Mother's Day: Honoring Your Parents as an Adult

Every Mother's Day, while families celebrate with bouquets and brunches, not all of us are reaching for the confetti. On "Demo with Mo," we peel back the layers of this holiday to explore the pain, love, and complexity that come with maternal relationships. Some of us might be gearing up for joyous festivities, but for others, it's a time that highlights strained or broken bonds. This episode is a tribute to every shade of mother-child connection, offering understanding without judgement and a safe space to navigate the mixed emotions this day can stir up.

The issue of obeying versus honoring our parents is a debate that doesn't just ruffle feathers—it can churn up a whole storm. I share my insights from a recent thought-provoking sermon that sparked a fiery discussion around this topic, especially within the Christian community. We'll sift through scriptural teachings, contrasting the call for children's obedience with the adult responsibility to honor, and why these distinctions matter. It's more than just semantics; this conversation is about the intersection where personal growth, mental health, and spirituality meet family expectations.

Finally, as Mother's Day looms, we turn our attention to the art of setting boundaries. It's a skill that can transform our relationships with our parents into something respectful and truly honoring—without stifling who we are. We reflect on the importance of including those who've shaped us in our joys and successes, and extend a hand of comfort to those who may be grieving. So join us on this heartfelt journey through the trials and triumphs of parental relationships, and perhaps you'll discover a new perspective on what it means to honor our parents.

Transcript

Speaker 1: 0:06

What's up, guys? Welcome to Demo with Mo. I'm your host, monique Simmons. We'll be discussing dating, engaged and married objectives from a young Christian's perspective. Are you guys ready? Let's dive in. Hey, what's up, guys? Welcome to a new episode of demo with mo. I am your host, monique simmons. I hope you enjoyed the kickoff of season seven on last week.

Speaker 1: 0:36

Today we're going to be discussing honoring your parents as an adult and what that can look like. If you are listening to this live. We are getting ready to go into Mother's Day weekend and celebrate Mother's Day, which I'm excited about because, as you guys know, if you've been with me any amount of time, I am a mother. I still don't have plans yet. I still don't know what I'm going to be doing. I don't know what my husband and our babies which they're not babies anymore, but what our kids have planned for me, and I have not made any plans for myself yet. So I don't know what I'm going to be doing, but I do know I am excited because this is a day I get to celebrate myself and this is a day that my husband and my kids usually celebrate me. So I'm really excited about that. Um, transparent moment.

Speaker 1: 1:35

Um, mother's Day is usually a difficult time for me, if I'm being completely honest, it's a holiday that is commercialized in a way where we celebrate mothers and is talked about in a way where the picture is painted that we should celebrate our mothers and be thankful for our mothers and appreciate our mothers which, don't get me wrong. I agree with that and we should, we really, we really should. But I also struggle with the fact that I know everyone does not have that. Everyone doesn't have that relationship with their mom and I speak from personal experience which we'll get into a little bit in this episode today. But everyone does not have that relationship with their mom the way that is talked about and commercialized on TV and social media. Commercialized on TV and social media. And it's not because it's not coming, because I know so many people who struggle in their relationships with their mom, men and women. I know so many people. That's the crazy thing. I know so many people who have difficult, layered, hard relationships with their mom and it's generations of people. I know many different age demographics who struggle in their relationships with their mothers. Different nationalities across the board struggle in their relationships with their mom. But it's such a stigma to talk about it. It's such a common thing to talk about different difficult relationships with dads and fathers like dads who are not in the home or dad beat dads and I'm using quotations because so many people talk about that and make that such a common thing but it's such a stigma to talk about difficult relationships with moms. So, again, that's why I'm saying Mother's Day is a difficult time for me and I know it's a difficult time for so many.

