Have you ever had a moment where clarity about your own identity hit you like a ton of bricks? That's what it felt like when Rocky Garza, a personal clarity guru, first addressed a room I was in, outshining A-listers with his profound insights on authenticity and self-discovery. In this episode, we journey with Rocky through the twists and turns of shedding societal masks and embracing our true selves. His compelling stories and the wisdom gained from a varied career, from youth camp director to mentor for high achievers, provide a roadmap for those seeking to live confidently and true to their core values.
This conversation goes beyond surface-level aspirations; it's a deep exploration of how we construct our success and the impact of our actions. Rocky and I dissect the challenges of staying true to oneself in the face of external pressures and expectations. We celebrate the courage it takes to pursue our dreams and the hard work behind turning those dreams into reality. This isn't just about finding your passion—it's about the relentless dedication to personal growth, the significance of crafting genuine connections, and the power of sharing stories that resonate with purpose rather than chasing fleeting social media metrics.
We wrap up with an empowering call to action, inviting you to step beyond your comfort zone and engage with life's challenges head-on. Reflecting on the measures of true success, we delve into how positive actions can profoundly influence not just our lives, but those of our community and beyond. Rocky's daily motivational texts and transformative speaking engagements are just a text away for those ready to make that leap. If today is the day you decide to take control of your narrative and start building the life you've envisioned, let this episode be the catalyst that sparks a change in your journey.
for a FREE five day workshop
https://rockygarza.com/get-what-you-want
starts February 19th
follow Rocky through the Insta @rockygarza
also website www.rockygarza.com
and free daily coaching
text my name Omar Medrano
at 469-649-8441
Join the What if it Did Work movement on Facebook
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www.omarmedrano.com
www.calendly.com/omarmedrano/15min
Have you ever had a moment where clarity about your own identity hit you like a ton of bricks? That's what it felt like when Rocky Garza, a personal clarity guru, first addressed a room I was in, outshining A-listers with his profound insights on authenticity and self-discovery. In this episode, we journey with Rocky through the twists and turns of shedding societal masks and embracing our true selves. His compelling stories and the wisdom gained from a varied career, from youth camp director to mentor for high achievers, provide a roadmap for those seeking to live confidently and true to their core values.
This conversation goes beyond surface-level aspirations; it's a deep exploration of how we construct our success and the impact of our actions. Rocky and I dissect the challenges of staying true to oneself in the face of external pressures and expectations. We celebrate the courage it takes to pursue our dreams and the hard work behind turning those dreams into reality. This isn't just about finding your passion—it's about the relentless dedication to personal growth, the significance of crafting genuine connections, and the power of sharing stories that resonate with purpose rather than chasing fleeting social media metrics.
We wrap up with an empowering call to action, inviting you to step beyond your comfort zone and engage with life's challenges head-on. Reflecting on the measures of true success, we delve into how positive actions can profoundly influence not just our lives, but those of our community and beyond. Rocky's daily motivational texts and transformative speaking engagements are just a text away for those ready to make that leap. If today is the day you decide to take control of your narrative and start building the life you've envisioned, let this episode be the catalyst that sparks a change in your journey.
for a FREE five day workshop
https://rockygarza.com/get-what-you-want
starts February 19th
follow Rocky through the Insta @rockygarza
also website www.rockygarza.com
and free daily coaching
text my name Omar Medrano
at 469-649-8441
Join the What if it Did Work movement on Facebook
Get the Book!
www.omarmedrano.com
www.calendly.com/omarmedrano/15min
I never told no one that my whole life I've been holding back. Every time I load my gun up so I can shoot for the star, I hear a voice like who do you think?
Speaker 2:you are Alright, everybody. Another day, another dollar. Another one of my favorite episodes. What if it did work? Yeah, I'm being biased because it's my own podcast. I've got with me. I love this guy because I am biased, because I'm racially biased. He looks a little like me. People would say we're identical except he has no hair.
Speaker 2:Rocky Garza he's extremely good at one thing helping individuals see the clearest picture of themselves that they've ever seen. Clarity about who you are, what you do and why you do. It makes you a better employee, friend, parent and spouse. How much more focused would you be at your job if you were acutely aware of what your strengths are and how do you Lies them best? How much more sure would you feel about making big life decisions, knowing that your core values aligned with your choice? Answers to questions like these or what you find working with Rocky after graduating. Dude, we both have communication communication degrees.
Speaker 2:Unfortunately, he didn't go to LSU. He went to Texas A&M University, gig them. Rocky has helped thousands of individuals find their clarity while serving as the director of a youth camp on the pastoral staff at church, owning and operating multiple creative businesses and and even most recently, is a coach to high achievers and acclaimed keynote speaker. In all his roles, rocky has had one goal to challenge the stories we let ourselves so that we can experience the freedom and confidence of living vulnerably. Clarity, transformation, freedom. That's why Rocky does what he does. That's why every one of his coaching sessions, workshops and keynotes can be boiled down to one simple truth that who you are is good hey welcome to the show brother.
Speaker 3:Thank you, sir. I appreciate you. Thank you for having me. It's been a long time coming, most of that on my end, but I appreciate being here dude, everything happens for a reason.
Speaker 2:So I gotta tell, and I'm gonna Start off with this. I went to a seminar in in Dallas, texas. Just coincidentally, it was like the day that my book was launched my first book and I went with the hopes maybe one day I Can be on stage at this conference. Conference, dude, you were one of the first, but you should have been the last. You were the most impactful speaker and we had an A-lister Tim story, but you blew it out of the water, dude. Thank you, sir. And that room. If they knew the power that you could hold an audience and create massive change, that shit would have been in a much bigger auditorium.
Speaker 3:Well, brother, I'm gonna start by saying thank you. That is, I agree. Everything happens for a reason, and I think back to when we first met. I want to say that was summer of 2021, I think is when it was, or somewhere in that time frame, and I think is it. We had been far enough. We had been far enough in the pandemic that it was like you know, people were still a little leery of being together.
