Burnout Happens When Life & Business Ignore Your Energetic Blueprint (Brenda Johnston)

Today I’m sitting down with my Canadian sister and subconscious and energetics design strategist Brenda Johnston. We’re talking about burnout, boundaries, and why you’re probably not actually self-sabotaging.

You’re just building a life and business that doesn’t fit your energetic blueprint.

Brenda breaks down how she helps people clear subconscious patterns and design a business that actually feels good. We talk about why mindset work isn’t enough, how energy work gets twisted in the online space, and why you don’t need moon water, a wide-brim hat, or a 12-hour ritual to manage your energy.

We go deep into the difference between grounded energetics and spiritual bypassing. We are chatting sobriety, numbing out, and what it feels like when calm starts to feel unsafe because you’re finally not in chaos.

We also talk about how spiritual spaces can create codependency, how to stop outsourcing your power, and why managing your energy is not a vibe, it’s a responsibility.
You’re not too much. You’re just not in your own energy yet.

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Hey guys. Welcome back to the Samantha Parker show. This is a fun episode. This will actually be the last episode that I'm recording in my office because I'm moving offices and I am so excited because today I'm joined by my Canadian sister. I was like my sister from another country, Brenda Johnston. I would also like to introduce Brenda as a powerhouse subconscious energetics coach, which we need to get into that because that's like a big word, subconscious energetics coach.

So we have to break that down a little bit. But I would also like to say that Brenda and I will also be a peering on Hulu

2030 maybe part docuseries. We'll have a 29 part docuseries coming out. Brenda and I are basically like crime detectives and I would say we spent the spring uncovering one of the biggest scandals in the coaching industry. I swear to God, you'll see a Hulu episode about it. Mm-hmm. It's been an interesting adventure.

I'll say that, but don't worry guys, that's not what we're gonna even talk about today because we have a fake imaginary contract with Hulu. They won't let us talk about Oh yeah, I prac, I, I want you to know I practiced that. Could you tell? Yeah, I could. That was great actually. I thought, it really actually makes me feel like we do have the contract with Hulu, and if we were gonna put that out in the universe, today is a great day to put that out and do the universe.

Yeah. You're into this energy stuff, which I'm, I like energy stuff too. I love talking about it. I love talking to you. It's super cool. At times I think it can feel a little woo woo. And what I like about you is. It's not like weird, woo, it's just normal. Like it feels very aligned with who I am as a person.

It feels very grounding. It feels all those things. But let's just kind of break this down for a second. Subconscious energetics coach. What is that? So I've actually decided that I need to change what I call myself because, it's a lot. So, but it still incorporates that. So I work in the subconscious realm and the energetic realm, and I'm essentially helping people understand how they are uniquely wired, so to speak, or designed energetically to lead and make money and do the things and show up.

And then I help them clear out old beliefs that might be limiting them and we create new beliefs that help support the growth. And it's really cool because so many people, including myself, like years ago. We do all this like surface level mindset work. We journal, we do all the things right, but then nothing really changes.

We keep kind of going back and back and back. So when I started studying the subconscious and like I went to school for hypnosis and all these things for over a year, I had to do in-clinic work 170 hours. So this isn't me going, I learned how to do meditations and now I'm gonna like mind, fuck you all, I can swear on this, right?

No. Mm-hmm. In fact, now we have to trash the whole episode with like absolute bullshit. You just did that. But it's like, I just love it because I don't like wasting time. I like to get in. Get out. I like to help people recognize what's going on, clear the path so they can move forward and keep expanding.

It's like we don't need to dick around. I don't need to take you back to all of your past traumas. I don't need to create codependent relationships with all of you. I want you to have the tools to understand what's going on, why you do certain things that you do, and how to work in your design. And I do use aspects of human design.

I don't talk about that piece a lot because I feel like with so many things like human design, it's all like cute and people are like, I'm a three five manifesting generator. And then they put themselves in these weird boxes and that's just so surface level. Human design is like our blueprint, like our soul's blueprint.

That's what it feels like to me. And so it helps me kind of see. Why you are here, who you're meant to speak to, how you're meant to speak to them, how you're meant to make money. Like it's so much deeper. And then from there, and this is the part that does seem a little more woo, I have the ability to be able to see patterns in energy.

So I can see where there are things limiting you. And then I'm able to guide you to clear that stuff out. Super weird because the way that I look at it is if I notice myself bitching about the same thing over and over again, I'm like, oh my God, you have to do something about that. But that would've taken me a year or two figure out.

Yeah. You know? But that stuff does take us longer to figure out, right? It's like, well, do I wanna stay in this state of like bitching and complaining and what? And listen, a lot of people do wanna stay in that state. I've learned over the years, I cannot help everybody. I cannot work with victim mindset people.

Can't do it 'cause they don't wanna change. Anybody who comes to me is the type of person that wants to change. Maybe they have chaos in their head, maybe they're not clear on stuff. Like my superpower is being able to help women, especially women in business, gets super clear on what they're here to do, how they're gonna do it, and how they wanna make money so it feels good.

And they're not burning out because how many of us have burnt the fuck out multiple times? I'm not available for that anymore. You know what we should do? We should pull up my energy blueprint. Okay. Because I think it'd be really cool 'cause sometimes I'm like, okay, all of these like are great theory, it's great words, you know, me, I'm more of like a show me action person.

But you know what I think Brenda's cool is you work with a lot of my clients and like, I, I just kind of wanna point out the difference here. When you have something going on in your life and you don't like it, it's like the type of people are ready to make a change. But I would even say that like, people come to you who are just like, oh, this is what I'm working on.

How do you think I could just like, take it up a notch? Yeah. A hundred percent what I'm saying. And that's a space I love to be in. And even, a lot of my podcast dives into like sobriety and things like that. And that's the space I love to be in, where it's like, okay, we realize we have this issue, we're fixing the issue, and now we're like, what are we gonna do with that?

