GET YOUR HANDS OUT MY POCKET !

They don’t ask how you’re doing. They ask what you can send. If you’ve ever felt like the “rich” friend just because you manage your money, this conversation is for you. We’re talking about begging, pocket watching, and the strange obsession some people have with counting somebody else’s pockets the moment they see new shoes, a car, or a nice outfit.

We dig into how money entitlement ruins relationships fast, especially when “I just need $20” turns into weekly requests, guilt trips, and disrespect the second you say no. We also get into the culture around jealousy and social media commentary, where folks celebrate celebrity wealth but shame regular people for leveling up. The truth is uncomfortable: some people idolize struggle, then attack you for choosing stability, discipline, and growth.

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Transcript

SPEAKER_02 0:02

Before I start this show, this is no this is no uh going towards nobody. But if you take it as an attack or a harmful to your character, you need to change yourself. Thank you. Before I start this show, people, I would like to tell you five things. But they will be they will sound a little different, but just tell me, what do you gather for when I do when I say this? I don't have any money.

SPEAKER_01 0:42

I don't have any money. I don't got no money.

Pocket Watching And Backhanded Praise

SPEAKER_02 0:54

Yeah, I don't have it right now. I don't I don't just have it right now. Man, I just told you I ain't got no money. Yeah. And I'm pretty sure y'all probably heard that a lot. Cause, you know, this this is this episode is especially for all my begging people out here. Y'all, and the beggars, the pocket watchers, the the the the the count the count counting every little penny, every trying to look and see every little package you get every time you wear something new, they got something to say. So, with this being said, people oh man. Look, understand this. I feel like a lot of times when you do get into people, when you have a person who's doing okay for themselves, David, that you may know, whether it's a family, friend, acquaintance, or whatever. You can kind of get a little too needy, too overassertive, too. Always talking about money all the time. You're always talking about what you don't got, how hard it is. Uh, I need this for that. And then guess what you end up doing with the money? Not what you said you were gonna do. You lied about it. You did you went to the club, you're smoking, you and did everything else that you talking about, because then you were just begging for the money or talking about, man, I just need it.

SPEAKER_00 2:29

I I don't know what it is, man. I just need it.

Jealousy In The Community

SPEAKER_02 2:36

Yes, you do. But meanwhile, a person, and I never understood the concept of the word a person can just walk in. Like, I even I even went through this myself. A person can just walk in with some new shoes. Mind you, they can probably be 20, 40, 50 off. They're not even a lot of shoes. That's not even a lot of money for the shoe. Then people can, then, you know, people just you got some new shoes, baby. So why does it matter to you every time I have something new on or wear something or what what type of vehicle I'm putting in? Now is it you gotta always let it be known. I'm not a six o'clock news type of person. You don't have every time you see me, you can just say, Oh, I like it. Keep it pushing. Even when I first got my vehicle, my uh my truck or whatnot, is it's like I dealt with this a lot. The overfixation on other people's belongings that are not yours. I don't understand it. Help me understand something. What causes you to do that? And the backhand of compliments, oh, it's cool, but I would have got it, and nobody gives a damn. Nobody I ain't asked you that so like it gets to a point with me, and I don't get I try not to just get like flashed out or nothing like that, cause I be when people do stuff like that or it it makes you feel uncomfortable because then they it's like people start looking at you like, oh, you got a lot of stuff, you got that, you got that, you got a backpack, you got a full two. Like every time you get something, it shouldn't it shouldn't trigger an alarm in your head. Oh yeah, then he got some money, money, he must got some money, he got some money. Like, why do it or you immediately equate to you can't afford D. How did you get it? How did you get it? You sound like a you sound like one of them. You sound you sound like the other side. Oh, man. Y'all be killing me with that. And I don't understand it. And it be so, and it's older people that be jealous of people. Just like this. It's a new epidemic now. You know it's prime season, people getting suited and booted, and they're going out in their nice fancy garments. Here go people. They can't afford, they shouldn't even be doing these. They know they in the hood, they gotta go back to work and all that. Everybody ain't doing bad, ma'am. I I don't understand the hyperfixation on other people's lies, especially when it's on social media. Because you think you just doing somebody good faith. People want to post their kids up on social media and stuff like that. But it's just like every time you see some witch, they ain't, they don't suppose be doing it. They supposed to be doing, bro. You cannot, if you don't have the money, why are you talking? You will never understand a pro okay. This is what I was saying too. We have to stop being so shallow-minded, and also we have to learn how to mind our business, too. A lot of people need to learn that. Relearn the lesson. Because I feel like this is this is something that gets reinstated every single year. Stop counting people pocket when you don't know it. You only know your book, your books, and your bank account. Everybody ain't got your bank account, ma'am. We don't have a negative 500. We don't have a four or 400 for a credit score. And I'm not doing this to put nobody down, but y'all have to get put in y'all's place. Stop worrying about other people's finances. It's none of y'all business. It's not, and that's and that's what I be saying. Y'all, y'all treat these celebrities, y'all worship these celebrities, y'all kiss the feet that they walk up on. But when it's somebody that looks exactly like you, like they're supposed to be where you with. Ooh, they must be reading. Ooh, they must do this. Ooh, they did it. Why do you care so much and it's not yours? Just be happy. If not, shit up. We don't care about your feelings towards nobody else. Bank account. Stop getting over fan, stop over-fantasizing. If you want something, go work. A lot of y'all spent y'all alive not doing nothing, not not excuse me, not doing nothing, and not saving no money. A lot of times, too, you have to understand some people have sacrificed to get where they are. They took chances because it was a bigger chance for them failing than succeeding in life. And they made that gamble and they took that chance, took that risk, and they got on their limb, and they made something of themselves. I'm not finna have nobody make me hate that I that I ain't gotten into a stable position or that my parents are stable or stuff like that. I don't care about what these people think at first, because it's like people demonize you for having stuff, but then they they don't they idolize being poor. I don't understand why people do that. We as a community, black community for sure, we idolize the screets. Oh, love the screets, love the scree, love the hood, love getting it out of the gutter. All of it.