Speaker 1: 3:53

I know there are a lot of you who are going to be listening, who are actually listening to me right now, and you may be struggling in your own relationship with your mom, and when I say struggling, I don't mean where you're non-contact or you don't talk to your mom. Some of you struggle with your relationship with your mom and you talk to your mom every day. You are in relationship with your mom and you talk to your mom every day and you still struggle in your relationship with your mom. There are so many things that you guys don't address in your relationship. There's an elephant in the room. There's difficult things from your childhood and your past that you can't talk about because your mom won't address it or you're afraid to address it. There's things that you wish you could talk about, that you wish you felt comfortable to talk about. But you talk about it with your friends, or you talk about it with your spouse, or you talk about it with your friends' moms because you feel more comfortable sharing with them than you do with your own mom.

Speaker 1: 4:52

So when I say difficult relationships, I don't mean just because, again, this is layered. I don't mean you not having a relationship with your mom, and for some of you that does mean no relationship with your mom. For some of you it is no contact. For some of you you haven't spoken to your mom for years or for months, or you did have to go no contact because the relationship got so toxic or you had to set boundaries and this was what was best for you and your family. Again, it's so layered and it's so different. And it's so layered and it's so different and it's so hard and it's not talked about enough. So I'm talking about it.

Speaker 1: 5:31

I'm saying a difficult thing to say and I'm saying what so many don't talk about but wish somebody would talk about it. And there's so many people who are hurting. There are so many women who are hurting, who wish they had their relationship with their mom and they desire to have their relationship with their mom. And there are so many men who are hurting, who wish they had their relationship with their mom, who are dying to have their relationship with their mom, who wish they could say the things to their moms that they say with their girlfriends and with their spouses. And there's so many moms who are hurting, who desire to have their relationship with their daughters and desire to have their relationship with their sons, but for some reason they don't know where to start. They don't know what to say, they don't know how to apologize. Maybe it's pride, maybe it's been too long. Too many years have passed, too much hurt is there.

Speaker 1: 6:32

Yeah, mother's Day is coming up and everybody is not excited about it and everybody doesn't have good feelings about it. And some people struggle with not knowing how to feel about it. And some people are excited about it, like myself, and still struggle with the feelings that they have about it with their own mom. Two things can be true Because I'm excited about it to celebrate it with my husband and with our children and my beautiful family, and I'm excited about it to celebrate myself, but I also am sad about it. Sometimes I dread the day when it comes, because I don't have those beautiful memories that so many people talk about words to share, about the relationship with my mom and all of the things that we shared and all of the ways that she poured into me, and all of the things that so many people share all over social media. And sometimes I sit at home and cry solid tears and don't share with anybody. You know, and I know that it's not only me. I know that it's felt for so many, so many women and so many men, so many little boys and so many little girls.

Speaker 1: 7:54

And again, two things can be true, and I told you guys last week season seven was going to be different. Last week, season seven was going to be different. I knew as the months in between, when we were on season break and as I was in therapy, doing work with my therapist, closing a lot of doors and opening new chapters. Going into this new season, I was going to be sharing a lot more of my story, things that I didn't share before because I was afraid of how others would feel and what people might think, and parts of my story that I didn't share because I didn't want to offend anybody or I didn't want people to think certain ways about other people, and that door has closed in my life. That door has closed. So I'm owning my story, every part of my story, because it belongs to me.

Speaker 1: 8:52

So let's go ahead and dive into today's episode honoring your parents as an adult, and what that looks like, even when your relationships aren't the best, because, again, every relationship is not the same for all. Some people have great relationships with their parents, which is a beautiful thing and something I think we all should strive for. If we have that opportunity and if we can, I honestly believe we should all strive to have great relationships with our parents, and parents should strive to have great relationships with their children. So a few months ago at church and I won't be giving any details of who or where or anything like that, but a few months ago at church we had a visiting preacher and he preached this message and I'm just going to be honest y'all. It had me upset. I'm just going to go ahead and put that out there.

Speaker 1: 9:55

It had me completely upset, so upset that I came home and told my husband about it. I was pacing across the floor. I kept him up all night talking about it because he wasn't in church with me. I paced across our bedroom floor talking about it and the next day I reached out to the group chat. You guys, if you know, you know, if you don't know, you know you ain't been rocking with me for a minute, but those who've been here you know. I reached out to the group chat, my girlfriends and all of them are Christians, and I reached out to them and explained to them everything that happened and they were just as dumbfounded as I was. I just wanted to talk to other people to just make sure I was not crazy.