Mm-hmm. But it's also interesting because part of your design is to be a role model. It's built into your energy. So you doing what you do in social media, but then also being in the sober space, and you're noticing this too, you're, you attract clients who are in the same energy also, which I did not is why you're here.

Yeah. I did expect that. That's been like my, to me girl last fall when we started talking about things and you were talking about the silver space, I was just like, mm-hmm. She has no idea. I know I was really so worried to start talking about sobriety as like a primary focus, because I was afraid. I don't know why.

I was like, well, is that gonna ruin my entire business? You know what I'm saying? That's where I was at. And then it was funny 'cause right after I got home from California, I had like a couple, like local companies reach out to me and they're like, we've been watching your TikTok. We wanna like do some partnerships.

Then I had a drink company reach out to me and I'm like, well, this is weird, you know? But we were act, that's literally what we were talking about in California. Mm-hmm. I was sitting there going, you know, you could have collaborations with people. It's just interesting. And you know what, it's the same with me.

I, in the beginning, only spoke about the subconscious aspect of what I did. I was still doing the energetic stuff. I just wasn't talking about it because I didn't wanna be clumped in with all of the airy, fairy fluffy bullshit coaches. Manifesting coaches, manifesting coaches. I'm using that lightly, but I didn't wanna be lumped in with them because I'm completely different than that.

I wanna take the woo, so to speak, and make it very practical and easy to understand, like managing our energy. Everybody should be managing their energy. 'cause when you're safe and contained in your own energy, everything starts to become clear. It's a beautiful place to be in. It's not, you don't need 12 hour rituals.

You don't need moon water. You don't need to dance with your wide brimmed hat on the beach. What if I like the wide brim hat? You absolutely can. You've never once seen me in a wide brim hat, so don't worry. I actually have one. I think it's at my parents' house though, but that's from years ago and I would not be wearing it now.

Just 'cause I remember like years ago, I went to this conference in LA it was called The Yellow Conference. It was like, it was big, and I couldn't see because we were probably closer towards the back because every girl had on a wide brim hat, like they were popping. It was kind of like the, early two thousands when you would like layer all the shirts and wear the bobble necklaces and the big belts, you know?

Yeah. It's a thing. They were a thing. They were a thing. You know what, I have a friend who wears one. She looks great in it. I just, it's not for me. She still wears it. Mm-hmm. I bet she rocks it then She does. And she's also not the airy fairy type of person. She's like a badass shaman type of person.

Yeah, that's what I'm saying. A warrior, if you're still wearing 'em, like they fit you, like they're made for you. They weren't just a trend. No. I feel like it was one of, I, listen, I'm really happy that spirituality caught on. I'm really happy that people wanted to explore their energy centers and do all the things.

I'm just not really happy about how it's gone down and how a lot of it's turned into trendy stuff and how a lot of people are actually getting hurt or messed up doing it. Like the people out there who teach people how to work with their chakras, that's great, but what people don't understand is we actually have beliefs in things that live in our energy centers.

So. If you're going to see an energy healer and you're just giving your power away to them and saying, just heal me. But that person maybe doesn't manage their energy properly, they can fucking wake shit up inside of you. They can even imprint their own stuff into your energy if they're not working with energy properly.

And this is stuff I experienced as when I was younger. I experienced people imprinting on me. So it's why I'm really passionate about it. And also, energy is foundational. It is a foundational piece of business. When you manage your energy, you understand how you are designed, who you're here to speak to and how to speak to them.

It's a game changer. Absolute game changer. I bow down. We'll click that one. That was a good one. That was a good soundbite right there. I love it. You nailed that. Okay. You talk about energy as like our own energy. Everything is energy, which it really is, like scientifically even, you know? So it doesn't really matter, like where you sit in like your spiritual beliefs, like everything is energy.

Yeah. And I think we can all collectively agree on that. But also you were telling me today, so what is the date today? So today is June 24th, 2025. Know this podcast will come out like past that, but you were telling me that today is like some sort of magical day and I don't know what you're talking about, but, so like, can we please just tell the class?

Yeah. So there's a new moon tomorrow. It's a new moon in cancer, but what's happening is, and I, I'm just gonna like kind of summarize this. There's a kami happening at the same time. Oh, it's called a Kami. So what that means is that the moon is sitting at the heart of the sun and energy wise. It amplifies the energy.

It's like, you know, if you have a race car and it has normal gas, but then you have that nitrous oxide and you press the button and then your car goes woo and it goes really fast. Yeah, totally. 'cause I like drive rice cures with nitrous oxide all the time. That's a whole other story that I have. But that's, I, but I get it.

I get what you're saying. Yeah. But it, it's supercharging things. So it's supercharging your clarity. It's like this fog is lifting and you're going to be able to finally see what's ready to go out of your life and when you're in this energy. And I think the last time this happened, I think it was 20, I wanna say 2013, but it might have been longer than that.

It's been a while. It doesn't happen all the time, when these particular planets come together. It's really cool energy because when you're setting intentions on a new moon, it's about planting the seeds of what you wanna grow and this energy just amplifies it. So if you're in a season of expansion, this is such a beautiful, the astrologers and the people out there, they will literally call today the most magical and luckiest day of the year, whether it is or not.

I mean, if we believe it is, it is. Yeah. So that's what I say to people. But today is a great day to set intentions, you know? So when I first like came into the online space, you like kind of get bombarded, like it slammed in your face that like your thoughts aren't good enough, you gotta write this down 55 times a day for five days, like all of this stuff.

Or you're not making money because you're not in your feminine flow like it is. Oh God, yeah. It's so bad. So like how do you kind of navigate all that because. Really, I can only speak for myself here, but it fucked me up. Like I thought that like if I was having a bad month, it was because I had bad thoughts, you know?