Speaker 3:But I'll tell you this if you and I had had then got done a podcast episode two years ago, what we would have talked about and what I would have said would have been so dramatically different than where I'm sitting today. And I think what I, what I is to have to communicate now. And so one Literally today, on this like literal day, I cannot tell you how much impact your words have From one man to another man in where I am sitting currently and what has unfolded in my life in the last few months. So one thank you for that. Two Thank you for being gracious and having me on your show. And three, man, if, if what you spoke can continue to come through to fruition and I have the opportunity to be on stage with people, to have a chance to help them see who they are clearly, to feel confidence and who they are in live a life that they actually want to live. I hope I get to do that for the rest of my life.
Speaker 2:Dude, we, everybody, has the power, but yet we have the limiting beliefs. We have our story, his story or her story bringing us down. And you know, you can go walk on fire, you can board break, you can do whatever, but until you actually, deep down in your soul, know, whatever it was, your mom, your parents, they did the best they could Let that shit go. All we have is today, all we have, you and I. Yes, we were built On the good, the bad, the ugly, the inconsequential. But hey, you know what? Let's just focus on the present.
Speaker 2:But a lot of people don't. The first thing that they they they point to Is their trauma. Oh, their childhood, dude, I'm, I just turned 50. At what point? Yes, single parent. My mom, she did the best she could. Am I going to bring my, my dad not being there? I can hold, I have to hold myself accountable. It's been 32 years that I've been an adult man. But it's so much easier, especially these days. You know, we can all point. We can point to the white man, we can point to the, the left, the right, everybody wants to point to someone because, being your true, authentic self and and what you say vulnerable, you know how hard it is to just accept and go. Everything that's ever happened, more than lifefully, is because of my own or decisions 100%.
Speaker 3:I find, over and over and over, with every person I've ever worked with or spoken to, I think there's two narratives, or two storylines, if you will, that are at play in everybody's life all the time. Now, I think, the way that you described it, you have chosen. What I would say is you've chosen to be personally responsible for your story and not let the story somebody else said to you about you take effect or a route and it calls you to make different decisions. I think what you and I experience often, though with most people, is that we allow the story that was told to us about us, whether through words or through actions. We allow that to be, then, the main, through line or the main narrative of how we choose to make decisions. And so where we have a story that was told to me about me my whole life, I've been told Rocky, you're too intense. Rocky, calm down, rocky, why are you yelling? Hey, take it easy. Hey, look at their faces. Hey, this is a business conference. My boy, why don't you have a sport code on? You're wearing Jordans. This is crazy. I've been told my whole life that you're this, this, this right.
Speaker 3:So at some point, the stories told to us about us are going to take an effect, they're going to take root if we're unwilling to go back to the place, to where we see the story came from and then it go. Wait a second. First of all, I can't even control the story that was told to me about me, and 99% of the time in my experience, stories told to us about us are a greater representation of the storyteller than they are the main character of the story. But we get those confused and we allow the story told to us about us to be the main narrative that drives our decisions and most of us go well, you know what I'm to this. I'm so this, I'm always this and I'm never this, and because of that, I guess I'm just not going to ever be successful.
Speaker 3:When the reality is, we have the ability to maintain the narrative that we tell ourselves about ourselves. And, to your point, if we're willing to get present, we're willing to take responsibility for who we are, we're going to stop pointing fingers at every other person in the world who says that it's their fault that I am how I am with. Maybe maybe it's true. Maybe maybe it is everybody else's fault that I am how I am, but it is only my fault what I choose to do with that every single day. And that personal responsibility, I think, is where most of us get stuck, because we have somebody else's story in our head and we're unwilling to do the work to break it down, to actually figure out who we really are.
Speaker 2:But, rocky, isn't it crazy that people want you inside a box? You have to show up a certain way, you have to speak at a certain decibel. You have to do this, then why the hell am I going to hire you? You know life is right, it is crazy, it is crazy.
Speaker 1:Well, and here's the deal.
Speaker 3:That's why it is expected and people can make more sense of it if they say, well, you get inside this box, because if they can put me inside of the box, then they can maintain some level of control, which means they can feel like they're in control of what the outcome is going to be. But when I come in the room and go hey, listen, your boy is wearing this is called my sport coat that I have on. It's called a BLTY long shirt, because that's what I like. I have on the same pant, the same shirt, the same pants. I own five colors of pants and eight colors of shirts. They're all from the same company, because I like it. And I got a pair of tennis shoes. That's how you're going to get me Take it or leave it.
Speaker 3:Wait a second, you can't do that. I'm going to have a conference, for this is a high end business conference, correct? We're doing business and I'm talking to people, about people, and if you can't trust what I'm saying because I have a sport coat on, I would consider who it is that you're trusting. Or vice versa, If you make a decision to go, I can't trust you because you have a sport coat on, I would consider what, what, what's going on, but everybody has this idea to go hey, if you don't look like, sound like, smell like, taste like, act like, respond like, do like, sell like, hey, I don't know that I can trust you, because we are all looking for somebody else to be in control of the thing that we're unwilling to finally take responsibility for.
Speaker 2:But that that, that narrative also. It also, while, Rocky, you'd be so much more successful, you'd be in bigger rooms If you wore what we want you to wear says who man says, says who there's already. And somebody told me this, which I had to snicker Like you know what, omar? You're, you're Hispanic, american. You're never going to make it. Have you ever looked at the audience? And I chuckled, I laughed, because deep down inside, yes, I see the point, I know the point, I know it's harder.
Speaker 2:That's why I say life isn't fair Life will always be harder for you and I to be taken seriously. You and I could have PhDs from a non-SCC school, but they would. People would still, because if you were white they wouldn't be like hey, rocky, wear something else. But it's always. Well, maybe this, maybe that, maybe, if you enunciate the words different, no man, yep, the life isn't fair. But as long as we know that, as long as we're stubborn, as long as we know hey, it's just going to take longer, it's just going to take more effort, it's going to take more work than so, be it.