unknown 8:45

Cool.

SPEAKER_02 8:46

When a person makes it out, become a sellout, they become a they become this, they become that, all of it. When a person is just only trying to make a better way for their condition, so why are you trying to put a person down for even having this for even having that type of mindset just because you don't have it? I feel like we go through this. This is feeling that are arbitrary as a young child, and they grow up into being adults that feel like if I don't have it, I have to say something about it and make the other person feel bad about having it, and I don't. That don't make sense. But that's why I said as a parent, as a parent, and I'm talking to all my old my uh my unks and aunties out there, y'all gotta, and grown moms and all this, y'all gotta tell y'all kids better because they growing up, they having kids, and these kids, and they jealous of these little kids. And it and what's so bad about it, you would really think it'd be a people of these children's ages. It's nothing but grown people only on these posters talking about hood prom and all that. Why every time when it relates something with black people, it gotta everything gotta have hood, streak, thug, gangster in front of it. No, that's not how that works. Stop hating and you just watch it. You watching on the sideline. You did your child graduate? Exactly. Like, come on now. We don't want to really just start getting into that for real, because that's why I said it's get to a point like I don't understand the hyperfixation on just black people, just in general. And it's not even just that, it's with our own community and is other races too, especially when it comes down to the whole financial perspective. Either you're not good enough or you feel or people feel like you lost touch. If you do, dang if you do, dang if you don't. You can't be good for nobody. And that's what the point is. You gotta stop trying to be a statistic, stop trying to fit in with people that don't really accept you anyway. Yeah, of course. They'll say they'll talk about you and laugh at you when you ain't got no more money, of course. And you can help people, like I said, people, you can give people your toes, your legs, arm, and feet, and they still won't be appreciative.

SPEAKER_01 11:23

Still won't.

Work Ethic Over Entitlement

SPEAKER_02 11:30

So what's the purpose of me trying to trying so hard to get these people to like me or get these people to see, like, bro, I'm just like y'all, bro. I'm I'm this and that. You know that. You should, if you know me in person, you should know that. But guess what? You get around other people and say otherwise. So you keep that same energy what you have around them. But when you come back and asking for money and talking about just because I told you no, you come back and asking for money and begging and talking about you need this and that, and you got a job, no, I would not be funding an employed worker. No, that ain't my job. You can call it what you want to. I'm the devil. I'm this and that. Because that's what y'all love to do. And then what's so bad about it is, what's so bad about it is you if you want to be Christian, y'all coming, y'all be in the church, praying the Lord, sweating up and down, falling out, we sideways, everything. Soon as a person tell y'all know about some money, God see that God gonna get you. You you going to hell.

