What If It Did Work?
What If It Did Work?
From Soviet Struggles to Spiritual Freedom: Victoria Rader's Path to Prosperity
Victoria Rader takes us on a remarkable journey from growing up under Soviet oppression to becoming a global leader in quantum personal development. Her story begins with a profound lesson from her father, a journalist who sacrificed his family's social status by refusing to falsely report that "all was well" after the Chernobyl disaster. This early experience taught Victoria that while external freedom can be taken away, internal freedom remains ours to cultivate.
With disarming clarity, Victoria introduces the six mental faculties we all possess to create our reality: perception, imagination, intuition, reason, memory, and will. While most of us are familiar with our five senses that help us perceive the world, these six faculties are the tools we use to actively shape it. The mastery of these faculties—particularly reason—determines whether we become the driving force in our lives or allow circumstances to dictate our experience.
The conversation deepens as Victoria shares her first law of prosperity: gratitude. "What you appreciate, appreciates and grows in value," she explains, applying this principle to everything from money to relationships. She challenges us to appreciate even a single dollar, recognizing its potential to contribute to something meaningful rather than dismissing it as insignificant.
Perhaps most fascinating is Victoria's insight into how limiting beliefs form—not just through our childhood environment, but through genetic inheritance. She vulnerably shares how she discovered a pattern of fear around "losing everything" that traced back to her great-grandparents' traumatic experience during the Soviet revolution, demonstrating how unconscious patterns can sabotage our success until we recognize and transform them.
The episode offers practical wisdom through Victoria's "Asshole Rule"—a disarmingly honest four-step process for dealing with difficult people or situations that provides a path from frustration to freedom. Her approach to manifestation challenges conventional understanding, suggesting that true power comes not from announcing our will to the universe but from surrendering to what's meant to unfold through us.
For anyone feeling stuck, hopeless, or ready for transformation, this conversation offers both profound comfort and a practical roadmap forward. Visit mygiftoffer.com to access Victoria's free quantum leap ebook and begin your journey toward breaking free from limiting beliefs and embracing infinite possibilities.
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I never told no one that my whole life I've been holding back. Every time I load my gun up so I can shoot for the star, I hear a voice like who do you think?
Speaker 2:all right, everybody. Another day, another dollar, another one of my favorite episodes, my favorite podcast I'm biased. What if it did work now with me? Look at this. My guest has Victoria Rader, phd and a visionary leader, a possibility coach transforming lives. Through her pioneering work in quantum personal development. As a founder of U2Shine, she empowers individuals to break free from limitations, unlock their fullest potential. Globally recognized for her expertise, victoria Blunt's cutting-edge quantum fulfillment is a recipient of Quillian best-selling author, speaker. Creator of breakthrough tools like quantum freedom in the empower me apps. Her transformational teachings have been featured on forbes, cnn, fox news, abc. Her wisdom has even reached the moon through the lunar legacy project of space. Her mission is quite simple yet profound to help others rediscover their true power and live a life aligned with love, which is life originating vibrant emotion. I love that acronym. Whether through her speaking, coaching or bestselling books, victoria's work inspires others to create miracles in their lives by mastering the mind, energy and prosperity. How are you?
Speaker 3:I am wonderful. How are you? It's great to be here.
Speaker 2:It's great to have you after reading that I mean a PhD now, besides having a PhD in results, what is your PhD in?
Speaker 3:So it's a metaphysical science where quantum mechanics and spirituality dance together. So I take advanced spiritual and scientific concepts, translate them into practical, everyday language and, more importantly, application.
Speaker 2:So you blended two things.
Speaker 3:Yes, yes, there is a delay, omar you are frozen on my end.
Speaker 2:Congratulations, Congratulations. So I have to. It was something I wasn't when it comes to personal development. I was a late bloomer, it wasn't until my late 20s. But were you always like this? All about empowering people? Was your family like this, or was this just no, you had your typical upbringing a family. That it is what it is. Suck it up and all the usual.
Speaker 3:Well, typical? No, because I was brought up in the Soviet Union and that is very different from typical here in the US right, where we are so spoiled with external freedom that we jeopardize internal slavery. Here we become enslaved to patterns of addiction and so forth and so on. In the Soviet Union, when the external freedom was non-existent, the only freedom you could practice was internal freedom, and I'm very grateful for that upbringing, for knowing the difference that when I couldn't necessarily make choices externally, what was inside was mine to keep and no outside influence had capacity to come in and ruin it. And I was brought up by two parents who stood for something and who lived integrity.
Speaker 3:My dad was a journalist. He was the editor-in-chief in the former Soviet Union. To be an editor-in-chief you had to be one of the 6% of the Communist Party and he had to be a part of the KGB. And when the Chernobyl happened he was asked to come and report that all was well. He flew out, drove down, actually came home, threw up for a week from radiation and refused to report it.
Speaker 3:And so we went from a family with high social status, set with the president, to a family that there was no unemployment and no homelessness in a Soviet society.
