Embracing Wanderlust: Unleashing the Inner Muse with Lexy Davis, Love Embodiment Coach and Vibe Curator

In this captivating episode, we delve into the transformative world of love embodiment coaching, international retreat hosting, and vibe curation with the incredible Lexy Davis. Join us as Lexy shares her fascinating journey and reveals the profound impact that travel has had on her internal muse. Through thought-provoking insights and personal anecdotes, Lexy guides us on a mesmerizing exploration of how embracing different cultures, immersing in new landscapes, and connecting with diverse souls have nourished her creative spirit. Discover the power of wanderlust as Lexy unveils the secrets of how travel ignites her passion, fuels her inspiration, and allows her to curate the most vibrant vibes imaginable. Get ready to embark on an extraordinary voyage and unlock the hidden treasures that await when we embrace the world as our muse.


Follow Lexy on IG @alivetoenjoy

Lexy's list of Embodied Women:

- @connie_chapman

- @iamvictoriawashington

- @Shaneymarie_enchantress 

- @Simaya.Priya

-@ thepleasureplus

- @rosie.rees

- @sensualsomatic 

- @theportiabrown 

- @che.che.luna

- @the vaginablog

- @kama.lab

-@humblewildwellness 

-@the.meg.o

Transcript

00:00.00
elenabox
Hello ladies and gentlemen and welcome back to another episode of the ode to joy podcast I am so excited to introduce you to my friend Lexie Davis who is joining us currently from berlin welcome Lexi.

00:16.10
Lexy Davis
Thank you So excited to be here.

00:20.76
elenabox
I'm so happy to finally have you on the show because I've been following along your journey for a while and you're one of these people who I'm hugely inspired by because you really embody this sense of like. Ah, the world Traveler who's just traveling the world spreading your joy to everyone and so I'm so happy to share your voice and your experience with our dear listener today.

00:41.85
Lexy Davis
I Mean yeah right back at you I Think what you do is so amazing as well and it's just so fun to I Love Internet friends. It's amazing that we can have that this day and age.

00:52.79
elenabox
We Love Internet friends I feel like I meet some of the most epic people on the internet. So It's It's very very cool that you're here. Um So a little bit about lexi for our listener she is again like so many of my guests that I have on the show just somebody who brings in so many elements of Magic. Um, but she is a love embodiment Coach an international retreat host and maybe my most favorite. She is a vibe curator which I just Love. She's a vibe curator think about how many things you've been to where you're like the vibe. The vibe really needs some curation here like.

01:20.99
Lexy Davis
Um.

01:29.26
elenabox
That's what you do and I love that. Ah, it's good. It's good. So okay, so the theme of this whole season which we're just getting Kickst started is all about talking about the muse. So the muse is.

01:31.12
Lexy Davis
Didn't love it.

01:45.38
elenabox
Really something that I think every single one of us is born with is like that inner muse the inner genius um, a lot of the Jungian analysts call it like the inner daemon. But then sometimes people get that confused with like a demon which we're not like this is this is all a good thing. This is a good thing that each of us has um. And so you know the whole theme of this season is bringing on people who I you know I witness and want to celebrate in their real like expression of harnessing that inner genius and letting it flow out into the world. Um, so I just thought to ask you to to kick off our conversation like what comes to mind when you you know, think of that inner muse the inner genius like what what is sparked in your mind when you think of that for yourself.

02:29.86
Lexy Davis
I Mean it's so much I Just feel like nature is obviously a huge part of it like that really ignites this in me but my muse just comes to life through all my senses. Just simply put I find that the more I am in this present moment and I really switch on like my gratitude and it's just that simple like I can turn on that creativity flow like so quickly when I just but when I'm not which I also like to be in my head a lot and get in this anxious thoughts and. Disconnected I'm like oh Wow I'm so not that that part of me is gone right? It feels like it's gone. It's always there. But yeah so I find when I bring myself back into my body everything just flows and so much creativity pours through me and motivation and inspiration and. Traveling is a huge thing that ignites me um, there's so many things but I'd say honestly just being connected to my body I don't know what it is but right it's just like just comes out.

03:35.67
elenabox
Um, yeah, I'm definitely going to want to hear more and a little bit about your work of you know of bringing your work into the body because that's something that I find super fascinating and that's a big part of my work as Well. Um, but you mentioned travel and so for our dear listener who. Um, is just getting to know you just like me. We're getting to know each other Um, you know travel is such a big part of my life and I love to meet fellow travelers. Um, and I feel like for me travel is such a huge part of how I really feed my muse So I'd love to hear for you like. When did you first start traveling how does travel. Um, you know I guess like um advise or or yeah like how do you?? How do you feed your internal inspiration with travel and how does that get started for you. How did it get started and yeah, just tell me about how travel feeds your muse.

04:27.13
Lexy Davis
So I I mean it's like where do I start? There's sort of things like from when I was born. Um, so I was born on a farm in New York so we're connected you know, kind of in that way. But. Anyways, we moved to Washington when I was about 5 my dad still lives in the same house since I was five years old so we actually didn't move or travel that much my entire life and I was my grandpa paid for private school so I was like surrounded by a lot of wealthy people. But I was like the poor girl in private school. So I was like seeing all these people doing all these family trips and doing all this fun stuff and I was like and I grew up with just my dad single dad so like dad why don't we do anything and he's like oh like we will and I I basically didn't get to do it I feel like for most of my life. We went on one trip when I was younger to Antigua and I remember loving it. Was beautiful. But after that like I never even been to Disneyland you know, like all these iconic things that people like talk about and are just like I don't know and then I started to travel to Colorado to visit my grandpa and. Then it was college and I so wanted to go to school outside of Washington where I'm from and I got a scholarship to Arizona and we went and visited and I was like sunshine count me in I need I need a change and I went there and that was just like exhilarating for me and I saw.

05:50.94
Lexy Davis
Then I had this flashback like everyone was starting abroad I was like well where do I want to study abroad and I remember seeing this book on my grandma's friends table of New Zealand and I was like that place is extraordinary I don't everyone's going to Europe like let me go to New Zealand and so I did a study abroad in New Zealand Junior year

05:58.86
elenabox
On.

06:09.77
Lexy Davis
Going by myself and I was at the airport crying like I'm I'm out like I'm not going to do this like terrify like actually terrified god on the plane. As soon as I landed life was so good and that's what that was like my big first trip so junior year of college and. Everything changed after that like I just learned so much and it ignited like a whole new version of me and it really tapped me into my independence and just saw it honestly my whole life. We just flipped around I'm like whoa people think like this and you don't do things this way and everything that I thought I knew was but thrown out the window. So it's really just like a reality check I think when you see new countries and I just love I love learning from other cultures. So yeah, that's where it started and then from then I was I was addicted as soon as I finished college I knew I didn't want to go in the corporate world I didn't know what I wanted to do so I booked a 1 my ticket to Australia I lived there for 2 years and I spent. And then I knew I want to do a yoga training so I did my yoga training in Bali and then after 2 years in Australia my visa ended otherwise I would have stayed there forever because I loved it so much and I said it's the best the best I spend some time in Bali after that and then since then honestly I have not had roots really.

07:16.64
elenabox
It's the best.

07:25.95
Lexy Davis
I've just I lived in California for about a year and a half but while I was in California I did the month solo travel in India and like I'm just all over the place now because it brings my soul like so much joy and I learn way more through traveling than like sitting down and learning you know.

07:44.42
elenabox
Um, say yes I mean so much So it's like the more you travel the more you meet new people. It's like the more I travel and meet new people learn about new cultures.

07:44.58
Lexy Davis
Ah, like experiencing. Yeah.

07:56.50
elenabox
I Realize like the less I know I'm kind of like I know nothing I know nothing now but it's so good and it changes who you are and you become really like this beautiful tapestry of cultures and languages and music and textiles and flavors and.

07:56.70
Lexy Davis
Um, yeah, yes.

08:13.75
elenabox
Um, you really become like this walking Encyclopedia of of the world. Really, it's like yeah mmmm so I'm curious because I feel very much very similar in many ways. Um.

08:20.00
Lexy Davis
So magical.

08:31.80
elenabox
To you and and how you navigate this life is like taking up these different life experiences by way of travel. So I'm sort of curious like in your work specifically like do you feel that travel is is like an important part of your work like. Could you? yeah like tell me about that aspect of it like how does that actually feed your work itself.

08:54.81
Lexy Davis
Well travel feeds my soul so that feeds my work I find that when I I can make anywhere at this point I've realized I can make anywhere home as long as I find my community so I learned that but then I just love the the experiencing part right? And like you said the culture is the food that. Textures everything so but with my work something I mean my business is alive to enjoy and I like I know a part of my destiny is to like inspire people to follow their joy and a lot of people most people blame me want to travel. Do they know. And so I find that just by going out there and doing it showing people. What's possible I don't have a fuck ton of money yet and I am still able to do it and so it's just like just living how I want to live allows people to I also solo travels a woman and I like i. Briefly said I solo traveled in India for a month by myself. Even my friends in India were like what are you doing I was like I trust myself enough and that's another huge thing that I see every single one of my clients that I coach struggles with trusting themselves and traveling just teaches you so much. So I find that it really does. It supports me like filling up my cup which is really important but then it also supports other people and and then I got to start this year doing something I've always wanted to which was international retreats and this is like combines all my favorite things I'm helping people travel.

