Goal Setting: Scheduling Success with Tameeka Leon

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In this episode, I’m talking with Tameeka Leon, who is the owner of coffee.yoga.life. She is a confidence and goal Success Coach based in Florida. It's her mission to help high achiever, millennial women redefine what success means to them. 

We discussed:

·         Determining what success means for you

·         Taking Ownership of your own journey

·         The importance of a support network

·         Goal Setting

·         Self-care as a priority goal

You can connect with Tameeka here:

Website: https://coffeeyogalife.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/TheGoalSuccessCoach/

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Pinterest: https://www.pinterest.com/TheGoalSuccessCoach

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Anne Okafor: 0:50

Hello, and welcome to the everyday determinator podcast. In this episode, I'm talking with Tamika Leon, who is the owner of coffee yoghurt life. She has a confidence in goal Success Coach based in Florida, and it's her mission to help high achiever, millennial women redefine what success means to them. It's great to have you with us to Mika.

Tameeka Leon: 1:12

Hey, no scraping, I thank you for inviting,

Anne Okafor: 1:15

you're very welcome. So tell us a little bit about you and the journey that took you into coaching. I know I understand that. Your success in overcoming your challenges with your own battles around self confidence and imposter syndrome has led you to this have been in service to helping other women to overcome the same sort of challenges. So tell us a little bit about that.

Tameeka Leon: 1:39

Yeah, that's exactly how it was. So for me, it's like, just kind of looking back at all of the things that I've done in my career, it was always, you know, I come in, have no idea what I was doing what was going on. And then you know, I'd learned build up my skills, and then move on to the next thing. So I did that a few times. But then there came a point where there was just so much changing all at once for me that when that happen, it's kind of like, like my, my ability to process see stop for a moment. I had just turned 35. So I was dealing with before that point, I never really thought much about ah, you know, but it wasn't until, you know, being at work, being in the office, and then all of a sudden seeing an influx of young ladies who are coming in and like their early 20s. That kind of took me back to like, oh, wow, you know, I used to be one of them. I'm not, you know, I'm not part of that group anymore. Yeah. So I had that. And then for, I want to say about nine or 10 years, in my role at work, I had worked myself up to becoming the expert in the office for what I was doing. And all of a sudden, I was thrown into a completely new role, you know, a role that I had absolutely no experience in. And at the, you know, at that point, I really had no interest. So it wasn't something I had been trained to learn about either. And then it was going through that. And then our company had just been acquired. So it was just getting, you know, getting myself through all of these things that were happening at once. It was such a hard hit for me, because I really identified with who I was at my job now being limited that it took a few months. It really for me it was a few months. And then one day, I was just like, Okay, what is going on? Why do I feel like this? What do I really want? And it was just asking myself those questions that I realised I was like, I'm chasing after a dream that isn't my own. Like I had people that work. So excited because I was getting promotions. And but I wasn't excited. And to everybody else. You know, I was on the path of success. I was climbing the corporate ladder, but I was like, I don't think I want this corporate ladder dream. This isn't what I want, you know, then it was just okay, what do I want, and then building those building blocks. And that's pretty much what led me to first decide I wanted to start a blog and it was just, you know, to be a motivational place to help other women who were going through the same thing. And then I decided I wanted to have a bit more of a of a personal impact. So that's when I was like, Okay, I think it's time for me to take this a little bit further and start trying to coach women and actually help them work through all of these different blocks that they're feeling and get to a point where they know what they want. And that's what they're working towards.