Speaker 2:Dude, two years ago that episode would have sucked. You know why. And and and all that and all that and all I use filler. A lot of filler Friends that would watch would be like oh, we started a drinking game. Whenever you say, in all that, we take a shot. Good thing. Those were like my fraternity brothers and people from Louisiana that can drink up a storm, because you know if it's LDS Mormons or anybody like drinkers, they're done in alcohol or coma or dead.
Speaker 3:Yep, yep. But I think that just goes to show that it was, and let's use that timeframe and that two year time, that 24 month timeframe. Like you, took responsibility for who you were, you took responsibility for what you wanted to do. You took constructive feedback and said I get it, I hear you, how do we improve? And then you said and I still have a personal mission of what I want to do and impacted, and maybe I don't fit the bill, maybe I don't look how you want me to look, maybe I don't say the words Right, maybe I have a different cultural context, Maybe maybe somebody didn't set me up with all the equipment the podcast in their dad's studio that they already had pre-bought, that they didn't use it I got to have, so I had best quality and I had to be content when I did that I had a plan to change.
Speaker 3:Change, no right. So I basically have, over the next four or six months it's going with white charcters they're not like the parents who are on the same car. What were youусовy? Just nothing. I cold yr'd see what they could say and so I wanted to expel, I wanted to change. They sort of shut down my plan for the 13th, 14th of January.
Speaker 3:I have a solid decade, two decades, in front of me to do good, great, solid work, like what if it did work? What if I actually owned who I was? What if I actually, like, I'm already out of know? What if I just started asking? What if I just started putting myself in the position to go, hey, take it or leave it, I'm already out of know? I might as well see what happens.
Speaker 3:Because I agree with you, I've been on the stage with Tim Story, five, six, seven, eight times, right. I've been on the stage with Jesse Itzler. I've been on the stage like name the back, I've been there and you know what? It hasn't been Rocky's turn yet, and that's okay, I'm okay with that. But it's going to be my turn.
Speaker 3:Because what if it did work? And what if what happened is, instead of. There's a day that, instead of saying I'm throwing this out there, I've never said this out loud, omar, so you're getting. You're getting me going here today. What if? What if in five to seven years from now? What if they said, hey, have you heard of? Instead of saying, hey, have you been to that newest Tony Robbins event? What if they said, have you been to the newest Garza event? And can you imagine the radical shift that would happen in our world If people who look like us, sound like us, act like us, dress like us, have a name like us got to go to an event because God's style was going to be there? And I love Tony Robbins. I think he's a great dude.
Speaker 2:I think he's I mean, he's a front four runner in anything I'd ever want to do Dude, I love him to death, so you're never going to hear me say anything negative.
Speaker 3:I think it's so good, but I but but what if it did work? What if there was a stage full of Latinos and there was 5,000 Latinos in the room and that we were? We were having a dialogue about the reality of what life and what it was, and experience, and we were willing to take full responsibility for who we were and what we wanted to accomplish in life. Like I can see it, I can see, I can see the phases and like and it can't. What if it did work? But I can tell you what it won't work if I keep pretending like it's not possible. And it won't work if I don't show up tomorrow. And it won't work if I don't take responsibility for who I am.
Speaker 2:It works for those that believe in their dreams and that have confidence. And you and I, we're stubborn MFers, cause you have to be stubborn and you have to. You have to be like like that 10 second Tom and 50 second dates and go and just forget and just forget and there's going to be disappointment. And yeah, you know what? Because I know there's going to be a date that people will want to see us and you know what they're going to say. They're going to say we're the innovators and we're going to make it way easier for that kid that's 20. That's right. That wants to write books, that wants to be on stage Cause you know, we didn't, we didn't have, there's still not really anybody out there that looks like us. So to me, we're the innovators, we believe in our dreams.
Speaker 2:The problem with people that are dreamers and that go for it A lot of times they hit that pot hole because they listened to someone that never had a dream, that never believed dreams were possible, that said, hey, you're not, you know, rocky, you're brown, you're Latino, you don't. You don't, you don't dress the corporate way, you know, because that that's their out really, and these usually are people that love us and care about us. It's they feel like they're protecting us. That's they're justifying it, but deep down inside they don't want to see success because, man, it frigging hurts. Regret hurts. But seeing people that you grew up with outgrow you and become successful and living their dream, that that is the ultimate, like punch in the face.
Speaker 3:Yep, yep, 100%. And I think there's a part of that for us that we all want to see happen where I take the what I'm going to refer to this as like the default story that I think is being said about me, and then I hold that up as a framework against what I actually want and want to pursue. They never match, but I think for a lot of us they don't match and we interpret that as that must mean I'm incorrect, when reality is they're not matching because we've been giving something to see and to do that the people around us don't have the capacity to know and understand, and that's not because they're ignorant, that's not because they are less than it's because they haven't allowed themselves to go to a place to say what is actually possible. And I think that's one thing that I feel like we have the opportunity to be able to do, obviously in our work, but even here today on the podcast, is to have, like, if you're listening, my question to you, whether you're white or you're brown or you're black, my question to you is what do you want to do? What do you actually want? Like, what do you actually want? Don't give me some bullshit. This is what I'm supposed to want because I saw it on Instagram. Like I'm saying because this is something for me that I've like in the last week or so. Even I feel like it has fired me up. Listen, if you want a Ferrari, my boy, you better be ready to put in the fucking work and you better do what's required if that's what you want, because you ain't going to get a car that costs more than the house by saying I'm going to be a drop shipper on Amazon. No, you're not my guy. That's not going to work for you. One in a million, and that's what most of the million are going so like. If that's what? If that's the life you actually want, like you're, you want to build the kind of life that yields results, like Ferraris, then that's great. Let's go like, I will help you get there. But if that's not actually what you want, you got to be willing to own and admit what you actually want so that people can actually help get you there.
Speaker 3:I have a friend of mine right now Love the dude, great dude, great husband, great father and I mean this series of people are your beauty. You're going to be listening right now and you're thinking I'm full of shit. But I'm not telling you, I mean serious. My guy wants a great job, making 150, 200 K a year. He wants a direct deposit every two weeks with great benefits, good paternity leave to spend time with his wife when they have their next kid. He wants good insurance. He wants to know that he can go out and get a brand new legacy edition Hyundai Sonata all black, all the bells and whistles 51,000. My guy's ready to get the Sonata for his family. He wants to have a car for his mom because she got laid off, like that's what he actually wants.