10:21.88
Lexy Davis
I'm supporting them through that I'm creating beautiful safe community spaces and I'm letting them experience new things like Firsthand and so the fact that I now get to incorporate that in my work. It just like I like where life is going I just say like it is good. Yes.

10:39.79
elenabox
I love it. It's like just I always talk about this as like just letting yourself float downstream and following I mean that's a big part of like this conversation around the muse and like what inspires us ah is really like. Following those impulses and following those places where you know you see that that spark of inspiration and that spark of like inner joy I mean this show is literally called the ode to joy podcast and you know and and following that and I think. Um, a big part of really this conversation too is acknowledging the aspect of fear. Ah you know and and it's a big one It's a huge one and I and I think it's really important in this conversation because so many people ah really hold themselves back because of fear I mean listen I've I've done it too. Of course like so many. Parts of our lives is is really coming face to face with those um parts that feel like oh my god like can I really do this like can I give myself permission to move through this fear and what's on the other side and um. You know you mentioned following following your joy and are you familiar with Joseph Campbell at all. Ah, he's love I mean he's passed now but he um, he talks about following your bliss following your joy. He's a big He's really big into. Um.

11:44.80
Lexy Davis
Sounds familiar but not no, not enough.

11:57.19
elenabox
Studying mythology across cultures and so he talks about following your joy and so I'm curious for you. Um, you know where have there been times in your life where you know you perhaps came up against that fear to follow your joy and how did you work through it.

12:13.70
Lexy Davis
I mean Yeah, yeah, yeah, no I mean and and that's something I Just want to mention like the fear it goes away but it shifts you're always going to have some fear in some way no matter what and I used to have so much fear around it and yeah.

12:15.70
elenabox
It's a big question I know.

12:29.13
Lexy Davis
I mean there's so many things but I mentioned one story so when I first moved to Australia this was like college was done I'm like okay wow moving across the country by myself I did have a guy friend come with me I didn't really know him that well and I told him like I want to live in separate places because I want to actually I don't want to just get too comfortable with you. So. We did that and within the first month of being there I get a call from my best friend and she was like my and I before I picked up the phone I just felt this like gut wrenching pain in my body like oh my god and I looked at the phone. She's like my brother just died and he was like a little brother to me and. She's one of my best friends and I was like fuck and here I am like not knowing I don't have community I don't know anyone and it's my first friend death like I had someone else die in a plane explosion which was also crazy but this is like a suicidal death and I'm 20 I don't know 22 or something I also don't have any emotional regulation but capacity at this point and I don't know about my motions yet I'm like disconnected so that hits and I was just so many thoughts went through my head I felt so alone I'm like do I go back now. I just got here. This fear of like and now I can't be there for my friend all I don't know I mean I know you know, but some people out there that haven't experienced death some of the first thoughts are like all the things you could have done and like just so much so much fear and so much so many emotions were running through me and.

14:00.92
Lexy Davis
I wasn't a pair at that moment and so like the family was like supporting me but it was still just like what do I do right now and it was really hard and I just had to cry a lot and slowly process and I found a yoga studio and that's really what helped change everything and the. What I've learned at this point is that I think of fears of like my friend now and I'm like okay when I see fear come instead of letting it just like bulldoze me and destroy me I'm like let me like. Grab you like my little buddy and bring you with me and let's like do this together and I'm like fear what's up. What do you need? What? what are you really bringing here. You know what are you communicating to me and having conversation with my fear and just like seeing it as an entity so that I'm not like so afraid of it and like overtaken by it. But it's like. Okay, you are a part of me, you're always gonna be a part of me because like fear will never completely go away. Obviously now I don't have any fear traveling but you get it. So I just learned how to like yeah befriend all these parts of me that was like really scared of a death like dealing with death on my own in this whole new country. You know. And so it just really made me since I was alone I wasn't able to distract via normal coping music mechanisms I I stopped drinking like a few months after that. But I still did have that. But basically I had to sit with my shit and so like that's what traveling does it makes you really.

15:28.25
Lexy Davis
Confront All the parts of yourself that you've probably been avoiding because a lot of us avoid a lot of shakes is easy to avoid So I just went on a tangjam. But.

15:35.51
elenabox
I Love it I Love it I Love it that is exactly it in so many ways. Yes, yes, yes, you get me, you get me. It's you are really forced to sit with it when you travel and that's why it is such a gift.

15:45.95
Lexy Davis
Um, yeah.