Speaker 3:So we were just given the very crumbs of existence, stripped of the social status, and I remember the joy my dad had for standing for that with integrity. And so when the Soviet Union fell he was one of the first journalists invited to the US for what was called Freedom Exchange to learn how the free press worked, and when he came home he became the first independent newspaper owner in Ukraine. So and that's dad, you know, and my mom is somebody who took, who did whatever it took to bring us up. You know both parents had to work to make ends meet and I would spend summers with my grandparents in little village without a house, you know, no indoor plumbing, and I remember I had severe allergies, so my mom would travel and bring these carrots and then just grate them by hand and squeeze juice out of them, as the only way that she read was to help my allergies. So I had a very unique upbringing altogether by two loving parents who lived through high integrity and virtue in a very restrictive society.
Speaker 2:Not only restrictive, but did your father buy into the propaganda? Because there's propaganda on both sides. We're similar ages during the Cold War. Did he buy into what the government was saying, that the US was warmongers, capitalism was bad Because? You know, we did the opposite here. We did the movies that at any moment, you know the Soviet Union would want to take over if they could.
Speaker 3:You know, I honestly can't tell you because I have not had a conversation with him to know enough. What I do know is that by the time I was born and growing up, everybody kind of knew that whatever we were fed was not necessarily a healthy diet. Let's just leave it at that. And what I do remember is conversations around the table where my mom and dad would say now be careful how you express it outside the house, we don't want to go, you know, in places Of course, something that we take things for granted here on just having a voice, to have a message, to have thoughts.
Speaker 2:And it's funny because when you're talking about when your needs aren't met, you're not sitting there contemplating life or you're not the what ifs that's like what we love to say real world problems, Because if you're hungry or if you don't have electricity and you don't have every need met, you're you're.
Speaker 3:You're not reading Nietzsche or Voltaire ironically, we did, ironically, we're right yeah, but you also didn't have personal development.
Speaker 2:Nobody was doing personal power, tony robbins personal power, like in 1983 exactly, you know.
Speaker 3:I mean, I started with god is dead, with nicha speaking of that, and that had me and I thought to myself what a powerful statement, because to state that god is dead means you have to believe in god first. I I mean, that's where my brain.
Speaker 2:Well, yeah, because that's like the circle, it's like the chicken and the egg. You know, when they say that God and religion is the opiate for the masses, but you just said God is dead. So which was it? We had a God or there is no God, there is no religion. And that's funny because you know you are the possibility coach. Usually when it's like, usually when you're force fed, that I mean, yes, you got out, but you could have also been a product of your environment, that you're like possibility of what? But? But you, you understand that everything there's an abundance. There's an abundance of love, there's a an abundance of success, there's an abundance, there's an infinite amount of everything.
Speaker 3:Just, you know, the possibilities literally are endless in anything well, you know, uh, family, you will take a family where parents are alcoholics and you will have one kid that will live because of it and the other that will live despite of it. So you ask a question how much did environment have with it? How could it inspire one and make the other desperate? Right, and it goes to one of our six mental faculties. You see, to create reality we want, we have to actively use six mental faculties. We have five senses to perceive reality. We have six mental faculties to create it. We are taught five senses.
Speaker 3:I know how to smell, sniff, you know chew, bite, I know how to hear, see and touch. But when I say six mental faculties, people are like what, what? Well, it's your perception, it's your imagination, intuition, reason, memory and will. So reason is right there in the middle. It's a very interesting one. And so, from the get-go, your mastery of that one mental faculty, your wiring of that one mental faculty, will define whether you become the reason for your life or you give life a reason to dictate who you are. You either live because of the environment, you default to it, or you become the cause of the environment so either you're driving life or you're a victim, and you you are living circumstances, life.
Speaker 2:Life is running you, but it's isn't it? It's so easier, though. That's why a lot of people it's easier to play victim.
Speaker 3:Yeah, the law of gravity. Right, the law of gravity. Not only that but?
Speaker 2:but I mean, think about it. We have social media right now. I mean, you and I both know, growing up with people, that they'll post about their toxicity on social media, instead of saying, hey, I'm the master of my life, the creator of my destiny. Instead they're like oh my gosh, my relationship status hashtag complicated. It's like what's complicated? Either you're with somebody or another one. I am all alone. I am so sad and I want to tell somebody how can you be alone? You have the best company. You're with the person you grew up with.
Speaker 2:But yeah no, it's easy. It's easy. It's harder to control, to say you have total control of your life, don't you think, Victoria?
Speaker 3:Well, I think you have total control of how you perceive your life, right? I think that's where a lot of people get lost. Things will happen regardless, right? No matter how strong you and my minds are, we will not stop the rotation of this earth by tomorrow morning, because there's a universal law. There are universal laws that are emotionless. They run Whether you're a good person or a bad person. If you jump off the fifth floor, you're going to fall down. Whatever your mindset is of soaring, you're going to fall down.
