Beyond Resolutions: Breaking the Blame-Shame Game

The Soulful Leader Podcast

The Soulful Leader Podcast
Beyond Resolutions: Breaking the Blame-Shame Game
Jan 23, 2024 Season 1 Episode 137
Stephanie Allen & Maren Oslac

This time of year feels like a fresh start, a reset, an opportunity to recreate ourselves, and then we hit a wall, make a mistake or get side swiped by life and everything slows down (or comes to a screeching halt). We start doubting ourselves, shaming ourselves and blaming ourselves, our situations and others.,

As with all things, there is another option. It’s just we’re so convinced that we’re alone in our ‘I didn’t so what I said I’d do’ narrative that we stay stuck, we get paralyzed and go back to the habits we know, resolutions and goals can wait until next year.

Did you know that not shaming and not blaming is an actual practice? 

This toxic, hidden subject is what Stephanie and Maren bring into the open on today’s podcast. They talk bluntly about how internalizing blame and shame starts a downward spiral, how leadership starts by ending the shame cycle in oneself and how each of us can shift our own narrative to become better instead of bitter.

Some of the highlights of today’s episode are the wonderful Sufi teaching story, leadership lessons from the show The Bear and the questions about living in a friendly or unfriendly universe.

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  • 00:41 Setting up 2024, what happens when we make a mistake?
  • 05:56 Who are you when no one is looking? Sufi teaching story
  • 09:08 Shame in your business
  • 12:30 Friendly or unfriendly universe
  • 14:55 It’s a practice to feel that you are supported. The Bear example
  • 17:31 If you’re really sorry myth
  • 19:18 You can't do it for another unless you're doing it for yourself: s.h.a.m.e


LINKS

02:06 John Bradshaw Healing the Shame that Binds You

15:15 The Bear on Hulu (USA), Disney + (Canada)

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