SPEAKER_01 12:38

Cause they ain't give you no money. You want money that bad? It's the same thing with the pastor. Close the door, close the door, like that.

SPEAKER_02 12:48

Like, bruh, you can't make people give you money, bruh. Like, I don't understand this concept.

SPEAKER_01 12:54

I really don't. I never do. Why is it? Like, what like why is it?

SPEAKER_02 13:08

I'm not finna give you nothing just because of that. You can't be dependent on me. No, because once even even my father even told me, once you give something one time, they want you to do a hundred more. And I'm not doing it a hundred more. Cause that's what I said too. Time be hard too, but you have to get off your tail and actually do something with your life and stop playing, stop messing around on your time, stop trying to wait and depend on somebody hand and foot that you did nothing for. They did more stuff than you did for them, and you ain't even returning nothing. All you're doing is saying thank you and spending the money. What have you done for them? Then the little stuff, if you even if you did do something, people, you gotta have a means to your own. These are grown, these we talking about adults. We ain't talking about kids. Because a lot of times I can even I know people who family, I like I said, you can know a person, they family asked for more money than the kids do. Tell me what that makes sense. The kids that staying in that house don't ask for more money than the other family members do. That's sad. Well, they got bills, and no, a lot of them don't even. That's a oh my god. We y'all gotta stop all that big. Stop bigging. Understand times is hard, job shortages, and it's everything the whole nine. But people, y'all gotta stop trying to go. You're gonna have to sacrifice. I don't care how much you try to stop yourself or how much you try to get away from doing it, you're gonna have to learn how to sacrifice. You can't go to the store all the time buying the new J's and getting the new cologne and all that. You gotta save your money. Ain't no way in the world every time you look around every Friday by sometime Sunday, you broke again. And you ain't got no bills. If you stand with your folk, this is the most time you can do to uh this this the most the most thing you can do is basically put your money back, save your money in uh in order to get something in life. You can't even do that because you looking at it from a a point of view like, well, you know, shoot, I'm just gonna add big cuz. Big cuz a truck driver, so I'm gonna add big cuz for some money. And he got big cub tired of getting you money. He tired, he's tired of you. He about to block you. He about to block you. He about to just start telling you, cuz you're gonna have to do something about yourself. You're gonna have to get your you got a job. You work at bruh, you work. You work a job. Why are you comfortable asking me for money? And I'm not even at home. I'm on the road. You asking me for money. You talking about some, hey, how you doing? Yeah, what up, cuz you scrape? What bro, what you want? Cause you don't text me to say if I'm straight or not. You want money. What what now? What? What you want? You see what I'm saying? You see how the the how the annoyance levels get, the more money you ask for. That's imagine if somebody always constantly nagging you about the same thing. You get to them, and them niggas still keep coming back.

SPEAKER_01 16:41

It don't make sense. Like you can't get rid of them.

Boundaries And The Power Of No

SPEAKER_02 16:48

Who can't get rid of? And that and that causes relationships, friendships, family members that you thought you like, brother, sister, even parents. That causes a diminishing relationship because everything shouldn't even be financial with you. And then if it turns into like, oh, I'm just calling to see what I can get out of it, oh, you gave me this. Oh shoot, I'm finna see what else I can get out of it. Cause like I said, you can have people in your family, and we all have, we all got people in our family, like like that good money hungry, and always asking and begging, they'll never get nobody nothing. But then when they come time to actually put in on something, and we all trying to go in someone in the group, they talking about it. I ain't got no money, I ain't got no money. I'm looking over here. But you want to eat. You wanna go, you wanna go to the celebration, you wanna eat, you wanna dance, you wanna slide all on the floor, but you don't want to pay for no crackers. Man, come on with all that, bro. Ain't nobody trying to hit that man. Y'all play, y'all play these games. Y'all play these games if y'all want to, and think ain't nobody and think nobody ain't got no better sense about themselves. Y'all gotta stop this big. This it just gotta stop. Like, I don't even know. I can literally talk about this all day. I done have friends. We don't even talk as much. Let me get$20 for Doda. Let me get$30. Let me get$40 until I get paid in that week. How do you need this much money?

