um, a green flag is a marriage cream flag. Having a husband.

SPEAKER_01 36:47

Having a husband who has a hot tub on the back pad.

SPEAKER_02 36:58

That's it. I'm moving out.

SPEAKER_08 37:07

Um having a husband that provides for you and your family. I got myself a sugar daddy. Are you still thinking of examples?

SPEAKER_01 37:22

I don't know.

SPEAKER_08 37:24

I am so happy that you go to work all the time and pay for everything now. That's a green flag.

SPEAKER_01 37:43

Don't come you know it's a green flag for me. Wives that have dinner made every time you go from where I'm done.

SPEAKER_02 38:02

I'm a big fat walking red flag.

SPEAKER_10 38:08

Oh man.

SPEAKER_08 38:09

I don't know why I'm laughing so hard. Give me another one. Another what make a green flag for me. Come on.

Running Gags And Closing Laughs

SPEAKER_01 38:22

Another green flag. Don't say anything inappropriate. A wife that matches socks. It matches socks. You don't have to go digging. You don't have to go. Man, it's a real green flag when you don't have to go digging in the sock basket yourself to find a match for your sock.

SPEAKER_08 38:45

You're gonna come home tomorrow. There's gonna every sock in the house is gonna be matched.

SPEAKER_01 38:51

You know, it's a real green flag those times when you accidentally match those socks in the basket.

SPEAKER_02 38:58

You already said that.

SPEAKER_01 39:03

No, it's a real green flag. Wives that don't call their husbands in the middle of the day to just talk. I love it when you I have days where you don't do that. It's such a green flag.

SPEAKER_09 39:17

So it's like my green flag is when you leave for work.

SPEAKER_01 39:22

And my green flag is when you leave me alone.

SPEAKER_11 39:28

You know what I've got to do today. Oh my gosh. That's all we got.

SPEAKER_08 39:44

On that note, I think it's time for us to go.

SPEAKER_01 39:48

Is that the last segment?

SPEAKER_08 39:49

Yeah.

SPEAKER_01 39:50

Oh, thank goodness.

SPEAKER_08 39:51

It's been nearly an hour.

SPEAKER_01 39:53

You know what? It was a green flag for me. Those times where you don't say, hey, we're gonna keep this short. And then it's like 57 minutes later. It's like, dude, just stop saying that's gonna be short. It's never gonna be short. It'll always be long.

SPEAKER_08 40:13

Oh, you are in an on another level today.

SPEAKER_06 40:17

It has been very fun. Very fun. But we hope that you guys have a good week. We know that this brought you no value.

SPEAKER_01 40:29

You know who it did bring value to Dave.

SPEAKER_06 40:36

We love you, Dave.