Oh, it fucked me up too. I mean, I just turned 50. So I'm in the phase of my life now where I've had so much life experience that I've gotten a lot of discernment with what I let in and what I don't let in. And in the beginning, like when I first had my awakening, if we wanna call it that, I've been this way my whole life, but I think it, it got shut off for most of my childhood.

Yeah, I was letting everything in. I was convinced that I didn't know how to handle money because I had bad thoughts about money. I was convinced that if I got money and then money left, that was my fault. I must have had a bad thought. It doesn't work like that. And this is. Years of me having these experiences, years of me working with other people, years of me studying this stuff.

We don't have one bad thought and then everything goes away. It doesn't work like that. If we are constantly stuck in a state where we're only focused on the bad things, then sure bad things are gonna start to show up because our subconscious mind loves proof and evidence. So it will show you more of what you're focused on.

If you're only focused on the bad things, you're going to see the bad things more. That's why I'm always telling people, I'm like, you need to try to focus on the outcomes that you want versus the things that you don't want. Well, and I think that's just living optimistically too, you know? Yeah. And it's not.

Yeah. Instead of like, life is happening to me, it's like life is happening for me, and that can be a huge thing. Who are you being, who are you choosing to be when the things happen? Are you being reactive or are you being proactive? Are you getting sucked into the loop or are you going, oh, this happened.

Okay, now I'm gonna move through it And listen, I'm not saying bypass things. You have to feel the feelings, but don't get stuck in them. Yeah. Well, and that's a huge part of, um, you know, my whole sober, being sober this last year is like, oh, I have to fill these feelings now. Mm-hmm. You know, instead of bypass them or beat myself up about 'em.

It's like sometimes you're just meant to have big emotions. Yeah. And listen, we have thousands of trapped emotions in us. We all do. We don't need to clear them all out. There are some that can cause issues 'cause they can affect our beliefs. And so when I'm working with people that deal with trapped emotional energy, those are the ones we're looking at.

But I, I just feel like the pendulum swings. One way or the other way. And so you get all these people that are like, you have to be high vibe all the time. So I was trying to live my life constantly in that high vibration. Yeah. I remember I made a list light, a candle possible put on music, go for a walk, dance.

Yeah. And it's also funny because I practice and teach and work with feminine and masculine energy in a much different way than most people. Like we're not in the energy, it's part of us, it's part of our system. So years ago when somebody told me it was a coach, actually, they were like, you're too in your masculine.

You need to be more in your feminine, so you need to like stand up and dance during the day. I was just like. You can fuck off. What kind of dance? I just wanna know what kinda dance, right. Probably the kind that I would put a flowy dress on and move and sway and whatever. Like touch yourself awkwardly.

Yeah. But my energy is not designed that way. I actually love being able to work with both of my energies because that's what we're supposed to be able to do. Me the human with the higher consciousness gets to decide which energy is leading the way and which one is supporting. So when somebody says, you're too in your feminine, or you're too in your masculine, that's a big problem for me because that means the person, the human with the higher consciousness has just let their energy run willy-nilly.

Yeah. And that's not how it should be. No, it's not. Okay. Another thing that I think would help people too is when you're looking at all the stuff that you're getting bombarded with online, it's like, this is the way to live your life. Especially with these money people is, I've realized if they're only talking about energetics and they're not actually telling you like what to do, like how to save for taxes, what your client acquisition cost is, like, how much it costs you a month to have a client, where you should be, like divvying up your money, like possible investments, things like that.

Like they're full of shit. Yeah. If that's the type of runaway, because I've also gotten tied into those people in the beginning. 'cause I was just like, oh, I'm just gonna tap into the higher consciousness and bring the money down. No, it's, listen, it's, yes. Money is energy. It is. Mm-hmm. Everything is, but also there are basic and simple principles.

Where's the money being flowed through? Where's the money going? People who come into me, like when I work with people specifically on money mindset stuff, most of them don't even know where the money's coming and going from. They don't even look at their bank account, they don't have a relationship with the money.

You have to have a relationship with your money. And it's the same with marketing. If somebody's like, and this is why I used to hate talking about human design parts, because people would say, well, I'm a projector, so I just have to wait until like I'm invited into something. Okay. And it's like, but that's not reality.

As a projector, yes, you are designed for the invitation, but you also have to apply basic marketing principles. There has to be sales and marketing and delivery. Those are the three basic marketing principles. And it's interesting because all of the business coaches I've worked with don't talk about that stuff.

Don't you find that a little strange? Yeah, that's what I'm saying is, you know, just to kind of roll it back here is you can have like all these big overarching, like energetics, all these things, but you have to be able to like tangibly do something with that as well. Yeah. Now what I will say, based on my experiences, energy is still the foundation of this stuff.

But you have to just like what you're saying, have the tangible aspects because if you don't have the beliefs in place to support what you want to build or do, it's gonna be very hard to do it. 'cause your subconscious is always gonna try to keep you safe and it'll manifest in your life as, it'll seem like self-sabotage, but it's, I don't, self-sabotage doesn't really exist.

No. If you ask me, oh really? What's your thought on that? It's just our subconscious mind trying to protect us. So when I notice myself doing something that would seem like self-sabotage, I stop and I go, okay, what is my mind trying to protect me from here? Because it is trying to protect us. Our subconscious mind is the most beautiful partner and growth that we could ever ask for, but nobody's ever taught us how to speak to it properly.

We've demonized it. We've been like, oh, it's self-sabotage. Oh, it's got all these limiting beliefs. No, just learn how to talk to it better. You'll have better answers. What have, like, what's kind of your opinion on like numbing out? Like where does that fit in everything? Like dissociation kind of numbing out?

Yeah. Or like, you'll scroll social media forever. You'll use substances, you'll, like those kinds of things. Maybe you'll eat a whole pizza. Like everyone has their vices. Yeah, and that's a deeper level of, I still wouldn't call that self-sabotage. I would call that you have something you need to deal with and you're probably not ready to deal with it.