Speaker 1: 10:45

Okay, so we had this visiting preacher to come to our church and he preached this message when it comes to the Word of God, I'm gonna always go to scripture. Okay, so he preached this message it came for. If you want to go read it for yourself, this message it came for you want to go read it for yourself? Ephesians six and three is the scripture he was referencing. For this particular part that he was talking about. He was referencing children obeying their parents. Okay, so he's talking about and I'm not even gonna get into everything he was talking about for this specific part he was talking about children obeying your parents, and he said that that doesn't end when you become an adult. Okay, so are y'all with me? He said I don't know where we got this from, but that doesn't stop when you become an adult. You still are to obey your parents as an adult. But Ephesians 6 and 3 says God's word, says I want you to get your Bible or, if you have a Bible app, go to Ephesians 6 and 3. This is written by the apostle Paul.

Speaker 1: 12:01

Ephesians 6 and 3 says children, obey your parents. Okay, and I want you to go back and read all of it for yourself for context, because this is what when he's giving, he's giving everyone what to do. He first starts with the children, then he goes to the parents, then it's. I'm not even gonna go through all that with you, because I teach Sunday school and then y'all, I go from podcast to Sunday school teacher. We're not going to go into all that. Okay, I'm getting upset right now, y'all, and this was a couple months ago. But he said this does not end when you become an adult. I don't know who said that or where we got that from, but this does not stop when you become an adult. As an adult, you still should be obeying your parents. This is not just for children, even though the Bible clearly says children obey your parents. This does not just stop with children. I don't know where we got that from, but as an adult, you still are to obey your parents.

Speaker 1: 13:16

And then he goes on because he was 10 toes down. He was 10 toes down Because I'm like maybe I'm misunderstanding what he's saying. And as he's talking, and as he's talking, people are saying amen, amen and amen, and it's mostly older adults that are saying amen. So now I'm getting even more upset. So then, because I told y'all, he's 10 toes down into his statement. He goes on to say he gives the example. He says yes, it don't matter when I got married, if my mom was to call me and tell me to come take her somewhere, I don't care what I'm doing, I'm going to stop and take her to do it Because you obey your parents, even as an adult, even as a married adult. His words ten toes down, okay, and people are saying amen, okay, okay. So let's go on, cause we're going to stick with scripture, cause I feel my blood pressure rising, okay.

Speaker 1: 14:33

So second Timothy two and 15 says study to show that self-approved unto God, a workman that needeth not to be ashamed, rightly dividing the word of truth. So I came home, I told you. I came back home, I was upset. I talked to my husband, I talked to my girlfriends and I wasn't even I was upset. I talked to my husband, I talked to my girlfriends and I wasn't even though I was upset about him coming across a pulpit preaching that and talking about that. I I yeah, if I'm being perfectly honest, I was really upset about that, and it wasn't about so much as him as a person, it was just him in his position, preaching and teaching this to people and people hearing this and taking this as the truth, because that is not biblically sound.

Speaker 1: 15:30

You do not have to obey your parents. As an adult, the commandment is to honor thy father and mother. That is a commandment for us. We are to honor our parents so that our days may be long. Yes, that is what scripture says. A commandment for us is and that's even as an adult, we are to honor our parents. We don't have to obey our parents. As children, as kids, as youth, we had to obey our parents. They had authority over us when we lived in our homes, yes, but as an adult. God says that we have to honor our mother and our father, we have to honor our parents. So to be saying this and you in a position of leadership to people, especially people who it's Some people hold that position that he carries in such esteem where you can say no wrong, you can do no wrong, a lot of people are not studying the word of God for themselves.

Speaker 1: 16:40

As 2 Timothy says, to study, to show that self-approval done to God.