Speaker 3:And I want to be very clear, if you're listening, I think that is as noble. I think that is as possible as the drop shipper who wants a Ferrari. If that's what you really want, you better be unapologetic and be willing to own it and admit it and go for it. And I'm telling you the amount of people who are willing to support you. Get to where you want to go If you're willing to actually admit what you want.
Speaker 3:But most people are watching tiktok and you're watching Instagram and you think that if you can find the right niche and be the right person to be the right kind of humor, you too can have 9 million subscribers and get paid $70,000 a day and next thing you know you're the next Mr Beast and the reality is, and I hate to break it to you. I'm not trying to crush your dreams, but I don't think that's actually what you want, because you haven't started a YouTube channel yet. So I think you're full of shit. I think you want to wait and get rich quick without doing the work. Why don't you decide what you actually want, that you're actually willing to work towards? Then maybe somebody can come along and help you.
Speaker 2:Nobody wants to work, though. Man In general, think about it. Yeah, we're 10 years older than you, I'm 10 years older than you, but growing up, there's nobody that said I want to be an influencer what? What? Even if there were, we came from a time that if you want it, you better work your ass off to get it. Life ain't fair. Suck it up, fuck and go out and get it and then go. If you want to be a big baller and show everybody, show it. Now. Everybody's like even little kids. I want to be an influencer. It's like what the hell does that mean, man? You can't even influence yourself, you can't even influence your family, but yet you're going to do a video on TikTok of you dancing and shaking your ass off and you're going to be an influencer and you're going to have, like the second following of Jesus Christ or Moses, I mean.
Speaker 3:I'm with. I listen, listen, I'm 40. I've been in this game. I've been speaking coaching for 10 year plus years now. I was literally on this. I'm so glad you said this.
Speaker 3:I was on a call three days ago with blue cross, blue shield, so they have a headquarters here in Texas and so I've done some work with them out of Dallas. And so I'm talking to this guy. He's like hey, we have these quarterly events and we want you to come to the one in the first quarter. We do might do some other ones. And then he said this not me, I mean, I didn't even know what to do. I kind of just like smirked and just waited to hear what he was going to say. He said, yeah, for for this one, you're the first influencer we've reached out to about coming and speaking at our event. And so I kind of I like, I like tried not to smile too hard because I was like I don't even know what he's. You're 39. You work in HR department for blue cross, blue shield. Like there's nothing wrong with HR, I'll be very clear. But like, what do you mean? I'm the first influencer you've talked about, so I let him talk.
Speaker 3:Okay, I said, if you don't mind me asking, I'm just really curious. You use the word influencer, you didn't use the word speaker. Is there a reason that you chose to use that word? And he said this to me and I think I'm going to try to. I want you and me to own this, okay, cause this is just taking everything everybody else thinks and flipping it on its head. He said we've started to use the word influencer when we're doing our corporate events, as opposed to speaker, because when we've hired speakers in the past, they only show up and tell us about themselves. But we have found, when we use the word influencer internally for us, we find people who actually have something that they want to say that's going to impact our life, and those are the people that we're looking for. I mean he couldn't have said it better, my, I mean he couldn't have laid up a better softball for me.
Speaker 3:But I thought, wait, whoa, whoa, whoa. This is like. This is like millennial going. Hey, I'm tired of hearing people get up and talk about themselves. I want to know who's going to actually help see me and who's going to help me get to the place I want to be, and I think there's such a huge opportunity for you and I to go, okay, hold on.
Speaker 3:Like, if we leave an event and you know more about me than you know about you, I failed you because I'm going to go back to my family and I may never see you again. What's the purpose of me letting you know everything about me? That doesn't serve you at all. I can use my life as for some stories and for some examples, but if you don't leave knowing more about you than you know about me, did I actually do my job? Like? That's a question I'm asking myself recently and I think, especially those of us that are in the space, especially if we're in the space in a minority space and we want to really get our people together going, we better have them leaving knowing more about themselves than they knew about us.
Speaker 2:Oh, when it comes to you, I would always in service. That that's how I would describe you. Yes, speaker, but you know what a speaker is not a bad thing, I agree. I agree, Influencer is the same thing. Are you influencing me to live a better life Because we weren't influenced? That's what it means, but usually it means oh wow, I'm going to follow this person. She's hot and she dances so cute and I can't wait till I watch her do another dance video. Unfortunately, that's what most people think being an influencer is.
Speaker 3:They think. They think they think bodies, babies and baby pets.
Speaker 2:Yeah, and it's funny because there's people oh, why isn't your content as followed as? And they would pick, like you know, some random chick or a dude that gets in the balls and I'm like I think you're answering your own question into my life, isn't like Rocky, I'm not sitting there going. Hey, you know what? This post had more interaction the last week because if that's how anybody lives their life, talk about shallow man, that that is what. When it's all said and done, when you're visiting St Peter and when you're visiting Jesus and when you're visiting God, there's no, nobody's going to ask well, how many followers did you have, how many likes and how many great comments, but that's what people and you're going to laugh.
Speaker 2:I had a similar. But this was a girl at my gym and she's just like oh, I haven't seen you in a while. You know what? It finally dawned on me. I'm like dawned on you on what? And she's like you're one of those YouTube guys and I felt like you know, if we weren't doing CrossFit and everything's on the clock, I would have been like what the fuck did you just say no, I'm not a YouTube influencer.
Speaker 2:I'm not trying to show you what toy to buy. I'm not trying to show you where to go on vacation. You know I'm not that type of influencer. But you know, maybe she meant the same thing that you meant, because I was going to say my YouTube channel is lacking because it's only my old ass self interviewing guys like you and pretty much that's it. Or if you want to watch my five takes on frigging my TEDx, because they had to have everyone on YouTube for some odd reason and I'm too lazy to bring it down. But yeah, for all intense purposes, I love Rocky, he's not that type of influencer and everybody knows I'm not a YouTube influencer.
