When love strikes like a bolt from the blue, it's a tale worth sharing. Join my husband and me as we peel back the curtain on finding 'the one,' celebrating our 12th anniversary, and the soul-stirring power of therapy. Our personal journey from friends to life partners, the electric moment of recognition that bonds kindred spirits, and the pivotal role of BetterHelp in nurturing our mental health – all these heartfelt stories are laid bare for you. As we recount our Portland escapades, we're pouring a glass of memories, from culinary discoveries to the simple bliss of a shared sandwich on the steps of a food truck.
Have you ever felt the transformation that comes from a truly supportive relationship? We chat candidly about the growth and maturity that blooms within love, how time and trials sculpt our understanding of devotion, and the resilience required to forge a legacy together. As we trace the steps of Fantasia Barrino and Kendall Taylor's remarkable love story, we also touch upon the societal pressures that can cloud our romantic judgments, affirming the call to follow your heart above all whispers of doubt.
This episode is a tapestry woven from the threads of love, commitment, and the continuous quest for happiness. Whether you're seeking a partner or cherishing one already by your side, our reflections on love and marriage are sure to resonate. From the enchanting vibes of Portland's streets to the profound questions that shape our lives, we lay bare the experiences that fortify a relationship. So, come embark on this journey with us, and perhaps find inspiration to write your own love story.
When love strikes like a bolt from the blue, it's a tale worth sharing. Join my husband and me as we peel back the curtain on finding 'the one,' celebrating our 12th anniversary, and the soul-stirring power of therapy. Our personal journey from friends to life partners, the electric moment of recognition that bonds kindred spirits, and the pivotal role of BetterHelp in nurturing our mental health – all these heartfelt stories are laid bare for you. As we recount our Portland escapades, we're pouring a glass of memories, from culinary discoveries to the simple bliss of a shared sandwich on the steps of a food truck.
Have you ever felt the transformation that comes from a truly supportive relationship? We chat candidly about the growth and maturity that blooms within love, how time and trials sculpt our understanding of devotion, and the resilience required to forge a legacy together. As we trace the steps of Fantasia Barrino and Kendall Taylor's remarkable love story, we also touch upon the societal pressures that can cloud our romantic judgments, affirming the call to follow your heart above all whispers of doubt.
This episode is a tapestry woven from the threads of love, commitment, and the continuous quest for happiness. Whether you're seeking a partner or cherishing one already by your side, our reflections on love and marriage are sure to resonate. From the enchanting vibes of Portland's streets to the profound questions that shape our lives, we lay bare the experiences that fortify a relationship. So, come embark on this journey with us, and perhaps find inspiration to write your own love story.
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Speaker 1:Welcome back to another episode of the Big Dog Talk podcast. It's me, the one and only Big Charles.
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Speaker 2:You got to beg them to help them change their life. I got to beg people.
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Speaker 2:Anyway, cheers.
Speaker 1:Cheers. What kind of wine is this?
Speaker 2:Sauvignon Blanc. Ah, a French Sauvignon Blanc, if you will.
Speaker 1:Cheers to the.
Speaker 2:Come on, get into it. Cheers to our Come on, get into it 12-year anniversary trip anniversary celebration.
Speaker 1:Cheers to that.
Speaker 2:Happy anniversary to us. Y'all Say it.
Speaker 1:Do you know what today is?
Speaker 2:It's our anniversary. It's our. It's our special day.
Speaker 1:Come on now.
Speaker 2:All right 12 years 12 years.
Speaker 1:We made it 12 years married. I'm grateful for that.
Speaker 2:Yes, yes, yes, yes.
Speaker 1:Let's get into Portland.
Speaker 2:Baby, let me tell you. First of all, let me tell you something right now, portland owes me nothing but a diet and some cardio. Baby, that's all Portland owe me is a detox and some cardio.
Speaker 1:The food was amazing.
Speaker 2:Detox and some cardio.
Speaker 1:The food was immaculate.
Speaker 2:Detox and some cardio.
Speaker 1:The food was amazing. The chefs are chefing in Portland.
