Ep 8: Why we keep looking for permission

Why do so many of us keep waiting for permission?

Permission to begin.
Permission to be visible.
Permission to do things differently.
Permission to trust ourselves.

In this episode, I explore one of the quiet patterns I see so often in healers and intuitive business owners: the unconscious habit of waiting for someone else to say, "Yes, you're ready."

Perhaps it began long before business.

At school, we were taught to ask for permission.
Growing up, we learned to seek approval.
Over time, many of us carried those patterns into our work without even realising it.

What if you're not actually waiting to become someone else?

What if you're simply being invited to grow into more of who you already are?

In this episode, I share a different way of looking at growth, why waiting to feel completely ready can keep us stuck, and a few gentle questions to help you notice where you might be holding yourself back.

Because the permission you've been waiting for may already be yours to give.

Reflection questions from this episode:

• What am I waiting for permission for?
• Where do I need to give myself permission?
• What would I do if I already had permission?

If this conversation resonates with you, Frida would love to hear your reflections.

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Transcript

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Welcome to the Healing Business Revolution, a podcast about meaningful work, healing, visibility, and building a life and business that works for you. Together, we'll explore what it means to create, lead, and grow in a way that feels sustainable and true to who you are. I'm Frida Cabo, and I'm so glad you're here Hi, this is Frida Colby, and welcome back to the Healing Business Revolution podcast. And today I want to talk about why we keep looking for permission. What I notice is that so many talented people are waiting for permission, and sometimes it's unconscious, and sometimes they're aware of it. So many people are, are wanting that permission and waiting to be ready, waiting to be chosen, and wanting to be discovered. One thing that comes up for me when talking about this is, like being discovered, is when I play the piano when I grew up. I always been singing and playing the piano, and sometimes I would just keep that window a little bit open and dream about someone coming in and discover me, like hearing my singing and discovering me and just I would just daydream about that. And that was really not very realistic because we lived out in the countryside, so not many people at all were passing by. But yeah, just that thought of being discovered was really appealing at that time. And really, it's with the society as well, like when we grow up, we learn that we need someone's approval, we need someone's permission. In school, we have people telling us what to do. We have to ask to go to the bathroom, and our parents as well. And sometimes we might have done something that wasn't permitted, and we felt that shame. And now when we're grown up, when we have our business and we want to help people, that can actually hold us back if we're not aware of it, can really hold us back. So do you feel that you're waiting for permission somewhere, that you might be holding yourself back because you, you're not sure it's allowed to be or do what you want to do? And sometimes it's like you are going from where you're at right now and to where you want to be, and it's a journey from A to B with the notion that we need to go somewhere else. We need to be somewhere where we are not right now. And I would like to challenge that view a bit because we are always gonna be us. We are not going from A to B. We're just expanding into. So i- instead of seeing it from point A to point B, just seeing it that you're in point A and you're going to just a bigger one, bigger A, and that, that place that you're in right now, it's expanding. It's just growing and expanding, and you don't have to go from A to B. You just have to grow where you're at right now And I want to remind you of something that you already know. Nobody is coming to hand you a permission. You don't have to wait for permission. You can give yourself a permission slip if you want, or I can say,"Yes, you have my permission." If that helps you, I'm happy to do that. But at the end of the day, it's you that need to give yourself that permission to be you. You are the grown-up, you're the big one in your life, and you're already here. And since you're thinking of the thing that you want to do or the thing that you, you dream about or feel nervous about, since you are dreaming of it, it's already here. It's already in your awareness where you're at right now. So give yourself permission to expand into that. So yeah, the question that I would like to give you today is, what would I do if I had the permission? Where do I need to give myself permission? And maybe, what am I waiting for permission for? So that's, yeah, three questions. Bonus today. But what am I waiting for permission for? And really see that if there's something coming in for you for that. And there's also this notion that we need to wait until we're fully ready, wait for permission, but also wait f- until we're fully ready, till we have everything figured out. And then just tune into that and take one action step that leads you towards that. What is one action step right now that you would do differently now that you have your own permission? I would love to hear what it is. Go ahead and do it and see what happens. Give yourself permission. And thank you so much for tuning into this episode. I hope you get some insights from it, and I will see you in the next one. And remember, you are allowed to build differently. Thank you for being here. If this conversation resonated with you, you're welcome to join the Healing Business Revolution Letters for weekly reflections, conversations, and updates. You'll find everything at fridakorpo.com. Until next time.