Speaker 3:I mean, I'm with you and I think you know that's something I had to be honest with you, I think, and especially folks out there who are, who are listening and you're there also, like us, they're in the space of going hey, I have a message and I want to work on that message and I want to. I have a message I want to share with people like I just want to encourage you. I had a mentor of mine, an older gentleman, and he gave me such such the fact that he even used Instagram as an example just blew my mind. But he gave me such great advice one time and he said Rocky, I want to ask you something. And I said he talks real slow, he's real country. And he said Rocky, can I ask you something, rocky? I said go ahead. Yes, of course. Yes, sir, you can. He said um, I noticed the last couple of times we talked, you told me that your follow is not really growing. Is that true, rocky? I said yes, sir, that is true.
Speaker 3:I've been had the same amount of followers for four years and I've been put. I've done everything they told me to do. I post it every day. I'm post consistently, have videos, I have photos, I have carousels. I did everything they said and it's a. You're right, yes, mark, nothing has really changed.
Speaker 3:And he said how many people look at your Instagrams, rocky? He calls me and everything's in Instagrams, by the way, it's plural. The reals, the stories, they're all just Instagrams. How many people look at your Instagrams, rocky? I said, well, welcome back on my stories. Or he said, yeah, just on the Instagrams, that's okay. I said I don't know, mark, like maybe maybe 150 people a day see my stories.
Speaker 3:And we're at a local coffee shop. He said okay. He said, rocky, if every day you came here to this good coffee shop and every time you sat down with your coffee by yourself, 150 people showed up to hear exactly what you had to say, would you be happy about that, rocky? And I kind of thought about it. I said I mean, yes, sir, if everywhere I went and sat down, 150 people showed up out of their cars to come into where I was to listen to what I would say, I would be pretty happy about that, I think. And he said it sounds to me like that's already happened in Rocky. Why don't you just keep saying what you're supposed to be saying? And then he kind of just looked at me.
Speaker 2:Absolutely dude. That's right, because you know what I've meant. Like that here. I'll tell you I'm like my God man, I'm not going to write another book, because what's the point If I write another book? It's like creating the best VHS. I don't want to be self-published. Screw that Nobody's watching me, nobody's doing this, it's not moving the needle. And a person said you know, you say in your book and you tell people that your mission and your goal in life is to change one person's life and to create a movement. Two people, three people, and they're like do you think at the bare minimum, you've changed and you've moved five people to live a better life? And I'm like, yeah, shut up, because you're doing what you said you wanted to be doing and you're doing it Because, believe it or not, it's our ego that says because I love your content, we have great content, but there's shit out there that you know.
Speaker 2:There's people out there that are the quote unquote speakers that go on stage. There are people out there chasing money, snake oil salesmen, people that pay me it's a win-lose. Well, maybe you might break even, but I can sleep at night. Those type of people. We're not that and we see them excelling, we see them exceeding and that's when our ego we feel crushed because it's not happening fast enough, it's not going in the time that we want, even though God, the universe, says, hey, I'm going to. I hope you guys have a lot of patience, you're going to get there. But it requires patience, determination, and you guys keep on being stubborn and that's what we're doing. But yeah, we're only human. That's why the last shot, that's why yeah.
Speaker 2:And then, after they said that if I do have a third or fourth book in me and I only sell a thousand copies or 2,000 copies or whatnot, what am I? I spoiled Brad, because it's not. I'm not on Oprah's book of the month club, or I'm not doing a book signing somewhere, or I'm not in Barnes and Noble. That's never my mission. My mission two things. My mission is to help out people, to have them live a positive lifestyle, live the life on their terms, with zero regret. And two, yes, personal development, business development. Have more Hispanics, more Latinos on stage. You know, I'm tired of just seeing us taking the tickets, I'm tired of seeing us just cleaning and being the ushers. I want to see them on stage and I want to see them in the audience. That's my mission, that's right.
Speaker 3:That's right. Listen, man, I'm 100% with you, and I think there is such power when we see people that look like us. There's such power when we see people that sound like us. Tell them that. I think there's a part, a great reminder for all of us, whether you're brown or not. I think there's a great reminder for all of us, and that's when we have the ability and we are willing to do the work to stay in the deep end.
Speaker 3:Man, I'm telling you you are going to fucking learn how to swim. But there's a lot of you listening and I'm just going to get under your skin a little bit and it's okay. You can follow me or unfollow me, whichever one makes you happy. But a lot of you are standing in the three feet of water in the swimming pool and every day you're trying to get online to tell me that you're swimming. And you're not swimming. You're standing in water, and those are two very different things.
Speaker 3:And if you want to build a life that you really want, you want to really build a life you actually believe in, without sacrificing who you are to try to make everybody else happy, then you need to jump off the side of the pool, you need to get into the deep end and you need to learn how to swim. And if you'll stay in the deep end, it will be amazed by the amount of people that you will find there who want to help you, who want to serve you, who care about you, who want to also teach you how to swim. But you're not going to learn how to swim in the three feet of water. So you got to get to the deep end.
Speaker 2:But that requires work, rocky, that requires vulnerability, that requires taking off the mask that one's been wearing for most of their life and being their true self. We're so addicted to staging our life like we're the realtors of social media. Everybody wants this picture perfect life. Oh my gosh, I'm at Ruth, chris, I'm at Smith and Walensky. Well, congratulations, you have a credit card, but it's so hard to put yourself out there. People just want life to be given to them and, yeah, that'd be amazing, man, dude, rocky. That's the reason why, when the secret, the book, the film, everything, manifestation, when it came out, it blew up, because people thought manifestation meant let's go to Walgreens, let's go CBS, buy a poster board, get some magazines and throw the dream life. Be nice, be a great guy, and it will all come, because you know what you want.
Speaker 3:Yep and listen, and the difference between people that do and people that don't are people that do, and it's root cause. Listen, I know life.
