

      <h2 id="spiritual-battle-and-impulse-buying"><a class="no-underline" href="#spiritual-battle-and-impulse-buying">Spiritual Battle and Impulse Buying</a></h2>


        <cite>Mark Spence</cite>
      <time>1:05</time>
      <p>
          There&#39;s   a   spiritual   battle   that   is   happening   and ,   as   you   are   married   to   this   non-believer ,   christ   knows   what   you&#39;re   going   through   and   you&#39;re   going   to   go   through   that   with   Him .   Don&#39;t   lose   heart .   I   don&#39;t   know   what   you   do   other   than   run   to   the   Lord .   Now   you   need   to   run   to   the   Lord   Unlike   ever   before .   If   I   was   to   go   to   prison ,   you   guarantee   that .   My   prayer   life   is   going   to   be   raised   up ,   my   study   is   going   to   be   raised   up ,   I&#39;m   going   to   be   known   inside   that   area   as   a   Christian   and   I&#39;m   going   to   love .   I&#39;m   going   to   love   the   people   around   me ,   unbelievers   and   believers   alike .   If   you&#39;re   married   to   a   non-believer ,   be   rich   in   good   works .   Let   them   know   that   you   love   them ,   that   you   are   going   to   unconditionally   and   sacrificially   be   there   for   them .   Go   above   and   beyond ,   maybe   in   cooking   and   cleaning   or   providing   financially   to   speak   good   words   to   them .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>2:03</time>
      <p>
          Music   485 .   I   see   the   man   back   there   with   that   number   495 .   That   girl   one&#39;s   going   twice   490 .   490 .   I   see   the   man   back   there   with   that   number   and   the   lady   over   there   with   that   number   $500 .   $500 ,   going   twice ,   going   three   times .   Sold   to   the   man   with   a   young ,   grown   toenail   in   the   back ,   $500 .   

      </p>

        <cite>Oscar Navarro</cite>
      <time>2:20</time>
      <p>
          Sorry   real   quick ,   Eddie ,   there&#39;s   something   wrong .   Normally   I   have   easy   on   mute ,   but   I   can   hear   him   right   now ,   please ,   somebody   makes   sense   for   me   of   auctioneers .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>2:33</time>
      <p>
          They&#39;ve   all   got   slurred   speech .   That&#39;s   the   problem .   

      </p>

        <cite>Oscar Navarro</cite>
      <time>2:35</time>
      <p>
          I   feel   like   you   could   do   it ,   though ,   because   you   are   a   quick   talker .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>2:39</time>
      <p>
          I   have   to   say ,   in   one   sense   they   drive   me   nuts   and   in   another   sense   I&#39;m   fascinated   by   them .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>2:44</time>
      <p>
          Is   it   an   art ?   They   do   it   deliberately ,   yeah   but   why   not ?   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>2:48</time>
      <p>
          like   you   know ,   sold   to   the   lady   in   the   back   with   no   head .   Like   what ?   Where ?   

      </p>

        <cite>Oscar Navarro</cite>
      <time>2:56</time>
      <p>
          did   it   go   from ?   I   actually   had   a   friend   who   was   an   auctioneer   Stop   it .   He   ended   up   quitting   to   become   an   archeologist .   Oh ,   that   makes   sense .   His   careers   are   ruins .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>3:04</time>
      <p>
          That&#39;s   a   logical   one ,   it&#39;s   a   ruins .   Oh ,   that&#39;s   funny .   Oh   no ,   he   didn&#39;t .   Good   one   Oscar .   Oh ,   good   one   Oscar .   You   saved   one .   Oh   yeah ,   you&#39;re   welcome   to   the   podcast   today   after   that   other   really   good   one   that   you   did .   What   was   it ?   Karma ,   oh   karma .   

      </p>

        <cite>Mark Spence</cite>
      <time>3:20</time>
      <p>
          Karma ,   karma ,   karma .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>3:21</time>
      <p>
          Anyway ,   anyway ,   I   love   going   to   auctions   like   that   and   standing   beside   people   who   are   friends ,   who   hold   their   hands   loosely   and   just   flicking   their   hands   up   in   the   air .   I&#39;ve   done   it   once   or   twice   Like   that ,   really ,   yes ,   and   I&#39;ve   also   with   Scotty   who   had   come   back   from   Huntington   Beach ,   would   come   off   the   off   ramp   and   then   be   a   whole   lot   of   guys   selling   flowers   and   looking   to   catch   an   eye   and   I&#39;d   get   his   hand   and   go   like   that   and   over   that   come   immediately   because   his   hand   went   up .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>3:42</time>
      <p>
          That&#39;s   terrible ,   right .   But   you   know ,   I   think   my   philosophy   is   they   do   that   because   it   creates   a   sense   of   panic   and   anxiety .   Oh ,   100% ,   Right .   Yeah ,   Because   I   mean ,   if   you&#39;re   like   okay   and   if   anyone   else .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>3:55</time>
      <p>
          Is   there   anyone   else   you&#39;re ?   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>3:57</time>
      <p>
          like   you   just   feel   like   take   my   money .   No ,   I   would   like   to   sit   down   with   an   auctioneer   and   like   have   them   explain   the   science   to   me .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>4:08</time>
      <p>
          I&#39;m   sure   to   be   something   on   YouTube   explaining   the   science   of   auctioneers .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>4:12</time>
      <p>
          We   have   to   look   it   up ,   let&#39;s   do   the   whole   podcast   on   auctioneers .   What&#39;s   an   auctioneer&#39;s   favorite   thing ?   To   auction   off   His   ears .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>4:21</time>
      <p>
          Did   I   get   it ?   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>4:21</time>
      <p>
          Yes ,   and   I   made   this   up   right ,   oh   dear .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>4:25</time>
      <p>
          It&#39;s   because   I   know   how   your   brain   works .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>4:27</time>
      <p>
          Well ,   he   has   ears   to   heal   in   here   I   should   have   guessed   that .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>4:29</time>
      <p>
          you   would   have   guessed   that .   Yeah ,   you   know   you   think   about   that   too .   It&#39;s   like   getting   something   in   the   heat   of   the   moment ,   under   pressure ,   that   you   end   up   regretting .   I   never   do   that   I   am   the   oh   no ,   You&#39;re   the   whole .   You&#39;re   the   obscene   on   TV   guy .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>4:47</time>
      <p>
          I   am   the   ultimate   pulse   of   buyer .   I   purchase   so   much   stuff   that   I   don&#39;t   need .   I   think   what   do   you ?   I   got   some   gifts   for   you   guys   that   I   threw   in   the   trash   the   other   day .   What   I&#39;ll   take   it ?   No ,   you   won&#39;t .   When   you   store   it   there ,   we&#39;re   as   about   60   of   these   little   chickens   that   you   put   on   your   finger   and   pull   back   and   fire   at   people .   

      </p>

        <cite>Oscar Navarro</cite>
      <time>5:04</time>
      <p>
          Why   didn&#39;t   you   give   them   up ?   I   want   that .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>5:06</time>
      <p>
          No ,   I   thought   I   can&#39;t   give   you   guys   that .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>5:09</time>
      <p>
          Why   We&#39;ll   be   shooting   you   right   now .   I   know   that&#39;s   why   that   would   be   so   amazing .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>5:13</time>
      <p>
          They   were   sitting   at   home   for   about   a   month   and   I   thought ,   no ,   those   are   going   in   the   trash .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>5:17</time>
      <p>
          Order   them   again .   

      </p>

        <cite>Oscar Navarro</cite>
      <time>5:18</time>
      <p>
          I   will   tell   you ,   speaking   of   impulse   buying ,   if   there   is   a   website   that   has   Apple   Pay ,   I&#39;m   in   trouble .   

      </p>

        <cite>Mark Spence</cite>
      <time>5:25</time>
      <p>
          I   will   buy   whatever   it   is .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>5:27</time>
      <p>
          Are   you   serious ?   

      </p>

        <cite>Oscar Navarro</cite>
      <time>5:28</time>
      <p>
          Yeah ,   If   I&#39;ll   get   an   advertisement   for   a   pair   of   shoes   or   something   and   I&#39;ll   go   on   the   website .   If   there&#39;s   no   Apple   Pay ,   I   have   a   chance .   But   if   there&#39;s   Apple   Pay ,   I&#39;m   buying   them .   They&#39;re   mine   Because   it&#39;s   so   easy   to   do .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>5:38</time>
      <p>
          It&#39;s   just   too   easy .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>5:41</time>
      <p>
          I   have   to   get   ripped   off   so   much   on   Amazon   because   I   keep   buying   stuff   not   looking   at   the   size   of   what   it   is .   I   mean   I   see   this   neat   little   stool   that   I   know   is   a   perfect   little   stool   and   actually   is   two   inches   high .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>5:53</time>
      <p>
          You   know   what ?   You   can&#39;t   climb   up   on   top   of   it .   I   set   myself   up   for   that   didn&#39;t   I .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>6:00</time>
      <p>
          I   remember   once   I   might   have   mentioned   this   before   a   lady   said   do   you   want   the   best   price   when   I   purchase   something ?   And   I   said ,   oh ,   yes ,   please .   Well ,   I   just   got   a   subscription   to   a   magazine   called   Best   Price .   No ,   yeah ,   for   a   year .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>6:12</time>
      <p>
          Do   you ?   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>6:13</time>
      <p>
          want   the   best   price .   Oh ,   yes ,   please .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>6:15</time>
      <p>
          That   is   very   devious .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>6:17</time>
      <p>
          It   was .   I   did   cancel   the   subscription ,   but   I   couldn&#39;t   help   but   admire   the   deviousness   of   the .   That   is   really   evil   and   wicked .   I   was   so   pleased   with   the   lady .   Would   you   like   the   best   price ?   Oh ,   yes ,   please .   Thank   you   so   much .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>6:30</time>
      <p>
          So ,   ray ,   are   you   the   one   that   buys   into   those   infomercials   where   someone   is   looking   utterly   miserable   because   their   pencil   doesn&#39;t   write   well   and   it ?   Looks   like   their   life&#39;s   going   to   end .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>6:42</time>
      <p>
          Yeah ,   well ,   that&#39;s   that .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>6:45</time>
      <p>
          Yes ,   there&#39;s   a   new   electric   pencil .   Oh ,   it   looks   like   you&#39;re   lying   I   really   want   it   already .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>6:50</time>
      <p>
          There   is   one .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>6:52</time>
      <p>
          What   is   it ,   though ,   ray ,   what   gets   you   to   buy   this   stuff ?   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>6:54</time>
      <p>
          Well ,   the   only   thing   I   don&#39;t   fall   for   are   those   exercise   machines   that   show   people   really   happy   while   they&#39;re   exercising .   I   never   fall   for   that   because   I   know   that&#39;s   a   lie .   It   doesn&#39;t   come   with   a   smile .   

      </p>

        <cite>Oscar Navarro</cite>
      <time>7:04</time>
      <p>
          You   can   get   it   right   under   your   bed .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>7:06</time>
      <p>
          Everything   else ,   everything   else   will   be   forever .   No   kidding ,   everything   else   gets   you ,   though ,   right ,   ray ?   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>7:11</time>
      <p>
          Almost .   Yeah ,   I   have   to   be   very ,   very   careful .   Oh   wow ,   I   recognize   my   weaknesses ,   all   of   them .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>7:17</time>
      <p>
          I   should   present   getting   money   from   Ray   in   infomercial   style .   Send   him   a   video   of   me   doing   all   this   stuff ,   and   if   you   send   this   Arab   ear   money ,   your   life   will   never   look   out   of   his   eyes   or   light   of   it   your   life   will   never   be   the   same .   

      </p>

        <cite>Oscar Navarro</cite>
      <time>7:32</time>
      <p>
          Easy   payments   2490 .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>7:34</time>
      <p>
          Isn&#39;t   that   dumb ?   Yeah ,   this   easy   is   really   easy   payments .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>7:37</time>
      <p>
          Yeah ,   obviously   crooks   yeah .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>7:40</time>
      <p>
          Great   friends .   Okay ,   look ,   this   is   so ,   so   cool .   Someone   named   Shane   from   Alabama   sent   us   all   in   and   out   cards   and   I&#39;m   not   gonna   give   the   amount ,   but   let   me   just   say   it   was   enormous   for   each   one   of   us   four   guys   here ,   and   then   for   our   staff   members ,   and   then   for   you ,   ready   to   give   out   when   you&#39;re   out   witnessing .   

      </p>

        <cite>Oscar Navarro</cite>
      <time>8:02</time>
      <p>
          Oh ,   I   didn&#39;t   know   they   sent .   I   knew   they   sent   us   the   car .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>8:05</time>
      <p>
          I   was   a   little   bit   more   ons ,   I   mean ,   it   was   kindness ,   unbelievable ,   seriously ,   and   and   so ,   shane ,   we   just   want   to   say   thank   you ,   brother .   It   really   blessed   us .   I&#39;m   still   using   mine .   

      </p>

        <cite>Oscar Navarro</cite>
      <time>8:15</time>
      <p>
          I   I   just   literally   last   night   my   wife   and   I   and   our   kids   had   dinner   on   Shane .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>8:20</time>
      <p>
          Yeah ,   no ,   I   got   it   in   my   wallet .   I&#39;m   just   always   going .   You   know   what   I   did   with   mine ?   

      </p>

        <cite>Mark Spence</cite>
      <time>8:25</time>
      <p>
          Did   you ?   My   son   turned   23   and   that   was   his   gift   from   us .   It   was   so   much ,   oh   yeah   it   was   huge   so .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>8:33</time>
      <p>
          Shane .   Thank   you ,   brother .   We&#39;re   very   blessed   and .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>8:36</time>
      <p>
          We   all .   Maybe   Shane&#39;s   wife   had   something   to   do   with   oh   and   Shane&#39;s   wife .   Yeah ,   this   is   Shane ,   thank   you   and   this   is   Shane .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>8:42</time>
      <p>
          Yeah ,   no ,   seriously ,   your ,   your   sacrifice   Did   not   go   wasted .   You ,   you   blessed   us   deeply   and ,   more   than   even   just   the   cards ,   the   gesture   of   your   care ,   that   just   that   touched   us .   So   thank   you   so   much .   And   then   we   got   an   amazing   piece   of   artwork   from   a   sister   named   lilac .   That   they   did ,   that   did   some ,   some   drawings   of   Ray ,   mark ,   oscar ,   myself ,   and   I   loved   what   was   on   the   shirts   too .   First   she   had   Ray   saying   yeah ,   right ,   she   had   me   and   it   said   wheezy   and   I&#39;m   dying ,   wheezing   on   the   Table .   And   then   Oscar ,   it   says   100% .   

      </p>

        <cite>Oscar Navarro</cite>
      <time>9:18</time>
      <p>
          I   didn&#39;t   realize   that .   I   always   say   that .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>9:22</time>
      <p>
          And   then ,   and   then   it   has   marks   in   the   nerve   and   it   just   says   judgmental   silence .   It&#39;s   perfect .   With   his   eyes   squinted .   

      </p>

        <cite>Oscar Navarro</cite>
      <time>9:29</time>
      <p>
          We   need   to   make   this   available   somehow   for   our   listeners .   I   know   maybe   we   can .   Let&#39;s   do   this .   We   will   have   a   link   in   the   show   comments   and   we&#39;ll   have   Brad   posted   up .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>9:39</time>
      <p>
          Okay ,   oscar ,   you   take   a   look   at   that .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>9:40</time>
      <p>
          I   will ,   because   we   keep   our   word   here   and ,   by   the   way ,   a   friend   of   mine   sent   me   this   ball   for   my   dog   and   the   ball   actually   says   yep   right ,   yep   right .   Oh ,   I   love   that   ball   Just   weird   Sue   was   mentioning   last   night .   How   could   be   a   ball   the   dog   plays ?   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>9:53</time>
      <p>
          right   front ,   Yep   right .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>9:55</time>
      <p>
          Yeah ,   and   she&#39;s   so   insightful   that   the   t-shirts   all   say   something   that   we&#39;re   wearing   in .   The   artwork   says   Ray   says   Sam&#39;s   Sunglass   Shop ,   mine   says   baklava   inspector .   Oscar   says   do   you   even   coffee ?   And   Mark   says   I   love   cats ,   I   just   can&#39;t .   So ,   lilac ,   thank   you   so   much .   That&#39;s   very   sweet .   You   really   really   encouraged   us ,   and   she   included   a   letter   with   it   and   it   says   this   Easy   my   husband   and   I   listen   to   your   podcast   daily .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>10:25</time>
      <p>
          Every   topic   is   so   rich   in   information ,   encouragement   and   wisdom .   While   he   waits   for   a   new   one ,   he   starts   all   the   way   at   the   beginning   and   re   listens   to   the   old   ones .   It&#39;s   a   wonderful   thing   we   get   to   converse   about   at   the   end   of   the   work   day .   Everyone   I   come   across   I   always   end   up   going .   Have   you   heard   of   the   living ?   Well ,   have   you   heard   of   living   waters ?   They   have   a   podcast   about   that .   That   may   get   it   that   they   may   get   annoyed   by   how   much   I   love   your   podcast   and   push   them   their   way ,   but   I   don&#39;t   care   because   they&#39;re   just   that   good .   I&#39;m   even   fortunate   enough   to   have   a   Christian   boss   and   have   even   shared   the   podcast   with   her ,   specifically   snuffing   out   slander   and   giving   up   gossip   for   the   workplace .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>10:59</time>
      <p>
          Your   podcasts   have   deeply   influenced   my   life ,   and   loving   God   and   pouring   out   Under   others .   I   really   don&#39;t   know   what   I   would   have   done   without   you   guys   always   humming   in   my   ear   my   headphones .   The   podcast   is   engaging ,   entertaining   and   abundant   and   all   things   godly .   Please   don&#39;t   stop   making   them ,   therefore ,   my   beloved   brother ,   and   be   steadfast   and   movable ,   always   abounding   in   the   work   of   the   Lord ,   knowing   that   your   labor   is   not   in   vain .   And   the   Lord ,   I   hope   you&#39;re   encouraged   praying   for   you   all .   Ps ,   I   have   big   brown   eyes   and ,   listening   your   podcast ,   my   husband   now   teases   me   about   them .   Oh ,   thanks ,   yeah ,   like   the   Arab   cherub&#39;s   eyes .   So   thank   you ,   lilac .   Thank   you   for   that   amazing   artwork .   Again ,   we&#39;re   gonna   let   everyone   see   it .   Who   wants   to   see   it ?   I&#39;ll   scroll   to   care   that .   Done ,   done   and   yeah ,   praise   the   Lord .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>11:40</time>
      <p>
          All   right ,   friends .   This   podcast   is   brought   to   you   by   the   starter   kit .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>11:45</time>
      <p>
          The   starter   kit   has   four   gospel   tracks .   You   get   350   of   them   all   together   a   million   dollar   bill ,   ten   Commandment   coins   and   are   you   a   good   person ?   Comic ,   along   with   the   101   worlds   funniest   one   liners .   So   make   sure   to   get   that .   That   has   taken   off   really .   I&#39;ve   been   blown   away   by   how   well   it&#39;s   doing   and   it&#39;s   encouraging   because   the   sample   pack   is   great .   People   are   getting   samples   of   what   we   provide ,   but   the   starter   kit   is   actually   full   of   a   lot   of   tracks   so   they   can   go .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>12:11</time>
      <p>
          Yes ,   it&#39;s   wonderful ,   yeah .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>12:13</time>
      <p>
          So   get   that   starter   kit   and   don&#39;t   forget   the   Living   Waters   podcast ,   so   you   can   drink   in   a   very   righteous   way   drink   some   living   water .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>12:23</time>
      <p>
          Send   your   gift   now .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>12:26</time>
      <p>
          Holy   water   and   the   Living   Waters   podcast .   Mugs   wait   right .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>12:30</time>
      <p>
          Ray   wants   one .   Okay ,   order   on   the   next   hour   and   we&#39;ll   throw   in   and   don&#39;t   forget ,   friends ,   the   evidence   study   Bible   all   at   livingwaterscom .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>12:43</time>
      <p>
          All   right ,   enough   silliness   guys .   We&#39;re   actually   dealing   with   a   pretty   serious   topic   today ,   and   one   I   think   that   I&#39;m   sure   a   number   of   our   Listeners   will   be   happy   to   hear   us   address ,   and   that   is   how   to   dwell   with   an   unbelieving   Spouts   we   should   have   had .   

      </p>

        <cite>Oscar Navarro</cite>
      <time>12:59</time>
      <p>
          Laura   here   for   this .   Oh ,   you   stole   my   opening   line .   

      </p>

        <cite>Mark Spence</cite>
      <time>13:02</time>
      <p>
          The   struggle   is   very   obvious .   Just   ask   raised   daughter   Rachel .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>13:11</time>
      <p>
          Boy .   Poor   Rachel   man .   She   has   had   to   put   up   with   a   lot   with   me .   I   mean   people   don&#39;t   realize .   

      </p>

        <cite>Oscar Navarro</cite>
      <time>13:18</time>
      <p>
          Yeah ,   we   know ,   we   all   know .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>13:20</time>
      <p>
          I   mean ,   arabs   are   crazy ,   man ,   we   are   crazy .   This   poor ,   innocent   gentle ,   soft-spoken ,   quiet   New   Zealander   girl ,   a   Mary&#39;s ,   an   Arab ,   and   I   mean   the   first   time   she   came   to   a   family   gathering ,   oh ,   Boy ,   I   was   just   thinking   what   that   would   have   been   like   because   I   go   to   Ray   and   Seuss .   I   took   him   a   big   old   oh   I   to   this   day   my   heart   is   broken   a   big   old   bullet   to   bully   my   sister   slaved   over   and   they   had   maybe ,   maybe ,   a   quarter   of   a   bite   each .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>13:52</time>
      <p>
          I   am   right   quarter   of   a   bite .  
      </p>

      <h2 id="the-danger-of-marrying-unbelievers"><a class="no-underline" href="#the-danger-of-marrying-unbelievers">The Danger of Marrying Unbelievers</a></h2>


        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>13:54</time>
      <p>
          And   then   you   send   us   a   video   of   you   at   a   wedding   and   I&#39;m   never   sending   it   like   it   look   like   a   disco ,   just   you   doing   this   sort   of   a   hula   thing .   It   was   just   quite   amazing .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>14:04</time>
      <p>
          Yeah ,   but   wait   at   our   rehearsal   dinner .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>14:05</time>
      <p>
          That   was   it   was   just   the   rehearsal .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>14:07</time>
      <p>
          You   were   there ,   you   know   I   wasn&#39;t ,   you   were   there   for   the   rehearsal   dinner .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>14:10</time>
      <p>
          No ,   I   don&#39;t   think   so .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>14:11</time>
      <p>
          Yeah ,   you   are .   I&#39;m   offended ,   for   sure ,   100% .   You   and   mom   were   there   and   you   were   fascinated   because   all   my   sisters   were   dancing   and   I   was   doing   some   dancing   and   how   much   was   the   outhouse   at   the   wedding ?   Oh   yeah   $100 .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>14:23</time>
      <p>
          It   was   a   lot   of   money   like   60   years   ago .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>14:26</time>
      <p>
          We&#39;re   still   better .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>14:26</time>
      <p>
          Yeah ,   I&#39;m   still   better ,   no   one   used   to .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>14:28</time>
      <p>
          Houses   are   the   greatest   things   in   the   world .   Take   two .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>14:33</time>
      <p>
          I   should   have   done   so ,   but   no ,   I   mean   seriously   like   I&#39;d   go   over   to   rain ,   susan ,   it&#39;s   like   man ,   just   quiet ,   air ,   pin   drop   and   Rachel   comes   to   my   poor   families   gathered ,   everyone   jumping   around ,   ripping   each   other&#39;s   hair   out   of   their   head ,   and   I   mean ,   yeah ,   so   anyway ,   but   so   we&#39;re   looking   unbelievers   in   a   marriage   yeah   unbelievers   in   a   marriage .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>15:09</time>
      <p>
          I   mean ,   look   that   we&#39;re   laughing   and   doing   our   thing ,   but   there   are ,   there   are   people   listening   now   that   Are   probably   in   tears   right   now   just   even   hearing   the   topic ,   totally   because   this   is   a   reality   for   a   lot   of   people .   And   there   are   some   who   are   in   this   predicament   because   they   got   married   before   they   got   saved   and   then   they   got   saved   and   they   have   an   unbelieving   husband   or   wife .   There   are   others   that   thought   they   married   a   believer   and   then   realized ,   uh-oh ,   they&#39;re   not   a   believer .   And   then   there   are   others   who   willfully   disobeyed   the   Lord   and   married   an   unbeliever   and   now   they&#39;re   Reaping   the   consequences   of   having   done   that .   So   we   want   to   be   sensitive   today ,   but   we   also   want   to   be   honest   and   and   we   want   to   deal   with   this-   when   are   we   not ?   

      </p>

        <cite>Oscar Navarro</cite>
      <time>15:58</time>
      <p>
          always   Some   dishonesty   here   and   there .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>16:03</time>
      <p>
          But   you   know ,   we   want   to   really   be   frank .   Yeah ,   frank   and   earnest .   You&#39;re   already   Frank   Frank ,   yeah ,   that&#39;s   true ,   that&#39;s   my   name   at   restaurants .   But   you ,   yeah ,   it&#39;s ,   it&#39;s   a .   It&#39;s   a   deep   topic ,   it&#39;s   a   very   Serious   one ,   and   I   think   that   it&#39;s   important   for   another   reason ,   and   I   want   to   start   there .   So ,   before   we   jump   into   dwelling   with   an   unbelieving   spouse ,   I   think   we   should   just   briefly   touch   on   the   wisdom   that   should   be   Heeded   to   not   get   married   to   an   unbeliever   in   the   first   place .   Right ,   I   was   a   very   deep   breath .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>16:38</time>
      <p>
          Yeah ,   it   reminds   me   of   an   experience   I   had   I   may   have   spoken   of   before ,   where   Rachel ,   when   she   was   a   little   toddler ,   like   she   was   about   Six   or   seven   you   may   remember   this   easy   because   I   see   you   playing   with   phone   I   was   in   the   shower   and   she   called   out   what   color ?   What   I   do ,   my   report ?   She   had   to   have   a   color   on   the   heading   and   I   said ,   well ,   I   do   it   red   with   a   black   background   because   she   was   drawing   my   wisdom ,   because   I&#39;ve   had   experience   and   all   that   sort   of   thing .   And   she   called   out   what   about   green ?   And   I   thought ,   oh   well ,   she   doesn&#39;t   want   read   with   a   black   background .   So   I   said   yellow   was   another   outstanding   color   and   you   could   enhance   it   by   doing   this   and   maybe   have   a   black   daughter .   She&#39;s   called   out   what   about   green ?   

      </p>

        <cite>Mark Spence</cite>
      <time>17:17</time>
      <p>
          And   so .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>17:17</time>
      <p>
          I   said   green .   Then   she   says   okay ,   thanks   dad .   And   walked   off .   And   that&#39;s   how   can   we   that   we   can   be   like   that   with   prayer ?   So ,   oh   god   I   need   your   direction   for   should   I   marry   so-and-so   and   God   says   don&#39;t   be   married   to   an   unbeliever .   Yeah ,   what   about   green ?   Yeah ,   I&#39;m   not   asking   you ,   I&#39;m   telling   you   what   I   want .   You   know ,   I   want   this   and   you   end   up   getting   green   and   it   doesn&#39;t   work .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>17:37</time>
      <p>
          Yeah ,   no ,   it&#39;s   so   true .   And   and   second ,   corinthians   6 ,   14   is   where   we   find   that   text   Do   not   be   unequally   yoke   together   with   unbelievers ,   for   what   fellowship   has   righteousness   with   lawlessness ,   and   what   communion   has   light   with   darkness ?   And   what   accord   has   Christ   with   Belial ?   Or   what   part   has   a   believer   with   an   unbeliever ?   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>17:57</time>
      <p>
          And   what   agreement   has   a   temple   of   God   with   idols ?   For   you   are   the   temple   of   the   living   God ,   as   God   has   said .   I   will   dwell   on   them   and   walk   among   them .   I   will   be   their   God   and   they   shall   be   my   people .   Therefore ,   come   out   from   among   them   and   be   separate ,   says   the   Lord .   Do   not   touch   what   is   unclean   and   I   will   receive   you .   I   will   be   a   father   to   you .   You   shall   be   my   sons   and   daughters ,   says   the   Lord   almighty .   So   mark   that   this   is   a   heavy   thing .   You   and   I&#39;ve   pastored   for   many   years .   We&#39;ve   done   many   weddings   and   we&#39;ve   been   approached   by   people   who   wanted   to   be   unequally   yoke ,   and   I&#39;d   love   for   you   to   just   speak   to   that   the   Folly   and   the   danger   associated   with   it .   