Speaker 3:So this whole life becomes a game of knowing and understanding the universal laws, and they're then either supporting you and working with you or they're punishing you relentlessly. You know, you and I had a little exchange about universe versus God. That's how God became Punisher, because God is confused with the universal laws, which is the emotionless mechanism through which the universe operates, and I'll say again, emotionless, pure mechanics, quantum mechanics, and how you use the quantum mechanics either to fill it with faith and love and flow or to ignore it. Laws are laws and they will either work for you or work against you.
Speaker 2:But a lot of people choose to ignore it, because they go through a breakup, they go through hardship and they don't understand. Life isn't God and life isn't like Santa Claus. Everything's not going to go your way. Bad things happen to good people.
Speaker 3:All day long.
Speaker 2:And you just have to keep on believing, you just have to have faith. You just can't be like, well, there's no God because my girlfriend left me, or there's no God because I got fired, but yet so many people, why should I live in abundance, why should I live in, why should I be grateful, grateful for what? And you hear that and it's like, well, you are alive. And I mean you came from an area I can only imagine. I mean you came from an area where you literally have a talk that says you are born to prosper. I mean, technically, when we were kids in the 80s, I don't think you could go to the Soviet Union, go to Moscow, and even if they let you go, you know what you would have been like. Yes, you could have been for a second, the Russian, jim Rohn, talking about prosperity.
Speaker 3:Well, no Ukrainian, I mean. We're tiptoeing here on the border.
Speaker 2:Yes, yes, you also have to realize I'm a product of the Soviet Union. To us, moscow was everything, but yes, I know all the different. Yes, which Ukraine is definitely not anything near Moscow, to begin with.
Speaker 3:Well, you know, I think what it comes down to, what you're describing is that humanity's greatest addiction is that to suffering. Now, we define it through either substance or emotion, or you choose the method of delivery of addiction to suffering. But if you are addicted to suffering, it is a very difficult thing to shake off. And you know, it's interesting. I just was talking to a client actually about the difference between pity and compassion, how pity comes from that suffering. When you pity anyone or yourself, you are actually oh, you said Celsius, oh, my gosh, you're my friend. I am also addicted to joy through Celsius.
Speaker 2:I'm 51. I have a caffeine addiction. What if it did work, amar? Espresso doesn't do it for me. I drink prime workout to go pre-workout and then afterwards at night. I need a Celsius there you go you know your DNA it takes away the pain of being 51. Whoever said age is just a number was just some young kid because you know I might be in better shape than I was years ago, but I sure do feel the pain.
Speaker 3:If you find yourself pitying yourself or pitying another human being, that is actually the lack of knowing who you are as a literal offspring of divine, as a child of God, as the quantum field of light. Use your language, but there's nothing pitiful about us, and when we forget that, we start self-pity cycle, and self-pity cycle is poison. It is poison that destroys first us and then, by default, everything around us hmm, really I I'm.
Speaker 2:I'm just looking at all your stuff and it it's just believe or not, you're gonna laugh. But because it never says your upbringing. Looking at your picture and all that, I'm like oh, this is like completely southern I. I thought you're gonna say you're like from Venice Beach.
Speaker 3:Well, hey, you know, whatever works.
Speaker 2:What was your first experience, though, of prosperity? Was it getting out of Ukraine? No, not at all?
Speaker 3:Not at all. It's really cool. It's really really cool. You know, growing up, like I said, in a village every summer in Ukraine, I was brought up by my grandma and grandpa at that time Because mom and dad worked, and so every summer I went to the village about four hours away and I remember we were going to. My grandma took me to shop and we were looking. I don't remember for which item of clothing we were looking. She spent a very long time looking for it and then she said a phrase that stayed with me forever. I don't remember how old I was. She said we are not rich enough to buy cheap things. It was such a powerful concept. She was teaching me the law of value and she said now, you don't have to be rich to be wealthy. Me the law of value and she said now you don't have to be rich to be wealthy, because very often rich people, they misuse money and they end up broke. It was a very powerful lesson.
Speaker 3:So she would teach us to save for quality, because quality would last and I stayed with me always and she said what makes people poor is buying cheap things, you know, and they, they will have to keep buying them. And that was probably the very first lesson of prosperity from her. The other one was from my mom that was teaching us to be grateful for everything. You know, I have a book, prosper Me book. It's 35 universal laws to make money work for you. And the very first law it was interesting to me that you've talked about gratitude, because it is the first law. It's the law of gratitude. In English.
Speaker 3:It gives to explanation so beautifully because the law, as I describe it, is that what you appreciate, appreciates and grows in value. And it goes universally for everything, not just money. If you appreciate a relationship, if you appreciate a person, they will grow in your eyes and in their own. If you depreciate them, they will diminish and you can depreciate somebody into complete oblivion. But the more grateful you are for little things.
Speaker 3:So you know, when I talk about money, I'll hold a dollar and I'll say I know how a person is broke if they hold this and they say it's just a dollar. If you have a belief, it's just a dollar. You forgot to be able to appreciate it. It's a dollar. It's a dollar. 10 of these buy a net in Africa to save a life from malaria A life for $10. And so when you appreciate the little that you have, it starts appreciating in value. Most people take what they have for granted, and the second you take it for granted, you take away the energy of growth from it and you live in lack of wanting more. That's the first law of prosperity.