Speaker 2:Yes, yes, first and foremost, the chefs are chefing in portland. Yes, yes, first and foremost, the chefs are chefing in portland. And so, before we like get into all of that, you know, usually for our anniversary we go like beach life, right, we go caribbean beach life out of the country. Let's use our passport yeah, y'all.
Speaker 1:Take y'all. Y'all be patient with us. We want to bring y'all into our anniversary. Come on now. We're family. Be patient. We're going to get to the topic now. Come on. And the ones?
Speaker 2:that have been following us. They kind of know that right, right, right you know we like to just go to a new country to celebrate our anniversary. However 2023 served life on a nice little. It was a cute platter right Served life on a nice little. It was a cute platter right Served life on a platter.
Speaker 1:And so, to celebrate 12 years, we chose to Wait. What do you mean by serve life?
Speaker 2:on a platter Life was lifin'.
Speaker 1:What does that have to do with our anniversary? I'm getting to it, okay, all right.
Speaker 2:Life was lifin' in 2023. So we decided for a 12-year anniversary reflection that we wanted to have a little bit more of an intimate, slower pace, kind of like a city vibe anniversary celebration. That's what we did and that's how we got to Portland we wanted it to be intimate.
Speaker 1:Slow, like you said.
Speaker 2:Slow pace, yes, don't take 10 hours to get there, 10 hours to get back. You know what I mean, but still a new experience and discovering new things and a new place that we've never been to together Right. And so that's how Portland got on the map, and I will say on the air that that was not a mistake.
Speaker 1:Portland was amazing. We met some beautiful people out there.
Speaker 2:We met some amazing human beings in Portland.
Speaker 1:But I will say this though, because we're putting a lot on it, because this was our experience we are professional travelers as far as we can make a boring place fun. So if you're not like a professional traveler and you don't do your homework to find the spots, the right spots, the right restaurants, the right scenery- what is this place known for?
Speaker 2:what do I need to do? So one thing that I'm really big about when we travel, um to new cities in particular, is that I like to support black-owned businesses. That's what I like to do, um, as a black-owned business, I like to go to cities and find other businesses that we can support, and so, leading up to Portland, there was nights when Big Charles was falling asleep and he's like what you doing? I'm like, oh, it's a Portland research kind of night, right. So I'm up researching like what does this place have to offer? Like what can we get into what businesses can we support? Offer? Like what can we get into what businesses can we support? Like, what can we do while we're there? Uh, for 72 hours to make this a a good experience for our 12th anniversary, and I think we did a good job we did a great job.
Speaker 2:We did a great job I think we did a good job but, like you said, we gotta preface that like we are people that can go into um an environment and make fun and make the fun, even find the fun, make the fun or be the fun yeah, we all three of them, I'm gonna be the fun, and so for us, portland was a really good experience um they welcomed us well every place that we went into great service, great food, great conversation with people, lots of diversity um just a new perspective on human beings in general shout out to my brother-in-law that got me the vip restaurant.
Speaker 2:You know only members members only, members only, you know.
Speaker 1:So anniversary dinner and hey, they know big charles, oh, I love to feel vip, that was great, that was a good. So let me just ask you what was your favorite, what was your favorite moment of the trip?
Speaker 2:so my favorite moment, honestly um of the trip was um day two, which was our adventure day, and, um, the way I described it was the first day, like we hit the ground running. We hit the ground running, we was going here, there, everywhere. It was a great time. Day two we kind of set it up more where it was just about you and I taking adventures, being more intimate, kind of being very reflective on year 12. We were on a journey, we were on an adventure to find the dang gone waterfalls right, and so my favorite part was not only finding the waterfall, hiking up to the waterfall, but also just like the car ride with you, like just playing nostalgic music, things that we listened to, we listen to throughout the course of our relationship.
Speaker 1:Day 26.
Speaker 2:Shout out to listen. I don't care.
Speaker 1:I'm sorry, don't deviate.
Speaker 2:What y'all say. No, but day. I'm talking about day 26. Day 26 did not get the respect that they deserve. So we listen. Because we had to take a road trip from the city to the waterfalls. It was about 40 minutes. We got lost, ended up in some places. That's a whole, nother story.
Speaker 1:That's one of our Day 26 album is one of our albums that we used to rock back in the day when we first started rocking Thousands.
