Welcome to Digital Podcaster. My name is Dylan Schmidt. And today, I'm going to share with you a comment that I see a bunch. And I want to address it. And I have been there for years, more of my life actually has been dealing with this than not, I have no idea what I'm doing, you probably already saw the title. When you click this, I can no idea what I'm doing. This can pertain to a lot of stuff. But for the most part, we all deal with this on some level, you know what, I have no idea what I'm doing with my podcast, or with my life, or with my content, or with how I help people. I just, I'm keeping it super general. So in today's episode, I want you to apply this where you see fit. If you click this, there's a good chance that maybe you feel I have no idea what I'm doing. And to be honest, my guess I do have some idea. But for the most part, I don't have any idea what I'm doing. And I think and and I've put together a list of tangible things for us, for you primarily. And you'll know why this will all make sense. As we go through this little process together of a episode together. That sounds more detailed. It sounds like this is therapy or something it's not. I will warn you this episode today is a bit deep. It's not like emotionally heavy. That's not the goal here. But I guess I mean, I like addressing deep emotional things, I guess. So. And this is a topic that resonates deeply with me. So I can't just address this from like a well, you know, if you don't know what you're doing, you got to find out where you're going and head there. That's not what this episode is about, is a much deeper thing, because it's so frustrating and annoying to sit in the feeling of I have no idea what I'm doing. And yes, again, you might do this might pertain to podcasting, this might pertain to a lot of stuff, and I'm just gonna blow it up here. I'm gonna make it larger during this episode. You know, I don't know what, I have no idea what I'm doing. What if you didn't need to know what to do? What if you didn't need to know what to do? Feel like I could end the episode there. And we could just ponder on that. Sign off. Well, when we were all kids, we became then adults, we transitioned into adults. And we went, maybe some of us went to school, maybe even some of us didn't go to school, like after school in college or something. Colleges have graduation, right? It's a ceremony. It's like an initiation, or the marking significance of ending something. And beginning something else. I really like the idea of a graduation, even though I didn't even want to go to my high school graduation. But I see the significance of the event. Because it's like a you see it, you've done this thing. Now you get to signify it in an event makes a lot of sense. But also, what happens after sometimes people graduate high school, or college is they go, I need to take a break now. Because they maybe don't have as clear direction. They're like I'm taking a break. I'm gonna see what happens next. And another way of saying is, I have no idea what I'm doing. I have no idea what I'm doing next is really essentially what they're saying. Most likely, not all the time. Some people have it figured out. Some people have trust funds of millions of dollars, must be nice. But even those people have a strong possibility. They don't have any idea what I'm doing. If you're listening to that, and you resonate with that. I'd be curious to know, because I think it's fascinating to you all, everyone, everyone deals with this. So but we we go through that graduation process, and it acts as an initiation in essentially to the next phase. Joseph can I remember years ago, I can't pinpoint it. But Joseph Campbell, who mapped out the hero's journey, which is like the major steps of any big good story like Star Wars was based off the hero's journey. It is a whole rabbit hole if you ever want to check out the hero's journey by Joseph Campbell. But he, you know, he talks I've listened to his talks and he talks about how important initiations are, or events signifying events or traditions and things like that. And in common culture, common society, we don't really have too much recognition or, and social media recognition does not count. We almost get the wrong forms of validation and recognition from social media or different things like that. And really, maybe we're feeling like we want someone to tell us what to do next, especially if we've been in school and we want to know lately. Next thing you need to do is this also have, you know, like, maybe we just never got that recognition from colleagues, people that work with us, and we're just feeling lost. Or maybe we got like family members, maybe they're alive, maybe they're dead, that we're still kind of like, Hey, I never really got the recognition from them I wanted. And I'm gonna share some solutions on how you can work through that and, and kind of come out on top on the other side, like a total Rockstar. Because like I said, it is annoying to live in the feeling of I have no idea what I'm doing. But let's be honest, knowing what you're doing would require a clear path? And to be honest, how far would we want that path to go? If you knew what you were doing step by step? Yes, that would bring relief? Yes, that is important. But would you want to know exactly what you're doing for the next, your whole life, like on Tuesday, in