Speaker 1: 16:46

Some people are not doing that. So they're listening to everything you're saying and they're taking it as that's it. If it's being said across this pulpit, that's it. If it's being said across this pulpit, that's it. I'm not going to study myself, so I can't go back to you and be like well, I know you said this, but when I go back to the word of God, that's not what it's saying.

Speaker 1: 17:06

Or when I spent time with God in his word and I really talked to him about this because that's what I did, even though I knew this was not right when I heard it, because of my own personal relationship with God and my own journey with God and me being in the word daily myself with God I knew it wasn't true. When I heard it, like I already knew this and my own journey with with honoring my own parents and setting boundaries and having that kind of relationship with my own parents. I already knew this. But when he said it, my ears just shot up and my blood began to boil because everybody is not there. Everybody is not where I am, especially and I'm not trying to, I am not trying to portray I'm somewhere that I'm not. I'm flawed and sinful and make a whole lot of mistakes. But in this specific area, when it comes to parents and my own journey with God and trying to figure out that and be respectful and honor my parents as well as set boundaries and all of that man, I've been on that journey for years, trying to figure that out and honor my parents as well as honor my relationship with God and put him first. I've been on that journey for years.

Speaker 1: 18:20

Because the issue with that is when you are saying that across the pulpit or anybody saying it, when you're telling people that and you're talking to people that's susceptible, who are not studying for themselves and they don't know, imagine how harmful that can be. Because what if you're talking to somebody who has toxic parents, parents who are not saved parents, who aren't walking with God, who don't trust God, who don't know God and you are, because this was being preached in church. So you got to assume that these people are trying to build a relationship with God, have a relationship with God, want to know God in some kind of way. Okay, so you're making this kind of assumption. So imagine if their parents don't want that at all or don't want that for their child. Their parents don't want that at all or don't want that for their child. What if they're trying to deter that? What if their toxicity is getting in the way of their relationship with God? What if they're trying to keep them from God and you're telling them that you have to obey your parents? What if they've been trying to set boundaries with their parents? Get in a healthy place with their parents where they're still honoring them, but also setting healthy boundaries with them where they don't get in the way of their relationship with God. They've been doing it. Maybe they've been doing working therapy.

Speaker 1: 19:50

Or they hear from somebody that has been walking with God for a while that, no, you obey your parents. Even as an adult, you obey your parents. What if they hear that and now they throw everything away. They've been doing, all the healthy stuff that they've been doing. They now throw that away because they've heard you say no, you obey your parent, even as an adult.

Speaker 1: 20:15

Oh, I thought you were supposed to have boundaries. Oh, I thought I should put God first. Oh, I'm supposed to obey my parents. Oh, my parents say I shouldn't be studying. Oh, my parents say I should still be in relationship with them. Oh, my parents say I should let them borrow money anytime. Oh, my parents say I should be doing all these things that aren't right, aren't healthy for me. Oh, but this preacher or this Christian that's been walking with God told me I should obey my parents, even as an adult, even if that hurts me.

Speaker 1: 20:51

So yeah, honoring your parents, honoring your father and your mother, does not mean obeying them. If obeying your parents hurts you, obeying your parents meaning dishonoring God. If obeying your parents is going to take you away from God, if obeying your parents is not what's best for you in your walk with God, your well-being, your mental health, your physical health. No, you honor your mother and your father. You honor your mother and your father. You don't obey your mother and your father. You obey your parents as a child because they have authority over you, all of my kids. I have authority over them. They're all under the age of 18. They still live in my home. I still have to take care of them, I still have to provide for them. But once my kids are out of my home and of age, yes, they still have to honor me. I hope they honor me. I want them to honor me. I've invested in them. I've built that relationship with them. I really hope for that. I love my children, but do they have to obey me? No, I won't dictate that they don't have to obey me.

Speaker 1: 22:22

So yeah, genesis 2 and 24 says Therefore, a man should leave his father and his mother and hold fast to his wife, and they shall become one flesh. This is God's word. When a man and a woman get married, they leave their father and their mother and the two of them become one flesh. They separate from their fathers and their mother. They leave their parents home. And not only do they leave their parents home longer two, they're one flesh. So how can I obey my parents and I'm now one with my spouse? The two are no longer two, they're now one flesh with each other, and God set this in order. This is God's word. Therefore, a man shall leave his father and mother, hold fast to his wife, be united with his wife, and the two shall become one flesh. You're now one with your spouse. You don't have to obey your parents anymore. You honor your father and your mother.

