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The point is,"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":549.54,"endTime":552.3,"body":"are you celebrating the wins?"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":552.42,"endTime":555.36,"body":"And are you being productive and"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":552.42,"endTime":555.36,"body":"caring to yourself in a way that"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":555.36,"endTime":558.72,"body":"gives you the growth and keeps"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":555.36,"endTime":558.72,"body":"the fuel going, keeps you revved"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":558.72,"endTime":560.61,"body":"up and ready to achieve the next"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":558.72,"endTime":560.61,"body":"thing?"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":561.63,"endTime":565.559,"body":"That's it for today's episode."},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":561.63,"endTime":565.559,"body":"Thank you so much for dropping"},{"speaker":"Unknown","startTime":565.623,"endTime":569.681,"body":"in. 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