Anne Okafor: 4:30

Yeah, I think that's something a lot of people can identify foetal chasing after a dream that's not our own. We're so conditioned to think to go after, you know what society tells us. We should be happy with, you know, jobs, promotions, you know, get a house, get a car, get married by, you know, certain ages as well are quite often attributed to these sort of milestones. You know, if you've not done this by a certain age, you know, people start asking questions and, you know, raising eyebrows and things like that and I think Not everybody wants the same things, and it's okay to want something different. But there's not many places that we can often vocalise those things without people, you know, let you see if people feel like you're on the road to success, and you should be happy. And then to vocalise something else, or to say, I'm not really that happy with that people don't always understand. So it's good for people to have a place where, you know, this blog, where they can come and find somewhere to relate to, and understand other people are going through the same things and having the same thoughts and feelings. And actually, that it's okay to want different things. I think, me as well, I think I've noticed much more of this people not wanting to subscribe to this sort of, you know, timeline that society decides that we should be following. And I think much more and more people are not subscribing to that and our you don't choose an alternative paths, which are not so alternative, no, because many more people are doing them. And I think, you know, it's good to, to know what you want, you know, that can be the hardest thing. So I know a lot of what you do is the sort of goal setting and you know, what is termed imposter syndrome, like people understand that they can go after something different if they want to. And a lot of that is about the confidence just to take that first step, you know, because it's scary to walk the unknown path, I guess. And it's something you've obviously done. So it wasn't a scary thing for you to turn your back on the corporate world and step into something, or was it a case of you were just so ready for it, that it wasn't as scary as a thing. That makes sense. For

Tameeka Leon: 6:42

me, it's absolutely terrifying. Knowing that, it's because you're taught that, you know, having a job being in a corporate work, being in the corporate world, that's your security, that's how you're going to make it in life, you're, you know, growing up, you're always taught you need to go out, you need to get a good job, you need to have good insurance, and then you retire. And nobody ever really talks about you attempting to do something on your own. It's as if you can't be successful without the support of a company behind you. No, but so many people don't realise these companies were started by people just like us, you know, companies don't just appear out of nowhere, these companies are built brick by brick, step by step to get to that level where they do have teams of people working for them to further their mission. And so no matter what, there are going to be people who have done this before you, you know, so it's like, knowing that is kind of what helped me say, okay, you know what, I really can do this. And honestly, for me, I think starting with a blog needed a little bit easier, made it feel a little bit less, like, you know, I was actually trying to step out on my own. But it was kind of like a baby step. Yeah. So but it's, it's also taking ownership. And for me having that confidence to take ownership of what I went, that was me taking back my power for myself, and being able to determine, you know, what it was that I wanted, how I wanted to work, who I wanted to work with, how I wanted to live my life and not being stuck, you know, asking for permission to take time off that I you know, that I want to take off just because I want to take time off, you know, being able to say, You know what, no, I don't want to work with this person, because working with this person adds to my level of stress. And I'm not willing to do that. So it was, well, it's, it's scary, honestly, it's terrifying. i There's no other way that I can think that unless you've come from a background where everybody around you has their own business, it is absolutely terrifying. to step out of what society says is the path that you're supposed to be on. But at the same time, it's like you said, there are so many people that are doing that now that you can have a little bit of a support system. Yeah. So having a support system, I think is also like key to being able to really say, You know what, I can do this? And if I don't know something, I can go off and I can figure it out.

Anne Okafor: 9:18

Yeah, I think that having a social network of people that are similar, are you thinking similar at least support that way of thinking, you know, and maybe not necessarily have done it but you know, are interested in doing are on the same kind of level as you then I think that's really important. I think it's important in any sort of stages that we go through life is tough people who have to tread the path before us. And that can understand the feelings and the thoughts that we're going through and actually maybe point us in the direction of a resource that can help us or, you know, give us some tips and tricks that can help us have an easier time than evaded. It's so important in terms of resilience and being able to feel a little bit more steadier. Lisa. It's going to be terrifying anyway, but having that sort of steady income and kinda, you know, network of people that can help is always I think, a positive. What would you say to people that are looking to make that network? You know, how did you start getting in touch with people that were looking to do this? Or how to already done this? Did you network? Or how did you go about that?

