60 | 3 Reasons Your Home Isn’t Peaceful Yet (And None of Them Are Your Fault)

If your house feels loud, tense, or constantly on edge… it’s not because you’re doing everything wrong. It’s because you’ve been carrying the entire emotional atmosphere without realizing it.

In today’s episode, we’re breaking down the three REAL reasons your home isn’t peaceful yet — and why none of them are your fault.
This isn’t about being a perfect mom.
It’s about understanding your nervous system, your leadership energy, and the truth that peace isn’t inherited… it’s created.

When you’re cracked open, everything feels uncertain.
But doubt is exhausting.
You don’t need motivation — you need direction.
And this podcast is going to be that direction.

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Transcript

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What if the reason your home doesn't feel peaceful has nothing to do with your kids? Nothing to do with routines. And absolutely nothing to do with your ability to be a good mom. What if the chaos you keep trying to fix is coming from patterns that were handed to you long before you ever had kids? Today I'm breaking down the three real reasons your home isn't peaceful yet and why none of them are your fault. Let's get into it. I'm Lisa Covert, mom of two, an emotional breaker of generational patterns, and a woman who had to learn the hard way that peace isn't inherited, it's created. And on this podcast, I'll teach you exactly how to do the same, without perfection, without pressure, and without pretending. Whether you're recovering from your childhood, healing from an emotional breaking point, or finally stepping into the kind of mother you always knew you were meant to be, you're in the right place. This is the Peaceful Mom Project. A space for mothers who refuse to let innocent hearts grow up in chaos just because their mothers never learned peace. If you're ready to leave your home with truth, calm, and emotional authority, let's dive in. Hey, take a breath with me for a second. Because today we're not talking in circles. We're not talking in shame. And we're not talking about doing better. We're talking about the truth. The truth behind why your home still feels chaotic. Why your body still feels tense. And why peace still feels like something other moms have figured out, but you haven't. And I want you to hear me clearly. None of these reasons are your fault. Not one. So let's not delay. Reason one. You're doing everything except regulating you. Listen, this is not laziness. This is not a lack of discipline. This is conditioning. This is patterns. You were raised to question your worth, not your nervous system. You were raised to keep the peace, not create it. So now you're out here doing all the things. You're getting the kids ready, packing lunches, switching laundry, planning dinners, driving to practices, handling doctor's appointments, I mean breaking up sibling fights, navigating meltdowns, and that never seems to end. Trying to be patient, trying not to snap, and trying to stay calm, and yet rarely, and I mean rarely, do you pause long enough to ask yourself where am I in this moment? Because when you were growing up, nobody asked that. Nobody checked in on you. Nobody modeled regulation. No one said, hey, how does my body? Is it tense? Wow, is my jaw tight? Is my back my arms? You were taught to just adapt, to keep going, to adjust. So of course you don't automatically slow down and check in now. Of course your brain runs the old pattern. Here's the real truth though. One nervous system sets the tone of the room, and it's always yours. Not because you're responsible for everyone's emotions, but because kids borrow whatever energy we're standing in. And I want you to hear this without shame, without blame, guilt, any of that. You've been regulating the entire household while completely abandoning yourself. You didn't even know you were doing it. You weren't taught self-regulation. You weren't shown what emotional safety feels like. You weren't given the blueprint. So stop blaming yourself for not having a map you were never handed. This isn't heavy. This is empowering. Because once you regulate, the whole house shifts. Think of it instead of responsibility, but as your superpower. You know this behind the scenes. Reason number two. You're waiting for buy-in. Oh, this one. This is your gold. This one I realized took me way too long to realize this one. You're waiting for someone to get it. Your husband, your partner, your kids, your family, people on the internet. You think you need your husband to be softer, or your kids to make it easier, or just do what they need to do, right? Or maybe if you had more time. Or how about a quieter home? How about better routines? How about a clean slate week? You can totally have all things cleaned, and you start totally on a clean slate. Or maybe an apology. Or a sign, something. Or maybe more money. Or just someone else to care as much as you do. But here's the truth leadership doesn't need an audience. Leadership needs intention. You are waiting for permission to lead the home that you've already been called to lead. Not lead from control. Not lead from perfection. Not lead from doing everything. You lead from presence. You lead from peace. You lead from a clarity. You don't need buy-in to begin. Buy-in comes later. Buy-in comes from consistency. Buy-in comes from the shifts inside you. Kids don't change because you demand it. Kids change because the energy in the home changes. And your husband? He will shift when the environment feels different. Not from convincing, not from dragging, but from witnessing. You don't need anyone to understand the path. You just need to take the first step. Reason number three. You're questioning your purpose, and that kills your follow-through. Let's talk about chapter two. Because this is what I like to call where you are right now. When you crack open, when you've done all the self-help books, and you understand that there is things to work on and there's some patterns to work on, and you're just cracking it all open. That's when the truth comes out. When you finally stop pretending, your identity goes through it's like an earthquake. So of course you question everything. You question your intentions, you question your confidence, you question your calling. What about your worth? You question that one. You question your decisions. You question your parenting, your marriage, your energy, your disdirection, your past decisions. You're exhausted. Not because you're weak, but because doubt is energy draining. When you question your purpose every day, of course you lose momentum. Of course you feel stuck. Of course you don't follow through. You don't need motivation. You need direction. You need someone to say, here's your next step. Here's how to rebuild peace. Here's how to stop the spiral. Here's how to lead your home without force. And that's what this podcast is going to be. It's not perfection, it's not pressure, not hustle, not new routines, just direction and truth. And the steps that bring your nervous system and your home back online. The nervous system is where we start. If you can take a breath and you didn't even know your body was tight, you're not checked into your nervous system. And I hope you take these three reasons and really see this is our superpower. But before you go, I want you to grab something that will help you immediately. It's my free guide. It's Stop the Overwhelm Spiral in Five Simple Shifts. And you can go to LisaCovert.com slash triggers or you can go to LisaCovert.com and click on resources above. It's the exact place to start if you're ready to create peace without forcing it. Because you're not trying to become a new woman, you're just finally coming home to yourself. And I'm here to walk it with you because I've been there. And I tried every other book, every other answer, and every other step that someone said. But the reality was I had to check in with me. Because what is gonna work for you? First, it's calming that nervous system. So grab that free guide, and I look forward to seeing you in the next episode. But don't forget to subscribe to this podcast, follow it, and always click a review for me, please. Your stars help me to share more of the experiences that I've gone through with the other moms, and I get to share this peaceful mom project together. I'm so glad you're here. Thank you.

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