So our subconscious is really cool. It'll suppress things until you're ready to deal with them, and when you're ready to deal with them, it'll bring them to the surface. So when we're numbing out or dissociated or scrolling, that's a good indication that on a subconscious level we're not ready to deal with it quite yet.

Something else has to come into our awareness or something else has to be revealed so that we can step into that. Like when you think about your sober journey, and I kind of know this, but like, what was it that made you go, uh, no, I'm done now. Well, it was a whole series of things, and it was like finally realizing that like I had the tools of resources to be done.

You just said the magic word. It was finally realizing that I had the tools and resources. Yeah, but I think I had him 10 years ago, you know? Yeah. But on a subconscious level, 10 years ago, your system wasn't ready to deal with it. So are you saying that everything happens at the time is supposed to happen?

Theoretically, yes. Can we force things? Sure. But also, I don't want it to sound like I'm saying, oh, just bypass things until you feel ready. Because I know that's what I'm saying is like when do you patch yourself in, like these numb out cycles, you know? I don't wanna use it as like an excuse. No, and you have to, it's self-awareness.

You have to be in so much pain that you're like, okay, I'm done with this now. Yeah. Like you inspired me because of your sober journey and you know this, but I decided to do a little like 30 days of. I think I called it 30 30. 30, which I think today is actually the 30th day. If I look, and it might be because I'm on like 45 or 46.

Yeah, I, so I think, actually, let me look like you might, yeah. The day is day 30 for me. Are you gonna keep it rolling or are you gonna do another 30? Yeah, I'm gonna just keep going 'cause I feel really good. But it was about, I hadn't been eating enough protein and that was affecting how I felt. Like, I felt like shit.

And I wasn't focused on like, consistent training. I would go to the gym and be willy-nilly. And so for me, that was the pain point. I was like, I don't like how I feel. This doesn't feel good. So then I decided to do 30, 30, 30, which was 30 grams of protein at every meal. Moving for a minimum of 30 minutes a day for 30 days, because my brain likes to chunk things down.

I need to have small bite-sized pieces. And anytime I started to go, and yes, I do this for a living, but anytime I started to question things or be like, Ugh, this is so hard, I literally could hear your voice to my head going, we can do hard things. And I would think about you being sober for 365 days. And I was like, I cannot eat gluten for 30 days.

I will be fine. So no, you didn't have any gluten for the last 30 days. Mm-hmm. How do you feel? I kept, I didn't realize it had already been 30 days. Yeah, I'm lying. I think I had gluten like twice. I feel really good, but also that's because I've been eating enough protein and we took steps to help us stay on track by getting like pre-made meals delivered.

Oh yeah. You're doing the factory meals, huh? Yeah. Oh, they're wonderful. Just save time and they're delicious.. But yeah, I just, I feel good.

And then I also started boxing again too, so that was exciting for me. I'll see a video of you boxing. I've been waiting for it like maybe one day you can just get your like a point of view.

Get your phone like right here, hold it between your neck. I did do a reel with me punching, but it was punching with my left hand. 'cause I was trying to get this like cinematic thing and whatever, whatever. We're just not doing that. I feel like if content's too hard, it is like I don't want to do it. And I don't think people should do things that are like, you know what I mean?

Yeah. Do things. And so that brings us back to the energy aspect though, because some people are designed to constantly pump out content and some people are not designed like that. Well, I've even said to my clients, especially lately, and they're like, oh my God, this is so refreshing. But I've been like, okay, like are you good at showing up on camera?

And I'm like, that's not an insult, that's a, can you talk like, can you just riff for three to four minutes? Or you know, is that gonna put you into a coma where you're not gonna send me any videos? Mm-hmm. You know what I mean? Yeah. And I think with a lot of people that I work with, once they start to understand.

The frequency of the people who naturally resonate with them, it becomes easier to show up because they know what those people need to hear from them, and they know who those people are. And it's like, oh, well I can show up like that. I know that when I started doing this for myself and my business, it blew my mind.

I was like, oh, okay. I understand now who I'm supposed to show up for and how I show up doesn't mean we don't help multiple people. It means there's a main frequency of people who resonate with us naturally. People tell me, they're like, they either like you love me or you don't want to be near me. 'cause you're just like, Ooh.

'cause my energy can be a lot. I'm not gonna blow smoke up your bum and I'm not gonna be a cheerleader. But I am very loving and compassionate in my own way. Yeah, I know. Sometimes I'll get that from people where they're like, you're just really hard. And I'm like, well, have you tried, you know? Yeah. It's like, hmm, really?

Yeah. I don't know. I'm getting better at this, you know? I get my feelings for a lot and, but I also feel like once you get to a certain age, you're in a certain life cycle. Right now, I'm in a certain life cycle right now where we don't care about the stupid stuff as much anymore, and we've had conversations.

I'm like, I don't wanna show up on social media. And you're like, well then don't. I'm like, okay. And then I show up because now you've just given me permission not to show up. So I feel better, and then I actually show up. Like, it's a weird, it's a weird cycle. I know I even told you, I was like, if it's easier for you, just like record with your back camera walking, you know, and just record what you're looking at.

Like, I don't, you know, I can show you 10,000 different ways that people have been successful online. Yeah. And the whole, the TikTok thing where you're like, just do B-roll and put like copy on top of it. I was like, I'm allowed to do that. Like I'm allowed Yeah. That I'm good at that stuff. I have so many things I can do that way.

Yeah. I can show you videos like that that have like 12 million views. People just don't realize, you know? It's crazy. But also I recognize what feels good to me and what drains me. Mm-hmm. Just like when you and I met for your session, we talk about, and I'm looking at your sheet right now, but it's like, oh yeah, I haven't forgotten.

We're gonna go through this. Things that drain you is that constant pressure to create, just to be visible. So you get really excited about something and then once you sit with it you might go, I don't actually wanna do that. Yes. Actually I'm notorious for doing that. Mm-hmm.