the year 2042, you're going to have breakfast with this friend and this and that. I think if people knew their calendar too much, they would not. They would not find it very fun. And they'd probably find it like, I need to get out of this hell, because there's no unknown, like, we need a certain mix of unknown and we need a certain mix of known. And I get when you when you're really feeling like the idea of I have no idea what I'm doing is too much unknown. And I get that. So we want to add a little bit of known a little bit of some idea of where to go. But if we just want to point out that if we knew too much, we might be bored. I think that might be one reason why people don't schedule their calendars too far in advance for one, because they're like, it doesn't seem very fun. Now, when you lay it all out like that, we like a little mix up the unknown sometimes. And the truth is, even if we planned it all out in advance, there would be some unknowns that would come up, whether it's health related car related gear related things that we just didn't see coming. But I'm saying also at another level, if we knew for certain what was going to happen on every day, for the next few years, bunch of years, we'd be like is weird. And again, I told you what I want you we're going deep on this episode today. So if you're, I give I gave you the out. But let's look at time for an example. And I guess I should preface this. I don't partake in drugs. I don't really I don't really I say don't really because it's not like I do. I don't drink alcohol. I do a couple times a year, but not like an excess, like, a couple of drinks a year. It just it's not my thing. I prefer thinking clearer. So I just want to say all that I'm like, I'm not coming at you from like, some DMT or booze idea here. But I like analyzing this stuff, and philosophizing. That's a word. Let's look at time real quick, like, left to right, right, we look at time, chronologically, like there's a beginning, a middle and an end. And we're conditioned, we've become conditioned to look at time, like it's a spinning clock, from 12 o'clock, to one o'clock to two o'clock, and so on. And the truth is, we've all experienced time go by fast sometimes. And we've all experienced it to go by slow at times, we find it typically to go fast when we're in an excited state, or we're like, doing something where we just get in the flow, we get lost on our, you know, we're just like, we're just doing it, we just do it, we're in the flow. And typically it goes by slow when we're watching the clock. We're not really wanting to be doing what we're doing. And that sucks. And so when we kind of step aside for a second from looking at time chronologically, what if we looked at it like, we weren't supposed to be doing it like, like, there's nothing to be doing behind you, or in front of you. Like there's nothing like the calendar when we're looking at your calendar, there's nothing too foreign in the advanced that you need to be doing to figure out what you're doing now. And there are experiences that you've had, that have helped you to get to this point. But there's no way that you're, if you're if you have no idea what you're doing, there's nowhere that you need to be right now. Like, even if you know what you're doing. I'll be honest with you this might be confronting is even if you knew what you were doing. There's nowhere that you're supposed to be at different in where you're at, if that makes sense. You're where you're at right now, no matter what stage you're at. And that is the stage you're you're supposed to be at because that's where you're at. That's reality, if you want more about reality and kind of a therapeutical approach to it. Byron Katie is a great it's been a few years since I I have looked into her work, but she really helped me kind of get to this idea of facing reality and what is true? Like, let's be radically honest with what is true. And if the truth is, you have no idea what you should be doing. That's just the truth. Yeah, the truth is you're confused. And then she'll say, like, she has like a little framework. And it's like, well, what is what is, how can I know that this is true? Well, I knew that if I if I was questions, you'd ask yourself, well, if I knew, you know, how do I know it's true, I know, it's true that I have no idea what I'm doing, because I'm not doing anything. And then, again, check out Byron Katie, if you want to go deeper into that, but but the good news is, you have an opportunity, when you realize that of realizing that you, you don't know what you're doing. And that is simply to get good at not knowing what you're doing. Yeah, not knowing, essentially, you can build that muscle. I know that sounds counterintuitive. Hopefully, you're following me here. But you can get good at not knowing what you're doing in a way that's productive. Because once you focus on becoming like, oh, I have no idea what I'm doing cool. And your job is to focus on, or get better at, like, just okay, well, I'm gonna, I don't know what I'm doing. But I'm gonna record this podcast, I don't know what I'm doing. But I'm gonna post this thing. Cool. We also have an out to someone goes, Hey, that podcast wasn't that good. You recorded that pocket. It was cool. I didn't really know what I was doing. What didn't you like about it? Oh, actually, I just thought that you