Tameeka Leon: 10:24

So for me, I have a few friends who have already started businesses. So and I was also part of the start of another business in our area. So I had that experience. But then I also had a few friends who were trying to do something similar. So we kind of started together. And we built that and then finding groups, you know, like on Facebook, and listening to certain podcasts, and then finding the groups for other people who listen to the same podcast. Yeah, that helped. And then I now actually have, it's a small mastermind group. So there's seven of us in group. And we're all on pretty simple, not really similar paths, but we're on, we're at the same point, for the most part on our path. Yeah. And so just having that support, you know, being able to talk to them, we talk almost every week. So we set our goals, and we share resources, we, you know, we celebrate each other's successes. So it's just having that finding those groups of people, no matter where it is, if you have friends that you personally know, then meet with them, talk with them, share your ideas and your thoughts with them. If not, you can find groups on Facebook, you can find groups on LinkedIn. You know, there are ways to find other people, you can even go on meetup. If there are, you know, local groups, I don't know if right now, that's still happening. But even virtually, you can have these meetings and just find that support, find other people. And I really think because no matter what you're going to be scared, even if they haven't done it goes, other people can see things in you that you may not think about for yourself, they've seen your strengths. And they can remind you of those, when you're feeling scared, and you're like, oh, I don't know, if I can do this, they can be the ones to help you. You know, just remember, it's like you've done this, this, this and this, of course you can do this, you know, it's like having that really does make a big difference.

Anne Okafor: 12:30

Yeah, I think sometimes we really do forget ourselves what we're capable of sometimes, and especially when you're in that moment of, oh, can I do this next thing, you know, having someone or a group of people, just to remind you of that, and what you've already done is really helpful. And I know I've benefited from that sort of input from people before. And like you say, you can find these groups of people on Facebook and LinkedIn, and all these different places. And actually, with the pandemic, being virtual is opened up lots of different opportunities as well, in terms of networking, with people in different countries, you know, and that can be helpful as well for different perspectives. And just, you know, a different take on things, I think it's really useful to widen your net when you can when it comes to your network. So give us an overview of your coaching style. I know you've talked a bit about goal setting. I know that's one of the main things that you focus on. So how do you do that? How do you advise people to stay aligned with them goals? And are there any tools and techniques that you use or your advice that can help people with the school setting?

Tameeka Leon: 13:39

Okay, so for me, I approach goal setting a little bit different. So I start with, you know, I actually start with having define what success means to them, like, what is it that you want out of your life? Not what society says not what your friends and family say? What is it that you want? And you know, that's how we built the goal. That's how we define okay, this is, this is what my end result should look like. And then from there, you can say, okay, these are the steps that I want to take to get there. But another piece from us, you absolutely have to build in time for self care. And you have to build in mindfulness. You can't just keep going, going, going, you know, and we do have some absolutely amazing, you know, motivational speakers and they're all about the health. You know, the hustle culture, it's like, you just have to keep going, you have to keep going. You can't stop, you can't stop. I tried that. It is exhausting. Yeah, you cannot maintain that level of productivity. You will fall off, you'll get exhausted and then you'll feel like oh, there's something wrong with me because I can't do what this person is saying that they're doing. Yeah. So one of the things that I look at is okay, how are you taking care of yourself now? How much downtime are you giving yourself? And are you doing things that you enjoy? Are you doing the things that make you feel happy that make you feel joy in your life? Because just focusing on you know, going, going going, it's like, oh, no, I need to focus on school, I need to focus on school. There's no enjoyment in that. At some point, you have to stop and say, Okay, I'm doing this, because I feel like this, you know, this thing is going to make me happy. But my goal overall is to feel happy. So what can I do now? What can I do every day, every week, that will bring me that happiness. And then part of the mindfulness piece is checking in with yourself, making sure that you're still aligned with the goal that you set. Because we're human, we change our minds. As we do things, we learn that okay, maybe that's not exactly how I had imagined it, maybe this over here is what I want. So it's just having giving yourself that permission to say, You know what, I need to take time for myself, I need to do the things that I enjoy, so that I can maintain my happiness. But also, if something's not working, you are allowed to change your mind you are allowed to change your journey. It's your journey and nobody else's. Yeah. So it's taking that ownership. And then, for me, it's setting small but realistic goals. So I always start with the big picture. It's like, okay, what do you want to achieve and say, like, 10 or 20 years, and from there, you break it down, and you keep breaking it down. So if you start with a 10 year goal, break it down and say, okay, and five years, I want to be here, and then break that down and say, okay, within the next year, I need to achieve this so that I can be on track to achieve my five year goal. And you just keep breaking it down and breaking it down. I like getting to the point where you have a 90 day goal, 90 days is realistic, it's something that you can you can see yourself 90 days from now, you know, it's not saying oh, by the end of this year, I want to achieve this. You can see yourself 90 days from now, and then break that down into okay, this month, I'll focus on this. And then what can I do this week to get to that one month goal? What can I do today to get to that one week? Or how can I stay on track? By doing? You know, just one step at a time? Don't make it so overwhelming? Like I've seen people say, Oh, well, you know, and five years, I want to be rich. It's like, okay, what does rich mean to you? Like, what does that look like? How does your life feel? If you can say that you're rich? You know, where are you at? Now? How are you going to get there? And people are just like, oh, well, I'll just, you know, I'll invest in some stocks. I'll buy some cryptocurrency. Maybe I'll get lucky and win the lotto. Like, I love it. But what can you do? No, no, you are responsible for how you live your life. So take back that power and take the steps to get you to where you want to be. Don't focus so much on outside influences that you don't have any control over.