Speaker 2:But also what you just mentioned there. Language plays a just that minimizes everything and anything. I'm just an average person. Yeah, just Just. To me is such a demeaning because it means it's just a dollar. It's like I wish it's not a hundred dollars, it's not a gift card for a thousand dollars, it's just. I'm in this relationship just because I don't want to be alone. There's, there's always that that just it's like. But it also to me. But it's like a permission, like another word, to devalue things or to give, give yourself an excuse for not being successful or not not doing anything, because, but if only my parents had money, but but, but I mean, you know, unless you're Sir Mix-a-Lot and you like big butts, that's the only time butt should matter. But yes, that's so clearly that's. We learned the first law of abundance, of prosperity. Because everybody. What separates people, wouldn't you agree, is their belief system. Do you have limiting beliefs or do you live in abundance? Because I was a master of limiting beliefs until.
Speaker 3:At least you were the master.
Speaker 2:Yeah, well, I was also raised that A single parent, my mom I remember. You know life is hard, but suck it up. I could never tell my mom like I still can't, but hey, mom, I'm depressed or I'm feeling bad. Her reply a lot of people. I don't want people to think I'll show you depressed or you want to hear something sad. It's like, okay, so I can't have my own emotions. Why, thank you, and you know. But do you believe that the limiting beliefs is pretty much a lot of us have? It is because they're placed in this by our system of people who we hang out with, whether it's our family or close friends.
Speaker 3:You know the two aspects. All of us have limiting beliefs and they're just shifting to the degree we allow. For example, one of the biggest limiting beliefs for people in personal development is I already know that, I got it. That is the most devastating limiting belief, and when you go to any place, the second you catch yourself thinking I got this, I already know it. You've limited yourself from curiosity, from expansion. So there's not one person, myself included, that does not have limiting belief. Why? Because we're growing through, pushing through the limits. And the second you become aware of the new limit, you grow through it and you quantum leap through it. And so we're all on a spectrum of expanding from our limiting beliefs and the way they're formed is, yes, indeed, through environment. You know, I had an amazing conversation actually with Les Brown and he said Do you believe that people are influenced by environment? And I said Listen, if you walk into the ocean and come out dry, you will be my guru and I'll know you're unaffected by environment. But for all of us, if we go into the ocean, we'll be wet. So the environment absolutely affects you. If you're in an environment before age of six, your brain vibrates in a theta brainwave, that is a programmable brainwave. Everything is truth. Before you're six, everything that is said around you becomes your reality. That's what programs you on a conscious level into limiting beliefs. And then the repetition. If you watch the news and you're exposed to the same belief over and over and over again, before you know it it'll become your belief. Then less known formation of limiting belief is your genetics. You might not have been exposed to this belief. One of mine very interesting On my mother's side, my great-grandfather was Russian and he was a patriarch in Tambovo, a Russian Orthodox patriarch, very, very affluent.
Speaker 3:And when the Soviets came in 1922, they took all of their lands and turned their home to a high school and they dug a trench and they put the family in. My grandfather was five at a time. My great grandmother and great grandfather died within weeks from pneumonia and from the cold. And that was how Soviets handled things. They made children orphans, so then they could adopt the children and bring them up in a Soviet regime. That was my grandpa.
Speaker 3:And so what was interesting to me? When I first started succeeding in real estate, I've noticed this pattern of fear of losing everything, and I knew it wasn't my conscious fear and so I had to do work on myself to understand. I had genetic coding. Just like our hair, our eyes, our skin color, our thought patterns, our feelings are also genetic, and there's more and more study about that.
Speaker 3:And so I had a limiting belief that I genetically inherited that what goes up must come down, and that is a belief that so many entrepreneurs carry, because their parents or great parents have gained everything only to lose it. And that is a limiting belief that I see in high performers all the time, and I see a pattern of where they have it all and they go back to nothing, only to have it all and go back to nothing. And so that's a very practical shift that I had to shift for myself to be able to continue to grow and expand the business without either need to lose everything, to stay loyal to my genetics Some of us are very loyal genetically and so forth and so on. So there are all kinds of levels of forming a limiting belief and there are many ways of transforming it.
Speaker 2:Now, when it comes to, also, when you're talking about the personal development aspect, that the worst thing that you can say is I already know that. I, I know a lot of times it's her ego too, because it's like we want to be like. Well, I don't need to learn this because I paid x amount to see this guy, this, this guy is my man because and I, I love him to death. Uh, for the longest time I was like you can't teach me personal development. I did Anthony Robbins. I did Tony Robbins. Three university who, who? Who are you? You can't teach me anything better than than he.
Speaker 2:He's, he's high up there. He did personal power. He's been doing it for 40 years, 50 years, and that's closed off because, or to judge someone, not not every guru resonates and not every guru resonates. We tend to go with the person that resonates with us, based on who we like, for whatever reason. But, yeah, no, I would have to say I was a snob for like years and oh, I don't need it.