So let's talk about this though. Our energy profile. So I've worked with Brenda. I have lots of clients that have worked with Brenda.

Brenda has like a very well known like, reputation for doing really great things with amazing people. So Brenda's a baller. She's like, Sam approved. I appreciate damp it on you. You see it, it looks like I'm punching you in the face, but, but I act, I really, really love this. So for me, you did like a whole energy profile on business and leadership.

And I'm just gonna like, just so people can understand it. 'cause again, I'm one of those people that I'm like, can you just like, do something like, gimme some action, like stop talking, you know? Mm-hmm. But I love like how you work best and then you've got like what drains you and who you're meant to lead.

And it was really kind of cool. So do you wanna just, let's go through a little bit of this. Do you mind? No, I don't mind at all. Okay. I liked this, like, what works for me, clear timelines and expectations, collaborative planning with room to think and refine. And it's that right there room to think and refine because I keep telling people, I'm like, they'll come at me and they'll dump a lot of information on me, like, about their businesses, and well even like, if my team's on the call or whatever, and they'll just give me so much, so much, so much.

And then they're like, what do you think we should do? And I'm like, oh, well. We've gotta like pull back and we've gotta like, look at everything that's going on and you have to give, like, there has to be space for creatives. Mm-hmm. You know? Yeah. It's like, it's like you show up at the car dealership and you are like, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.

What's wrong with my car? And they're like, why haven't even turned it on. You know what I mean? They're like, you're gonna have to come back tomorrow. Or you go to a restaurant and you just sit there and you go, I want food. But you don't tell them what you actually want. Gimme food. Well, and for my job too, it's my job is to figure out like what they actually do want to eat.

You know? So it's like, I gotta definitely take some space. Mm-hmm. So I also, that, yeah, that's one of my favorite parts of this report is helping to show people like, it's o this is how you're designed. And it's almost like just how you gave me permission to just show up on TikTok with the B-roll thing, it's like I'm giving people permission to understand, oh, I, it's okay for me to take space.

It's okay for me to be in the creative thing. Like the other thing I would say about all of this is this is not meant to be, it's not meant to put you in a box, and it's also not meant to be used as like an excuse to why you're not showing up. It's why I create these, the way I create them instead of going, here's your human design profile.

Well, it honestly, it's just what you're saying, it's given me permission. And then also I'm able to communicate that a little bit. Like, okay, we need a little bit of space and time to do our creative thing. And people are like, okay, great. But you know, before I wasn't quite sure what was going on.

It just felt overwhelming. Does that make sense? Yeah, totally. And knowing that like your people need to hear from you, like your people that resonate with you, they don't need the superficial hype. They want grounded guidance. They want somebody like you who's saying, listen, you're not doing it wrong. This is part of the process.

This is what goes on, and here's what might actually work if you try this. Okay. And this is actually in my business and leadership energy profile that Brenda did. And you do this for your clients, correct? Yeah. Mm-hmm. Yeah. So I actually have like, it's interesting because I have a new. Thing now where you can come and just do this with me and we're not doing any of the transformational stuff, but it's like a good entry point for people if they're just curious about this type of work.

But this is my favorite stuff because when you understand yourself, I feel like it makes it easier to show up more authentically and not be afraid to show up. Because you have clarity. Well, yeah. It's like, this is who I am instead of me showing up. It doesn't feel good. Someone might get mad and then what I would do is I'd go home and I'd internalize that, you know?

Oh, a hundred percent. And the people who naturally resonate to you as this like mentor, as the role model. And I know, 'cause I'm one of those people, we need trial and error to be normalized. We need to know that it's okay to try something and if it doesn't work, try something else. We need clear and actionable advice that's not gonna overwhelm us.

Yeah. Also, this is in her profile, but for me, the whole idea of having to show up like seven days a week, I was like, oh no, that's a lot. And then if I didn't do it, I would shame myself. But then when you were like, well, what if we did this and you do three of these a week and you do this amount of store, and I kind of looked at you and I was like, oh yeah, I can do that.

Yeah. That feels good to me. Well, that's what I was trying to explain because I've helped Brenda with her content as well, where I was like, well, like what is manageable for you? But also like, let's push you just a little bit, you know? Yes. Because you have to be able to push people outside of their comfort zone.

And that's part of, I joke, but it is part of my life purpose is to create tension in people's lives, but the best possible tension that's gonna help them expand into bigger and better things. Yeah. I'm not here to sugarcoat things. I'm here to help people expand. I love how matter of fact you are and the look on your face, you're like, duh.

Like I'm not Willy Wonka, as I used to say. Come on. The other thing I loved about this too is this is your season and then you had listed some things is to build trust in your voice again. And I feel like just building trust in myself was like the whole underlying theme of last year. I just didn't know it.

You know what I mean? Or I would say the last 365 days, not just like a fiscal year. And create structure that frees you not boxed in. Work with clients who energize you, say less with more impact and own your authority. I just, I loved it. Yeah. Like I about this and I love doing these because yes, I'm looking at aspects of your human design, but I'm also, that's like your fingerprint.

So it enables me to also sit. Look at your energy and go, okay, this is what's going on. This is where she might have some shadows. This is where she might need to work through some stuff. And then, because we were doing the 90 minute session, then we did work through some stuff and we cleared some beliefs and then we created some new beliefs.

Like it gets to be that easy. Yeah. It was really cool. And what I love too is I told you this is like just how calm I felt. Mm-hmm. And so, you know, this isn't just like a huge plug for Brenda, but it is because you're amazing. But like I really feel like people deserve to feel like that calm and peaceful.

So wherever you guys need to get it in your life, like get it, you know? Yeah. And I think it's weird too because most of us have so many survival patterns running, and so when we start to transform things, it can almost be uncomfortable because we don't know what to do with the calm. I talked about this.