Anne Okafor: 18:13

Yeah, I think the really important part of this is actually defining what you want and what that looks like. Because so many of us say, you know, we want to be rich, or we want to do this or we want to, you know, skinnier, but then we don't actually define that really, you know, and say, This is exactly what success looks like for me, or this is what happiness looks, you know, everyone says, oh, I want to be happy. I want to be successful, but what does that actually look like? And that will be different for absolutely everybody, everybody will have a different idea of what that looks like and what that you know what happiness is to them. So I think defining it is really, really important. And something we probably don't talk about enough, we just say, you know, get on with it, get the hustle culture doo doo doo doo doo. And then actually, you know, we're burnt out and we're miserable. And we're actually farther away from the goal than we were when we started. And I think hustle culture, you know, for me, it's not something I like, I feel like it's just, you know, sending people in default sort of sense of doing stuff all the time. And yes, it's good to be productive, it's good to get stuff done and to work towards goals, but like you said, you know, you can't maintain that it's not sustainable. And putting people under that pressure is not sustainable, you know, for them for mental health for, you know, for well being, we need to end build and I'm really happy to hear you say that you can build you know, the self care and mindfulness pieces into the sort of goal setting, because it's really important to look after ourselves. When we are you know, looking at especially people who are high achievers, you know, we want to go we want to do the things but you know, you have to reflect you know what, if you if you're constantly 100 mile an hour, you have no time to think about is this actually working for me? Have I went totally off paths because you're not paying attention You know, you're doing all the stuff, but you're not actually really taken stock of, is this actually getting me to where I want to be? Or have I been so busy with my head down, I'm not looking, I'm not aware of anything. I'm actually completely off course now, and I'm nowhere near where I want it to be. Maybe that's okay. Because maybe that's where you, you know, you've taken sort of change a direction. But do you know, have you reflected on that if you're going 100 mile an hour, you have absolutely no time to reflect. And I think that reflection part and the mindfulness part is really important as well. So that we can just be self aware, we know where we're going, we know it still aligns with what we're trying to achieve in the big picture, whatever we've defined our happiness or success to look like. And I think that's really, really important. So it's not just about the goals and breaking them down. And it's great to break them down into manageable chunks, I think that the small wins for me has always been a very important part of how I get places, you know, having that daily goal, having that weekly rate, I've done that off the list that's going to help me with the weekly, that's going to help me with the monthly and the 90 day goal, let you say a year can be a long time, you know, what we can get that can be unachievable for some some of us if we don't sort of bring it down to the smaller goals, and you can be a different person within a year really, if you you know, so it can be a long time to focus on and bring it down into that 90 days, I think is really good, because we can let you see, we can see ourselves in 90 days. And, you know, it gives you something so succinct to work to, which isn't overwhelming as well, I think if you start thinking, this is what I want to do in 20 years, you can get overwhelmed, and then you just don't even get started because it seems too big and too far away. Either that or you think was too far away, I don't need to start today. What is actually, there's something you can do today that you know, to start to take your power, it can just be making that decision, or starting to think about something or maybe for you, it's the baby step of making the blog, writing those blog posts, you know, and there's something we can do every day to start. And it might be days, your mindfulness day, your reflection there, it might be to do that is your self care day, take some time away from it and give yourself time to breathe and think about. And I think a lot of this, you know, we were talking before you were saying, you know, you're in this job, and you're working towards promotion promotion to almost expert level. And that, you know, we're successful by everybody else's terms, but we're not necessarily happy, you know, or we don't know that, but I'm happy usually, because it's not really taking time to think about it. And it's not until something happens, like, you know, you said you had to change where you were asked to start on a different role. And sometimes the sort of, well, quite often I find that these sort of pain points for us are where, where we come into personal development from a point of, of pain point of change, or something that you know, unsettles our world and flips upside down. And then we've got to think about things in a different way. And it can be quite uncomfortable place to be. But through self development and personal development, professional development, I think you can almost learn to become uncomfortable, learn to become comfortable in these uncomfortable situations. And, and when you've come across them again, maybe you know, you're jumping into a new career, new business, it's uncomfortable, scary as hell. But as you build upon these day by day and you get a lot of confidence, it becomes less scary, it becomes less uncomfortable, or at least you're more comfortable with being in that situation, I guess. And I think, you know, a lot of us need to maybe try that sometimes, you know, push our little boundaries, get out of our comfort zones a little bit. And, um, to try and sort of expand our mindsets, I guess, into the growth mindset, and not having a sort of hustle culture and actually just realising that, you know, if other people want to do that, it's fine. But know what's sustainable for you for someone else, hustle, hustle, hustle might be sustainable for them. It's unlikely at some point we all burn out, but know what works for you in terms of self care. And it's different techniques do have examples of what you do, for example, just so people know, you know, I know, obviously your business's coffee, yoghurt life. So I'm expecting your goals for the future here somewhere. But what works for you.