SPEAKER_01 18:23

Baby, you done asked me for$100 just in one week. A hundred days. Like, ain't no way you door that sh in that much, baby. You need to cook. You need to cook. Like, what are you doing?

Budgeting And Sacrifice For Adults

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SPEAKER_02 18:39

Like, I don't understand it. What is it which I when y'all have another person that feels like they have money? Cause then that's another thing too. I try to do because I'm I'm I'm good on saving money. I could be better, but I'm I'm a little decent on saving on money, so I can keep a little dollar just in case if stuff happens or whoop. So action$40 here,$20 here,$10 here. Hey, bro. I'm gonna need this and this and this for this much for today. Another car. Hey, bro. Scrape. I'm gonna need this and this and this this for another for uh yeah. I need I need this. I got an event going on. Cool. Third time. Hey, bruh. Man, hey, hey, bruh. You need to pay me by my money. I gave you that first time. Don't call hey, bruh, me. I don't even want no you, I don't want none of that. Give me my money. I need I need that. I need that. I'm not playing with you, bruh. Every time you call me, bro, you want something. You always want something. What in the hell do you want now? I'm not that what make people not even want to deal with you or even pick up your car. You can be down, but a person finna think you're finna ask for money, and they don't even want to pick up your car. They'll feel sad about it if you do, but I ain't gonna lie. A lot of people, a lot of people, they where they welcome out, bruh. I'm understand that we family and we, you know, we there for each other, but don't be brand big for no money, bruh. It don't get it don't get that serious. Go out and go get you a job, save your money, stop trying to buy everything in the store once you get paid. It ain't just bills, because we I ain't gonna lie, we gotta stop telling ourselves. A lot of people, now, understandable, if you are paying bills and stuff like that, but I'm talking about for the people that are not, which are the young adults, the people that are in their 20s or however old they are. These people are the ones that want to take trips, they want to go do this, they want to go do that, and don't have no money to do so, and they come back home flat broke, flat broke. Cause then that's the thing. If you were staying in your own property or own space, baby, you would be put out. Because you ain't got no money even to cover for your uh rent this month. Cause you want to go spend it on uh Car and B Beyonce. You wanted to go spend it on Caribbean Beyonce. Or whoever let whoever artists you listen to. But it it's just like we gotta stop trying to put ourselves and you gotta stop putting yourself in a position to where you at the mercy of you at the mercy of somebody else's wallet. Because if you never learn how to budget, save, and manage your money, you're gonna always have to be independent on a man or whoever, whoever man, woman, your family to get you out of trouble when you have financial problems. problem because you don't know how to you don't have the self-discipline to do it yourself. You don't have the you don't have the um you don't have the uh withal to just actually just lock in and actually be just be a person that's actually and keep track of their finances like do your numbers and stuff keep track of your finances like you track your calories every day but yeah I don't know y'all don't y'all don't want to do that y'all rather feel like big cook out of here just loan me their money and then I won't have to pay them back he tells you you pay them back but get what you do you take about two years just to give him money back so you don't need to be borrowing from nobody hell not even from the bank you can't even you don't even need to be borrowed from a dog a bank a human nobody a credit card especially not that's I mean that's where you putting yourself in a hole at bruh like y'all gotta understand how bad it is for a person to not only keep funding your funding your ex or y'all exp it's funding y'all expenses and not getting nothing in return that's a person doing something nice hoping for the kindness of your heart every time you look around you need money you need bread and you won't do nothing for that person because that's why I see if I'm asking for if I'm asking for some money I gotta really really really really need it really honestly because I try not to because I know how people can get when it comes down to the money conversation money brings a lot of uh unwarranted feelings and also it can also and like I said before it can end relationships in a steadfast rate immediately because like I didn't see money made people change and how it didn't alter people's perception of you to make you think that you just supposed to be an ATM and bankroll them every time when they feel like doing stuff. And that's not like and that's how and that's not how life works I'm not finna keep expanding giving myself the hard earned money that I work for to keep giving it to you for no reason and then all just because you want to go out to eat or you want to go get something to drink or you want to go do this and buy some clothes or shoes. That's not my job. That's your responsibility not mine so it's just like as people we got to understand how to just limit we got to under just understand just how to set boundary and limit people from overusing overusing and constantly begging it it's just you got to just start saying no you're gonna have to start really doing that. I don't care who feels somehow about it because people can't tell you on who and why not to get your money because I've been called stingy before