      </p>

        <cite>Mark Spence</cite>
      <time>18:33</time>
      <p>
          Hey   boy ,   I   cannot   think   of   anything   More   devastating .   When   a   believer   chooses   to   move   ahead   and   marry   a   non-believer   Goes   against   all   sound   wisdom ,   rages   against   all   advice .   That&#39;s   gonna   be   godly .   And   they   go   ahead   and   move   forward .   I   can&#39;t   imagine   and   we   won&#39;t .   

      </p>

        <cite>Mark Spence</cite>
      <time>18:52</time>
      <p>
          You   and   I   will   not   officiate   a   wedding   from   a   believer   and   a   non-believer .   You   even   have   to   begin   to   question   if   they   are   a   believer ,   if   they   are   raging   against   the   wisdom   of   People   inside   their   lives   as   they   open   up   scripture .   I   mean ,   you&#39;re   so   Not   just   mistaken ,   you&#39;re .   You&#39;re   blinded   to   the   reality ,   thinking   that   you   know   better   than   God   does   Randy   Smith .   He   said   as   Christians   we   are   told   to   be   evenly   yoked ,   specifically   to   marry   another   believer .   There   are   many   talented   and   sacrificial ,   hard-working   and   kind   unbelievers   out   there ,   but   the   reality   cannot   be   overlooked .   The   unbeliever ,   in   biblical   terms ,   hates   your   savior .   There   is   no   neutrality   with   the   Lord .   How   could   you   ever   spend   the   rest   of   your   life   with   someone   who   hates   the   one   that   you   love   the   most ?   How   could   you   ever   come   to   an   agreement   on   any   key   worldview   issues ?   It&#39;s   impossible .   Wait   for   God&#39;s   Best .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>19:53</time>
      <p>
          Why   does   have   a   tragic   spin   to   it ,   like   bringing   up   your   children   and   the   fear   and   the   admonition   of   the   lord .   None   believe   is   not   going   to   want   that .   That&#39;s   right .   The   fear   of   God&#39;s   going   to   be   offensive   to   him .   

      </p>

        <cite>Mark Spence</cite>
      <time>20:03</time>
      <p>
          Yeah ,   two   cannot   walk   together   unless   they   agree ,   right ?   I   mean   everything .   You&#39;re ,   you&#39;re   just   going   to   disagree   on   everything .   Listen ,   beauty   is   vain   charmers   to   see ,   but   a   woman   who   fears   the   Lord ,   she   shall   be   praised   there .   There   comes   a   point   where   you&#39;re   watching   a   movie   and   then   you   want   to   turn   the   movie   off ,   but   your   spouse   wants   to   keep   watching   the   movie .   They   don&#39;t   have   the   same   conviction .   What   do   you   have   in   common ?   Food ,   I   mean .   Politics   are   going   to   be   heading   in   different   directions .   You&#39;re   going   to   believe ,   be   believing   different   things .   What   do   you   have   in   common   if   you   say ,   well ,   they   are   so   nice .   Well ,   just   wait ,   because   that&#39;s   going   to   change   and   repentance   isn&#39;t   going   to   be   there .   And   you&#39;re ,   they&#39;re   not   going   to   be   asking   for   forgiveness   when   they   should   be   asking   for   forgiveness .   Yeah ,   well ,   they&#39;re   beautiful .   Well ,   wait   for   the   2024   model ,   because   that   version   is   right   around   the   corner .   You   know ,   ears   begin   to   droop   and   hair   begins   to   continually   grow   out   of   ears   and   things   get   worse   and   worse .   What   do   you   have   in   common   that   is   significant ?   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>20:57</time>
      <p>
          You&#39;re   talking   about   the   man   with   the   hair   growing   out   of   the   ears ,   obviously .   

      </p>

        <cite>Mark Spence</cite>
      <time>21:00</time>
      <p>
          Yeah ,   so   there ,   there ,   there   are   so   many   warnings .   Listen ,   just   wait .   And   I   have   an   encouragement   you   know ,   if   people   are   Interested   in   each   other   and   they   both   love   the   Lord ,   and   it&#39;s   heading   the   right   direction .   I   said   get   married   as   soon   as   you   can   and   enjoy   All   the   different   difficulties   of   life   as   fast   as   you   can   go   through   it   together .   I   want   to   see   the   world   first .   See   the   world   with   your   spouse .   Yeah ,   it&#39;ll   be   so   much   better .   So ,   yeah ,   big   warning .   

      </p>

        <cite>Oscar Navarro</cite>
      <time>21:29</time>
      <p>
          I   don&#39;t   know   how   my   marriage   would   be   what   it   is   if   not   for   the   gospel   boy .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>21:39</time>
      <p>
          That   was   dramatic .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>21:41</time>
      <p>
          Well ,   I   was   waiting
      </p>

      <h2 id="the-significance-of-biblical-marriage"><a class="no-underline" href="#the-significance-of-biblical-marriage">The Significance of Biblical Marriage</a></h2>


        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>21:42</time>
      <p>
            for   you .   

      </p>

        <cite>Oscar Navarro</cite>
      <time>21:42</time>
      <p>
          There&#39;s   like   a   gap   between   every   word   I&#39;m ,   I&#39;m   ruminating   on   the   reality   of   it ,   like   I&#39;m   trying   to   comprehend   how   we   would   have   survived   the   last   12   years .   I   mean   every   nuanced   detail ,   every   disagreement .   We&#39;ve   had   everything .   We&#39;ve   celebrated   every   way   that   we   raise   our   kids ,   the   way   we&#39;ve   gone   about   our   finances ,   the   way   we&#39;ve   organized   our   life   around   the   groups   of   friends   we   have .   That   the   very   vision   of   our   marriage   is   to   glorify   God .   It&#39;s   not   self   interested ,   you   know ,   and   I   just   I   love ,   I   think ,   I   believe   that   I   have   a   beautiful ,   vibrant   marriage .   I&#39;m   blessed   by   it .   It   has   its   trials ,   but   in   the   good   and   in   the   bad .   I   don&#39;t   know   how   it   works   Without   God   working   in   both   of   us   simultaneously .   

      </p>

        <cite>Oscar Navarro</cite>
      <time>22:30</time>
      <p>
          It   just   doesn&#39;t   make   sense   to   me .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>22:32</time>
      <p>
          Yeah ,   yeah ,   and   I   think   that   oftentimes   a   big   mistake   made   by   Christian   parents   is   they   don&#39;t   paint   the   picture   for   their   kids   early   enough   and   helping   them   to   understand   the   the   deeper   significance   of   being   married   to   a   believer ,   and   so   our   kids   aren&#39;t   discipled   in   that   direction   and   then   the   next   generation   grows   up   and   it&#39;s   it&#39;s   not   taken   as   seriously   as   it   should   be .   I   love   this   by   Jim   McGuigan .   He   said   there   aren&#39;t   many   things   more   stupid   than   Christians   relying   on   a   forbidding   text   to   keep   young   people   from   marrying   non-believers   without   offering   rich ,   warm ,   inspirational   biblical   theology   about   Christian   destiny ,   mission   and   maximum   joy .   By   the   time   some   young   man   or   woman   is   speaking   of   marriage   to   a   non-believer ,   it&#39;s   already   too   late .   To   quote   a   verse   of   scripture .   

      </p>

        <cite>Oscar Navarro</cite>
      <time>23:33</time>
      <p>
          I   received   really   good   wisdom   from   a   friend   of   mine   a   few   years   ago   and   he   said   at   an   early   age ,   before   your   girls   are   thinking   about   boys   or   when   they   start   thinking   about   boys ,   you   have   to   make   a   list   of   all   the   things   they   want   in   their   husband .   And   anytime   they   have   a   crush ,   anytime   you   know   a   boy   gets   their   eyes ,   you   take   out   that   list   and   you   and   you   say   where   is   he   at   on   this   list ?   You   know ,   you   put   on   the   list   that   he   would   love   the   Lord ,   that   he   would   pursue   him   with   his   heart ,   soul ,   mind ,   this   is   really   good   off   correction .   

      </p>

        <cite>Oscar Navarro</cite>
      <time>24:02</time>
      <p>
          And   and   if   that&#39;s   not   on   the   list ,   you   said   little   things ,   like   he   loves   dogs ,   that   he   wants   to   spend   time   with   my   family .   You   go   through   the   list   to   help   them   understand .   Are   you   just   caught   up   in   a   moment ?   Are   these   your   emotions   taking   hold   of   you ,   or   is   there   something   of   value   of   worth   to   pursue   here ?   And   the   second   thing   was   to   like   you&#39;re   kind   of   alluding   to   we   can&#39;t   just   tell   them   not   to   marry   an   unbeliever .   We   also   have   to   give   them   a   reason   why   they   should   be   in   a   biblical   marriage ,   and   that&#39;s   by   putting   the   fruits   of   your   own   marriage   on   display ,   and   the   good   and   the   bad .   