Tameeka Leon: 24:22

So for me self care is there's pieces that I do every day. So I have my journal and mindfulness is a part of self care. Yeah. So there are activities that cover both of those. For me that's journaling every morning. I have my my gratitude journal as well. So I do that every morning. In addition to my journaling, I do even if I don't make it to the gym, just depending on how my work schedule looks for the day. You know, I at least do my stretches, do my yoga in the morning. And honestly, sometimes in the middle of the day, like in between meetings or if I just feel like I need a moment to just kind of stretch myself and For a one is a think, right when COVID hit like, in Florida when we really started with having to, you know, having to quarantine ourselves at home. It was right around that time I had built in and literally put it on my calendar, a self care day. So I have that were Friday evenings. So starting at like five or six, I think it starts at 6pm for the rest of the day on Friday, that's my self care time. Putting it in my calendar, having it set to give me a reminder starting on Thursday, helps me step into Okay, that's my time to just relax and to just do whatever. Yeah. So seeing that every single weekend, of course, at first, you're so used to always going that you feel guilty for taking that time. Yeah, but part of it, because I am still that, you know that that type A Okay, I need to get all of these things done. Putting it on my calendar meant it was on my to do list. Yeah. So it wasn't that I was taking time away from all of the other things on my to do list. This was one of the items on my to do list. So in a sense, that was me giving myself that permission to take that time. And so there have been times where literally I will sit in my room and binge watch something on Netflix for that entire evening. And that's me just giving my brain a break from everything that I've done for the day. You know, there are times where that looks like me journaling for that time, or, you know, me going out and hanging out with friends for that time. It just, it really depends. Sometimes it's me reading or rereading, you know, a favourite book, whatever I need in that moment. That's what I'm doing for myself. And it's like I said, for me, it's really just, it's just taking that time to say this is my time to do what ever I want.

