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I Don't Like How My Partner Deals With Their ANGER!

March 02, 2020
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I Don't Like How My Partner Deals With Their ANGER!
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I Don't Like How My Partner Deals With Their ANGER!
Mar 02, 2020
Jenny Morrow and Bryce Bauer

In today's episode, Jenny and Bryce answer a question about how to navigate a partner's way of dealing with anger. 

THE QUESTION:

"When my partner and I argue, things quickly escalate and he raises his voice at me.  It triggers me and reminds me of my dad growing up who yelled a lot.  I often tell him to calm down.  Sometimes he says that he's allowed to be angry.  And I agree, but the ways in which he has expressed it (yelling, name calling, punching holes in doors, smashing a phone, etc.) do not feel safe to me.  This hasn't happened often but enough to make me feel untrusting and unsafe.  What does healthy expression of anger in men look and sound like to you?  How can I encourage healthy expression of anger, tolerate a man's feelings and not feel overwhelmed by them and still have my own back?  I don't want to walk on eggshells anymore and want to take responsibility for my sense of safety in a relationship.  I don't want to tolerate this behavior, but don't want to stifle someone's self expression in the process."

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Show Notes

In today's episode, Jenny and Bryce answer a question about how to navigate a partner's way of dealing with anger. 

THE QUESTION:

"When my partner and I argue, things quickly escalate and he raises his voice at me.  It triggers me and reminds me of my dad growing up who yelled a lot.  I often tell him to calm down.  Sometimes he says that he's allowed to be angry.  And I agree, but the ways in which he has expressed it (yelling, name calling, punching holes in doors, smashing a phone, etc.) do not feel safe to me.  This hasn't happened often but enough to make me feel untrusting and unsafe.  What does healthy expression of anger in men look and sound like to you?  How can I encourage healthy expression of anger, tolerate a man's feelings and not feel overwhelmed by them and still have my own back?  I don't want to walk on eggshells anymore and want to take responsibility for my sense of safety in a relationship.  I don't want to tolerate this behavior, but don't want to stifle someone's self expression in the process."

NEW FREE WEBCLASS:  DECODING MEN: Stop Feeling Lonely In Your Relationship, And Get The Emotional Support You Have Always Wanted!

If you're interested in relationship resources or to learn more about relationship coaching go to https://www.advancedrelationshipacademy.com

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