15:51.47
elenabox
Ah, to give yourself and I love that. That's the work you do is like also pushing people outside of their comfort zones and being like all right listen I've done this for myself So many times like let me lead the way let me I'm going to hold your hand I'm going to pull you through it and even so like they are going to have to come up against themselves a bit. But I think there is something so unique about traveling solo especially as a woman. Um because you're really forced to be in situations where all you have is yourself. So All you have is like that internal navigation and you have to learn really fast How to. Regulate your emotions regulate yourself like how to even protect yourself energetically because you need to have your street Smarts. You can't just be. You know we're we're both I mean I would say like we're both these goddess light beings right? But like you got to shut that s haty down like you can't be walking down the street like shouldn be in a flight everybody come talk.

16:43.77
Lexy Davis
Are.

16:45.00
elenabox
To me, you know, like in certain situations you got to lock that shit down and um, you know and and and even is also dealing with deep emotions which travel brings that up no matter what is like even if you aren't going through a huge loss. Um, you know. Things are gonna come up that are going to put you face to face with yourself and to be like okay here's a challenging situation. You don't speak the language. You've never been here before Maybe you don't have a lot of money like you've got to think fast and on your feet and and and figure out how to yeah, navigate these really really challenging. Moments. But. Think something you mentioned before is um, really like establishing this through line of trust and trust within yourself and that's a big part I think even within like this broader conversation around nourishing the inner Genius is like how can I trust myself so deeply. That I know that no matter what life throws at me in this situation which really like in travel anything can happen right.

17:46.23
Lexy Davis
Um, always everything happens.

17:49.74
elenabox
At eating that can go wrong. Will go wrong, but also anything that can go right? Will go right? like you will because you have that trust of being like okay how can I flow with this challenge. How can I find the solution. Um, yeah.

18:05.60
Lexy Davis
Um, it's a really important skill and I like to call my intuition. My love compass because it really is always guiding you to the most loving path and.

18:05.19
elenabox
He back.

18:15.83
Lexy Davis
The more you can build that self-trust and like listen to it the more your life gets easier and it doesn't prevent you from going through hard shit but it'll take you on a shorter path and rather than trekking through like the thickest mud and and when you're traveling like you said you have like. You do have other options but like really, you have no other option but to trust yourself and once you do It's like oh Wow I'm not scared anymore like that's the most common thing I get like aren't you scared or like what if they and I'm like actually I'm not I Totally trust myself and got it. Obviously you know I'm human and don't do it all the time. But. In general it is a superpower I'm like we all have this I'm not special like you have it too and so just reminding people of that gift because it is one of the most it's it blows my mind. What happens like I manifested some crazy Assh shit and things were going wrong and I was like it's okay, like don't let this take you off and like more. Beautiful things kept happening. So yeah, it's such.. It's so cool how it really it guides you in such a loving way. Um.

19:17.80
elenabox
Yes, it certainly does and I love ah that you put yourself in these situations to give yourself that opportunity because I always use this phrase of like a comfort zone as the rest as a place to rest not to stay and so I think as. You know as as humans on Earth here to experience all the things that life has to offer is like how can I put myself in how can I lean into that edge of discomfort so that I can grow and so that I can like really nourish and nurture like my inner spark because yeah. You know you can do it listen like you can do it if you're sitting alone meditating in a cave like for sure for sure you can do that. But if that's if that's your path but also like how can I just keep on feeding and feeding feeding like how can I keep on expanding and growing into this expression of who I came here to be.

19:54.84
Lexy Davis
Um.

20:09.28
elenabox
Which leads me to I really something that I've been so curious to talk to you about um which is like super edgy which is something that you've you've spoken a bit to I think and and and what you share is like um how Okay how do I Even say how do I say this. Um, what I see from what you share from your content is you are one of the most like embodied and I mean that's ah, it's amazing that that's like really part of your work and and how you talk about like your love embodiment coach and like ah like how can we get in our bodies. But what I. Take from you What I what I receive from you is like witnessing a woman who is so in her sexuality in her sensuality like showing showing your bad day in such a way. That's so like it's so I want to say like how do I say.

20:58.58
Lexy Davis
Um.

21:06.28
elenabox
Beautiful, obviously like gorgeous yes and also like for someone who also myself is like I'm leaning into like okay how can I how can I embody myself more I imagine at least for me sometimes like witnessing another woman in that full embodiment can be really triggering. You know and I'm curious because I feel like it's something that you've spoken to of like other people perhaps being triggered by you. You know, really leaning into that edge. Um, and it's just something that I'm really really fascinated with because but then of course people will come to me and be like Alena you're so embodied I'm like am I I'm still leaning up against that like. So I guess I'm curious for you. That was a lot because I'm also like fangirling and like oh how does she do it. But you know like for you how what has that journey been like and um I guess like what are. What are the ways in which like what are the obstacles that you push through and do you continue to push through it are you kind of just like I'm embodied like this is me all day every day. What's that journey like for you as a woman in 2023.

22:06.51
Lexy Davis
I okay love those question so good. It's like even hearing this and I've been being reflected this more often I'm like wait me it's me I'm the one now. It's so cool like that I've it's. And it's what's even funnier is people don't know who I was even just like four years ago like it I'm so yeah so change can happen quickly. I'll just say that um, but I grew up with a single dad so I was the most masculine woman like that I didn't have feminine. Ninity in me like at all really I bore the same jacket I remember to middle school every single day that my best friend's mom bought me a jacket because she's like are you okay I was like what I just like this is is like this is a great jacket and so I was completely disconnected from my body. My femininity i. Didn't really have breasts and then I got them and then it was like exciting but then it was like wait I can't wear this because my boobs are like too big. So like I'm not allowed to wear that shirt and I was like and then I was wearing these bras I'm like ah these are uncomfortable like I hate these, but it's like no, you have to wear them and I was like okay. And then it's just like all I just like felt something in and I was like this. Why am I like this this doesn't feel good and just started to like notice those thoughts but still way too scared to even like attempt to not wear a bra. Um, and then it was really just expanding my consciousness and starting to like.

23:30.98
Lexy Davis
See woman who were doing that and like starting to befriend them even though I was like kind of scared of them like you know and then yeah wait what's going on and through that and then like my remember like when I first like I feel like the big thing for you is no bra like that was like the first big thing.

23:38.65
elenabox
Um, yeah, um.

23:49.24
Lexy Davis
And I would do it and then I'd be like getting looks and getting star and I was like thought where's my bro need to back I Need to back, get me back and like so uncomfortable because it's you know people you are standing out and still in society I don't get why a woman's nipples are different from from a man's nipplesles and like what the motherfuck and um, swear but um.

24:04.30
elenabox
You can swear you it's okay, yeah.

24:08.23
Lexy Davis
And I was just so confused and like why are women's bodies so different than men's when they're not and so I just had these thoughts in my head but I still like no one was I just saw the social norms and I obeyed by them because that's what I knew was best and I didn't like the extra tension like. Attention to me wasn't a good thing as ah, when I was younger like I just I wasn't someone I was very shy and I didn't like eyes on me I'd turn bright red it was just not good anyways. Eventually it was just like I kept listening to woman even though I would like hear feedback from other woman being like that's inappropriate or like. Sure you want to do that and then from men being like you're you're asking for it like you know all these like statements that are just like constantly so circled around and like recycled and then I just kept consuming content and podcasts and information from women who were like doing it and I was like oh okay, like. This is actually so possible and this me being liberated in my body is not for men. It's for me and technically other woman to inspire them too a long ash journey though like it really was just like because you're I mean at the time I didn't really have many friends that were in that mindset. So I'm constantly being. Battled against not that and so it took time but I so I think as soon as I actually started to make those friends like and be in my circle rather than just on Instagram it really showed me like this is so possible but to this day like still at times like.

25:37.60
Lexy Davis
I'm faced with that because like I love my body and I love to show it off but then you know like sometimes you know men men are good with their words sometimes and they get me and I'm like oh Motherfucker. No, That's not like no, you're confusing me because I know that this isn't about you but they it. There's so much conditioning in our society that it it is hard to stay anchored in it but the more that I connect with my own body.. It's been transformational so something that another thing besides like not wearing a bra which I don't wear a bra and I have like quote unquote bigger breasts and now I'm just like I don't care like this is what I want to wear and this feels so much better than. Caging them up. Um, ah, but was dance in general like I remember I was like as a little girl like loved like step up and like those movies I'm like whoa those girls had dance and thinking like you know it was fun to do. But then when I'd go out to the club would give me negative attention and men would just like grab me and I was like. You like I don't want that you know and so you associate that with that and so you don't do it and then I started to realize like when men started to do that I remember once a guy literally just like grabbed my ass and like looked at me and I punched him straight in the stomach and I was like don't touch me and he was like whoa and I was like hey yeah, that felt good and start.

26:44.48
elenabox
Um, yeah.

26:49.91
Lexy Davis
Right? And so then it started to teach me about my voice and it's like oh I can actually set boundaries with these men 98% of the time they do respect you when you just like so like firmly step into your power and your voice as a woman. They'll respect you because most women just let them because they're like oh. I'm powerless now and like I was like that too. So It really taught me to use my voice and step into my power and then I learned to be connected to my body because I was like completely disconnected from my body from my yoni I Never like touched my body in any way and I started to with just with low shit I'm like let me just like. Moisturize my legs every night and like actually lovingly touch my legs and my body and start with that and then I started to do some mirror work and just like straight like eye gazing with myself and then I started to be naked in front of the mirror and I was just like you know, like all these disgusting thoughts like everything that could be like. I Wanted to be mean to myself about was there but I just held myself through it and then I started to do this like really juicy, yummy routine like every time I took a shower I would put my salt lamp on light some candles play some like sensual like feminine music. And I would have a dance party with myself naked in my bathroom and it wasn't even like a conscious routine of just like this feels so good and I just kept doing that every night and then I realized like Wow like it ignited this like true goddess energy in me and I was like damn it feels good to be in this body and um.