even though I engage people bought people all types of stuff they'll still call you stingy because you because you just don't do it for them often that's why because I'm sure not doing it for them often because if I'm trying to have money saved up for myself and build myself up to get where I need to be buying equipment buying this and buying that then of course of course I'm gonna have to keep my money to myself I can't keep getting everything that I uh I earn to away to up to other people no what's the purpose then if I'm getting all my money away to y'all what am I gonna have for myself when it comes time for an emergency if I gotta go get a tie fixed if I need an oil change if I need to do all this that that causes money that causes money I can't keep I can't keep playing I'm not finna play on my own money like that and give it all to you and not have nothing for myself and then but then when I like like I said before when I tell you no it's a oh you ain't right you dirty you this and that no you need to learn it's some people out here need a no and need a bunch of no so they can straighten up because a no will get you in order a no will actually teach you how to be humble teach you humility all this you a lot of y'all need a you need a lot of no's you need you need a lot of no's you got to you gotta have because that's that's the only way you'll learn your list how to stop asking people for stuff just tell them no nah can't do it I won't do it and say it just like that no I won't give you no more money no answer is no don't ever ask me for no more money and I ain't being mean it ain't being dirty oh God gonna bless you and that's fine He's gonna bless me for them times I gave it to you but I'm not giving you no more money so before you even come in here asking you can say oh I changed or oh I'm dirty or I'm the evilly person that's fine I'd be a vampire hell I'd be a vampire if you want me to I ain't giving you no more money though and that's a unimpromed to God I ain't giving you no more money and I don't have to like I said I ain't gonna explain nothing to you I I'm not getting it to you because you're gonna keep begging you don't never have no money you ain't never attempted to get no money you ain't trying to keep no money and you think I'm just supposed to just give it to you no no there ain't no no buddy better go make some work and then you got a job too oh hell no what fool that's over with ha ha it's so over with boy I ain't never seen but it's it's just like I said when a person get complacent on you get too complacent and they start to depend too much on you as a person that just how it be just how it be and they said that you had to cut your own family members off or be avoiding them on purpose because every time you you pop up they hey uh I need something no I gotta go yeah like I'd be like trying to run off I gotta go but yeah man that's it's sad bro I and I feel like until people gotta just start putting their foot down and actually meaning what they say and not just trying to just not trying to beat around the bush when it comes down even family members or not I know you don't want to hurt their feelings or whatever the case may be but you gotta understand you while you're trying to protect their feelings you you ain't protecting your wallet you broker as they get more money out of you for doing nothing but just accent and with that all that being said people that will be the end of this episode make sure you go to Apple Podcast Spotify Google Podcast Amazon Music and also subscribe to the YouTube page we are almost at a thousand downloads people keep them downloads coming but also keep subscribing people keep subscribing gotta get them subscribers like comment share share with your friends share it with your uncle share with your baby daddy share it to the person that you all share share this with the big in person share this with the big in family member the big in sister the begging brother begging mama begging daddy all that this episode is made for especially especially for the beggars it ain't it it ain't being facetious excuse me it's not being facetious we love like I said we I love you can love your family you can love whoever whoever it may be that be part of the negative about the money it's just that I don't love you begging I need you to stop I just need you to stop just get out of my bag just yoga go get your own money I say that you can't have my money go get your own money and you got a job save your money you can't be out here living like living like Larry and you out here drinking dun Julio Casamigo you buying bottles and tables for female you out here tricking but you ain't got no money but then you asking me for money to put gas in your car you need to change your way because you ain't a rapper you ain't got no rapper money you up here balling on the budget but then you trying to make it seem like you really got it going on nah bruh you you gotta change your you gotta change your way of life because the moment when you change your mindset you're gonna look at how much money you are you are able to save and stop flourishing and when you stop trying to pretend to be something that you're not which is a baller because you asking for me to fund your lifestyle and that's not my job it's not my job bro not my freaking job man but as always people I appreciate y'all for watching and all my people tuning in from around the world and see y'all in the next episode If I holler beg 'cause I do I just want y'all to know something we don't like y'all for real. We just tolerate y'all until and then it gets to a point to where we snap out we'll probably end up going to jail if I hurt y'all. So please stop begging people thank you. Peace