      </p>

        <cite>Oscar Navarro</cite>
      <time>24:31</time>
      <p>
          My   wife   and   I   try   to   practice   if   we   come   to   a   disagreement   about   something ,   we   don&#39;t   go   in   the   other   room   and   talk   it   out ,   but   we   also   don&#39;t   elevate   our   voices .   We   don&#39;t   argue   with   one   another .   We   talk   it   out   gracefully .   We&#39;re   willing   to   confess   and   repent ,   we&#39;re   willing   to   reconcile   and   we&#39;re   willing   to   do   all   those   things   in   front   of   our   children .   Because   I   want   my   kids   to   know   the   first   time   someone   raises   their   voice   at   them ,   I   want   it   to   be   a   foreign   experience .   I   want   them   to   be   like   whoa .   

      </p>

        <cite>Oscar Navarro</cite>
      <time>24:58</time>
      <p>
          This   is   not   what   I&#39;m   used   to   seeing   from   my   mom   and   my   dad .   You   know   I   want   them   to   see   a   willingness   to   repent ,   to   say   I&#39;m   sorry .   I   want   them   to   know   my   dad   would   say   I&#39;m   sorry   to   my   mom   all   the   time   and   that&#39;s   the   kind   of   husband   I   want .   That&#39;s   the   kind   of   husband   my   son ,   you   know ,   I   hope   that   my   son   becomes .   And   so   to   display   biblical   marriage   in   the   good ,   the   bad   and   the   ugly ,   to   display   all   of   that   to   our   kids   is   paramount   To   give   them   a   taste   of   of   of   what   God   is   trying   to   offer   them .   

      </p>

      <h2 id="navigating-marriage-and-dating-with-unbelievers"><a class="no-underline" href="#navigating-marriage-and-dating-with-unbelievers">Navigating Marriage and Dating With Unbelievers</a></h2>


        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>25:24</time>
      <p>
          So ,   ray ,   what   do   you   say   to   the   person   who   says ,   well ,   okay ,   I&#39;m   not   married   to   this   person ,   but   I&#39;m   just ,   I&#39;m   just   dating   unbelievers .   Uh ,   so   I   should   be   fine   there .   I   didn&#39;t   marry   them ,   I   haven&#39;t   sinned   yet .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>25:35</time>
      <p>
          I&#39;ll   be   playing   with   fire .   Hmm ,   just   stay   away   from   something   like   that .   Don&#39;t   tempt   yourself ,   because   you&#39;re   going   to   be   Like   Oscar   was   saying   your   emotions   can   take   hold   of   you .   So   you   don&#39;t   think   clearly .   Yeah ,   especially   in   that   realm .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>25:46</time>
      <p>
          So   what   is   it ,   ray ?   Is   it   an   itch   that   someone   just   Like   feels   they   have   to   scratch ?   Is   it ?   I   just   am   so   attracted   to   this   person .   Is   it   a   lack   of   spiritual   depth ?   It&#39;s   stupidity ,   basically ,   is   what   it   comes   down   to .   Yeah ,   I   just   don&#39;t   date   an   unbeliever .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>26:03</time>
      <p>
          You   just   don&#39;t   do   that .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>26:04</time>
      <p>
          You   know ,   yeah ,   yeah .   

      </p>

        <cite>Mark Spence</cite>
      <time>26:07</time>
      <p>
          It   shows   you   the   depth   of   their   spirituality   as   well .   I   mean ,   the   biggest   decision   that   you&#39;re   going   to   make   on   this   planet   outside   of   salvation ?   Here   we&#39;re .   We&#39;re   saying   you   know   better   than   God .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>26:19</time>
      <p>
          Yeah ,   I   mean .   Well ,   you   know   what   is   it ?   One   of   the   greatest   causes   of   arguments   and   marriage   is   finances .   Well ,   that&#39;s   gonna   be   thrown   dynamite   among   the   finances   if   you   want   to   tithe   to   your   local   church   or   give   to   a   charity   that   he   thinks   a   Christian   charity   and   he   doesn&#39;t   want   to .   That&#39;s   gonna   cause   huge   problems ,   yeah .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>26:37</time>
      <p>
          Yeah ,   and   you   think   about   it   again   from   the   standpoint   of   You&#39;re   marrying   someone   who   doesn&#39;t   love ,   or   I   mean   in   real   biblical   terms ,   when   we   look   at   the   heart   of   man   Hates   the   one   you   love   above   all   else .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>26:52</time>
      <p>
          Hmm ,   that&#39;s   huge   and   blasphemes   this   name .   Yeah ,   and   you   won&#39;t   want   to   go   on   a   mission   Retrip   with   them .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>26:58</time>
      <p>
          So   true ,   yeah ,   and   and   mark   things   fade   quickly ,   don&#39;t   they   like   the   things   that   that   bring   people   together   Oftentimes ?   I   was   just   talking   with   with   someone   recently   and   just   telling   them   you   know   the   importance   of   Looking   to   what   matters .   And   a   spouse ,   right ,   I   mean ,   look ,   all   of   us .   I&#39;m   sure   when   we   first   met   our   wives   we   had   them   Cracking   up ,   dying ,   rolling   on   the   ground   and   laughter .   We&#39;re   still   new .   Yeah ,   over   time ,   right ,   they   get   used   to   our   jokes .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>27:27</time>
      <p>
          Of   course   they   still   appreciate   us ?   Oh   no ,   they   still   laugh .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>27:30</time>
      <p>
          Go   ahead   how   you   doing ,   I&#39;m   doing   great .   

      </p>

        <cite>Mark Spence</cite>
      <time>27:34</time>
      <p>
          I&#39;m   doing   amazing ,   I&#39;m   thinking   easy .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>27:36</time>
      <p>
          you   need   some   counsel   married ,   they   laugh   even   more   than   before .   They   try ,   you   guys   are   maintaining   in   mind   yeah ,   so   anyway ,   yeah ,   but   but   you   know ,   those   things   that   got   someone   excited ,   even   beauty ,   right ,   I   mean   you ,   you ,   you   still   appreciate   your   spouse ,   you&#39;re ,   you&#39;re   attracted   to   them ,   of   course ,   sometimes   in   a   deeper   way   in   a   sense .   But   but   yeah ,   we   get   older ,   we   change ,   we ,   but   those   things   that   that   lured   you ,   oftentimes   divorced   from   character   and   godliness   and   A   heart   that   has   Christ   at   the   center   of   it ,   that&#39;s   not   there ,   man ,   you&#39;re   gonna   realize .   What   am   I   left   with ?   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>28:20</time>
      <p>
          Hmm   thanks ,   things   that   fade   and   marry   a   prince .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>28:23</time>
      <p>
          enough   with   a   frog ,   yeah .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>28:25</time>
      <p>
          Yeah ,   and   the   story   of .   Sue .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>28:31</time>
      <p>
          Until   I   croak   do   a   good .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>28:35</time>
      <p>
          Do   a   good ,   frog   crook   right .   All   right ,   so   now   let&#39;s   transition .   Okay ,   we   shared   that .   Friends .   For   any   of   you   listening   that   may   be   on   the   brink   there ,   I   have   no   question   there   are   some   listening   that   are   On   the   precipice   of   plunging   into   either   a   relationship   with   a   non-Christian   or   into   marriage .   I   wish   I   can   get   on   my   knees   here   and   you   could   see   me   pleading   with   you   to   please   not   do   it .   I&#39;ve   done   many   weddings   over   the   course   of   my   life   and   I&#39;ve   had   people   who   I   told   I   would   not   marry   because   they   were   gonna   marry   an   unbeliever   Later   come   back   and   say   I   wish   I   would   have   listened .   You   don&#39;t   want   to   be   that   kind   of   person .   Trust   me .   I   love   the   saying   that   says   you   would   rather   not   have   what   you   want   Than   to   have   what   you   don&#39;t   want ,   and   what   you   don&#39;t   want   is   a   lifetime   with   someone   that   doesn&#39;t   love   your   savior .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>29:36</time>
      <p>
          And   something   we   probably   should   add   is   that   we&#39;re   not   looking   down   with   condescension   on   an   unbeliever ,   Absolutely   no .   You&#39;re   saying   it&#39;s   just   like   someone   from   a   different   planet   You&#39;re   gonna   marry   and   you   don&#39;t   want   to   do   it .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>29:46</time>
      <p>
          Yeah ,   exactly .   And   look ,   unbelievers   can   relate   in   a   sense   that   you   know   they   wouldn&#39;t   want   to   marry   someone   that   doesn&#39;t   share   their   greatest   Interest   or   have   any   kind   of   inclination   towards   supporting   it ,   even   if   they   don&#39;t   like   it   themselves .   It&#39;s   just ,   oh   man ,   yeah ,   anyway ,   all   right .   So   let&#39;s   transition   then   to   those   that   are   there ,   those   right   now   that   are   are   in   the   midst   of   that   pain   again .   It   may   not   have   been   by   choice ,   because   they   got ,   they   got   saved   after   they   were   married   to   the   unbeliever ,   or   they   found   out   that   person   wasn&#39;t   even   a   believer .   What   advice   would   you   guys   have ?   We   want   to   get   in   the   scripture   on   that   in   a   second   here .   In   fact ,   let   me   do   that   first   and   then ,   and   then   we&#39;ll   go   from   there .   This   is   set   first   Corinthians   7 ,   10   to   16 .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>30:29</time>
      <p>
          Now   to   the   married .   I   command   yet   not   I ,   but   the   Lord   a   wife   is   not   to   depart   from   her   husband ,   but   even   if   she   does   depart ,   let   her   remain   unmarried   or   be   reconciled .   Her   husband   and   a   husband   is   not   to   divorce   his   wife .   But   to   the   rest   I   not   the   Lord   say   if   any   brother   has   a   wife   who   does   not   believe   and   she&#39;s   willing   to   live   with   him ,   let   him   not   divorce   her .   And   a   woman   who   has   a   husband   who   does   not   believe ,   if   he   is   willing   to   live   with   her ,   let   her   not   divorce   him ,   for   the   unbelieving   husband   is   sanctified   by   the   wife   and   the   unbelieving   wife   is   sanctified   by   the   husband .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>30:58</time>
      <p>
          Otherwise   your   children   would   be   unclean ,   but   now   they   are   holy .   But   if   the   unbeliever   departs ,   let   him   depart .   A   brother   or   sister   is   not   under   bondage   in   such   cases ,   but   God   has   called   us   to   peace .   For   how   do   you   know ,   a   wife ,   whether   you   will   save   your   husband ?   Or   how   do   you   know ,   oh   husband ,   whether   you   will   save   your   wife ?   So ,   mark ,   take   us   into   that .   What&#39;s   Paul   talking   about   here   in   terms   of   hey ,   if   you&#39;re   married   to   an   unbeliever ,   first   of   all ,   don&#39;t   depart .   