were you know this, and you got to judge the feedback too is this person that I would value any feedback from. And if it is, then that's one way to go. But if it isn't, then you, you got to throw it out and look at the source. But when you don't know what you're doing, you can kind of let yourself off the hook. Because you don't have to be a professional. You don't have to say, Well, I knew better. And I did it this way. You don't know what you're doing. So you can have fun with it. And there's a big opportunity in not knowing and just to kind of hang in that in the uncomfortableness of not knowing. But trust that there is clarity around the corner for what it is that you want to be doing, or you want to get better at. And then a couple of tangible things that I want to offer you so that you can start knowing what you're doing is one start helping someone. So it's the easiest, quickest way to kind of get out of maybe a funk that you're feeling something like that. But make sure to help someone who actually needs your help. Don't just go helping people that are like, I'm fine, what are you doing, but if someone actually, I'm not saying help someone in all areas of their life. But if there is something specific, hey, I know like someone was in a car accident or something, making them food. So volunteering your time in some way. Some specific thing you can do, that someone needs help with is a great tangible, tangible way to take a break of, you know, not knowing what you're doing. And taking a break is actually one of the great ways that you could start knowing what you're doing. Because like I mentioned on last week's podcast episode, when you don't know what you're doing, or sorry, when you have been procrastinating on something, just going in one direction, either not doing something or doing something, you're gonna get arrived to the destination still, and you're gonna arrive to the destination quicker. moving in the wrong direction is totally fine. As long as you course correct and are asking yourself, Is this still the right like, do I still feel like this is the wrong direction? Because the wrong direction might turn out to be the right direction. And I know that sounds like a riddle, but it's not. And yeah, so start helping someone out. And then also, another thing I would suggest is just waiting it out. If you're like I have no idea what I'm doing. I don't know if this is right or wrong. Cool. Well, you can still move forward. And that's actually how you build that muscle of getting better at not knowing what you're doing is just waiting it out weighed out the feeling of not knowing what you're doing or have knowing idea, having having no idea and just embrace that uncertainty. And you will go further with your content with your podcast with your business. And then you ever thought possible if you can embrace that uncertainty of waiting out and waiting it out and letting life unfold? Because the truth is, life is closer to a ocean than it is a calendar with the rise and fall of the tides. The ups and downs the ebbs and flows on a calendar. If we looked at the calendar, we'd be like okay, yeah, I don't know about you. But next Tuesday looks the same as this Use day on a blank calendar. But if I was looking at an ocean, it might look different. On one day, all things considered, the sky might be different, the waves might be different. And this Tuesday might look different than next Tuesday, and the Tuesday after that might look like this Tuesday. But it might not either, it might look like something completely different. So just know that there are there is weather, I guess whether in the form of, you know, cloudy skies sometimes and sunshine times, and your job isn't always just to judge whether or not that weather is good or bad weather an idea, I have no idea what I'm doing. Well, our job is not always to judge whether we have no idea what we're doing, maybe what we're supposed to be doing is just keep getting better at the uncertainty. And hanging in there. And waiting it out is one of the most practical skill sets you can acquire. And if you've been hanging in there and waiting it out, and you're like Dylan, I am tired of hanging in there. And having no idea what I'm doing well to you, it's easy to suppose. And that is you, your next thing that you should be doing is getting help. And that looks like the form of maybe a therapist offer that people add therapy, just waste money, I will until the cows go home, come home, whatever the thing is, I will preach that therapy is a great idea. I see a therapist, once or twice a month. They helped me a lot. And the cool thing is if you've never been to therapy, or you've been off and on is there's website Psychology Today, they have a great find therapist tool on there, you put in your zip code and you can look up therapists. Personally, I suggest judging a therapist by their cover. You can see their photo and pick someone out that you would feel like safe and comfortable with. And then of course do your research. When it comes to looking at other career like credentials, you want someone credentialed, but a therapist isn't there to necessarily judge. They're just kind of help. Paul like kind of the the untangled maybe things that are going on in your head of having an idea of what what you're not doing well, they might help you come to a conclusion quicker