Yes, I talked about that on TikTok. Especially 'cause my TikTok is primarily focused on sobriety, and I was talking about that, about how it feels like destructive to be calm. You know, like I feel anxious, I feel like all these different things. And so many people chimed in and they're like, everything you just described is what I'm feeling.

And they're like, when you step back, it's because you're experiencing peace, but you have not lived your life like that. And that's another piece of when you're managing your energy and you're safe and contained in your own energetic field, it becomes easier to be in that peace because you're not pulling in everybody else's energy.

You're not feeling everybody else's. The number of times I hear people go, I'm an empath. It's so hard. Listen, we're all empaths. This is why you need to learn to manage your energy. You're not meant to be pulling everybody else's shit into you. Okay. I heard the best description on path and it resonate. I want, I feel like you're the expert of this stuff though, so tell me, feel like this is true.

Okay, so it was saying that an empath is just someone who had like a traumatic childhood and they had to learn to read people to see what the reaction would be to stay safe. And when I listened to that, I was like, yes. I was constantly reading people in their moods to decide. I remember being like, is it safe to ask if I could go play or not?

And I'd be like, Nope, I'll just play alone in my room. You know what I mean? A hundred percent. Because, and we, we know someone in common who's always saying they're an empath, and I'm like, I'm just not. I think it's just like you learned as a child to read people's emotions and it's just a protective measure.

And like you can put it down. I don't think it's like who you are. No. And it's another one of those labels. It's like saying, I had a client who had a therapist who kept labeling her as things, and so then that became her identity. I was like, but why does that need to be your identity? But it's like what you're saying.

And empaths are actually, we're highly manipulative because from an energetic point of view, we want to control situations so that we don't feel yucky. So as a kid who's very sensitive to things, whether it's a big T trauma, little T trauma, whatever, we're all sensitive to energy. We can all feel it. It's like, okay, well, is it safe to me to ask to go out to play?

Oh, I can feel that in my body that it doesn't feel safe. So no, I'm not gonna do that. And then as we get older, we get into the people pleasing because we want to make sure that the water stays calm. We don't want people to not like us. And so we start manipulating situations to make sure that we are feeling safe and good, but that's not the answer.

The answer is manage your energy so you're not pulling in other people's stuff. And so you can sit there and go, is this mine or is this somebody else's? And do I need to clear something off of me? And listen, you've, everybody listening to this, I'm sure at one point has walked into a room and been like, Nope.

And left because they didn't like the way it felt. You and I have met people where we had many instances of not liking how it felt, and then we gaslit ourself. Into staying in those situations. Oh my gosh. Do you remember when I told you last year? I was like, I just wanted to pack our bags and I was gonna do it all.

I was gonna pack everyone's bags. It was at this thing, this event we were at because it was like, so talk like, I was like, what is happening? And I was gonna, I was like, I was packing Brenda's bag and I was packing someone else's. I'm not gonna name 'em 'cause they're not here. And I was like, we were leaving and I was like getting us an Uber.

And then I was like, okay, you're just being dramatic. 'cause it's like hard work right now. Yeah. But then at the same time I was sitting there going, I need to tell these women that we need to get the fuck out of here. And then I didn't wanna say, and we'll spit out my drink, but that's what was going on.

We were, you and I were having the same thing happening. Do you remember me looking at you? And I was like, yeah. There was multiple times. Mm-hmm. There was multiple times. This is crazy, right? Like, yeah. Nothing about that was a good. I mean, looking back it was good because I can say, wow, look how self-aware we were.

Mm-hmm. But then also, wow, we didn't trust that given, I know I've told you multiple times it was my biggest regret was that I just sat there and like listened to it happen, you know? And instead of said something I told you, like, oh, it like haunts me. But you know what, that's part of the growth and part of recognizing like just how powerful you really are, right?

Because you can see that now and go, okay, yeah, this went down cool. That was a past moving forward. You would handle things differently. So would I. Yeah. And you know what's super interesting is I think if I had been in my drinking space, I would've a hundred percent not even been like in that self-awareness because I would've been like numbing that down. Right. Because there was, there was like drinks flowing everywhere. And if I had still been in that drinking space, I know that I wouldn't have been able to be like, recognize like how toxic that was.

Yeah. And I look at that and think back and I'm like, man, if I didn't manage my energy the way that I do, that situation would've just messed me right up. Yeah. It was so toxic. Like it was so toxic. You could actually feel it in the air, is what I would say. I'm like swimming through it. Swimming, yeah. We're swimming through the toxicity.

But also, I mean that whole situation is essentially what brought you and I so close together. So yeah, I'm grateful for that part of it. Okay. I have to ask you some of these questions that were on my list. Okay. Yeah, because I haven't asked one, but I knew I wasn't gonna even need questions. Sometimes I do a lot of prep for interviews 'cause I've never met the person and a lot of times these are like really badass people and you're a total badass, but like I know a lot about you, so, okay.

How do you personally regulate your energy day to day? Especially as like a coach and entrepreneur? Like what are your non-negotiables? In the morning, I'm sitting for five minutes and I do what is called my daily energy management practice, where I sit, I clear my energy, I ground into the earth, energy and source, and then I'm protected in my bubble.

And if people have never experienced something like this, I'll give you the link. They can go grab my. It's an audio, it's guided. It's four and a half minutes and you can start doing it and you do it daily. When you are safe and contained in your own energy, everything shifts. That is my non-negotiable.

Like if I do not do that before I get out into the world, yuck. And then in between clients, I'm clearing the energy of the client. I'm disconnecting from the client. And when I say I'm disconnecting, I'm never in your energy. Nobody should ever be in your energy. I'm looking at your energy. I'm communicating with it like you and I are communicating.

I'm not in it. Yeah. So, but I still say I disconnect from you. Thank you for allowing me to connect. And then I clear myself. And then at the end of the day, like way end of the day, as I go to bed, I'm having a shower and I just clear myself off again and I reground myself for bedtime and are. I love my nighttime showers.

I'm like, do you? Okay. I don't, this is totally off subject. I'm like, I don't know if I can talk to you anymore. I don't understand people who shower at night and everyone in my house showers at night. I never used to, I think it was my boyfriend who got me started doing that years ago. 'cause he, he did that 'cause of the way he worked.

Like Yeah, that's what Jake showers at night after work. Yeah. And then I just started doing it. 'cause I also realized it was a really quick and easy way for me to clear my energy off because the water helps with that. Yeah. And for me, because I'm also very connected to water, being in the water, I'm able to just kind of connect into my energy on an even stronger way.

Even if I'm outside walking in the rain, I can connect into nature and stuff way easier when it's raining. I was like, wait, did you say you shower at night? It's fine. I'll forgive you. No, but it's really good way to clear and all, like, none of this stuff takes me longer than five minutes. You know? I think if you're having like sometimes at night, like I will spiral because I'm still working on a lot of things, you know?

It would probably help just to like jump in the shower. Well, it actually can like calm you down and get you ready for sleepy time. Yeah. Plus I just feel like we're having a heat wave right now, so like, I'm sticky and gross. I just wanna be like not sticky and gross when I go to bed. You know what's so funny is when you're like, I'm melting.

I'm trying to be really compassionate and not respond with That's nice. That's like actually kind of cold because you climatize though to where you're at. You know what I'm saying? Yeah, it's true. Listen, if this was dry heat though, I'd be fine with it. It's like moist. I hate that word by the way.

Moist. It's muggy. It is hard when it's humid. Should we use the word humid? Humid. Humid is a great word. Yeah. You're lucky that I brushed my hair today. Your hair looks great. You said you were gonna wash it. Did you wash it? Yeah, I did this morning. I did not wash my hair, but you can't tell. Oh, you totally can't.

No. Let's see. If I look at my forecast, everything has 100 in front of it, so 101 0 1, 1 0 3. 1 0 2.

Oh my God. So I'm always like, that's nice. I'll stop complaining then. 'cause I think in Fahrenheit we'd be around 89 90 right now. Yeah. It's warm. Well, that's why I'm saying it's all like climatized. It's all based on your energy. Right. So if your energy, we'll, we'll go with that. No, but you do climatize.

'cause I No, you do still felt like, yeah. And then we moved down here and my aunt was like, just give it a few weeks and it's not gonna feel that hot to you. And I was like, oh. And my sister, she moved here when she was pregnant and she was like dying. And then literally like, it took her like a month maybe and she's like, oh my God.

Now I'm like standing in the window getting morning sun. And I'm like, I know. It's weird. Yeah. It's a thing that actually does tie into energy. 'cause that's a great way also that I will kind of come back to myself and clear off my energies. I will literally just go stand on the grass and stare at the sun.

Not directly into the sun. The sun. I was like, do you make direct eye contact? No, I'll let the sun like come down on me. Was it in 2020 when everyone was like telling everyone to Sungas sun the, oh, I don't remember. I remember the sun. Your butthole people. I can get behind sun of your butt hole. I, I love the sun.

I'm just like, okay. Yeah. Yeah. I, I feel like when it comes to energy, and this ties into your question too. I feel like people make it way more complicated than it needs to be. Mm-hmm. Like you, I used to go see energy healers all the time and get them to clear me and do all the things, and that's really just me being lazy and not being accountable for myself.

It can be as easy to clear energy as standing there and setting the intention and going, I'm setting the intention right now to release anything from me that is not of me. Yeah. It's that easy that we don't need all this mystical stuff. I'm not saying sometimes it's not nice to have that stuff, but my whole goal is I wanna give people the tools so that they can do this stuff on their, I don't ever want anybody being dependent on somebody to help them with their energy.

Yeah. That's fucked up. Yeah. And I did have a past client who had a healer, and I'm using air quotes, who had convinced her. That she needed to come multiple times a week to have her energy cleared. And I'm like that's disgusting. And that's a smarmy grifter who's taking advantage of people and creating codependency.

Oh my gosh. I remember this one time, this was the first like encounter I had with a psychic and it was like a little house that you would drive by, and you'd just do like walk-ins. Yeah. Like, you know what I'm talking about? Yeah. And I remember there was like three of us, like three friends, we went in and she like gave, weird ass messages.

But my one friend, she must have like, felt it in her. She convinced her to go like, withdraw like a couple hundred dollars and then she would like these candles for her. And we're like, no, don't do this. My friend's like, it's fine. It's fine. And she would like these candles for her that would like get rid of like some sort of bad energy she had.

Yeah, it's, I mean there's so many grifters out there, not just in the spiritual space, but in the coaching space. And it's hard because if you are in a space. Of not feeling your best and you meet somebody who says they can help you. You wanna believe that everybody has your best interests at heart, but that's, it's not always the case.

And the thing that drives me a bonkers energy is a very private thing. So I will never just say to you, even if I'm having intuitive insights or one of your dead relatives is coming through, I'm never gonna be like, oh my God, Sam so-and-so came through and I have a message for you that is disgusting.

There always has to be permission. If I'm talking your energy, even when you work with me every session, I'm like, Hey, Sam, do I have permission to be your proxy? Which means can I speak to your energy, the things that you see online? Where they're like, I'm sending you this energy. I'm sending you this Reiki healing.

No, you're not. Fuck off. You're not invited into my energy. That is rude. Nobody should be forcing their energy on you. I was in the spa one day years ago, and this woman was sitting there and she kept staring at me, and I'm getting a pedicure, and I'm like, why is this lady staring at me? And then all of a sudden she goes, I'm reading everybody in here, but I can't get into your energy.