Anne Okafor: 27:00

Yeah, I absolutely love that you put it in your day, because that's something I've started to do this last year, because I was being really deficient and the self care kind of stuff. I was doing the whole, you know, 100 mile an hour burn, you know, on a road to burnout basically. And I started putting things in my diary, you know, when scheduling it, and what is overall a difference, because, you know, I treat it as an appointment with my boss or with a client, and I make it happen. And it's, it's an amazing way to give yourself that permission. And, you know, you do feel guilty at first, but no, actually, it feels like it's, you know, another thing on the list that needs doing it is absolutely something that needs doing because you have to maintain your own well being if you don't, you become ill, you know, you'll have to make time for that because you'll be forced to, and it's much better to choose to maintain wellness, rather than be forced into illness, you know, because that's what I know myself that when I start neglecting the self care routine, I start to feel ill, you know, I start to feel rubbish, I start to feel, you know, like I'm gonna have to be and then so it's much more better for me to prioritise this and put it on my calendar. You know, I'm one of these people as well as like to get stuff done. And you feel guilty for for taking time away from other things on the list as well. So really putting on the list allows you that time? And eventually I think for me, certainly, no, I don't feel guilty. No, it's allowed me that space. And now I don't feel guilty because I know it's something else on the list is self care is productive time as well. It's not productive, and maybe the sense that we think about production in terms of getting stuff done. But it's productive in terms of looking after yourself, looking after your mental well being your physical well being and just like see, sometimes it is binge watch something on Netflix, sometimes it's you know, rewriting my list for the next week or you know, it's whatever I need in that moment, like you said, you know, and it can be a number of different things, it can be going for a swim or, you know, a massage or it could just be simply reading something or, or just sleeping sometimes if you feel like you need to sleep earlier one night, it's given yourself permission to have an early night and just absolutely do something. So I really love that we've got that in common. And then you I really recommend other people if you're struggling to find time for self care, schedule it in your diary and just make it happen because it's so so important and it doesn't make you feel better. You know, I certainly I'm better at getting other stuff done on my list as well. You know, which I would have never been well you don't it's kind of intuitive almost because you you think you know I'm taking time off that I'm going to be less have time less to do other things but actually, you feel better because you've refreshed you've come away from it. You can then go back with fresh eyes or You know, a fresh head to look at something and actually you can perform better. When you get allow yourself time for self care is so important. So what would be your top three tips? You know, I think we've probably covered them over within the chat. But what would be your top three tips for someone who's looking to improve their confidence or their goal success?

Tameeka Leon: 30:22

The first thing I'd say, and this is actually something that I also built into the goal setting plan is do what I call a reflect and refocus. So first, you look back, so say you do it for the month, and generally I'll start with the month. So you'll reflect on what the month was, like what you achieved, you know, any challenges that you came across, and how you overcame those challenges. And then, you know, look at the lessons you learned, the things that you are most grateful for, for, for that time frame. And then once you've gone through all of that, then you you go through, and you do the refocus. Because now now that you've reviewed the challenges, you've reviewed your activities, you can take another look and say, okay, you know, this is where I want to end up, this is what I've already done. These are the additional lessons I've learned. And now you can bring that into the next step. So if you're looking at, say, your goal is to get a new job, you know, you want a promotion, you want that new position, you've taken a few steps, you've you know, updated your resume, you've, you know, you've started sending it out to people, you've started networking, and you've started actually doing the search. Now that you've done that, and you've taken the time to reflect on what it is that you've already done, seeing that gives you that boost. It's like, you know what, I've done this, you know, I've done these things, I did this, it may not have worked out the way I thought it would. But this is what I learned from it. And this is how I can use that moving forward. So I'd say that's definitely the first thing, do a reflection and then refocus yourself. The next thing, schedule your time off, before I put anything else on my calendar. That is the first thing I look at. I look at okay, I know now for me, I'm an introvert. And I've now taken enough time that I understand my energy levels. And that's why for me Friday evenings, it really starts kind of Thursday evening, where you know, I don't focus on any of my work, it's just more kind of like, relaxing a little bit focusing more on the, you know, being home. And then Friday is like, Okay, this is my time to just do whatever I want. But I've done that I've set it up that way, because I know that with me pushing as hard as I do Monday through Wednesday, I need that time or I'm going to crash. No. So understanding the time that you for yourself and building that into your schedule. And then let's say honestly, break down your goals, you have to break it down. But you have to be honest with yourself about how much you can actually achieve with the time that you have available in your schedule, so that you're not feeling overwhelmed, you're not feeling like, you know, you're because a lot of times, especially as women, we're so busy focusing on everybody else's needs everybody else's calendars, making sure everybody else has everything, that if we were to just stop doing that, and only focus on, you know, taking all of your free time just for yourself, you wouldn't be able to maintain that because the level of guilt that you would feel would prevent you from being productive and being happy. So look at your time, break down your goal into steps that are actually achievable based on the time that you have your energy levels. And I think those are the main three things, once you do that, then it's just taking action. But you have to do the reflect and refocus. You have to block out time specifically for you. You absolutely have to do that. And it's like you said, once you do that, once you've taken that time, you're fresh again, you know, there's part of part of hustle culture involves you just going and going and going. But what a lot of people don't realise is, especially for people who have a bit of a perfectionist streak, you're constantly going to so you can check things off the bar, or you know, off your list. But once you keep going, you're not as fresh. So then you go back and double check and triple check. And now you're having to redo work, because you weren't as fresh when you originally did it and you're constantly finding mistakes where you're thinking, oh, oh, well, maybe I should say this way instead of this way. When you're fresh, there's a lot less rework that you have to do, because you're not burnt out when you're trying to do the work in the first place.