Speaker 2:Yeah, yeah, we was rocking we watched the show and we rocked the album. So that's leading up to my most favorite moment. My most favorite moment was when we hiked all through the doggone woods, me being scared.
Speaker 1:Very scared.
Speaker 2:You, guiding me, helping me to manage my anxiety. Don't go chasing waterfalls Chasing waterfalls, so all about three of them. And when we got to the main waterfall, we hiked a little bit up to the bridge and we stood there on the bridge together and because of the weather that day it was kind of cloudy and it was kind of windy. So while we were standing there trying to, you know, capture our moments, like we all do our videos and pictures, the water was hitting my face from the waterfall and I remember telling you I will never forget how that waterfall felt, hitting my skin and being there with you, like I just felt.
Speaker 2:So it felt like a spiritual moment, almost like when we went to Sedona and we climbed the vortex. It had a very spiritual feeling for me and being there with you, just like with the vortex in Sedona, and for me that was just like a memorable moment that I'll like never forget. How standing on that bridge at that waterfall and the wind making the water fall on my face, like how that felt. It was very just something I'll never forget. It was very energizing, it was very spiritual and it was like a big, big moment for me as we celebrated 12 years of marriage, right. So with that, what was your most memorable or special moment from our anniversary trip?
Speaker 1:Well, of course you know the waterfall was that was waterfalls was amazing, yeah, but just to be. But I had another really intimate moment when you and I went and, uh, found the food trucks oh and we had. We ordered from the food trucks and then we just sat down on the steps and we had an intimate date there. We had. We sat down on the steps, got the food out. You handed me my napkin. We did it like a. I kissed you on the lips a sandwich cheers a sandwich cheers.
Speaker 1:At that moment it was like like I was wowed by one, we made it 12 years and like we survived a lot of stuff, a lot of tough moments, and it's like wow, although we've been through a lot, this is a great feeling to be right here with the one that you love. You know we could have went anywhere. We could have went anywhere, but we decided to go to Portland and that intimate date, which didn't cost a lot of money, Right.
Speaker 1:And it was just so special it wasn't like the, we didn't have to get fly, we on regular clothes, like hiking clothes super casual super casual at that moment when we sat down and we got, we did our sandwich cheers and we kissed. It was like man, we a good time to reflect. Like kids are good, right we're? We survived a lot of storms.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:Let's continue to keep building.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:Let's build a legacy and live in legacy Right and inspiring others to do the same.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:You know. So that was my most important, well, one of my best moments.
Speaker 2:That's what I'm saying. I think, like overall, day two really created a lot of intimacy. We got lost.
Speaker 1:You know, all day too, really created a lot of intimacy. We got lost. You know what I mean, and that was fun. We got lost, except when you, uh, when we had to go up there to one of the waterfalls and we didn't see any hikers and it looked like it could possibly be a scene off the movies, but we didn't see anyone. I didn't know if you were trying to set me up like, okay, I'm gonna go, I'm gonna go check, I'm gonna leave the door open, let me see if I see anyone. I didn't see anyone. We're in the middle of nowhere. I wasn't going too far because, uh, I don't know if you need, if you created an insurance policy on me or something. I wasn't.
Speaker 2:I wasn't sure about that right, but I feel like getting lost was like a part of it you know we got lost, you know, and by getting lost like, we were able to find like some viewpoints to pull over and really get some great, great views um of portland and have more intimate moments.
Speaker 2:Me jumping off the cliff, you know, knees buckling up, almost couldn't get up, so I just felt like day two jumping off the cliff no, remember when I jumped off the little cliff when we were looking at the overlook and my knees I was like oh, my knees yeah yeah, yeah, yeah. But I just feel like day two really created an intimate space for us to really reflect and connect, just us kind of, just in the middle of the wilderness for hours on end and really make some good memories.
Speaker 1:Love always wins Jack.
Speaker 2:It does, and sometimes getting lost. To find your way back is a good thing.
Speaker 1:Oh, doggy tree, Doggy tree, speaking of love and getting lost and finding your way back.
Speaker 2:Find your way back.