Speaker 2:Who told you that? Oh, that guy. Well, he's no, tony Robbins, that would always be. You know, that would be the butt. Yeah, that's nice, that's nice. Yeah, I already knew that because he taught me that and that's, that's closing off, because you're also put demeaning the other person. Because maybe they felt like this guy was like Moses with the 10 commandments. Here you are, you're like say, like saying, nah, that guy's a nobody and that's something called growth is when you realize, no, you don't have to demean anybody. And, whether you believe in personal development or you're not, if success is happiness, if somebody's happiness wakes up every day in gratitude and they're happy, and they never had to pay for a course, they never had to do a firewalk or plunge pool or do a 10x or whatever, then more power to them, then they were more evolved than everybody else. That felt like maybe if I go to this, I will find my happiness, happiness.
Speaker 3:You know it's interesting that we have that we're going to happiness. I was just actually, literally days ago, looking at the study of happiness, cause I like to see when there is a research on something that has been before not validated scientifically. And you know they found four aspects to happiness. So it's interesting to hear your experience with that as well, because it's a new pondering for me, you know. And so they say there are four, four main aspects of happiness.
Speaker 3:The first one is autonomy, which is ability to make your own choices. So if you feel your choices are limited, you're not going to be as happy. And the second one is ability or capacity. It's when you make a decision and you follow through. So every time we don't follow through, we become less happy, right, because we can't trust ourselves, and there's just a lot of happiness.
Speaker 3:The third one I thought was really cool and that's the proximity, and that's do you have people that really know you? To what degree are you living a persona? Do you have somebody who knows all of you? And the more people and the closer you have, the happier you are because you're accepted fully. And then the last one was, you know, self-value, or valuing yourself for what you are and for who you are.
Speaker 3:And I've got to say I've been playing all of the happiness scenarios through that. I've gone through people that I feel are happy and they're all very high on those four spectrums of autonomy, ability, you know, proximity and self-worth. So it just fascinated me, you know, and so it's like the. You know, can you be happy if you feel somebody else makes all your choices for you? Can you be happy when you constantly disappoint yourself, you don't keep your word, you know? Can you be happy if nobody knows you because you're hiding your darkest parts? And can you be happy if you think you're shit? I'm sorry, you're just hard to be happy, yeah, but if you think about it.
Speaker 2:Autonomy is a of times we, we are like that elephant that's tied up to the chair, the little plastic chair. We create our own prison. Oh, I can't do that, I'm stuck here. We, in general, have full autonomy of our lives. We just go to the the I can't, I can't, I can't, I just can't be. So a lot of times do we have autonomy?
Speaker 2:It's in the mind, it's like that saying on Milton, on creating heaven and hell. The moment you realize that you do have complete autonomy, the moment you realize that you do have complete autonomy over your life, even, oh, I can't, I need this job. So what you're saying is you're going to be stuck in this job. That's literally killing you, because you might get an extra day off or an extra week two years from now You're telling me that you can't find a job with similar benefits or a job that'll pay you more in in this global society that we live in. So that's why, to me, autonomy, yes, uh, we, that that's something. And two, procrastination, or you can't trust yourself. But we can change that about us.
Speaker 2:We can change it, all we can change it all but procrastination or not even keeping your own word to yourself. A lot of times that's just mechanical, because we're so used to lying to ourselves, we're so used to disappointment. We would rather be on the sideline because we think it's safe. We don't want to disappoint ourselves, we don't want to go out there Heck when you say, wearing a mask. That's why social media is so important. Because I'm 51, but if I wanted to look like I was in my 20s, I could take pictures. I'm 51, but if I wanted to look like I was in my twenties, I could take pictures. I can do filter it up, because we, we want people. We all have flaws.
Speaker 2:Once we, we love who we are, then you know what, whether somebody, somebody is like, hey, it's like there's people right now that will never listen to either one of us, but you know what Isn't that beautiful? I know before. I mean it went before I laughed, and somebody's like goes out of their way to tell me oh, I'll, I haven't read your book, your books, I haven't heard your podcast, I haven't heard, I haven't seen anything that you've ever done. And it's like okay, and I always laugh because I'm like my mom hasn't either. Zero impersonal development. She calls the man Anthony Roberts, by the way.
Speaker 3:Anthony Roberts. That made my day. That, right there, that line just made my day.
Speaker 2:If you ever hear anybody talk about Anthony Roberts that would be my mom.
Speaker 1:That's my mom. I love it.
Speaker 2:But yeah, I'm like, okay, my mom doesn't listen or buy my or do anything. Who are you? But yet a lot of times we're programmed that that's going to hit and that person tried to find a little bit of significance by saying, oh, who? Well, victoria, oh, come on Victoria and her prosperity, or Omar, and it's like who cares? There's 8 billion people. We have an audience clearly. We have an audience clearly. So I mean because it's also easier to destroy than it is to pick someone up. But overall, to me, yeah, no, happiness goes hand in hand, because I've been at the top of my game. I was making way more money and I was severely unhappy and I kept on chasing.
Speaker 3:I was a guy that Wasn't one of the four. It was not one of the four.