Speaker 1: 23:49

Now, what does it mean to honor? What does that look like? Let's first talk about what does honor mean. Honor means consideration, respect, esteem, admiration and high regard. You consider your parents, you show them consideration, you respect them, you esteem them, you hold them in high esteem, admiration, you admire them and you hold them in high regard. So how can you honor your parents as an adult? What are some practical things you can do, or what can this look like? One you can take an interest in their lives and in their feelings, and maybe this is something you've never thought about, especially if you don't have a close relationship with your parents, or even if you do have a close relationship with your parents, especially when you're switching over from that child-parent type of dynamic to an adult-adult dynamic, because that can be a hard transition. Sometimes parents have a hard time adjusting from that parent-child dynamic, because when you become an adult, you don't really need that parent-child dynamic. You need more of an adult-adult dynamic with your parent. So that could be a good way of honoring your parents, because now you can see your parent is a human being.

Speaker 1: 25:37

And that may sound weird to say, but that helped me in my relationship with my mom, because my mom and I we've had a difficult relationship as long as I can remember, and I say difficult because things have been up and down since maybe my preteen years. A lot of things from my childhood are difficult for me to remember, but my mom and I have always had a up and down relationship and for so long I only saw her as my mom. Even in my adulthood I only saw her as my mom. But sometimes not even sometimes, let me not say that we have to see our parents as human beings. They're not just moms, they're not just dads. They are men and women who were once you. They were once little girls, little boys, teenagers, young adults. They had their own journeys too and you have to see them as people. You really have to see them as people and it helps you have compassion and show them grace and show them mercy and be able to see them past their mistakes, past the things where you feel like they could have done better, past the bad decisions or whatever. Whatever it is that you see wrong, it helps you see past it and see them just as human beings, the same as you. And I hope one day that my kids will be able to show me the same grace on some of the same mistakes that I've made, because I'm a human being as well flawed human being, who's made a lot of mistakes along the way.

Speaker 1: 27:30

So, taking an interest in your parents' lives and in their feelings because, man, do they have feelings. They get hurt, they get upset, they have joy, they have happiness all of the feelings, man. So take an interest in their lives and their feelings. When the last time you asked your parents what they have going on in their life, do they have hobbies? Do they have things that make them excited? What movies you like to see? What's your favorite genre of music? When, when the last time, seriously, have you taken an interest in your parents' lives and how do they feel? Like? How you doing, Like legit, how you doing? Like when the last time have you done that? So, even though I'm making this episode, I'm going to be asking myself these same questions. So, yeah, two work together on setting clear boundaries.

Speaker 1: 28:26

This one right here is a ding, ding, ding for me. This one really helped me, especially when it came to my relationship with my mom, and I am focused and I keep saying my mom, not my dad. Y'all may hear me saying that. And I'm focusing on my mom because, again, if you're listening to this live, we're getting ready to celebrate Mother's Day, so I'm focusing on mom because it's Mother's Day. So that's the only reason. I don't want y'all to think that I'm calling out my mom and not my dad, but that's the only reason because we're getting ready to celebrate Mother's Day. But this one really helped me in my relationship with my mom and I learned this through the work with my therapist in therapy, so working together on setting clear boundaries. And if you're in therapy, if you're not ready to have that conversation with your parents and I'm saying parents because this episode is honoring your parents as an adult you may need to set those boundaries with both of your parents or one or the other. But if you're not ready to have that conversation with your parents just yet, you can do that work with a therapist. If you are seeing a therapist, you can have that conversation with your therapist about what those boundaries could look like and how do you begin sending them, how you feel comfortable having that conversation with your parent or parents and first have that conversation with a therapist. And if you're not in therapy currently, maybe you can journal out and write out some notes, or even writing a letter, on exactly what you want to say or what type of boundaries you need to set before having that conversation with your parent or parents.