Speaker 1:Find your way back, jack speaking of that, I saw an interview with Fantasia and Kendall Taylor well, he wasn't on there, but the question was ask Fantasia, how soon did she get proposed to? And I think her response was like three weeks.
Speaker 2:Oh, wow.
Speaker 1:And the host that asked the question after you know Fantasia responded was shocked by the three weeks response and Fantasia she said it like yeah, three weeks. I knew that he was the one I knew within those three weeks of this. I this is the man that I wanted to spend my life with, so I just wanted to ask you how do you feel about three weeks and falling in love? Do you believe that that's real love?
Speaker 2:well, first of all, I believe in love, right, that's the first thing, and I also believe that everybody's love story is so different, right? So I want to be super careful on just like saying like there's absolutely no way that you can fall in love in three weeks because love is like an energy, right and so. And so if Fantasia and obviously Kendall felt that way because he proposed to her within three weeks if they shared that energy and that space and they felt like, obviously they felt like this is my person within three weeks, and to see their love story kind of like maturate and evolve right in front of us, then they knew what they were doing. Do I think that, like, everybody's going to fall in love in three weeks? Absolutely not, but I do think that it's absolutely possible and that is their love story and I believe in that.
Speaker 2:I believe in the possibilities of that, if that makes sense.
Speaker 1:Yeah, that makes sense. I saw when Fantasia was telling the story of when her husband, her now husband he wasn't her husband at the time but she was getting ready to go out on the road and he asked her can I cover you? And she was like, can you cover me? This man got on one knee and prayed for her covering. She said that like just shocked her whole internal world, like what is this? This is new, that's crazy. So for that, obviously he knew that she was the one before the three weeks.
Speaker 2:The day he laid eyes on her he probably was like, okay, this is her and I'd love to watch their story. Because I remember when that happened and there were so many naysayers around. Because Fantasia has been pretty open about her life and the things that she went through. She even had a Lifetime movie. The Fantasia has been pretty open about, like her life and the things that she went to through. She even had a lifetime movie, the Fantasia Barrino story and she had a really hard life, had her daughter really early and had some other relationships, and so to watch her and Kendall get together and like it really be true love and to watch the evolution their marriage hasn't been perfect either. Fantasia also lost everything while being in marriage with him. So they've gone through some things. Um, that has tested their marriage. Just to watch them evolve and continue to be married and in love Like they're one of my stories that I absolutely love.
Speaker 1:I mean, I like that you talked about, uh, about Fantasia and her experiences before her husband. Absolutely, because I think all of that plays a part into how soon you know as well.
Speaker 2:She brought a child into their relationship.
Speaker 1:Meaning the maturation and the place that she was in life at the time. That what is his name?
Speaker 2:Kendall.
Speaker 1:Kendall proposed to her she had already experienced enough frogs to know that this room right here was Prince Charming Right. I believe that that had a lot to do with it as well. Sometimes there's a negative side to falling in love so fast. That's the reality.
Speaker 2:That's just a negative side to falling in love so fast. That's the reality.
Speaker 1:That's just a there's a negative side to it.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:But luckily for like for them guys and those guys they have found, they made it.
Speaker 2:Right, they're making it happen. They're making it happen.
Speaker 1:You know. So when was your moment when you knew that you fell in love with me? When did you know? When I was the one so good question.
Speaker 2:For those that have listened to our story, they already know that you and I were friends before we graduated.
Speaker 2:Our relationship, to you know, more than just being platonic friends. But I remember, maybe about maybe four to five months into spending time with you and being around you and just doing little things with you, that it kind of it hit me that my relationship with you, which was platonic at the time, was meant to be more than that. And two, just like what you said about Fantasia, it was something different for me, right, because I was a single mother that had been in a previous relationship, moved across the country from New York to California, so I didn't have any like blood family here with me, but I had people in my life at the time that was, you know, supportive, supportive, you know, friendships. That kind of helped to fill that gap at the time. But then, when you came into the picture, you like, showed me a different viewpoint of what it looks like to really have a person in your life, to have your best interest in your child's best interest, at heart.
Speaker 2:And you did that even prior. To.
Speaker 1:I did that probably in the first week. You know what I mean.