      </p>

        <cite>Mark Spence</cite>
      <time>31:25</time>
      <p>
          Well ,   that&#39;s .   It   demonstrates   how   important   marriage   is   To   God .   First   and   foremost .   God   hates   Divorce .   Now ,   we   can   say   law   on   that   for   a   very   long   time .   

      </p>

        <cite>Mark Spence</cite>
      <time>31:38</time>
      <p>
          Marriage   is   not   something   that   our   government   came   up   with .   Yeah ,   this   has   been   instituted   by   God .   Also ,   I   would   say   that   it&#39;s   been   defined   by   God .   You   know ,   between   a   man   and   a   woman ,   we   can&#39;t   redefine   that .   When   you   are   with   someone   and   we&#39;ve   kind   of   we&#39;ve   talked   about   this   right   there   there   really   is   nothing   that   our   Spouses   can   do   that   would   make   us   love   them   less   or   want   to   move   on .   And   when ?   So   when   you   have   a   nonbeliever   married   to   a   believer   and   my   heart   breaks   for   that   believer ,   it&#39;s   God&#39;s   design ,   ultimately ,   for   you   to   stay   together .   Yeah ,   you   know ,   and   he   gives   provision ,   you   know ,   to   move   on ,   you   know ,   in   cases   of   adultery   and   whatnot .   But   it&#39;s   God&#39;s   desire   for   you   to   to   be   faithful ,   yeah ,   and   to   be   a   prayerful   warrior   and   To   get   accountable .   Get   some   good   friends .   You&#39;re   not   gonna   get   that ,   that   great   godly   world   views   from   home ,   so   you   need   to   get   it   elsewhere .   You   need   to   become   a   student   of   God&#39;s   word .   

      </p>

        <cite>Mark Spence</cite>
      <time>32:40</time>
      <p>
          I   remember   when   I   became   a   Christian ,   my   mom   had   told   me   we   forbid   you   from   going   to   church .   Well ,   and   I   said ,   mom ,   you   may   be   able   to   keep   me   out   of   church ,   but   you   can&#39;t   keep   Christ   out   of   my   heart   and   out   of   my   life .   And   she   didn&#39;t   know   what   to   say   to   that .   I   even   know   what   I   was   saying   when   I   said   it .   Really ,   but   that   that&#39;s   really   the   case .   So   you&#39;re   going   to   be   run   down .   There&#39;s   a   spiritual   battle   that   is   happening   and ,   as   you   are   married   to   this   non-believer ,   christ   knows   what   you&#39;re   going   through   and   you&#39;re   gonna   go   through   that   with   him .   Don&#39;t   lose   heart .   So   I   don&#39;t   know   what   you   do   other   than   run   to   the   Lord .   Now   you   need   to   run   to   the   Lord ,   unlike   ever   before .   If   I   was   to   go   to   prison ,   you   guarantee   that   my   prayer   life   is   going   to   be   raised   up .   My   studies   gonna   be   raised   up .   I&#39;m   gonna   be   known   inside   that   area   as   a   Christian ,   yeah ,   and   I&#39;m   going   to   love .   I&#39;m   gonna   love   the   people   around   me ,   unbelievers   and   believers   alike .   If   you&#39;re   married   to   a   non-believer ,   be   rich   in   good   works .   Let   them   know   that   you   love   them ,   that   you   are   going   to   unconditionally   and   sacrificially   be   there   for   them .   Go   above   and   beyond ,   maybe   in   cooking   and   cleaning   or   providing   financially   to   speak   good   words   to   them .   Read   books   like   the   love   dare   by   our   brothers ,   stephen   and   Alex   Kendrick .   

      </p>

        <cite>Mark Spence</cite>
      <time>34:03</time>
      <p>
          You   know   where   you   have   different   ideas   and   how   to   creatively   love   your   spouse ,   to   love   really   the   unlovable ,   where   they   don&#39;t   make   it   easy ,   where   your   spouse ,   perhaps   on   a   Sunday ,   just   wants   to   watch   football   all   day .   You   know   you   want   to   go   to   church   on   Sunday ,   they   want   to   go   to   the   river .   You   have   to   become   creative   on   how   you   love   and   how   you   genuinely   show   respect   and   honor   them .   You   know   nobody&#39;s   going   to   do   that   better   than   you .   How   do   I   know   that ?   Because   you&#39;re   in   that   position .   You&#39;re   in   that   position .   It&#39;s   a   high   and   it&#39;s   a   holy   calling .   It   is   not   God&#39;s   desire   for   you   now   just   to   move   on   to   somebody   else .   Yeah ,   you   have   major   bed   Right   now .   

      </p>

        <cite>Mark Spence</cite>
      <time>34:41</time>
      <p>
          You   got   to   live   with   it .   

      </p>

        <cite>Mark Spence</cite>
      <time>34:43</time>
      <p>
          You   got   to   dwell   with   your ,   your   spouse   and   understanding   you   understand   their   makeup   better   than   they   understand   their   own   makeup .   

      </p>

        <cite>Mark Spence</cite>
      <time>34:49</time>
      <p>
          You   understand   the   decisions   that   they&#39;re   making .   

      </p>

        <cite>Mark Spence</cite>
      <time>34:51</time>
      <p>
          So   you   need   to   now   dwell   peaceably   with   them .   You   need   to   be   quick   to   forgive   them ,   even   when   they   don&#39;t   even   ask   for   forgiveness .   And   that   is   an   unusual   position   because   our   spouses   are   quick   to   what   Oscar   was   saying ,   to   have   our   children   Hear   us   say   I&#39;m   sorry .   You   know   my ,   my   spouse   today   said   I&#39;m   sorry   for   something   that   I   did   to   you   yesterday   and   I   didn&#39;t   even   think   much   of   it .   All   right ,   Well ,   your   spouse   is   not   going   to   be   quick   to   say   I&#39;m   sorry   for   little   things .   There&#39;s   big   things   where   they   won&#39;t   even   say   I&#39;m   sorry   for .   

      </p>

        <cite>Mark Spence</cite>
      <time>35:20</time>
      <p>
          You   need   to   walk   in   that   perpetual   place   of   forgiving   them .   That   is   70   times   seven   in   a   day .   That&#39;s   the   life   you&#39;re   gonna   have   to   live .   It   is   a   high   place   to   be .   It   is   a   difficult   place   to   be   and   I   Encourage   you   to   have   accountability ,   to   have   fellowship ,   to   be   part   of   men&#39;s   groups   or   women&#39;s   groups ,   to   get   the   word   in   you   and   there&#39;ll   be   ample   opportunity   to   get   it   out   of   you .   And   what   I   would   not   do   is   I   would   not   say   First ,   corinthians   7   says   that   you   know   they   don&#39;t   care   right ,   so   you   can   share   scripture .   It   is   living   in   powerful ,   sharper   than   any   two-edged   sword ,   as   Hebrews   412   tells   us .   But   you   can   kind   of   share   scripture   in   a   roundabout   way ,   and   in   those   roundabout   ways ,   still   remember   that   it   is   living   in   powerful ,   maybe   little   portions   of   scripture   and   tying   them   all   together .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>36:07</time>
      <p>
          Yeah   and   Ray ,   we   talked   on   the   last   episode   just   about   being   careful   in   the   in   the   missionary   realm   from   Looking   abroad   when   you   have   unbelievers   all   around   you .   I   mean ,   in   essence ,   for   those   that   are   living   in   marriages   where   they   have   an   unbelieving   spouse   that   becomes   their   mission   field .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>36:24</time>
      <p>
          Your   aim   is   not   to   have   a   harmonious   marriage .   Your   aim   is   to   see   your   husband   saved .   You   want   him   born   again   with   a   new   heart   and   new   desires ,   and   so   never   give   up   in   prayer .   Prayer   is   your   secret   closet ,   he   that   dwells   in   the   secret   place   the   most   high .   I   want   to   share   something   with   you .   It&#39;s   very   special   in   regards   to   God&#39;s   faithfulness   and   to   keep   on   praying
      </p>