Speaker 1: 30:16

And people hear boundaries and for some reason it makes them afraid or scared or nervous. But boundaries are a good thing. If you are setting them correctly, if you're doing them the right way, boundaries are not a bad thing. People hear boundaries and automatically they think it's a bad thing, but it's not. Boundaries are what helps keep the relationship healthy and a good relationship, because relationships that you don't have healthy boundaries in, those are the relationships that end up failing or end up being unhealthy or toxic or they don't work out, and that's not what you want, especially when it comes to your parents, because those are the relationships. You want them to be good. Your parents, like you, want to have a good relationship with your parents. So, again, having boundaries with my mom really helped our relationship.

Speaker 1: 31:12

Three tell them about your life. At the end of the day, your parents want to be a part of your life. They want to know what's going on. You don't have to give them all intimate details. Tell them all your business, because you know you might be private, because I'm a private person myself, even though I'm very transparent. A lot of things I am very private about. I share things that I want to share, that I feel God is leading me to share or I feel comfortable sharing. But a lot of things I keep close to the chest, a lot of things my parents don't know about me at all. I just I mean, when it comes to my parents, my in-laws, my grandparents, they don't know about my life. You know, my husband and I share very little and it feels like my husband we wouldn't share anything. If I'm being completely honest with my husband, he is very private. He doesn't share nothing. He's a vault. So share with your parents things that milestones you know promotions on a job, you know big things. You know that your parents would care about, make them feel a part of your life.

Speaker 1: 32:25

Four express your appreciation for them If there was things that they did for you, no matter what it is, and even if you guys don't have the best relationship. I already told you about my mom and I's relationship and I want to be clear on this. Even though my mom and I have had a difficult relationship, I continue to put the work in to have a better relationship with my mom, because that's something that's important to me. Something important to me is having a great relationship with my mom. That's something that I have always desired, so I continue to work at it. I continue to try to do the work to grow in that relationship, to have a better relationship with her. So, even if it's not the best relationship and even if there are some negatives and even if things could be better you don't always have to focus on the negatives. Express your appreciation for the good things, the things about them that you do appreciate.

Speaker 1: 33:28

Something that I appreciate about my mom is when it comes to my children, her grandchildren. She's always been good to them Whenever I needed her, if I needed her to babysit, if I needed her to do something for them, if it was their birthdays, anything that comes to her grandchildren. If she is here because my mom doesn't live in the same state as me anymore. But if she, when she was here, if she was available which is 95 percent of the time she was available my mom is going to show up. She's not going to ask any questions. No excuses. No, I can't do it. I'll see what I can do. I don't know if I'm going to be available. None of that. My mama would never give me any of that. Yes, I'll be there, and if I give her a time, if I say seven o'clock, my mom is in my driveway at 645. Mom, I'm not ready yet, but come on, come on, girl. You know, and that's who she was when it came to my children, you know. So I appreciated that.

Speaker 1: 34:34

So, even if it was some other things that I didn't like or rubbed me the wrong way or hurt my feelings when it came to that, I appreciated that so freaking much. You know what I'm saying. So express your appreciation for them. So, even if it is some things, that there's some negatives that you didn't like or you could focus on, what about the things you do like? What about the things you do appreciate? Express that, you know, and that's a plug for your marriage too, even if it's some things. Or your relationship, even if it's some things you don't like, or you can always point out the bad. What about the good you do like? Point that out Six. Speak good about them to others.

Speaker 1: 35:19

Again, let's piggyback off the previous one. It's easy to see the negative, so it's easy to talk about the negative. But the good, talk about the good and not just express it to them but talk about it to others. Okay, nobody's perfect, which means no parent is perfect. Man, man do I know is perfect. Man, man do I know. But, man, talk about the good in your parents and express that to others.

