{"version":"1.0.0","segments":[{"startTime":0.05,"endTime":6.38,"body":"Hello and welcome to the eighth"},{"startTime":0.05,"endTime":6.38,"body":"episode of the Bearded mystic podcast."},{"startTime":6.53,"endTime":8.6,"body":"And I'm your host Rahul N  Singh."},{"startTime":8.733,"endTime":12.223,"body":"Thank you for joining today and"},{"startTime":8.733,"endTime":12.223,"body":"taking out the time to the listen"},{"startTime":12.386,"endTime":14.396,"body":"or watch this podcast episode."},{"startTime":14.713,"endTime":19.998,"body":"today we're going to be discussing"},{"startTime":14.713,"endTime":19.998,"body":"about spirituality and its impact"},{"startTime":19.998,"endTime":21.897,"body":"that it has on   relationships."},{"startTime":22.082,"endTime":26.673,"body":"Now, because we have to keep"},{"startTime":22.082,"endTime":26.673,"body":"things in a more balanced approach."},{"startTime":26.673,"endTime":30.754,"body":"We're going to look at the 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