that maybe you do know what you're doing. Or maybe maybe they can just offer someone to listen. Because that's a valuable, valuable piece. And I've found a lot of value in that, especially with Digital Podcaster. And I don't want to underplay how valuable that has been. To me being able to create content, to me being able to put myself out there regularly, pretty much daily, whether it's on social media, all these things, something about having a podcast, podcast, something about having a therapist, in my back pocket of just having that support, that's someone I pay, that is not just she doesn't always even tell me like, Hey, you're just you do like, it's not like she just tells me what I want to hear. Like, she'll offer different ideas, different opinions, different perspectives, because we think we all have it figured out on our own. And if you've ever been tired of waiting it out and and hanging in there, I highly recommend getting a therapist and the people again, you know, people like well, it's expensive. Yeah, I mean, there's all different price ranges. if you if your insurance covers it awesome, my insurance doesn't. But you can find it at every price range. And I've gone through phases of like, this isn't worth it. But then I always come back to, I'm really glad. And the times typically when you're like I have nothing to talk about, are typically when the best things come up, it's typically when you're like I know exactly what I'm gonna say through all this stuff is when you don't get the most value out of a session. I mean, they're all valuable. It's hard to judge the session. But I have found at least personally speaking, when I go in, and I'm like, I don't know what I would even talk about, that's when I have the most of the talk about somehow somehow works that way. And I say that because it almost goes back to almost full circle moment back to what I mentioned here at the beginning of I have no idea what I'm doing. And that is similar to what you could say to your therapist. So I have no idea what I talk about. You know, you don't have to have all the answers. That's the thing is like people like I don't have all the answers. I want to know exactly what to be doing. I know I want to say the right thing I see other people do that. But that's the culture that's the society we live in a thinking that we need to know what to be doing could cause us issues of thinking like it's got to be exactly like this. It's got to be exactly like that. And in like the ocean analogy, sometimes it ebbs and flows. Sometimes we feel like we know exactly what we're going to do. Sometimes even the most experienced person is second guessing if that's the thing to be doing. So I say there and lean on someone to help you, if it's not a therapist, I don't recommend using friends all the time as the same as a therapist, just because you might not feel safe to share something because you don't want to be judged a certain way. Or, I mean, I think it's like, actually good to have both actually, I think a good friend that you can share anything with is awesome and safe, hopefully safe. And having a therapist just because the dynamics and a friendship is different than a therapist, therapist isn't necessarily there to be your friend, although it might feel like that, because maybe you haven't had a relationship with a therapist before. So yeah, so I don't know, this is like, super deep idea. And, and the comment, I see a bit of, I have no idea what I'm doing, I immediately go to the, to the like, not say darkest part of it, like, but I go to the most emotional part of it. Because that's, that's how I analyze things. I just, I can't just be like, Well, you got to just start here and then go there. Because I have dealt with that for years of like, I don't know what I'm doing. And I want you to know that it's totally normal, and natural to feel like you have no idea what you're doing. And typically, when people are saying that they know exactly like, I've never experienced, I have no idea what I'm doing. I knew what I was gonna be doing start from straight from the start. I mean, I guess there's some people out there like that, but we don't know the full story. We don't know how true that is. And I have a hard time believing anybody really knows. Because so many too many big events happen in one person's life, to act like they knew what they're doing all along. So these are things that we all deal with. So the feeling of I have no idea what I'm doing is completely natural clewd normal, and you have a great opportunity to get better at living in that uncertainty. Alright, enough about the heaviness we're factor to know the heaviness I guess just emotional depth. All right, we're, we're back. We're back. We're back. If you enjoyed this, please make sure to hit the subscribe button, follow button, whatever your podcast says. If you haven't already, Digital Podcaster I release episodes every Tuesday, sometimes more frequently, sometimes, but always every Tuesday at the minimum. And it would mean the world to me if you hit the subscribe button and checked in regularly. Also, if you could leave a rating and review those helped the show a ton. It helps me know I read everything so helps me know what parts you love all that good stuff. So please, please, please leave a rating and review. 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