28:20.35
Lexy Davis
Yeah, so like that really helps and I was like oh wait this is kind of like a routine and oh wait I realized that most women people don't even do this so that really helped me and then I just was able to start expressing it so again and then I started to express it like at. Dancing like I went to like salsa dancing and um out at the clubs and I was like oh like and I could just see how like I was like why is it that when I like really embody my body which come sometimes looks sensual like everyone in the room is looking at me. And it's not like I'm asking for I'm do anything but it's like wow like the feminine power is strong as fuck. No wonder it's compressed. No wonder it's shame. No wonder it's like we're told not to do it. I'm not doing anything sexual and now I'm literally moving my hips I'm I'm in my heart like it's just so simple. And I just realized like damn this shit is powerful and I'd but like what same thing it's like you you find the edge. It's like roll. But then it's like wait all eyes are me now I feel like I'm performing because if I do something weird then I you know so it's it's a lot of um, just finding the edge and then.

29:16.53
elenabox
North.

29:32.38
Lexy Davis
Going there coming back building the capacity within your nervous system to hold that um but like to this day like still I sometimes have a hard time being witness like I can still by myself dance So sexy with my girlfriend but like to my boyfriend even sometimes I like get ah scared in front of another man and.

29:51.83
Lexy Davis
Anyways, it's a whole journey. But I think like the embodiment really comes down to like really connecting with your own body first for yourself building that strong loving relationship and starting to express your emotions through your body like music has been my anchor forever. And when I feel sad I put on a sad song and now I've learned that I can like move my body to the sadness and like curl up into a ball or when I'm angry like scream into a pillow and just start like physically expressing the emotions and that helps me be more authentic and and ah therefore embodied because I'm able to. Fully express all of me and so that also led to a journey of sitting and like really accepting all parts of myself like embodiment is such a huge thing but it really is being deeply connected with your body and your emotional state and trusting in that. And trusting in your authenticity and whatever is true for you.

30:49.13
elenabox
Wow! yes yes, yes wow so good so good so good thank you for putting all of that into her like didtto Dido Dido Dido Dido um

30:57.78
Lexy Davis
And.

31:05.65
elenabox
It's just and thank you for sharing by the way that practice of yours and how you developed that practice because I feel like when we begin this work as women. It's how do I say it. You know right? It's it's easy to look at the woman who seems so expressed and be like I want that you know and just be like okay but how do I get to that right? But it's a process right? and. We need to find what really works for us and to remember that It's not an overnight process and it's going to still take work and like you said things still come up where you know you come up against the edge of of like oh wait hold on this is this is. You know I'm I'm being looked at or you know my boyfriend's looking at me and how come dah da and so there's still a practice of yeah leaning into that like okay how can I How can I be fully embodied. How can I Also just be a channel for the feminine and that's something I Just love everything that you shared of like those practices because. Also I think for somebody who um, is beginning this journey for themselves is to um I see I feel like just how do I say like. Take the guesswork out of it and also just be like Okay, what really works for Me. How do I like you mentioned music or you know like how do I just begin to set the scene here and how can I sort of break it down in a way that feels natural and good.

32:24.40
elenabox
Um, and I love the practice that you mentioned of like just putting lotion on your body and and and just allowing it to build in a natural way and finding those tools that let you just really come back into yourself and love yourself and oh it's beautiful, beautiful and God it just oh.

32:38.20
Lexy Davis
Oh.

32:42.88
elenabox
But makes me happy to hear um because it's interesting I just wanted to like I don't know riff off of that A little bit is like um you know because as I've been doing those very similar practices. You know like dancing with myself naked doing my mirror work and like really loving up on myself is that even then sometimes like. I'll be with my partner and I'll like look down at my body and be like well that doesn't look good or you know some kind of thing where I have that like internal monologue of being like oh no, he's not going to like this and then I have to kind of bring it back into myself and be like away hang on sister like no, no, no, no, no. We're not playing that game like because I've done all of that other work where I have stood in front of the mirror naked with candlelight with all of that and loving and learning to love all of those places within myself like all of those spaces that perhaps like. And don't know society says like well we you know you can't look like that and you can't do-da-da-da but like loving that shadow aspect of myself so that then when I'm like up against those those parts where you know I'm.

33:40.78
Lexy Davis
Things.