Speaker 3:Listen, life is fucking hard and shit doesn't go the way you want and there's days that life is amazing and beautiful and you experience the joy and you look around and you go, wow, how did I get? I have a loving wife, I love my kids, my, my eight year old son like still wants to hold my hand because he still thinks it's cool enough and I know it's going to end and I'm trying to let him do it as long as he wants because I don't know, I don't want it to end and we go. My grandparents are still alive and I get to see them and hang out with them and spend time. Like so many incredible things about life. And A and D. Get the word butt out of your, get it out of your brain, stop saying it, get rid of it and start using the word and and life is really hard and people are going to fuck you and shit's not going to go your way and you're going to be a very trustworthy person and people are going to take advantage of you and some someone's going to die that you love and your marriage is going to be hard if you don't want to work on it.
Speaker 3:And life is beautiful and wonderful and incredible and very hard all at the same time. But the tension. The realist not the optimist that goes everything is peachy and rainbows, and not the pessimist that says woe is me and I'm a victim of everything. The realist who goes all of that is true simultaneously. And if we can allow ourselves to allow all of it to be true, to be a realist and to be present, then I have a question for you what are you going to do today that's going to create the kind of life you actually want tomorrow?
Speaker 3:And if your answer is a nothing, stop bitching. And if your answer is I don't know. That's the most beautiful answer you can give. If you're really being honest and go find somebody, because there is somebody, don't tell me there's not. You're listening to two people now that I guarantee you, if you do enough work to figure out how to get ahold of us you just a DM, call us, email us, text us, dense, instagram us, facebook us, tik Tok us, youtube us you fucking find a way to get ahold of us. If you really know what you wanted, you don't know how to get there. There are two people who are willing to help you get there. But if you keep telling me that you just can't because you're unwilling to hold the tension and the reality of the world, because, woe is you you're never going to build a life you actually want.
Speaker 2:What people also don't realize, rocky, is you enjoy life. You enjoy success more. It's all about the process, it's all about the journey. If someone gave this person the Lambo or the Ferrari, their dream car, it'd just be a fucking car after a week, two weeks, who cares? But if they hustled, if they grinded, if they put their soul into it and they did everything in anything until they finally got that car, they would appreciate that car so much. That's what the journey, that's what life is about, because it is hard. But once you climb that, that mountain, that obstacle, you're like man. It's so beautiful, it's so amazing.
Speaker 3:This dream, this goal of mine, that's why there's so many memes on Instagram. I'm going to use that as an example so many of us resonate with, but we don't know what to do with. That's why memes work. That's why motivational quotes make us feel good and they get shared 9,000 times because they are true. But they're only true to the extent by which you're actually willing to live it out.
Speaker 3:There's one I see all the time Be send this to somebody and remind them that today, that they've made it because you have survived all of your darkest days so far, and I'm like, okay, hold on. If I just really let myself for a second, I'm like that's not, that's, that's good perspective, right, like you're right, I have made it. It's true, it's true, and it can either be true and you can go I'm about to get to work, my guy, I survived the darkest days. Watch out, here I come or you go. You're right, I guess I did survive the darkest days, but they'll probably be more. So what's the point? I'm telling you? It's the same quote. I didn't change the verbiage. It's up to you to decide what you want to do with it, and I think all of us, regardless of our circumstance, are are in a pivotal moment like that. We're faced with those kinds of decisions every day, where we have an opportunity to choose oh I have faced my darkest days, let's go, or I face my darkest days and woe is me.
Speaker 2:You know what happens, though People don't let it resonate because they want that quick dopamine, that quick pick talk fixed. They're like, okay, like where's my next meme, where's my next video? Because, yeah, we can all, we all know. There's the exigler quotes, we all know if you want to find success, help others find success. Everybody knows that. What less than 1% live it? In fact, everybody else is. What's in it for me? I'm not going to help anybody. Nobody's helped me out.
Speaker 3:Yep, and I think there's a huge part of it that's that that, uh, other than, the reason you don't get what you want is because you're not willing to admit what you want. You're not getting what you want because you're not helping anybody else get what they want, and I was. I don't even know where I was. This was a couple of weeks ago. I heard somebody tell me that, where you are and how you get to where you want to be. They used the example of fishing and they told me that were six stages of fishing. You may have heard this before, but I'd never heard it until a couple of weeks ago.
Speaker 2:And they said, there's, I'm a newbie, okay.
Speaker 3:They said there's six stages of fishing. I said, hit me, because I don't know shit about fishing. And they said, well, it's not really about fishing, I'm just using that example. I said okay, and they said stage one is man, I really want to learn how to fish. Stage two is man, I hope I catch a lot of fish. Stage three is I can't wait to catch a big fish. Stage four is man, I'd love to teach you how to fish. Stage five is man, I hope you catch a lot of fish. And stage six is man, I can't wait to help you catch a really big fish.
Speaker 3:And most of us get stuck in the I wish I could learn how to fish. And a few of us go man, I hope I catch a lot of fish. Very, very few of us ever get the chance to say man, I hope I catch a big fish. And even less fractional percentage ever say hey, I'd love to teach you how to fish. Anything beyond that, man, life changing for people. But it's a lot of fucking work to go from I wish I knew how to fish to I can't wait to help teach you how. But that's where real life starts. Fishing's fun. Catching a lot of fish is fun. Catching big fish is fun. Catching somebody else how to fish Game changer.
Speaker 2:You know the craziest part about it, Rocky. You probably you're old enough to remember we didn't have all this information to learn how to fish, learn how to teach other people how to fish. We just do something, a process of elimination. Or if you wanted that personal development, you had to hope that you weren't suicidal, because that personal power would come at two weeks if you really needed it, or like a month out. There was no way, there was no avenue of learning.
Speaker 2:And we live in a world of all this information and it's free, because people will lie and say a lot of this stuff is not free. There's plenty of amazing information that's free, but instead of using that time for that, we're either streaming instead of working on the dreams, or we just sit back and wait for someone to literally give us that Lamborghini, or they don't even want them to teach them how to fish. They just want to sit back and have somebody go hey, buddy, here's your fish and I'll make sure you have an abundance of fish every day. And nobody's going to do that for anybody. Nobody is going to be the hero. People have been watching fiction too much. They have to realize be your own fucking hero, man.
