Christian theology uses the term “Complementarianism” to encapsulate a Biblical worldview of marriage.
Just because we don’t live in a “perfect” world does not mean we should throw the Biblical baby out with the bath water. God’s word makes it clear that the husband is the responsible party in a godly marriage. However, this should NEVER be used to justify an abusive relationship which is the antithesis of what God intended.
I want to add a postscript to this article based on one of the comments. As I have said above, I believe Compmentarianism is the way the Bible defines a marriage to work best. However, I have also tried to make the point that we all live in a sin-cursed world where pride gets in the way. There can be a point where submission becomes abuse, and that was never what God intended in His Word. The problem is the line between submission and abuse gets blurred. Pastors and Christian counselors can miss or reject the transition, to everyone’s detriment.3