Oh God. And I was like, excuse me. She's like, yeah, I can't get into your energy. For some reason I'm like, you can't get into my energy because that's fucking rude and you're not invited into it. The people around me were just like, oh my God. But it's the truth. Nobody. I was listening to a podcast the other day, which I really like, and the guy said during his spiritual awakening, he had been getting a massage and the massage therapist all of a sudden pulled back and came back with this voice and was like, I have a message for you from, and I was just like.

No, but because of the state of being he was in at that time, he, and he admitted it. He's like, I got addicted to the spiritual guidance of this person who said they had connections that I didn't have. Oh my God. Years ago when I was very, very young, I went to see an SIC reader, and I remember her, all of a sudden her head flicked back, her eyes rolled back in her head and she started talking like this.

And I busted out laughing because I was just like, even back then, my system knew that was bullshit. I was just like, okay, thanks. Okay. Hold on though. I like the Akashic readings. Have you, or, I like the, like what are your take, this is a side tangent, but what's like your take on the Akashic records?

Listen, it's our history and our past and all the things. Why do you need to keep going backwards? Oh, why don't we focus on building new ones and go forwards? I would say I think a lot of people get hooked on that. Yeah. I would say in 2020 I was definitely like past life I had, I did all these past like regressions and I was like super fascinated with it.

Yeah. And then it's just like I really care and it is fascinating. The challenge is why do we wanna keep going backwards? When you understand your design, your unique blueprint, you don't need to go backwards 'cause you understand what's going on in this lifetime. Yeah. And so it's like, and I get it because I was in, I would see, I called her my spiritual guidance person.

I would see her like twice a month for like two years when I was getting divorced. And I just, you do become dependent on that. And what I'm trying to do is help people understand. All the answers they need, they can get them. But I wanna teach people how to do it properly. I don't want people just channeling random shit.

So when I have clients come in and they're like, I channeled spirit, I'm like, cool. What spirit were you talking to? And they're like, I don't spirit. I'm like, but you couldn't validate who it was, where it was coming from. Was it a lower level entity? Was it of the highest light? Like the reality is lower level entities like to trick people, or they're like, I don't know, maybe it was an alien.

Okay. Can you validate who validate it? Like learn to understand who you're letting into your space. Do you let random strangers come in to root through your underwear drawer? I hope not. I mean, I, it depends on like what they're offering me. Yeah. It depends on the day. It depends what they're offering me, but it's like we have to understand ourselves and who we are connecting to.

I have spirit guides that I talk about on my podcast and on other things. I know exactly who they are. I would never come into a conversation and be like, Sam, you've got some being of light standing around you. I would never, first of all, I would never just say that 'cause it's rude. Second of all, I would never just say that until I validated who they actually were.

Yeah. I just, I think there's a lot of like giving our sovereignty away or whatever the word is that I'm looking for and it can be dangerous. Ooh, okay. I like, I like where this is to going. Yeah. Okay. Anything you want to like tell any, like I always, people are always like, what is one message that if you could tell anyone anything, but I kind of wanna hear it from you, I think you already know what that's gonna be.

What is it? It's gonna be manage your damn energy. Stop giving your listen. If we all were safe and contained in our own energy, it would almost be like we were all little healing bubbles walking around. We wouldn't have a lot of the issues we have if you just managed your own energy. And the one thing I think a lot of that is just us being responsible for ourselves, right?

Like it's not okay to go out and project into the world. And it's gonna happen from time to time, a bad day. And I might just like flip out a McDonald's cashier, you know? Yeah. Also, but like that's not okay. And also, you know what I'm saying? It's not okay. Yeah. Like we need to manage that. Also, things happen, like I had some hormone issues going on where my progesterone was really low and I had the homicidal rage and I threw a remote control against the wall and I couldn't control it.

Couldn, I manage my energy still, but there's other things that can be going on and the energy is just like a layer of that. But when we take responsibility, it was funny 'cause I had a conversation with a client the other day and she's going through this like horrible situation, this horrible divorce.

She's got kids and. She said, I haven't been managing my energy. Oh, well, I, I managed it one day and I felt so good that day. And I looked at her, I'm like, so what does that tell you? She's like, that, if I take five minutes to manage my energy, I'll feel better. I was like, mm-hmm. Yeah. And I understand because energy is invisible.

It's not, we're not getting some sort of instant gratification, although I feel like you do, but, so it's hard for people to kind of quantify like, okay, I am sitting here and I'm visualizing that I'm in a bubble and then I'm connected to the earth. But like, it actually, that's how energy works. We visualize, and once you do it consistently, when you stop doing it, you'll notice.

I like that. I mean, just notice what you notice too, you know? Yeah. Self-awareness. It's such a beautiful gift. Just being like, oh, this is how I'm feeling. Cool. Now I'm gonna move through that. I'm gonna make a different choice. Yeah. Any time we recognize something us the human with the higher consciousness gets to make a different choice.

We can make a different choice multiple times in a day. If I do something I don't like, I can make a different choice. Like how cool is that? We get to make choices and that's what moves us forward. Yeah, and that's super powerful. Okay guys, I wanna just say thank you so much to Brenda and it's Johnston with a T.

If you guys wanna stalker, we'll have her linked up in our show notes. What is your Instagram? Is it underscore Brenda Johnston? Yes. Okay. Yeah, I was like, it's got an underscore in there somewhere, but it look, it's right here in your little zoom handle at Under Johnson. 'cause somebody took my name, she's a real estate person.

Years ago I went to just get Brenda Johnson. She had it and then somebody had Brenda Dot and I was like, come on. Yeah, someone's had like, there's Sam Parker. Samantha Parker. So I just snagged the Samantha Parker. Yeah. Oh yeah, it's in my Zoom thing. I forgot I did that. Yeah, I was like staring at it actually when I said it and I was like, how did I know that?

And I'm like, it's right there in front of my face. And I'll give you the link to the daily energy management so people can grab that too. 'cause it's honestly a game changer. Yes. Email that to me. And we'll link that up as well. And girl, like thank you so much. Like double high five, high five, high 5, 5, 5.