Speaker 2:In a relationship, you know, like going to the grocery store with me, or if I said I had to do laundry, like, well, let me put the heavy bags in your car, you know. Or while I'm cooking dinner, you know, did you eat? Come over and eat. So just having like those moments and you really showing me something different than what I was used to, kind of opened up my brain and my chakras to being able to accept and become aware of what was in front of me.
Speaker 1:Yeah, I did, she knew probably the first day.
Speaker 2:About four to five months.
Speaker 1:She knew probably the first day I didn't know no, first day. Trust me, she probably knew the first day Big Charles put the sauce to her.
Speaker 2:Don't minimize my experience.
Speaker 1:Big Charles put the sauce to her. She knew the first day Don't minimize my experience. I was him, I'm him, I'm him. I'm him. Yeah, Get the bombs out the way. Big Charles is in the building.
Speaker 2:Tell your story, don't tell my story.
Speaker 1:What about?
Speaker 2:my story. When did you feel like you knew that I was your person?
Speaker 1:Well, this is the thing, See, this is the thing about men. See, at that time I was already on a search of looking for a potential wife. So I mean, my shock was already open. You know, I knew when we started it was probably I knew it soon, really soon, within months, like you say that you were going to be my wife. Now, I was going to take as much time as I could possibly take, because big charles had some ways about him that oh, yes, he did, yeah, he couldn't shake him right away, yeah yeah, had ways about him.
Speaker 1:I was like I didn't want to mess that up.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:But I knew soon that you were my wife, but at that time, though, I just was afraid that I was going to mess it up. Here's the thing, though I would have married you sooner, like after I proposed to you, although it took me two years. I would have got married to you sooner if I didn't care about what everybody else thought.
Speaker 2:Right, because the truth of the matter is that you did propose within the first year of us knowing each other.
Speaker 1:Right.
Speaker 2:Which to some people can still feel pretty soon.
Speaker 1:Well, here's the thing, though, about men. Though Men, we have a short period of where we really want to get married. So if you don't catch us in that window, I'm dead serious. If you don't catch us in that window of whenever we get that urge of wanting to be married, if that window passes, it's almost all over.
Speaker 2:Ladies, y'all heard that. Y'all heard that that was game.
Speaker 1:So you called me at a. I was in a phase of where I wanted to be married. I was ready to build, I was ready to start my legacy, ready to create a world of my own, and when you came in the picture, of course you offered things that I've never seen before. I knew soon, though, but it came with the responsibility.
Speaker 2:You brought our daughter into the picture, so I couldn't play with you how I play with everybody else right, you know, because I was ready to play right you know, but the good thing about you and your level of awareness, even at a younger age, is that you did take into account that that I had a daughter yeah, of course, if that wasn't, you couldn't just play.
Speaker 1:I couldn't play around like how you played. I couldn't play. I couldn't play with you. How? I was playing, just me yeah, I couldn't play with you, how that it meant and that helped you. That helps you. Having having our princess helped you, because it made that made me grow up. I've never been challenged like that before. That was new, you know, right, I didn't want to be that, be that person. I don't know. I just feel like I always took accountability.
Speaker 2:But I do believe in in love, short-term love you believe in love at first sight um like effort, like you know, love at first sight.
Speaker 1:I believe that I do. I do believe in love at first sight. This here's the thing, though, but I also believe that that doesn't stop you from going through the process of learning a person.
Speaker 2:Right.
Speaker 1:But I do believe that, yeah, I love this person, I'm going to be with her. You know what I mean. Yeah, but later on, down as a month go by, two months go by, a year go by, you start hanging around a person. Then you start seeing behaviors. That's the flip side of it. You know that you still have to work through, even if you're in love Right, and if you don't have the right tools to work through it, then you're in trouble. So that's where the therapy come in, that's where the coaching comes in, that's where the married friends come in. But I do believe in love at first sight.
Speaker 2:I mean so love at first sight. Right when I hear love at first sight to me, when I decipher that, that just means that I see you, I feel connected to you, and I want to see where this goes.
Speaker 1:Oh, that's how you see this.