Speaker 1: 35:56

My relationship with my dad it has been a difficult one the past few years. A difficult one the past few years and you will never hear me talk about this often. It's a very sensitive one for me. You will never hear me talk about this often. I'm just going to be real. You'll never hear me talk about this often, but you'll never really hear me bad talk my dad. You'll never really hear me talk negatively about my dad. You'll hear me talk positive things about him. So speak positive about your parents to others, even if you can have negative things to say. That's how you can honor your parents. God knows. God knows everything, every mistake, every hurt, every wrong. God knows. You understand what I'm saying.

Speaker 1: 36:56

Seven, let them make mistakes. I know this one right here can be hard, and this one is hard for me. Me, it may not be hard for you, but it's hard for me. Let them make mistakes. They are human, they are flawed, they are sinful people. Lord, they are sinful people, but so are we speaking from a parent. Myself I made mistakes. One of the things that I've learned and I hope my parents get this one day my mom has done better at this. She's done better at this. One of the things that I've learned as a parent, even in all my flaws and all my mistakes.

Speaker 1: 37:47

One thing I'm going to do every time, even if I make a mistake, every other day I'm going to apologize to my babies. Mama had a bad day, mama messed up big time. I'm so sorry, I didn't handle that right. I didn't say that right. I'm so sorry. Even if my kids had to go sit on the therapist's couch one day and talk about me to their therapist, what they will be able to say, my mama always came back and made it right. She always apologized. So let your parents make their mistakes because they're humans and they're flawed, and I hope that your parents apologize to you and if they haven't, I hope one day that they will learn. But even if they don't just know that they are flawed individuals, they are humans, they are sinful And're going to make mistakes, and so are you. And I'm not telling you that they're justified and that makes everything okay. I am not one bit at all saying that. But what I am saying is they will make mistakes and, last but not least, mistakes.

Speaker 1: 39:03

And last but not least, eight pray for them. Pray for them. Pray for their hearts, pray for their minds, if they're not saved. Pray for their souls that they may come to know Christ as their savior. If they are saved. Pray for their walks that they will stay this journey, stay this course. That they won't give up, that the temptations of this world won't weigh them down.

Speaker 1: 39:33

Pray for their relationships with their spouses if they're married. If they're not, pray for them in their singleness. Pray for their relationships with you and your siblings, if you have them. Just pray for them from the top of their heads to the sole of their feet. Just cover them in prayer, even if you don't have a relationship with them some of you may be non-contact. Pray for them anyway. I understand. I promise I understand, even if you don't have the words.

Speaker 1: 40:04

Say Lord, cover this, even when you don't want to pray for them. Pray for them Even if the hurt is so deep. Pray for them Even when they don't deserve your prayers. Ask God to help you get to a place where your heart can forgive them so you can pray for them. And this is what honoring your parents in your adulthood looks like. So you don't have to obey your parents as an adult. But God does command you to honor your parents, honor your father and your mother so that your days may be long. And this is not because of them. This is for you. This is the only commandment with a promise attached to it, a promise that your days may be long. So you're doing this to please God and you will be blessed.

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So I hope you enjoyed today's episode. If you're listening to this, live all my moms. I hope you have an amazing Mother's Day and for those of you who may not have such a great relationship with your mom, I cover you in prayer on this Mother's Day, lord. I pray for everyone who's listening who may have a difficult Mother's Day, whether they have a strained relationship with their mom for whatever reason you know.

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Relationship with their mom For whatever reason you know, for those who may have lost their mom, those who may have lost a child, those who may just be grieving on his mother's day for whatever reason, bring comfort, bring peace, bring healing. I just thank you in advance. Give us all what we need, lord, and thank you for being a good God, a mother to the motherless Lord. Everything we need we can find in you, lord. We love you, but we love you because you first loved us. In your son, jesus' name, I pray Amen. All right, guys, remember I love you, but God loves you so much more. Talk to you next week. Bye, I hope you guys have enjoyed. Follow me on Facebook at Demo with Mo. If you have any questions you would like answered here, live on my podcast, email them to me at Demo with Mo at gmailcom. That's D-E-M-O-W-I-T-H-M-O at gmailcom.