Speaker 1:Yep.
Speaker 3:You gotta control. I have a different mentor of mine and he tells me more than I want to hear and I want to just freaking punch him in the face every time he says his shit to me. But he's right, and I'll just spout off of something that's going on in my life. I don't know what to do, Dan, I'm stuck, I'm this, I'm this. And he says, Rocky, you got to control what you can control. But until you're willing to admit what you actually control and you're actually really willing to do something with it, you're just going to call me back next week and you're going to tell me the same thing you told me this week. So stop telling me it's somebody else's fault.
Speaker 3:If it's somebody else's fault and you can't control it, maybe it is somebody else's fault, but you can't control it. So why are you letting it affect you? But I've only heard you tell me seven things that are not yours. You've yet to tell me what is yours. Why don't you tell me what part you can own and what you're going to do to be different, and that that for daily, daily, and this daily is daily. All the time I had Omar, I say to myself all the time Rocky, control what you can control, control what you can control. That's all you can do.
Speaker 2:Why do people want to give control? Why do people want to use the excuse that we're in a brand new year either brand brand year, brand me, brand new year, new you, new year all that bullshit. It's not only that, but we've come to another election where the power of who is in office affects our life, and in fact you're 40 on 50, my life I've been blessed to live both with a Democrat both with a Republican president and people want to say their life is 100% affected by who's in office, instead of just saying it's based on the good choices, the bad choices and my lack of indecision.
Speaker 1:Yep.
Speaker 3:Everybody wants to be somebody else's fault. That's the. That's the. That's the deal. Everybody wants it to be everybody else's fault. Listen, let's, let's just get. Let's just get clear about it. Let's use, let's use us. The only reason, the only reason we've had any level of success or impact in anybody else's life is because we made a conscious decision to say that everything that happens to me is my fault.
Speaker 1:And I'm going to take responsibility for it.
Speaker 3:Oh, but that but that I'm telling you, if you, if you, you and I could spend the rest of our lives doing nothing but talking to people about the fact that it's their responsibility and how they need to take responsibility for themselves and only themselves, and to watch how fruitful and amazing their life could become. That's a lifetimes of work, right there, oh, it is. And that's not because you and I have arrived, it's because we simply made a single decision I'm going to be responsible for what I'm responsible for, I'm going to take responsibility for me, but but people, like, like we people have to see it. I think that's that thing for me that I think, encourages me to show up every day. I think if the thing encourages me when I watch you is when we're willing to do it daily. Then somebody else gets to see that and go all right, my guy's doing it, omar's doing it.
Speaker 3:If Omar's doing it, you know what Screw it? I'm doing it, I'm going to try it because they've never seen it before. You didn't? You said it earlier. You'd never seen it before.
Speaker 2:Dude, I it with me. It's just all just being stuck. Dude, I'm not the best looking, I'm average height. I'm shorter than average height, so I'm I'm short, I've got zero ability in anything, but yet I've accomplished so much that when Saint Peter does, he might not let me into the gates of heaven, but he'll be like Holy shit, dude, you did so much with hardly any cards, and what little talent. And what people don't realize is it's not talent, man, it's do. It's being consistent with doing what you want, with having conviction that you know what you're doing is right. Dude, there's plenty of time.
Speaker 2:Dude, when people ask me why I know that there's a God and why I know I'm doing the right thing, because there's been thousands of times that I've wanted to quit and go, this is bullshit, man. You know, playing victim, playing Celine Dion, thinking I'm Jack, or thinking I'm on the Titanic, playing the violin, and all that. And there's there's like a sign out there, there's, there's a random emo I would love to be on your show. Or oh my gosh, you don't know me, but thank you, Thank you for the book, Thank you for this. And there's always that one person out there, or there's always that one sign that says get your fucking head out of your ass and just keep on being you doing, you do the work. And at the end of the day it was funny somebody interviewed me and they're like what, if you know, after you get this TED talk, you might write a book.
Speaker 2:But ultimately you're at that same level and you consider your life a success. And I'm like, without a doubt, I'm like a success. I'm like, yeah, that means I raised two amazing daughters to be productive in society. I helped people, I helped influence a small group of people, I helped move the needle. Yeah, that's success. You know, success doesn't have to be being on someone's jet or, you know, going to freakin cons or any of that other bullshit. That's someone else that might define. That's what success looks like. And there's people that get all that and kill themselves because they don't feel like they're successful. Success happens when you accept who you are, you love yourself and you go. You know what? I am a rock star.
Speaker 3:Yep, my answer to that is yes, you're absolutely right, and now all of us have the ability to do that if we're willing to choose it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, dude, he thought he thought it was going to be like the suspense for like, oh my gosh, like I was going to start crying, or you know, there was a pause. What pause, man? You just asked me to me the stupidest question, because I think anybody, everybody, has success. Anybody's life matters. You can touch anybody's life. You don't have to write a book, you don't have to be on stage, you don't have to do anything. But you can influence your, your sons, your daughters. You can influence your, your spouse, you can influence your neighbor, your community, your church. Start with that. That's success, man. Yep, we're not Egyptian. We can't be buried with our likes. We can't be buried with our money. We can't be buried with all superficial material bullshit.
Speaker 3:That's right, we're all, we're all, we all again. Because why? Because we're all trying to live a life we don't actually want. Because you don't actually want to do what's required to be able to fly on a private jet and you don't actually want to do what's required to own your own jet. Oh, you wish you could. Really. You really, do you have any context of what it takes to get there? And I'm not saying that you shouldn't, I'm not trying to discourage anybody who has massive and huge dreams. I hope you do. I hope you fulfill them and I hope, when you fulfill them, it's what you actually wanted.