      <h2 id="impact-of-believers-on-unbelieving-spouses"><a class="no-underline" href="#impact-of-believers-on-unbelieving-spouses">Impact of Believers on Unbelieving Spouses</a></h2>


        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>36:44</time>
      <p>
          .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>36:44</time>
      <p>
          I&#39;ve   had   a   friend   for   a   really   yeah ,   he&#39;s   a   nice   guy .   He&#39;s   the   only   one   I&#39;ve   got ,   but   I   think   we   met   when   about   14   in   high   school .   His   name   is   Kerry   Bennett .   I   got   saved   when   I   was   22   and   he   became   an   instant   marker .   He   was   not ,   he   had   a   twisted ,   really   fun   sense   of   humor ,   but   he&#39;d   always   get   the   knife   and   whenever   I&#39;d   mention   the   things   of   God   to   him ,   he   was   a   Goliath   marker ,   if   I   can   say   that   even   you   know   I&#39;d   write   to   him   over   the   years .   I&#39;d   write   if   I&#39;d   wait   four   or   five   years   or   I&#39;m   how   are   you   doing ,   kerry ?   He&#39;d   write   back   and   do   it .   I   don&#39;t   need   to   say   I&#39;m   doing   good   Hope ,   you&#39;re   well ,   I&#39;m   making   lots   of   money   with   your   religion   and   always   be   that   knife   in   there .   Yeah ,   anyway ,   I .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>37:23</time>
      <p>
          About   a   month   or   so   ago   I   wrote   to   him   and   said   these   are   my   words .   I   said   do   you   have   any   thoughts   on   what   happens   after   you   die ,   because   we&#39;re   both   in   our   seventies ?   He&#39;s   my   age .   What&#39;s   your   thoughts ?   And   I   was   blown   away ,   blown   away   by   what   he   wrote   back .   He   said   this   wow ,   that&#39;s   a   really   hard   question .   I&#39;ll   have   to   think   on   it   for   a   while .   You&#39;ve   got   no   idea   what   this   means   to   me   to   see   that   I&#39;m   going   to   start   boosting   her   tears .   He   said   my   mind   is   all   over   the   place   since   the   death   of   my   son   and   my   wife   recently ,   and   it   just   it ,   just   so .   So   I   wrote   back .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>37:55</time>
      <p>
          I   left   it   for   another   couple   of   months   and   I   wrote   back   and   I   said   I   think   you&#39;ve   been   often   long   for   you   to   open   up   and   ask   me   some   questions   about   God   and   life   and   death .   I   mentioned   our   views   on   YouTube   and   I   said   okay ,   that   gives   me   some   credibility   to   sell   just   a   little   bit   right   to   me .   I   said   you   want   to   offend   me ?   Hit   me   with   some   hard   questions .   You&#39;ve   got   nothing   to   lose .   I   greatly   value   your   friendship .   And   yesterday   he   wrote   back   thanks   for   reaching   out .   Sorry ,   I&#39;ve   not   got   back   to   you   sooner .   As   we   reach   the   pointy   end   of   our   lives ,   I   am   reassessing   my   thoughts   on   where   we   go   from   here   and   I&#39;m   more   open   and   receptive   than   ever   to   changing   for   the   better .   I&#39;m   seeing   an   incredible   lady ,   one   of   Anne&#39;s ,   that&#39;s   his   wife ,   best   friends ,   and   I   feel   someone   has   put   us   together   against   all   odds .   Suze   is   a   believer   like   yourself ,   and   I   feel   I&#39;m   coming   down   off   the   fence .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>38:41</time>
      <p>
          And   he   said   talk   soon .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>38:42</time>
      <p>
          That&#39;s   70s .   Yeah ,   and   I   wrote   back   to   my   says   I   can   hardly   see   what   I&#39;m   emailing   back   to   you   because   of   the   tears   in   my   eyes .   So   it&#39;s   been .   I   haven&#39;t   seen   him   for   30   years ,   but   never ,   never .   Give   up   with   your   spouse ,   you   know .   Play   with   God   and   prayer   and   just   show   them   you   love   them .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>38:58</time>
      <p>
          Yeah ,   we   hear   stories   of   people   who   prayed   for   decades   for   their   spouse   and   it&#39;s   in   their   70s   or   80s .   They   end   up   coming   to   Christ   Roscoe .   I   wanted   to   ask   you ,   and   if   you   had   something   else   you   want   to   throw   in   there ?   But   but   what   do   you   do   with   the   part   here   that   also   says   okay ,   you&#39;re   not   to ,   you&#39;re   not   to   divorce   them   if   they&#39;re   an   unbeliever .   However ,   if   the   unbeliever   desires   to   depart ,   let   them   depart   a   brother   or   sister ,   they&#39;re   called   a   peace   in   that .   In   that   case ,   how   do   we   deal   with   that ?   

      </p>

        <cite>Oscar Navarro</cite>
      <time>39:28</time>
      <p>
          Yeah   Well ,   I   think   you   got   to   start   that   by   saying   or   repeating   what   Mark   said ,   which   is   that ,   first   and   foremost ,   god   hates   divorce ,   that   he   wants   us   to   be   reconciled   for   his   glory   and   our   good   at   all   times ,   in   these   situations .   At   the   same   time ,   you   can&#39;t   it&#39;s   clear   that   you   can&#39;t   hold   a   non-believer   accountable   to   God&#39;s   will .   You   can&#39;t   put   him   through   church   discipline   and   church   discipline   and   the   witness   of   elders   is   a   very   important   aspect   of   marriage   that   it   seems   that   the   unbelieving   spouse   is   outside   of .   But   I   think   we   have   to   be   careful ,   because   you   don&#39;t   want .   What   you   don&#39;t   want   is   to   have   a   believer   who&#39;s   married   to   an   unbeliever   like   hoping   their   unbeliever   is   going   to   leave   them   one   day ,   because   that   also   doesn&#39;t   seem   to   be   the   will   of   God .   And   let   me   just   say ,   going   back   to   kind   of   what   you   guys   were   alluding   to   earlier ,   I   think   one   of   the   most   important   witnesses   there   is   out   there   in   this   world   to   the   power   of   the   gospel   and   the   transformation   it   does   as   people   is   the   witness   that   a   believer   has   to   their   unbelieving   spouse .   Preach   the   gospel   to   them   and   then   let   them   no   one   sees   your   heart   more   than   the   one   you&#39;re   married   to ,   and   so   let   them   see .   You   kind   of   mentioned   it   before .   Let   them   see   the   transformative   power   of   the   gospel .   If   you&#39;re   a   husband ,   let   your   unbelieving   wife   see   you   love   and   lead   gently   your   wife   and   children   like   you   never   did   before .   Let   that   be   a   prick   in   their   hearts   of   like   a   witness   to   the   transforming   power   of   the   gospel .   If   you&#39;re   a   wife   married   to   an   unbeliever   husband ,   let   them   see   you   lovingly   serve   your   husband   and   your   kids   like   you   never   have   before ,   for   the   glory   of   God ,   and   let   that   love   and   patience   and   grace   be   a   prick   to   their   hearts   of   the   truth   and   reality   of   the   gospel .   Let   them   savor   the   fruit   of   God&#39;s   work   in   your   life   and   let   them   desire   more .   

      </p>

        <cite>Oscar Navarro</cite>
      <time>41:27</time>
      <p>
          I   have   a   good   friend .   You   guys   have   met   him .   He&#39;s   actually   going   to   be   on   a   trip   with   us   soon .   His   name   is   Brian .   He   was   a   police   officer .   His   wife   got   saved   first .   He   never   outwardly   hated   God ,   he   was   never   angry   at   it ,   but   he   was   like   oh ,   that&#39;s   cute ,   churches   for   you   and   the   kids .   I&#39;m   good   with   you   and   the   kids   going ,   but   I&#39;ve   had   a   long   day   at   work   as   a   police   officer ,   I&#39;m   not   going   with   you .   

      </p>

        <cite>Oscar Navarro</cite>
      <time>41:46</time>
      <p>
          And   so   there   was   contention   in   their   marriage   and   someone   went   to   Linda   his   wife   and   was   like   man ,   love .   Love   him   in   that ,   love   him   well   in   that .   Let   him   see   you   love   and   serve   and   honor   him   as   you   honor   the   Lord .   But   honor   the   Lord   first .   And   I   mean   now   he&#39;s .   He   got   saved .   He&#39;s   a   elder   candidate   at   our   church ,   like   he   preaches   the   gospel   at   our   church .   You   know   they   have   a   beautiful   marriage   now .   But   it   wasn&#39;t .   But   it   was   years   that   Linda   spent   praying   for   him   and   pursuing   him   with   the   gospel   and   with   the   transformative   power   in   the   gospel .   And   so   my   big   encouragement   if   you   are ,   if   you   are   a   new   believer   or   you&#39;re   a   believer   recently   and   you&#39;re   married   to   an   unbeliever ,   pursue   them   with   the   transformative   work   of   the   gospel   in   your   life .   Let   them   see   that   and   let   that   be   a   prick   to   their   soul .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>42:38</time>
      <p>
          Amen ,   yeah ,   and   I   think   too   it&#39;s   important   to   clear   up   maybe   what   might   be   some   confusion   in   the   text   here ,   where   Paul   says   that   the   spouse   is   sanctified   by   the   believing ,   unbelieving   spouse   is   sanctified   by   Ray&#39;s   phone .   That&#39;s   making   music .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>42:54</time>
      <p>
          No ,   that&#39;s   turned   off .   Yeah ,   I   know   why .   Yeah ,   and   what&#39;s   YouTube ?   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>42:58</time>
      <p>
          Yeah ,   right ,   Sorry   about   that .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>43:00</time>
      <p>
          Yeah ,   so ,   so   so   it&#39;s   rolling   his   eyes   like   I   do   that   all   the   time .   