Speaker 2:Yes, it was always the seminar. No, I was a guy that you know I was seeking nirvana. That maybe if I have to go clear across the country to this personal development seminar, I have to go clear across the country to this personal development seminar because God's going to shine a light and the heavens are going to open up and they're going to be like now you can be happy and then I'm a slow learner 40s, late 40s, four or five years ago that.
Speaker 2:I realized all I have to do is love myself and wake up, and that would have saved me a lot of money. But you know it's a, it was a lesson.
Speaker 3:And you know, you know what don't? I think it's I. I think it's very important at least for me to know what it got. It's a luxury to have arrived there because of everything you've done, cause you go from from survival to stability is change of habits, From stability to success is change of mindset, change of mindset is luxury after you've filled the habits.
Speaker 3:And then, from success to significance is change of heart. And so you cannot quite go from zero habits to changing a heart because you don't have the muscle, the spiritual muscle, to do that. So it's not that you could have done it any different. You have earned the luxury of an insight that there is nothing but love. And even the next step is you know, our society is on a pendulum from first love others, so self-sacrifice, to the point of resentment and hatred, to love yourself, to self-centeredness and narcissism.
Speaker 3:But the truth is true love, it just is. If you are at the energy of love, you love yourself and others simultaneously. There isn't either or. And you love yourself enough to be respectful and kind with your boundaries and with that of another human being at the same time. So when people say, put yourself first, put others first, that is all developmental, feeling the boundaries of love, just to understand love is love. And if I am loving, if I'm truly loving, I'm loving of me, of you, of the environment, I just am. And so that is where our society is still on a pendulum swing, and we've gone from self-sacrifice to self-grandizement. And you know, love is love. Love is love. If you divide it to self and others, you're minimizing it.
Speaker 2:You know, what you just said reminds me I think Stephen Covey was the one that said just love, it's an action.
Speaker 3:A good just right, Instead of it's just a dollar to just love Good just.
Speaker 2:Oh, I'm feeling like I'm falling out of love this person. What do you do? Well, you just love them.
Speaker 3:I love it. I like I that gave me chills.
Speaker 2:That is just the recipe right, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, you, because you know just to do the work now. Now you're treading sacred ground yeah, exactly because, right, everybody wants, wants the pill, you know, or, or they think it's, it's like calculus or something. I'm an arts and science guy, so I have a master's. I'm bad at math.
Speaker 2:That's why I say calculus if it, if it's simple but yet so profound, but it sounds so hard yes, because it's really easy yes, because, because we, we, we are like don quixote chasing windmills, or we're like friggin pons de leon trying to find something, this golden quest it's a push and pull, what you mentioned earlier.
Speaker 3:it's a push and pull between the soul and the ego, and only one of them can be truly happy at a time, and so when your soul is fulfilled and nourished, sometimes your ego needs to kind of feel a little pinched, and if your ego is thriving, your soul has no room for complete expressions. It's a daily. It's a daily tangle between your soul and your ego, with your soul being that internal light that is unique to you, only to you, and the more you know it, the more you shine it, the more you bless others with it. And the ego is the reflection of what you think others will see as your light. So it is you get to make how you're seen as something you want to be seen as, versus letting go of that and just being who you are.
Speaker 2:So then there's an ebb and flow between the two, absolutely the ego, between the two, absolutely the ego. I, I would, I would definitely have to say your, your soul being filled is way, is way more powerful or a better feeling than the ego, because whenever the ego is full is being fed, or you're, you there spewing.
Speaker 3:Always hungry.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, it's because you want more.
Speaker 3:Yeah, he goes always hungry.
Speaker 2:It's like that, filling up. It's like taking a glass of water and throwing it in the ocean. You keep on and you keep on but it doesn't do anything. Or trying to take out from the ocean, or filling a glass or a barrel or something with a hole, it it's. It's one of those, and it's exhausting because, also, if you keep on just going full ego, you're a complete asshole. Because because, yes, because you're the guy that do you know who I am?
Speaker 2:you, you know like how they always bust a celebrity and they have, like the first thing they tell a police officer is do you know who I am? That's the ego.
Speaker 3:But listen, it's a very beloved word in my vernacular. So for couples, I teach a four-step rule and I know somebody's going to love this. It's a good favorite part of this interview. And it's an asshole rule, because when you are in relationship with another person, it is very healthy for you to be validating sometimes that they're being complete, complete, complete assholes not not to their face, preferably in your mind. So I say when somebody is being in that pattern, you go through four steps that free you. We talk about freeing your soul. Okay, so that gives gives your ego enough of a snap. It frees your soul. First. You say in your mind what an asshole. It's very important to validate. If you don't validate, you go back to your mom, suck it up, and sucking it up leads to all kinds of explosions.
