Baby Update: She's Coming Soon!

Join us on this heartfelt episode of Quirks, Bumps, and Bruises, where Candi and Melody share a heartfelt conversation about the impending arrival of Candi's new baby. With just under a month to go, Candi opens up about her mixed feelings of excitement and apprehension. We explore the anxieties that come with welcoming another child into the home, especially for those who have experienced anxiety and OCD. Candi candidly discusses her concerns about re-entering the world of newborn care, from remembering baby essentials to resisting the urge to purchase high-tech baby monitors.

This episode offers a warm and relatable look at the challenges and joys of parenting, making it a must-listen for both seasoned parents and those preparing for a new addition to the family. Whether you're looking for some lighthearted laughter or genuine insights, this conversation promises to be both entertaining and comforting.

Transcript

0:00:00 - Melody

Hi, I'm Melody and I'm Candi and you're listening to Quirks, Bumps, and Bruises. Baby's on the way, I know, and so on this episode of Quirks, Bumps and Bruises, it's kind of time for a baby update, because you're about a month away, yeah, a little less than a month away, yes, but I wanted to ask you some fun questions. Okay, Just some questions that it'll be fun for you to answer, it'll be fun for those listening to hear, and it may even bring back some memories for those of us that have already gone through all this. Oh yeah, and so let me ask you, start off by asking this question, me ask you, start off by asking this question what do you fear the most about having another child in the house now? Not necessarily about having the baby, but once the baby is here, because, if y'all don't know Candi, Candi's mind can go about 100 miles down the road at times. 

0:01:03 - Candi

It does, and it's sad but true. I remember when Hunter was born. I suffer with anxiety and OCD and so I remember when he was born that just sent me down a path of like oh, I got to watch him 24-7. I can't rest, I'm scared something's going to happen to him. I got to watch him 24-7. I can't rest, I'm scared something's going to happen to him. So a little piece of me is worried that that could come back with this new birth. But honestly, on the funny side, I am terrified because I don't remember anything about having a baby. Like I don't remember how long they can't have honey they can't have. When do they eat All these things? 

0:01:46 - Melody

like you're supposed to boil the bottles, I mean all the things that your generation does with babies we did not do and they were just fine, they all survived. It's funny, but it's funny because my daughter had told me you had a baby shower and there was something on your list and I can't think of what that thing is called where you put maybe a monitor on them. It is an. 

0:02:08 - Candi

Owlet is what they call it, a baby monitor, and it is very, very technical and great for people who have OCD, like me. Yes, and I had that for my first child. Sold it because it's a very high-priced item but it checks their pulse oximetry, like their blood oxygen Way too many things that you don't need to be knowing. 

0:02:28 - Melody

No, and I think that fed my OCD and made it worse and Lindsay said my daughter follows someone on Instagram that is great at helping mothers know what they need. Yeah, and the things that they'll try to sell you and make it sound like it's so great that you don't need. And Lindsay goes one of the big things on there is that Owlet thing that you're talking about, that you really don't need it. And I told you that and you were like no, I got to have that. 

0:02:55 - Candi

You know, did you get it? No, I didn't. It's still on my registry list Because they are so expensive. They are very expensive, and I just it's not even about the cost, though it is a lot expensive. It's just because you can turn around and sell it and make a lot of your money back, yeah, but it's just I feel like that's maybe not putting a lot of trust in Jesus, and so so you think you may not do it, I think I may not do it. Wow, that's a big step for you. It is a big step, but ask me when the baby's born? 

0:03:28 - Melody

Amazon does have two-day proms, we'll have to come back and do a second podcast on that topic. Okay, so just that fear of kind of the unknown again, and I get that Keeping my grandchildren. When it came time to do that, I was like, oh Like, because it's been a long time, obviously, since I had babies in the house. 

And first of all, you do have to. You want to try to do what my daughter wants it done, so that we can be very consistent in that together. But yeah, just even changing a diaper. It's like I hadn't done this in a while, I know. 

0:04:01 - Candi

Yeah, it is, it's crazy and that I'm just fearful, and a lot of the people that I've told that to say, oh, it'll just come to you, it'll just come right back to you, Kind of like riding a bike. 

0:04:12 - Melody

You just you know, if you fall off the bike, you just get right back on. 

0:04:15 - Candi

I don't ride a lot of bikes. I'm not very good at it. 

0:04:19 - Melody

Well, you're very nurturing, though, you will be fine. Thank you All right, so let's move to a different question. What are you the most excited about? 

0:04:29 - Candi

You know, I know it's very tiresome and there's just a lot of lack of sleep, a lot of emotions, hormones, all kinds of things. But I miss the joy of having an infant, just a baby, in the house. You know the joy that they bring you like a new puppy. Yeah, we'll give you about two days for that. I know right, and I cannot wait. This is a girl, I know, so I'm super excited about that and just dressing her and like, ok, hold, on. 

0:04:59 - Melody

Y'all have no idea. She's like a baby doll. How many bows this child already has, and she's not even been placed on this earth yet it's funny. 

0:05:08 - Candi

I had an ultrasound last week and I actually asked the technician do you see hair? Like, can you see if she has any hair? Because she has so many bows and they were able to like zoom in and you could see just a little bitty piece of hair. It was really funny. Well now, did hunter have a lot of hair? Um no, he didn't have a whole lot when he was born either. So, I'm Lord, I hope this baby has some hair, so the bows will look good. 

0:05:33 - Melody

Well, one thing nice about baby bows are that they look cute even on little ball-headed babies. 

0:05:38 - Candi

Yeah, but just to see her face it's getting so close and to know that she'll be in our arms, arms soon, is just. I just am so excited, I know. 

0:05:49 - Melody

I cannot wait. I think I'm more excited than you. I cannot wait to hold this child. I feel like I'm getting ready to have another grandchild. You are, I'm so excited and I know she's going to be just so precious. We have a name, okay, so that's. 

0:06:03 - Candi

Oh no, she's changed again. Okay, so that's oh no, she's changed again, and y'all. This is the story. I have prayed that God would give me a name. I've just One that would just stick with me, and I need him to like hit me over the head with it, and I have just Emma Grace is one that Jake and I have both held on to. I mean, the first eight months were like we have no idea, we don't know anything, we change our mind, but Emma Grace has stuck. 

0:06:30 - Melody

And we definitely wanted grace for that middle name. 

0:06:38 - Candi

We want grace in there because of just the goodness and the grace of God and giving us this child, and so, yes, something grace. And Emma is beautiful and I love it. It is a very beautiful name, but there's just been a little hesitancy with me, just a little bit, and it's getting worse. And I love the name that I'm about to tell you and it's crazy. I know I'm going to have to be stoic when she tells me this Tell me that you love it. Okay, I'm not told Jake this yet because I'm not 100%. 

0:07:06 - Melody

Oh, my goodness. 

0:07:07 - Candi

So, y'all are hearing this before my own husband Daisy Grace, you don't like Daisy. Oh, Candi, I knew it. I used to have a dog named Daisy, I know, are you naming your baby after your dog? 

0:07:20 - Melody

that's gone to heaven. I always loved it. 

0:07:23 - Candi

I just love that name and I remember Tony Green. When he was alive he used to call his wife Tyrande Daisy and I just thought that was the cutest, sweetest reference, like I just loved it. So I'm like I kind of like Daisy Grace, but I'm telling you it'll change. 

0:07:39 - Melody

Well, I can tell you right now that when you tell your husband that that one is axed, I know Jake and I will be shocked if he goes along with that. Yeah, I know, and this is funny we were in a staff meeting here at joy fm, yeah, and we were all in there together and the staff was there and someone on our staff asked Candi about the name and Candi goes. I think we're gonna go with Emma Grace and she goes. Well, that's my daughter's name. Same first middle name. I could feel it. I could feel it. I thought that name is no longer gonna happen just because of that. But yeah, those two have nothing to do with each other no, and it is a beautiful name and I love it. 