Speaker 2:There's nothing wrong with having dreams and big dreams, but sometimes, man, people are delusional. I go to show you not everybody's cracked out to be. Your client was interviewing a possible client. A prospect Didn't want to write his goals, Didn't have any dreams, Said success was based on how much money he could have in his pocket. He could be a perfect, he could be a. He's an asshole for a husband now, but once he reaches success, she knows that's when he's an amazing man and that his ultimate dreams if he ever wrote down his dreams were to own the Atlanta Braves and the own a publicly traded ski resort. I'm like really Okay, dude, If you're not writing yourself, fucking disappointment. You know some people are not coachable.
Speaker 3:Don't take them. That's right. That's right, that's right. I love that.
Speaker 2:Well, dude, I love you. I know how to find you, I know how social media stalk you, I know your website, but how do people find you?
Speaker 3:Yeah, how do people?
Speaker 2:book you more important, and how do people get off their fucking ass and watch you? This guy made me cry. By the way, I was the eyed and Dallas.
Speaker 3:There's only a few of us out there that have done it. So I'm going to take that and take that credibility right now. I'm going to take that street cred it's like you and Tony Robbins, dude, I have all personal and business development.
Speaker 2:It's only Robbins, let's go.
Speaker 3:I just got put in the category with my guy. I love that. Hey, you can hit me up. You can hit me at rockygarzacom. It's R-O-C-K-Y-G-A-R-Z-A. Rockygarzacom. Instagram is at Rocky Garza, linkedin, rocky Garza, facebook, rocky Garza Tiktok, the Rocky Garza and the best way to get in contact with me if I can help you in any way.
Speaker 3:I send a text message seven days a week, out, for free, to you to challenge, encourage, motivate you, get you off your ass and get moving. It's a free opportunity for you. You can just send me a text message to this phone number, get your pin out and write it down. It'll be in the show notes here. It's 4696498441. Again, those of you that are writing that down, that is 649, sorry, 4696498441.
Speaker 3:Give me a text message and just shoot me a text that says heard you with Omar. It'll be a quick form for you to fill out and I'll get you a text message Monday through Friday at 8am, saturday and Sunday at 9am to get you moving. It would love to be a part of what it is that you're doing. Don't listen. If you want help, it's one text message away. You got an event and you really want to change, create an experience that allows people to walk away with something tactical and practical to do with who they are, what that means and how to build a life they want. Well, I am your guy and I'd absolutely love to talk to you. Shoot me a text, go to my website, fill out the contact form, and I look forward to hearing from you.
Speaker 2:Rocky. One final question, and this I know the answer because I know, I know you, I'm like one of your fanboys. What words of wisdom do you have to tell that person that's afraid to take action, that's sitting on the sideline, the victim, the person that keeps on waiting? They're like Bob Marley. They're waiting in vain. They're waiting for their hero, they're waiting for someone to give them the life that they want.
Speaker 3:Yep, great question. If you're listening right now and you're thinking to yourself man, I have dreams, I have hopes, there's things I want to accomplish, but I just don't know what to do. It's not me, it wasn't made for me. I'm not the right kind, I'm not the right size, the right color, the right talent. I don't have the right voice, the right skills. I'm not the right.
Speaker 3:I would encourage you to do this. I want you to get out of pen and a piece of paper, because something physiological happens in our body when we think something and we write something and we say it out loud. I know if this is you. You have just told me the 15 reasons it's not going to work and I want you to write them all down. I want you to write down every reason that you're telling me it's not going to work. And then I want you to go next to everyone of those. I want you to make yourself a T-Chart.
Speaker 3:Now you're probably thinking, rocky, a T-Chart, you're supposed to drop wisdom and give me a golden nugget here. Give me fucking homework, stay with me. Get a T-Chart and on one side of it, I want you to write down everything you told me that's not going to work. I'm not this, I'm not this, I'm to this, I'm so this, always this, never this. And then I want you to ask yourself a simple question. It's not my question, it came from a friend of mine who's much smarter than me and I want you to ask yourself the question what if it did work? And on the right-hand side of your T-Chart, I want you to answer every single one of those questions based on but what if it did work? I can't do it because I'm not smart enough. But what if it did work? I would look at myself as intelligent. I did, rocky, I can't do it, I don't have, I don't, I don't speak well enough. But what if it did work? My voice would matter, yeah, but Rocky, I don't have the right, I don't. I don't know if it's fancy microphone, I can't do a podcast, but what if it did work? I could use voicemail on my phone. And I want you to work yourself down the list Now, if you're really listening, you're actually going to take action on this and you're going to really ask yourself a really wise question.
Speaker 3:Someone told me once what if it did work? I'm going to ask you to send me a text message and I want you to tell me what if it did work. Now here's what I'm telling you. This is an honest truth. If you send me a message and say what if it did work, I will get on the phone with you for a 45 minute how to get what you want. A free call to you, and I'm not charging anything. I'm not selling you anything. I'm not trying to get you to get into a program. I will get on Zoom with you. If you send me a text message and you're willing to ask yourself the question what if it did work?
Speaker 2:And my drop right there and believe it or not. Rocky, my people that know me, you don't need a fancy microphone, it's a prop. Just Zoom 30 bucks or whatever. On frigging. Whatever platform you choose, I choose Buzzsprout, all you need. I use my computer microphone. I lie to people. I need to be on their professional. I need to see a microphone and I need to see a headset. My headsets were never plugged in because I don't like the way they sound. I saw a robotic with a normal mic. Man. I use the Apple mic, the computer mic. Listen, all obstacles dude All obstacles.
Speaker 3:What if it did work?
Speaker 2:Dude. I love you and we will both be on that same stage and I know we are going to create massive change not only in the Brown community but every community out there. I love you, thank you, this one of my favorite episodes. I say that a lot, but I mean it because I am a fanboy and you're a great guy. Love you, brother, love you brother Appreciate you. Have fun with your wife and your son, because that's what life's all about. Love you brother.
Speaker 3:Thank you, sir, appreciate it Great Thank you Thanks.
Speaker 1:You made it happen. It's gonna live inside of your purpose. What if it did work? Right now you can make your choice To never listen to that negative voice no more. The hardest prison to escape is our own mind. I was trapped inside that prison all for a long time. To make it happen, you gotta take action. Just imagine what if it did work.