33:48.62
elenabox
Thinking like well I'm being watched and I need to perform and I need to be sexy and I need to it then I bring it back and I'm just like oh wait. No no, we can be all of the things like you mentioned you know, channeling that like the fierce feminine that like the sad feminine that the the feral like I always talk about like the feral you know like. Fingers in the dirt blood dripping from our mouths like that Feminine. You know it's all part of it right.

34:12.66
Lexy Davis
So yes, yeah I just a few more things to add to that. It's yeah, it's so fascinating because first off our bodies have been taken from us really like in so many ways and so to build this relationship. You confront a lot of things and a lot comes up and it's It's a journey and I remember like even some first off, but 1 thing I wanted to mention was like I was so confused in self-develoment world because it wasn't actually practices. No one was telling me like yeah I want to get there but how do I get there and so my work is heavily evolved around like these are some things to try like you said find what works best for you. Um, and another great practice just to throw this in there is breast massage while you're in the shower or anything else like and I remember the first time I touched my breast I was like this is so uncomfortable man is supposed to do this I'm not supposed to touch my own breast. This is for him and then I was like wait what these things are so nice. So am I not touching them and anyways. And I feel like just moving through your own shame of like what happens when you touch your breasts and like you connect with those parts of yourself and I just think that's so powerful and then I just want to add 1 other thing was. Remember it being in Thailand with my boyfriend like a month ago and I was sitting there I've been eating whatever the fuck I want because you eating like a dollar meal right? I'm gonna eat 6 times a day and I was looking down but man I'm getting pudgy and I'll stay on the toilet and I was thinking shit and you're like sitting over there in the other room like oh he's not go like me like I'm not being girly right now I was like.

35:40.26
Lexy Davis
Fuck that if he cannot like me when I'm like this right now like then I don't want that kind of man I don't want a man that just likes me when I'm perfect and that made me once again, like it tapping into your body man your feminity steps you into your power. It's like wait like. I Get to be all of me right? And so anyways, it just yes I Love that like I had that realization just like you and it's like no no, no, no like I get to love these parts of me and so does he and then he loves it when I'm confident in it all of a sudden. He's turned not that he wasn't turned on before but like when I step in there. He's like Oo like I Love you. So.

36:09.89
elenabox
Boom.

36:12.38
Lexy Davis
But you badly and I'm like he.

36:16.27
elenabox
Yeah, it's so true though too because like right, it's that idea of like well he's only gonna love me when I'm quote unquote perfect but that that idea of perfect is like something we've put on ourselves but also yes, Society's also like.

36:17.33
Lexy Davis
Um.

36:32.58
elenabox
Girls You need to look like this and and da da so like we've had that conditioning for so long that it's so internalized that we think we're only lovable and acceptable when we are like when we look in the mirror and we're like girl like yes like everything is trick right? like hair 10 face 10 body 10 you know, like and. And it's so funny because the reality is like. That's what we think is like perfect da-da-da-da and so we're thinking well that we get I'm only lovable at this time but then when we learn to love Ourselves. In those moments we're like yeah we've been Enjoying. We've been enjoying life and we've been enjoying Food. We've been. You know, taking care of ourselves in different ways and and to allow our partners to see us in those moments too and then also to realize like yeah they love you too in that space. Ah.

37:25.20
Lexy Davis
Um, yes, and.

37:25.70
elenabox
And like what what you thought was like quote unquote perfect like they weren't even thinking they they're loving you no matter what right? but that's just what we thought of like well he's going to like me when I'm like this and it's like na as as much as you can like lean into that like oh yeah, I've been enjoying myself and.

37:34.26
Lexy Davis
Um.

37:43.64
elenabox
You know I've been eating well and then letting him love you in that too. It's like yes.

37:46.11
Lexy Davis
Life ginging truly like and it makes you realize too that it so a big like a realization for me was like oh it's sexy is an energy it. It is not a.

37:56.37
elenabox
Yes.

38:01.50
Lexy Davis
Poster like model. It's it's straight up and energy and so what I notice myself because I still get in those spirals where like whatever I'm not taking care of myself mentally and then my self-esteem drops and I start to get in those and I'm like what if I just like and another thing I still do to this day is when someone is like. I Don't know whatever her energy is big and it's like huge and I'm like whoa and I make myself I shrink myself around these kinds of women and instead in those moments when I notice out or even with my partner.

38:25.34
elenabox
Er.

38:32.10
Lexy Davis
Um, like remember it's an energy. It's an energy. It's an energy I just tell myself that I'm like what if you just were the hottest girl alive right now and you walked into this room even in your sweat and when I do that like it's actually crazy it shifts every time and yes, so even when I'm feeling Shitty you can just switch it.

38:46.49
elenabox
Just switch it. It's literally a mindset. It's crazy. It's crazy I Love that I love that you brought that up I Love it I Love it I Love it. Oh gosh we could talk. We could talk forever but in the interest of time we will wrap it up here and actually I would love.