Speaker 2:I'm saying because you love, can you really love some? I, I see you. I love you the first moment I lay my eyes on you oh I feel like loving is a part of the growth of the evolution of evolution. Thank you, better word of the relationship, but love at first sight is like a cliche of saying like but you can't have some form of love at first like yeah, when you meet somebody, the first one I want to spend my life with, right there, at the first onset of it, yeah.
Speaker 2:I feel like there's an attraction.
Speaker 1:Not a physical attraction.
Speaker 2:No, it could be physical. But that ain't love then I mean but I'm saying it could be physical. That's what I'm saying. Love at first sight is like a whole conglomerate of things to dissect, though.
Speaker 1:Here's the thing though.
Speaker 2:That's how I feel.
Speaker 1:This is what I want to say to anyone that's you're in a relationship and you're thinking about getting married or you're proposing, or whatever. You cannot care about what everybody else think, because I would have married you sooner, I would have married you sooner and I would have married you sooner and we would have started our journey sooner if I didn't care about what everybody else thought and what I liked, about what I really appreciated in the beginning of our journey, when I did propose to you. You know, this gentleman came up to me and said man, you were married to her before you even signed that paper. Y'all spirits were connected and that helped me out a lot. You just know when your spirit is connected to somebody, okay, this is the one right here and it is what it is. This is who I'm going to be with. Forget what everybody else talking about. This is it.
Speaker 2:I like that, however, however Forget what everybody else talking about this, is it? I like that, however.
Speaker 1:However, dot dot, dot, dot dot dot.
Speaker 2:I feel like that because you did care. You know what people thought and we didn't get married. When we got married, that that's just how it was supposed to happen.
Speaker 1:I mean, I get that. You know what I'm saying. I get that's how it was supposed to happen. I mean, I get that. You know what I'm saying. I get that's how it was supposed to happen. I get that. But I still say, if I didn't give a damn like I don't give a damn now I would have married you sooner, would have been, and I don't have no regrets we would have been a lot further than we are right now. I'm the same man with the same vision.
Speaker 2:Yeah, have no regrets we would have been a lot further than we are right now. I'm the same man with the same vision, same game plan. I hear you, I get that too, and I know oxymoron.
Speaker 1:I mean it's not at all, and I don't regret it. I'm just saying, though, if I didn't care about what other people thought about the time and I would have married you sooner the beliefs and things like that wrapped around I would have married you sooner period I beliefs and things like that wrapped around you.
Speaker 2:I would have married you sooner period.
Speaker 1:I appreciate that you know what I mean. So, just like Fantasia, I probably wouldn't have gotten married in three weeks, though. Okay eight months, probably so Nine, 10, 11, 12, at least.
Speaker 2:No, one year instead of two, one year instead of two, yeah.
Speaker 1:One year instead of two, year instead of two because that, yeah, one year instead of two. I would get instead of two. That man did it in three weeks, sheesh yeah, now, that's what I'm saying.
Speaker 2:Like I do feel like you're gonna have that connection with a person and, like you said, from a man perspective, which I don't know anything about, but basically what you said, he knew, he knew that's a man knows uh, listen, were they in love he?
Speaker 1:he loved enough to propose to her right. He loved her enough to do that.
Speaker 1:He loved enough to know but you think he loved her enough to know that this is the woman that he wanted to spend the rest of his life with.
Speaker 1:Real men, men that that that reverence god know for sure when that right real men know for sure when the right woman comes along into his life, he, he knows for sure that that is the woman he's supposed to be with for the rest of his life. And yes, that is love, because love is a spiritual thing and love is evolution. But men that follow God, men that have a vision, men that have a a sensitive ear, and they we know, we know, we know when, that when the wife show up and she's when the right one shows up, yeah, like we know. That's just the reality of things, that it's hard to explain it. Maybe you can get a psychologist to come over here and explain it. But real men and I don't even want to just say real men, men that like reverence God and on a mission to have a wife and have goals, and we know when the right woman shows up, and that's for us, though, Right.
Speaker 1:Our internal world is just.
Speaker 2:It's nurturing to our spirit so, thinking about it, I'm thinking about and reflecting back something that you just said is that, as it relates to you, but also since we're talking about fantasia and kindle, I feel like maybe he didn't care what people thought he didn't, so he said so he was at a different level. He was in this, he was older.