Anne Okafor: 35:01

For me, the reflection point at the beginning is really important, you know, understanding what makes you tick, what you do at the moment, how you react to things, your energy levels, what makes you feel tired, what time you actually have in your schedule, you know, maybe you're looking after children, or maybe you're working or volunteering and not, you know, sort of scheduling your self care time in to work with that schedule. So that, like you say, you know, when you need that time, obviously, you don't want to be trying to put in sort of like really high energy demanding tasks, when you're at your lowest energy. So it's about making that sort of schedule work for you. And, you know, you've identified that your time's at the end of the week. And for some people, it may be a couple of times in the week, or whenever, you know, depending on what other commitments you have. And I think it's really important to do that reflection piece at the beginning. Just so you know, as an observation, what you do, how you respond, what works for you, what doesn't work for you, also, because sometimes we do things habitually, that don't work for us. And we waste time doing those things, because we think that's what we should do. Actually, they might not serve us so. So doing that reflection and observation at the beginning is really important. And then you can define the schedule, then to make the most of what you want to achieve. And like you said, Be honest with yourself, because we sometimes overestimate, we sometimes underestimate. So just be honest, as an observation, one of the best things I learned was just observe without judgement, and, you know, just is isn't, this is how you react, you know, without judgement, just understand how you behave, how you react to things, and then actually, you can really then make things work for you in a way that you hadn't before. Because you understand what works for you what times what energies, you know, you know, women time in the month, that sort of thing can all become a factor into how we're feeling at any certain time, you know, work levels, you know, if you've got a cyclical work as well, where maybe like, you know, if you're doing things at the end of the month, you know, maybe financially that maybe at the end of the month becomes crazy for you, or you've got a reporting period where there's certain times of the month or the year that might, you know, just be wild, you don't want to, like put extra demands on yourself in terms of your own goals. At those times, you maybe want to adjust them. And I think when you do this hustle culture, Google Google, you don't always realise that you're not balanced in that way. You know, because you're, like I said before, you're just so busy with your head down, that you don't really have that awareness of what other things are demanding of you and other things that you're trying to balance. And then it becomes a case of where you just break because it's not sustainable, as we've said, so, really great tips there. I'm sure it'll be really useful to people. And certainly, you know, it's something I can relate to really, really well. So where can our listeners find you online, if they'd like to know more about your coffee, yoga life and your coaching,

Tameeka Leon: 38:04

you can always visit my blog, and the blog is coffee, yoga, life.com. So it's just all one word. And then anywhere on social, so I'm on Pinterest is honestly a big weakness of mine, I will admit a lot of my time goes to Pinterest, but I'm on Pinterest, Facebook, and Instagram. And on all of those I am the call success coach.

Anne Okafor: 38:25

Awesome. I will include those links in the show notes anyway, so people can reach you directly, because then we've got some useful resources and tips and things in your blog, some really good insights in there as well. So thank you. We'll make sure that people can reach you to they want to know more. Thank you so much for giving us your time today and sharing some great insights into what it is you do and how other people can improve their goal success and their confidence as well. Thank you. You're remarkable. It's really good to have you.

Tameeka Leon: 38:56

Thank you for having me on here. It's been an absolute pleasure. You're very

Anne Okafor: 39:00

welcome. So listeners whether you're bouncing back from a challenge or storming forward into the next one, the determinant our collective is here for you. Stay remarkable the terminators.

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