38:49.87
Lexy Davis
Yes, yeah.

38:58.70
Lexy Davis
Is.

39:06.40
elenabox
Actually here so 2 questions before we finish. You know you mentioned being inspired by other women and I'm curious. Um, you know are there other women you could give a little shout out to that are maybe like in your top top list of like these ladies inspire me so much and if you could. Yeah, are there any people off the top of your mind you can share.

39:25.79
Lexy Davis
Yeah, someone that like first stepped me into this was Connie Chapman she is in Australia I don't really follow her as much anymore I follow her but I'm not um, religious about her work anymore. And but she helped me like land in my body and just see like a soft feminine I was like oh wow I get to be soft because it's so hard in my whole life and she was really inspiring currently who I'm like obsessed with is Victoria Washington and she's powerful as fuck like this woman is such a good channel. And the way she leads like she's in her master but also in her feminine is really really inspiring who else. Oh that's such a good question.

40:13.73
Lexy Davis
Ah I like don't know some of these Instagram people but I I just know that there's some woman on Instagram who like would dance like so weird and they're like underwear and they were like a little bit plus size and they were giving it all. They were even like farting in front of their partner's face and like. And they were beautiful and this one woman I can't remember her name. She's like a 2000000 followers and I was like whoa like wow like okay like we are all such in the matrix and so it's really like following people that are outside your comfort zone because I don't I mean I'm not.

40:36.36
elenabox
Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.

40:49.63
Lexy Davis
To that extreme yet or not not even extreme I'm just not I don't do all of that yet. But it's like it's so cool to just constantly be expanded in ways I'm going to have to send you a list. We can add it in the show notes of people. It's not going my mind. But yeah, it's like following those people that are like are are being ridiculous and then it's remembering that like everyone that you think. Like when you think of someone that's famous or well-known they are radically themselves they are trying to be like anybody else. They are so themselves and so that helps me that doesn't It's not really, um, referrring to the feminine that you asked me but it it has been through. Yeah.

41:23.46
elenabox
Um, it's hurtful I feel like the more triggered I am when I when I find someone on Instagram whatever like the more I have to pause and be like okay Lena what's coming up for you here and. Probably most likely. It's like they're literally being so authentically themselves and they really are allowing that genius to come through that I'm that it's just turning the mirror on me and being like Lena you have to keep letting your genius come through and it's yeah. I would just say like for anybody listening like challenge yourself the next time you find somebody's page and if it triggers the f out of you pause to be like oh okay, like there's something really here for me to learn most likely I would set.

42:05.51
Lexy Davis
I agree I agree.

42:09.66
elenabox
Ah, it's good stuff but yes send send anybody that comes to mind and we'll put it in the show notes take a look. Um, yeah, it's just such a pleasure I feel like there's so much more I want to talk to you about and ask you about but um for our listener. Um, let us know where can we find you number one. How can people work with you. And what are some fun things you have coming up that you'd like to share.

42:32.75
Lexy Davis
Amazing. It was so lovely chattting with you so we finally got to do this and you can find me at alive to enjoy T O not the number 2 but alive to enjoy on Instagram I'm there a lot I was up a website I have a podcast called heart snuggles. But you can also find me on to um, yeah, and then things coming up are my retreat in Bali December second through tenth and this is a retreat focused on joy and finding that in yourself again and really experiencing that. And the most beautiful paradise country ever. So we have that and then I have luscious love which is my mastermind for growthminded singles that are looking to find a really aligned partner and really find that romance for themselves. So of course we're gonna add some of that self loveve in there. And I also have an online course called embody the magic of you which is about embracing your authenticity and becoming magnetic to your desires by letting go of the people pleasing and moving outside your comfort zone building a relationship with your nervous system and that's all self pace. So that's a really fun program. And I also do 1 to one coaching if you're looking to get direct support with me. So I just love to support people in any way possible like and creating community spaces is so important to me. So yeah I love that I get to do this work. It's like so I'm so grateful.

44:03.83
elenabox
Um, you're living the dream honey. Yeah live in the dream literally I Love to just be like and where on Earth is she now it's like it's very very cool, Very very cool. So I'm excited um to continue to watch where you go next and for our listener. Um.

44:07.60
Lexy Davis
Has I.

44:19.19
elenabox
Everything that she mentioned is in the show notes so have a look and I highly recommend following her and gosh that bally retreat sounds phenomenal. So yes, yes, yes, so much good stuff you have to offer my friend. Thank you so much for coming. It's been a pleasure.

44:35.20
Lexy Davis
Thank you.

44:38.54
elenabox
Okay, my dear listener. Thank you so much for listening This has been another episode of the O to joy podcast.