Speaker 1:right, that's exactly what hearing you. So he said it was at a different level. He was older Right.
Speaker 2:That's exactly what hearing you made me think about, so he was at a different level in his life. He met this woman. He said you know what I didn't?
Speaker 1:have my. That's my woman, that's my woman, that's my one, I didn't bend Listen. Just be honest, though especially at their age, when you're in your, let's say, late 20s, 30s, middle 30s, 40s, you have 50s You've experienced enough people where I know. Now I know for sure this is it?
Speaker 2:There's some wisdom attached to that.
Speaker 1:There's some wisdom. That's what I'm saying about the maturation and your experiences on your journey, right.
Speaker 2:So the maturation and your experiences on your journey Right.
Speaker 1:So when we take the conversation that way, the circumstances were different. Now, when you were young. So you're like 20 years old and you say, oh, I fell in love with another 20 year old, I'm not saying it can't happen, but it's a bigger risk in that, right, because you're so immature, you don't have a lot of experience under your belt. Your prefrontal cortex needs not even you're not mature, right, right, you know, but in their phase, in their phase of life, and where they were in life, what they had already gone through individually I believe in it.
Speaker 2:Yeah, I believe in it I believe in it wholeheartedly I see that I'm convinced, I'm and I'm convinced, through you know, diving, through this conversation, that it was love.
Speaker 1:Yes, you can fall in love within three weeks and propose to someone. Yes, hell yeah.
Speaker 2:Yes, yes, hell yeah. Yeah, but a younger person, like you said, may fall in love and know that's their person but, based off their lack of maturity, they still care what people think.
Speaker 1:Matter of fact, I need to wait. I need to wait. A sign of you caring is a sign that I need to wait. Yeah, I need to wait, because I still care about what outsiders think. Right, there's no way a successful marriage will be successful if you care about what the outsiders think.
Speaker 2:Yeah, that's true. Yeah, that's true. Shout out to Kendall and Fantasia on that note.
Speaker 1:Shout out to them we done broke this one down.
Speaker 2:That's a pretty dope story, though. That's pretty cool, and to see just the evolution in Fantasia's career, which also obviously impacts their marriage, their children, it's pretty cool.
Speaker 1:Because Fantasia been through it. Man, love is dope, love is dope man. Love is dope, love is dope man yeah love is pretty dope, love is dope, and being broken and then finding love to heal your brokenness is even doper.
Speaker 2:With the right person, with the right person, and it feels right, listen, it's a great feeling.
Speaker 1:I wish everyone that wants it and desires it get a chance to experience it. I do. It's a great thing, you know. So we broke that down. Clear, yeah, glow Crewman on crewman, yeah. But anyway, man, we broke that. We don't even need to go into more details. We can.
Speaker 2:We can go into more details, but we are just saying fall in love.
Speaker 1:If that's what you want.
Speaker 2:No, I'm saying fall in love if that's what you want, If it feels right. You guys on the same page. Spirits and energies are connected, Don't care what people think.
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Speaker 2:Yeah, today we talking about relationships and can you fall in love in three weeks? Because we also believe that two is better than one. For sure, two is better than one.
Speaker 1:Two is better. Do you understand me? Life is so much easier when you're working with a person yeah listen.
Speaker 1:I know social media may paint a picture that you don't need a man or a man don't need a woman, and have us warring against each other, but that is some bs. Life is much easier when you have a partner to go through life with, to share your problems with, to overcome problems to build with, to have holding your hand, to coach you, for you to coach them. Life is so much easier that way. Matter of fact, the number one finance hack to being a multimillionaire is getting a partner and working towards generational blessings. Right, that's. Having someone is much, much, much easier. Being loved on that nighttime is much easier. Being rubbed on at nighttime is a good thing.
Speaker 2:If you're watching your favorite show right there, listen I I love love for people.
Speaker 1:I love love for people. I love people. I love when people create them, their lives, for themselves. If this is what you desire, I'm saying, let's go after the life that you desire. At the end of the day, we we out of here. That's that. Love y'all. Peace, see you next time. Peace, some love child. Love child. Get you some love. Love you, love you, get you some love.