You know those “compliments” that don’t feel like compliments at all? Yeah. Lizzy and Iza are DONE with them. 

From the dreaded “You look tired” to the classic “That dress actually looks good on you,” this episode calls out the subtle shade disguised as kindness — and how to respond when it happens mid-workshop, on stage, or just when you’re already drowning.

💬 In this hilariously relatable episode, they unpack:
•Why backhanded compliments suck so hard
•The emotional whiplash of passive-aggressive “feedback”
•How to stop narrating someone else’s appearance
•What to say instead of “You look tired” 
•And why just being direct is so much better

If you’ve ever walked away from a compliment feeling worse, this one’s for you.The We Need Help Podcast - is cheaper than therapy and way funnier.

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Three years after their most popular episode, Lizzy and Izzy are back to revisit narcissism — and this time, they’re wiser, calmer, and way less confused. 

In this fast-paced refresh, they break down what it actually feels like to be the target of a covert narcissist, how to recognize the manipulation, and what healing looks like after the fog lifts.

They also get real about:
•How their understanding has evolved
•What it’s like to podcast through pain
•Why everyone seems to have a narcissist story
•And how this podcast has basically turned into a marriage 

Whether you’re freshly entangled or finally waking up — this one’s for you.

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This week, Lizzy and Izzy take a deep breath and dive into the surprisingly sexy world of stoicism.  From trashy meltdowns to Godfather-level calm, they explore what it means to keep your cool when life (and other people) lose it.

Expect a hilarious, honest convo about:
•Why flipping out is so 2005
•How staying calm = power
•What losing your shit says about you (spoiler: it’s not good)
•Why stoicism isn’t about being numb — it’s about being grounded
•Why calm is the new hot 

If you’ve ever overreacted to something dumb (or watched someone else do it and cringed), this episode’s for you.

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We Need Help Podcast: “Being the Bad Guy”

In this episode, Lizzy and Iza dive into the uncomfortable but empowering topic of being okay with being the bad guy. From tough conversations to boundary-setting, they explore why women often struggle with being disliked and how embracing your “villain era” can actually be a form of growth. 💥

They share stories from their own lives and friends — including power moves, people-pleasing dilemmas, and moments when being “the bad guy” was absolutely necessary. If you’ve ever felt guilty for speaking up or worried about how you’re perceived, this episode is for you.

 It’s not about being mean — it’s about being real.

Topics Covered:
•Why women are conditioned to avoid being disliked
•The emotional cost of people-pleasing
•Real moments where saying “yes” hurt more than saying “no”
•Teaching kids (especially daughters) to set boundaries
•Embracing discomfort to stand in your truth
•How being the “bad guy” is often just being honest
•The liberation of saying “no” without explaining yourself
•Why you don’t owe everyone an explanation

Challenge of the Week:
Be the bad guy once. Say “no” without guilt. Set a boundary. Don’t explain yourself. Just try it.

Because being the bad guy isn’t mean — it’s honest.

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Join us as we review “12 Smart Things to Do When the Booze and Drugs Are Gone” by Allen Berger, Ph.D.   It sounds like it's just for addicts, but really it is for anyone who wants to take control of their emotions and not fall victim to them.

“12 Smart Things to Do When the Booze and Drugs Are Gone” by Allen Berger, Ph.D., addresses the challenges individuals face after achieving physical sobriety, emphasizing the importance of attaining emotional sobriety for long-term recovery. Building upon foundational recovery principles, Berger outlines twelve actionable steps to foster self-awareness and personal growth. These steps include understanding one’s true self and core values, refraining from taking others’ reactions personally, trusting one’s inner guidance, and accepting responsibility for personal responses to challenging situations. By practicing these principles, individuals can overcome emotional dependencies and develop the tools necessary for sustained sobriety and personal fulfillment.

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What if we need to just let people be sometimes?  That's this weeks topic as we review the book "The Let Them Theory" by Mel Robbins

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Selfish isn't always a bad thing - in fact, we all need to put a little bit of selfish back in our lives.

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In this episode we discuss Regrets
- We Need Regrets
- We need to have the courage to talk about them, yes even if it is abortion
- Rather then hide our mistakes, let’s talk about them and grow from them

Can we get to a place where we can talk about these hard things and listen with compassion rather than have a political power struggle?

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Are there some sinful emotions that we need?

Lizzy dumps out six such emotions and demonstrates how they have helped her do great things nad be a better person.   Hear her out . . it actually makes some sense people.

Embrace your horrifying emotions and make them work for you.

Spite, Envy, Jealousy, Resentment, Vanity and Vengeance aren't all bad! 

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In this episode we discuss the serious topic of living with someone suffering from depression.   We both have personal experience in this and we share our unique perspectives on how to best cope and thrive when living with someone who is dealing with depression.   

Knowing how to balance the instincts to fix the problem for someone, and how to love them through this crippling affliction.

And Lizzy was kind enough to share her current obsession with doing a parasite cleanse which may just drive her into a state of depression itself.

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We discuss "Glucose Revolution" by French Biochemist Jessie Inchauspé.   We take a look at  everything there is to know about glucose and summarize her tips for healthier eating habits.  

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