      </p>

        <cite>Oscar Navarro</cite>
      <time>43:04</time>
      <p>
          Oh   yeah ,   First   time   first   time   occurrence   101   things   you   do   to   annoy   your   co-hosts .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>43:11</time>
      <p>
          Yeah ,   that   needs   to   be   the   next   book ,   right ,   anyway ,   where   Paul   talks   here   about   the   unbelieving   spouse   being   sanctified   by   the   believing   spouse ,   or   your   children   being   holy ,   and   it&#39;s   important   that   we   recognize   that   that   is   in   a   matrimonial   or   in   a   familial   sense ,   as   John   MacArthur   notes .   It&#39;s   not   talking   about   it   in   a   spiritual   or   in   a   salvific   sense .   Basically ,   what   that   means   is   there   are   blessings   preferred   from   the   believer   to   the   unbeliever .   God   blesses   those   that   are   within   the   circle   of   the   believer   and   and   and   those   transfer   over ,   in   that   sense ,   the   common   graces   and   blessings   of   God   through   the   believer   to   the   unbeliever .   So   it&#39;s   important   to   remember   that .   But   there   is   that   opportunity   to   have   massive   impact .   You   know   how   many   unbelievers   finally   came   to   that   place   where   they   were   like ,   wow ,   I   saw   my   spouse   continue   to   love   me   in   the   midst   of   all   the   things   that   I   did   and   my   animosity   toward   the   gospel   and   and   my   rudeness   and   you   know ,   so   on   and   so   forth .   And   so   we   have   that   opportunity .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>44:09</time>
      <p>
          But   let   me   just   say   too ,   as   a   clarifying   point ,   that   if   you   are   in   a   situation   where   there   is   abuse ,   you   need   to   get   out ,   yes ,   and   you   need   to   get   out   quickly .   You   need   to   get   to   a   place   of   safety ,   you   need   to   get   counselors   involved .   If   there&#39;s   violence ,   you   may   need   to   get   the   police   involved .   That&#39;s   very ,   very   important   to   understand   because   a   lot   of   times   people   get   a   misunderstanding   in   that   regard .   They   think ,   oh ,   I&#39;m   I&#39;m   fine   to   stick   around   with   abuse .   That&#39;s   never   acceptable ,   because   tolerating   wickedness   and   evil   and   allowing   it   to   continue   when   it   can   be   stopped   is   not   something   that   we   should   do .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>44:45</time>
      <p>
          Outside   of   that ,   outside   of   abuse ,   of   course ,   there   is   that   opportunity   to   have   impact .   I   mean   this   is   for   the   wife .   1   Peter ,   3 ,   1   to   6 ,   wives   likewise   be   submissive   to   your   own   husbands .   They&#39;ve   even ,   even   if   some   do   not   obey   the   word ,   they ,   without   a   word ,   may   be   won   by   the   conduct   of   their   wives   when   they   observe   your   chase   conduct   accompanied   by   fear .   And   then   he   goes   on   and   talks   about   not   letting   your   dormant   be   out   external   and   he   ends   it   by   talking   about   Sarah   and   her   godliness   and   she   says   if   you   do   good   and   are   not   afraid ,   without   any   terror .   So   he   talks   about   that   honor ,   that   respect ,   that   healthy ,   godly   fear .   But   then   he   says ,   hey ,   you&#39;re   to   do   it   without   being   afraid   with   terror ,   but   it&#39;s   under   the   Lord .   So ,   mark ,   I&#39;d   love   for   you   to   just   speak   to   that   in   terms   of   being   able   to   win   a   husband   over   an   unbelieving   husband ,   without   even   a   word   needing   to   be   spoken   because   of   the   conduct   of   their   wives .   

      </p>

        <cite>Mark Spence</cite>
      <time>45:37</time>
      <p>
          Yeah ,   this   is   probably   one   of   those   instances   where   we   evangelize   through   friendship ,   right ,   and   being   that   rich   in   good   works .   I   just   I   can&#39;t   imagine   what   somebody&#39;s   gone   through   being   married   to   a   non-believer   and   how   to   go   about   doing   it .   It&#39;s   a   whole   new   mission   field   and ,   as   Ray   said ,   this   is   your   greatest   mission .   Now   you   think   about   the   hardships   that   we   go   through .   Right ,   my   daughter   Eden   had   her   wisdom   teeth   taken   out .   Today ,   yeah ,   that   is   the   biggest   thing .   Instead   of   her   life ,   right ,   her   life   is   like   coming   unglued   because   she   had   her   teeth   taken   out .   That   is   nothing   compared   to   the   trials   of   an   individual   who   is   married   to   a   non-believer .   

      </p>

        <cite>Mark Spence</cite>
      <time>46:18</time>
      <p>
          But   listen ,   as   hard   as   this   is ,   it&#39;s   not   an   impossible   task   to   still   walk   with   God   in   simplicity   and   to   love   on   Him   and   to   receive   from   Him   and   to   enjoy   marriage .   It   is   still   possible   to   enjoy   marriage   because ,   remember ,   marriage   is   God&#39;s   idea   and   it&#39;s   more   blessed   to   give   than   to   receive ,   and   you&#39;re   going   to   be   doing   a   whole   lot   more   giving   than   receiving   when   you&#39;re   married   to   a   non-believer .   So   many   things   are   going   to   be   affected   by   this .   It   is   a   sweet   place   of   worship   that   can   be   experienced ,   that   we   don&#39;t   need   to   experience .   

      </p>

        <cite>Mark Spence</cite>
      <time>46:55</time>
      <p>
          I   remember   teaching   my   kids ,   my   daughters   about   the   dangers   of   being   trafficked   and   then   what   to   do   if   you   ever   get   trafficked ,   on   how   to   stay   focused   in   the   midst   of   your   captors   and   the   midst   of   being   abused ,   and   how   to   worship   God   in   the   midst .   Well ,   it&#39;s   a   whole .   It&#39;s   a   higher   plateau ,   it&#39;s   a   different   plateau ,   it&#39;s   a   different   place .   Being   married ,   and   don&#39;t   mistake   that ,   that   God   has   now   abandoned   you   because   you   have   decided   to   go   against   His   perfect   will ,   as   is   prescribed   inside   of   the   Word   of   God .   He&#39;s   still   a   very   present   help   and   time   in   need .   He   still   says   draw   near   to   me   and   I&#39;ll   draw   near   to   you .   His   Word   still   applies   to   you .   You   have   to   trust   Him .   

      </p>

        <cite>Mark Spence</cite>
      <time>47:36</time>
      <p>
          All   the   more   Hard   place   to   be   but ,   still   a   good   place   to   be   with   God&#39;s   help .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>47:41</time>
      <p>
          And   Ray ,   sometimes   kids   are   caught   in   the   crossfire .   You   have   kids   that   are   growing   up   with   a   dad   who   may   know   the   Lord   and   a   mother   who   doesn&#39;t .   

      </p>

        <cite>Ray Comfort</cite>
      <time>47:48</time>
      <p>
          Yeah ,   and   it&#39;s   going   to   scar   them   for   life .   That&#39;s   where   the   mother   needs   to   take   them   aside   and   explain   what&#39;s   going   on   and   pray   with   them   for   their   dad .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>47:57</time>
      <p>
          And   also   the   believing   parent   can   still   have   spiritual   impact   in   the   lives   of   the   children   Because   they&#39;re   seeing   the   negative   from   the   unbelieving   spouse .   But   they   can   still   use   their   kids   as   a   mission   field   as   well   and   get   the   gospel   to   them .   

      </p>

        <cite>Emeal Zwayne</cite>
      <time>48:09</time>
      <p>
          Amen ,   yeah .   So   all   right ,   friends .   Well ,   there   you   have   it .   We   know   that   some   of   you   right   now   are   no   question   broken   over   this ,   maybe   even   in   tears   as   you   listen .   We   just   want   you   to   know   that   we   care   about   you .   When   we   end   this   podcast ,   now ,   we&#39;re   going   to   all   bow   and   we&#39;re   going   to   pray   for   you   that   the   Lord   would   encourage   you ,   that   he   would   strengthen   you ,   get   other   believers   around   you ,   get   counsel   from   your   spiritual   leadership ,   get   accountability ,   like   we&#39;ve   already   mentioned ,   and   don&#39;t   lose   hope .   Trust   the   Lord ,   shine   the   light   of   Christ ,   cast   your   cares   upon   him ,   recognize   that   this   trial   is   not   outside   of   the   realm   of   God   working   in   your   life   in   a   powerful   way ,   and   so   commit   it   to   him   and   let   him   transform   you .   No   silly   ending   today .   Thanks   for   joining   us .   We&#39;ll   see   you   here   next   time   on   the   Living   Waters   podcast .   

      </p>