Stop. Sit. Surrogate.
A mother and daughter podcast educating others on surrogacy from a surrogates point of view. And the point of view from the intended parents, children born from surrogacy, the agency, legal professionals and IVF doctors for the science behind it all. Together we have brought 8 beautiful children into this world and it’s been an insane rollercoaster ride! Good and bad, the sweet and the sour, all coming to light about the truths behind the best and worst surrogacy journeys. Stop. Sit. Surrogate. Is a podcast that is able to give well rounded information about surrogacy from every point of view. We hope to give as much education as we can provide, to those who want to learn and know more about surrogacy.
Stop. Sit. Surrogate.
From Surrogate Belly to College Essays: A Triplet’s View on Family, Gay Dads, and Growing Up Across States
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A triplet who calls his surrogate “California mom,” two dads who turned a 15–20% chance into three heartbeats, and a family story strong enough to move across states without losing its center—this conversation has heart, humor, and clarity. We welcome Sebastian, now 19, to reflect on what he knew as a kid, how classmates reacted in early grades versus middle school, and why he still feels pride when he says, “I’m a triplet.” He talks about using surrogacy and identity in college essays, the moment he finally saw a photo of the egg donor, and the small rituals—like “candy breakfast”—that built a home culture as they moved from Georgia to North Carolina, Seattle, New York, and Miami.
We also open the curtain on the medical and emotional realities of surrogacy. Ellen walks through agency matching, screenings, and the transfer day when four embryos labeled “poor quality” led to three healthy babies and an unforgettable ultrasound. She shares NICU details, the rare trust that gave her continued access, and the literal handoff on the airport tarmac that delivered closure. We don’t skip the hard parts either: early weight-gain targets for triplets, the toll on the body, and the long road back to feeling at home in your skin. If you’re weighing ethical surrogacy, LGBTQ+ family building, or donor conception, the nuance here is invaluable.
What stands out most is the bond. Sebastian sees surrogates as superheroes because that decision is why he exists; we see a young adult whose gratitude feels grounded and real. It’s a reminder that when expectations align, communication stays open, and dignity leads, surrogacy can create lifelong connection—not just birth.
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