Speaker 3:So okay, In your mind, what an asshole. Second one is the point of ownership. That'll shift it to humor, but you know what? This is my asshole. It is so powerful. What an asshole. But it's my asshole. Number three I choose to forgive him. Not I forgive him, I choose to forgive him. And number four I choose to love him. When you run through that little dialogue when your partner is driving you up the wall, I promise you you will shift energy instantaneously and even cooler if the person who's driving you up the wall is not the person that's your partner. You go through the same dialogue. You're driving, somebody cuts you off in the traffic. They flip you, you're like what an asshole. And then you remind yourself they're somebody else's asshole. It's very powerful. They're not even my asshole. Come on now. They're not my asshole.
Speaker 2:Well, that's even better because I don't have to go home to that.
Speaker 3:Right. And then you say same thing. I choose to forgive them and I choose to love, not necessarily them myself, I choose to love. That is such a powerful path of validation. It keeps you free.
Speaker 2:But the best part of that too, is it cuts off the emotion, right off the your decision because so many people ah, my day's ruined because someone cut me off and tomorrow might be ruined because I'm going to still be thinking about the guy that cut me off.
Speaker 2:And they don't realize that that's just like a cancer, all that negativity and all that anger and just feeling like you're Godzilla or that you want to break stuff. And it's like why? Why are you going to give your power away for something meaningless? Why are you going to give your power away to something that maybe the guy's a bad driver? I don't think he personally was like hey, you know what? I'm going to cut off Victoria. I'm going to cut off Victoria. I'm going to cut off Omar. I hated that podcast episode, so let me cut him off.
Speaker 3:We choose to forgive you.
Speaker 2:Here's a question for any newbie what's the first step in conquering just something easy to conquer, just a limiting belief, just to get them on the road to prosperity?
Speaker 3:Well, it depends on how serious you are. If it's just a curiosity level, then whatever you're experiencing, you got to talk to yourself versus listen to yourself. Talk to yourself versus listen to yourself. If you listen to yourself, it's usually negative chatter. If you talk to yourself, you control the chatter. So when you hear yourself downgrading yourself or others in your mind, you get to validate it by saying you know what. It's normal. I'm human, it's normal, but using, but in good way. It doesn't have to be my norm. It's normal, but it doesn't have to be my norm. Right here, right now, I'm choosing a new norm and then you tell yourself what you want to hear internally. That's just the very basic of turning it around.
Speaker 3:If somebody is really ready to go through shifting the beliefs, you know the. What we've done is two decades of go through shifting the beliefs. You know what we've done is two decades of my experience of shifting beliefs. I've put together into one quantum leap ebook, with an energy shift, a 12 minute recorded video that trains you how to reprogram your subconscious. You go through the list of the beliefs. You find the ones that you know. Oh my gosh, she's in my mind. Now get out of there.
Speaker 3:You see that belief and then you apply the technique, the free me EFT technique and anybody who's serious. It is free and it is found on mygiftoffercom. You then will be given some opportunities to change money beliefs as a purchase. But that part the 50 core beliefs, the most important one shifts is at mygiftoffercom. So it depends on how serious somebody is about breaking through and about breaking through. Usually you know you're ready to start breaking beliefs if you feel things around you are breaking through and breaking apart. It's a wonderful sign. When things are breaking apart you're shifting. So let everything that is breaking apart fall down, because the things that are unbreakable will become much more visible and you will carry them through, you know, to the next level. So that's yeah, that would be the place I would send people to start.
Speaker 2:Now the possibility. Coach, Now do you do one-on-ones, do you do group sessions through Zoom?
Speaker 3:Do you do all the above? All of the above in a way.
Speaker 2:Right now on my one-on-one. I'm sold out through 28.
Speaker 3:That's a good problem to have. It's a good problem to have, but I have a phenomenal team of coaches that do one-on-ones and they do have a phenomenal group that is called Quantum Freedom. The group actually makes me emotional. It was 2019, december 2019, when my seminars were selling out and I had a very strong feeling take it all online. My seminars were selling out and I had a very strong feeling take it all online. And I've launched Quantum Freedom on January 20, 2020. And so, when the world shut down a few short months later, we were a thriving, fully sustainable business and we took a lot of people through some of the most difficult times of their life through that group. So that was the beginning of Quantum Freedom and that is where I do. Group mini sessions once a week on different topics on money, on business, on healing is where people come in for a quick quantum shift, where I identify the belief that limits them, do immediate, instantaneous transformation with practical application. And that is our Quantum Freedom membership.
Speaker 2:Amazing. And then you also are a best-selling book. You teased one of them. That, to me, should be the first one that anybody should read. Where do they buy that Off of Amazon?
Speaker 3:Amazon. As a matter of fact, if you go to meserieslove, meserieslove, you're going to see the Prosper Me book and a lot of our journals. We're creating a lot of journals for people that want to have a guided way of healing. There's an emotional one for me because it was created in a very touching way and I got so many personal notes about it. It's called Hear Me, and that is when you lose somebody and all of of a sudden you understand there's so much that has been unsaid. It is a very powerful healing journal to communicate with somebody who crossed over. There's a manifest me journal with steps of manifesting things and so forth and so on. But the best way is to go to me serieslove and it'll take you to Amazon, to where the book and the journals are and where we constantly add new journals based on demand. All of our products, all of our services, including our apps, are all response to our clients. Every product has been a response to the demand that we've had.
