Shift your perspective. If your parent is regularly experiencing memory changes, it's unlikely they have insight that they need help, won't accept support, and are unwilling to make changes.
This is where you need to shift your perspective and determine if your parent is able to make that decision anymore, or if this is a decision you're going to have to make on their behalf.
You can approach the discussion initially by framing it in the future. As Lisa suggested in this podcast, you can start by saying "Dad, you're 101, and it's likely you'll need help someday. I just want to know how I can best support you. I think it's important that we understand what's available so we'll be prepared when that time comes."
This might be the right time to bring in a care manager. In addition to helping identify the appropriate resources, a care manager understands the needs of older adults and their families, and can advise on options and supports for now and for the future.
Here are some resources you may find helpful:
Shift your perspective. If your parent is regularly experiencing memory changes, it's unlikely they have insight that they need help, won't accept support, and are unwilling to make changes.
This is where you need to shift your perspective and determine if your parent is able to make that decision anymore, or if this is a decision you're going to have to make on their behalf.
You can approach the discussion initially by framing it in the future. As Lisa suggested in this podcast, you can start by saying "Dad, you're 101, and it's likely you'll need help someday. I just want to know how I can best support you. I think it's important that we understand what's available so we'll be prepared when that time comes."
This might be the right time to bring in a care manager. In addition to helping identify the appropriate resources, a care manager understands the needs of older adults and their families, and can advise on options and supports for now and for the future.
Here are some resources you may find helpful: