Ep 10: Creating your own version of success

What does success actually mean to you?

For many of us, our definition of success was shaped long before we ever stopped to question it. Family expectations, cultural beliefs, and the messages we absorb growing up can quietly influence the lives and businesses we build.

In this episode, Frida shares her own journey of discovering that the version of success she had been chasing wasn't actually hers. Although she had achieved everything she thought she was supposed to want, something still felt missing.

This conversation is an invitation to pause and reflect.

What if success looked different for you?

What if it wasn't about achieving more, but creating a life and business that genuinely supports who you are?

In this episode we explore:

• Why many of us unknowingly chase someone else's version of success

• How family, culture, and business expectations shape our choices

• Creating a definition of success that feels meaningful and aligned

• Why you're allowed to build differently

• A simple reflection to help you define success on your own terms

I'd love to hear what success means to you; let's connect @fridakabo

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Transcript

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Welcome to the Healing Business Revolution, a podcast about meaningful work, healing, visibility, and building a life and business that works for you. Together, we'll explore what it means to create, lead, and grow in a way that feels sustainable and true to who you are. I'm Frida Cabo, and I'm so glad you're here Welcome back to the Healing Business Revolution podcast. My name is Frida Kalvo, and in this episode we're gonna talk about creating your own version of success. I think this is a really important subject, because quite often I see my clients, myself, just chasing someone else's version of success, and don't stop to question what is actually mine. And we need to create our own version of success. Really stop to think, "What does it really mean to me?" Growing up, I felt like I had missed the manual for what life should be. Like, everyone else was knowing all the steps and just got on with their lives, and I just observed and saw, "Okay, is that what you're supposed to do?" So I thought the version of success was to have a good education, a husband, kids, house, and a career, a successful career, doing a lot of things at the same time. And I did all that. I had all that, and I was not happy, and I was ashamed of not being happy since I had all that amazing things. But I felt like that was success. That was what I needed to chase, and that was what I needed to create. And just to realize that was not at all what I wanted. That was not what worked for me. It just got me burnt out and not happy, so why would I do it that way? So over the years I really reconstructed and reframed what success means to me. Like now success means doing something that is close to my heart. Be able to spend time with my kids and support them in their homeschooling, being able to go on adventures, and creating a life and a business that I love. Having amazing people around me that I connect with, that understands me, and we kind of talking about similar things. So it's totally different things than I thought when I grew up that I should have. If someone would have told me, "Yeah, you're gonna move to New Zealand and live in the bush and have a, your office out there," it's like, "What? That's weird." And now this is my life, and I love it. So really tune into where you are holding onto someone else's version of success. What does success mean to you?'Cause there can be cultural definitions of what success looks like. There can be family expectations of what success look like And also business, like when we go into business, what is success in a business term? I've had clients come to me and say,"Oh, th- this coach said I need to do that, that I need to grow big, and I need to, uh, do all of these things." And they were like, "I don't wanna do that. That's not what I want." And yeah, don't do it. Just tune into what does success mean to you, 'cause there's quite a difference between someone who wants to go international, who wants to, like, really spread something worldwide, and to someone who, who says, "No, I want this to support a really calm life where I just get to see a couple of clients a week." There's quite a difference there, and it's not right or wrong. It's just different, and that's okay. We're allowed to build differently. So the shift here I see is that we need to look at success from a personal lens. What does success mean to you? Whereas it's easy growing up and looking at other people,"Oh, what is success really? I need to be like that or do th- that or earn that or drive that." And that's really an outside perspective on what success should look like, whereas call it home. What does success really mean to you? Is it to wake up to the sunrise every morning and do a meditation? That might be success. Is it to go for a walk with your dog every afternoon? That might be success. Is it to earn a lot of money so that you can spread that wider and invest in or give money away to those who haven't got them? That might be success. Or is it just to earn a lot of money? That's might be success, too. There's so many different versions of success. So my question to you today is, what if nobody was looking? What would success look like for you? And the step I'll invite you to do today is write it down. Write down what is success to you. And I would love to hear about it. If you're on YouTube, you can write it in comments or send me a message on Instagram @fridakarlbo. I would love to hear about it. Thank you for listening to this episode. Have a beautiful rest of your day, and tune into what success looks like for you. And remember, you're allowed to build differently. Thank you for being here. If this conversation resonated with you, you're welcome to join the Healing Business Revolution Letters for weekly reflections, conversations, and updates. You'll find everything at fridakarlbo.com. Until next time.