Speaker 2:Well, there's always a demand, especially, I mean, so many people. I love the power of manifestation. Yes, people got the secret wrong because they felt manifestation meant let me go to Walgreens or CVS, buy a poster board and put a Lamborghini, a Ferrari, stacks of money, a mansion, me with Hugh Hefner at a party, and that you know. Like Santa Claus, the universe is like here. You're a good person, you deserve it, and never did I read you literally. You manifest God. You tell the God in the universe what you want, but what are you going to do to get it? That's what people didn't understand about it. They thought manifestation meant imagine if it was that easy. I'll just not work for the rest of the year. I'll just keep on dreaming of packages of money being delivered to me every month.
Speaker 3:Yeah, you know we. Just it's interesting that you're bringing secret in, because yesterday the trailer came out. I'm actually in the movie with John Asereff and Joe Vitale. That's called Zero Limits and it's picking up kind of where the secret leaves off in terms of mechanics of co-creating. But I would go a step further. You know, we're so stuck on announcing our will to God, which is why manifestation falls flat. What, if, what if it actually worked to ask the divine for what is to be manifested through us in the best and highest way for us? Now, that is the power of quantum manifestation. It is seeking what is to unfold in the most miraculous way, surrendering your will to that unfolding and not clawing and scratching and biting. And I can tell you thousands of miracles that have happened as a result of that aligned manifestation. You know the second. You understand the purpose of prayer is not to announce your will but to discover the best outcome for you. Everything shifts, everything shifts.
Speaker 2:So then I should stop just every time I have a conversation with God. Not I want a new Lamborghini, I want a conversation with God. Not I want a new Lamborghini, I want a six pack. I'm joking, I don't do that at all.
Speaker 3:Unless you have prime. If you have prime with God, you're fine.
Speaker 2:I'm usually, believe it or not, I'm in gratitude. I'm just thankful for the health, for giving me one more opportunity of being the best version. Every day I wake up with with intention, just to be in service and be be grateful and thankful that you know I have health, which is the eternal present. Now, victoria, what would you tell someone? They're, they're down on their, on their luck. They used to, they used to believe in personal development, but now the ebb and flow of life, the universe, they're just going through a tough stretch. They're hopeless. They don't, they don't think the possibilities are endless, they're just closed off. It is what, it is, the worst thing that you can possibly ever say my life. It just is what it is. Victoria, what would you tell that person?
Speaker 3:I would say that if this universe or almighty God, however you choose to describe the mechanics of creation had a better way to fill in the space and time that you currently occupy, it would have been done so, but it is not. So you, as miserable as you currently are, you, these universes best attempt for the space and time that you're at, and when you pause to understand the space and time that you're at and when you pause to understand the power of that, that, even at your lowest, you're the very best that this universe is capable of and it accepts you as you are and God loves you as you are, understanding that, and if you need to dwell a little bit longer in the darkness that you are, it's okay. You will not be abandoned and you do not need to change at all that you're accepted as you are to be completely filled with love. And that very moment when you are at your darkest, just saying I'm accepted as I am is the most healing thing you can say, because it's beginning of love.
Speaker 2:Just full acceptance.
Speaker 3:Full acceptance.
Speaker 2:That's beautiful. You know I loved our conversation. Victoria Rader, founder of you Too, shine, I love that name. You're a possibility coach. You're an author PhD. To me, you have a possibility coach. Or an author phd to me, you, you have a phd in results. That that, that's a lot more than yes, you have the certification and next time maybe I'll call you doctor, since you earned the title. I'm just messing with you. But no, thank you for the conversation. Thank you because you know you're helping out. You, where were you? Many Thank you Because you know you're helping out. Where were you many years ago when I needed you? I'm joking To me, you have to go through. That's part of the growth. Yes, when you feel like there's no light and you keep on walking, that's where the real growth comes, because if life was easy, we wouldn't grow. It'd be boring. So any final words, victoria?
Speaker 3:Well, I think my very last parting words I'm just going to be messing with you now is that the power of the title of your podcast. I want to draw attention to that because our subconscious mind cannot resist, cannot resist answering a question. If I ask you right now, what color are you thinking of? You're going to think of a color. If I were to ask myself what's wrong with me, the questions would come in. But if you ask a question, what it would work out, what if it really worked and what makes me a unique, incredible human being that came into this world, no matter how shitty I feel, to make it a better place. What is it about me? What is it about me sit in that question and live from that answer?
Speaker 2:well, victoria, you, you're the epitome, you're the definition of what if it did work. I have it for my guests, but I also love to see people to open the world to possibilities and you are the possibility coach. So you see, just that little shift. We always focus on why things can't work. You show what the possibility, what if, what if can be unimaginable. It's actually creating a heaven here on earth. All right, sweetie.
Speaker 1:Thank you, victoria. Thank you If it did work. Right now you can make a choice To never listen to that negative voice no more. The hardest prison to escape is our own mind. I was trapped inside that prison, oh, for a long time. To make it happen, you gotta take action. Just imagine what if it did work you.