0:08:25 - Candi

You know, I just I'm not big on common names either. Well, daisy's not common, that's true, that's true. But I just I want to see your face first. So I think it's going to be Daisy or Emma, but I do want to see your little face first. And if God wants to provide a name two minutes before she's born, then I'm hoping you'll know that I'll just love it. 

0:08:49 - Melody

You'll know I think I've told this story before on air when I was born, my mother, the whole entire pregnancy I was going to be Sandy. Seriously, I didn't know that, yeah, I was going to be sandy. And she said when you were born and I looked at your face, she said I couldn't name you, that you did not look like a sandy, and she named me melody oh my word, which is interesting, considering just about my whole life. Everything I have been involved in has been music oh, my soul, yeah, and that and that. 

0:09:20 - Candi

Yes, that is. I had not to not know that I was going to be sandy. 

0:09:24 - Melody

Yeah, so, wow, okay, there's hope. Yeah, so I think you will know when you see the baby's face. I sure hope so. All right, let me ask you this question how do you feel like you've got two other boys, hunter and wyatt?

wyatt's a little older so I think, he'll, you know he'll, he'll deal with it. He's at that age where he'll say, you know, hey, baby, and walk out right. Hunter, on the other hand, has really been a mama's boy. He has. And when you have a new baby, your attention becomes in two different places right, it does. Or three different places in your case. So how do you think are you preparing Hunter, or do you think he'll just do well on his own with this? 

0:10:07 - Candi

He is super excited. He keeps saying is it February yet? You know, I mean he is super excited and ready. I don't think he's quite understood that. You know it's going to be really, really hard at first and really really different. I've tried to, but I still don't think he quite understands it and I want to work hard to still keep like the same bedtime, like nighttime routines we do and special things and all that. But yeah, I mean it's, it's going to be different. 

0:10:33 - Melody

You're very hands on with him? 

0:10:34 - Candi

yes, and he is the baby and you can still be hands-on with him, but maybe not as much, because now you have another child to take care of I'm trying to work it in the way that, like you have to help me take care of your baby sister, you know, and so we're trying to do that with him, like you're going to be part of it. You're going to have to help and be a good big brother. 

And so he, you know, I think he'll be OK, but you really don't know, I think, until it gets here, and it's a big age difference. Hunter's eight. 

0:11:06 - Melody

Yeah, so it's an eight year difference. When my daughter was born and then, two years later, my son was born, we had purchased before I ever went to the hospital, a little medical kit so that my daughter Lindsay could help take care of the baby. Oh, what a sweet idea, but I think Hunter's probably a little bit too big for that. 

0:11:26 - Candi

But that is a good idea of something that may be if y'all have any suggestions. Yeah, if you can think of ways to make sure you include him. 

0:11:34 - Melody

Yeah, that's great. Now I will tell you this too, because you may have forgotten this, that husbands struggle also with new babies. They do, because they get all their attention taken away as well. You know what I'm saying. It's like, uh, he'll say jake will say, honey, come sit on the couch and watch a movie with me tonight, and you're like I'm just, I have been up all day with this baby, right, she's been crying, she has not been settled. I'm'm going to bed, right, you know. So they struggle, I think husbands struggle as well. 

0:12:06 - Candi

I think so I do, and I know he'll help and he'll you know. But it is just different, no matter how helpful your spouse is, I think it's just a whole level of tiredness, new tiredness for the mom, just because you are so committed to every breath and every. There is nothing like baby tired. 

0:12:24 - Melody

I know it, there's tired and there's baby tired. 

0:12:28 - Candi

I'm so tired now. Yeah, like I keep, I'll sit down at night and I'll think this is probably the last time for several years before I be able to just kind of chill like that. We're at the age now with Hunter and Wyatt that they can kind of do a lot of things on their own. 

0:12:42 - Melody

Oh yeah, yeah, you now with Hunter and Wyatt that they can kind of do a lot of things on their own. Oh yeah, but we've got to do this again. 

0:12:44 - Candi

You're starting over, I know it. What were you thinking? I don't know. Obviously, you were not. 

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