Boost Your Metabolism After Age 30 Podcast

Ep 20 - Meet the Couture Fitness Coaches! Interview With Coach Hilary - Learn Why She Waited An Entire YEAR To Lose The Baby Weight

June 07, 2022 Couture Fitness & Lifestyle Coaching
Boost Your Metabolism After Age 30 Podcast
Ep 20 - Meet the Couture Fitness Coaches! Interview With Coach Hilary - Learn Why She Waited An Entire YEAR To Lose The Baby Weight
Show Notes Transcript

Meet Hilary - one of the Couture Fitness Coaches.  In this episode, Hilary explains how she spent five years on a hormone roller coaster undergoing IVF treatment to have her two daughters.  She also describes the approach she took to weight loss and getting back in shape after her last baby (now a one-year-old) was born.

Coach Hilary was Calories Up before Calories Up was cool - learn why she thinks "1200 Calories is so 1990" and how she fell in love with resistance training.  We also discuss her favorite things about being a nutrition and fitness coach and what she thinks the secrets to weight loss success are.

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Welcome to the Boost Your Metabolism After Age 30 Podcast. I'm Joe. And I'm Allison and we're your co hosts and the founders of Couture Fitness and Lifestyle Coaching. We're on a quest to help women design lives they love and bodies they adore. We were fed up with the dieting industry and decided to create something different. We're starting a calories up revolution where women are nourished, their metabolisms are healed and their bodies and brains start working for them in the battle against weight loss. If you feel like your metabolism is wrecked and you want to lose weight once and for all you are in the right place well, Hey, everyone, you got Joe and coach Hillary today on the podcast, we're gonna talk to coach Hillary about post pregnancy Hormonal Health. But first I want to talk about what's going on at couture fitness. We are enrolling right now for our July program, our metabolic makeover program that starts in July, our waitlist is actually pretty large right now we have more ladies on that waitlist than we anticipate having spots for in July. So if you know that you want to work with us, I really recommend heading over to our website, couture fitness coaching.com. Go to the work with us page and reserve your spot today. And you can also if you're if you're still if you have questions or you're not sure whether this is the right program for you on our website, you can also schedule a discovery call. And there will also be a link to that in the show notes. But one of the reasons that we sell out so quickly is because we have amazing coaches like Coach Hillary who is like I said, joining us on today's podcast. So Coach Hillary, why don't you tell us a little bit about yourself? Yeah, I am Hillary, I'm one of the only coaches in Texas. So representing the South, I am 35 I have a wonderful husband and two kids. So I'm like I'm on well fortune, and I have a five year old and then a 14 month old. So life is busy. But fun. Awesome. So you go on our website or you can see a picture of coach Hillary, you will see that she is kind of a beast. Very strong. So how did you get into strength training? You're really big into CrossFit. But how did you get into strength training, learn about nutrition and develop the love that you have for fitness? Yeah, so I think I was pretty active all the way through junior high in high school. Never thought about it. I'm from a really small school. So if you're remotely talented in every anything, you better be active. And then when I went to college, you know the freshman 15 Hit Like most of us did. It was the first time that I had been away from home. And I guess my sophomore year, I really started going actually using the gym at school. And I think I started kind of like most of us do on the elliptical or the cardio and I think I got into running and did half marathon and then triathlon. So at the very beginning, I was very cardio base. And then a few years after college, I had a friend who was like, you would absolutely love this CrossFit thing. This was like 2011. So 2010 Through high limits, very new very no one really knew what it was. And I went one class and I'm not kidding you it It changed my wife became just completely obsessed, became crossfit coach and really worked on starting to live for the first time ever and my body I actually was in the process of getting married first time but that's long story short second marriage is the best marriages I like to joke about but I was in the middle of planning a wedding when I started CrossFit and my body changed with weight so quickly that my first wedding dress I went to go try it on and it didn't fit at all like my body changed that fast in a really good way. But it was just introducing weights for the first time I did nothing diet wise I did nothing. It was just changing out being a cardio bunny basically to lifting and I just became obsessed and I fell in love with it. And then I was diagnosed with endometriosis stage four endometriosis when I was 2526. So my husband I my now husband, I knew that we would have to do fertility treatments and if anyone's gone through fertility treatments, you really your whole life changes. It's it is time consuming. It is very hard on the body. And basically I had to put CrossFit on hold which was hard it was like my identity at that point and really started doing low no more high impact no running of jumping, no anything and straight bodybuilding style lifting is what I started doing and again changed my life changed my perspective, goals, everything and I've really just never gone back. So right now I do a hybrid of CrossFit. I usually do CrossFit three to four days a week and then I either do accessory work or weightlifting the other two, but I'm not kidding you. If you told me Hillary I could give you $200 If you would go run a mile I don't run a mile. I bet I could, but it would not be clear Eat, but I have loved doing that transition. And I love seeing other people make that transition to realizing like you really and truly can sculpt your body the way that you want to, once you figure out how to lift weights, yeah, it is a pretty amazing transformation. So Alison, I, you know, have more of a bodybuilding background. What is the difference between how would you describe the difference between CrossFit and bodybuilding. So CrossFit typically comes in two elements, and again, depends on where you're going. But typically, you do some type of strength training for 15 to 20 minutes, the old run cycle of a very well run gym will also run very well ran programming, which can be squats, deadlifts, push, jerks, anything like that. And then the last 20 to 30 minutes of class is typically what we call the Metcon conditioning portion. That's where you see some of the crazy things that you when you think of CrossFit. That's probably what you think of you think of the box trims and the jump roping in the lifting and the pull ups and all that kind of stuff. So that is the conditioning part to where when I'm focusing just on the bodybuilding, it is much more rests, much more programs planned out, I typically do the same cycle of weightlifting for six to eight weeks, which I know for people coming in, they're like, I don't want to do the same exercise for six weeks. And I know but the whole point is to continually progress. So very different, very similar. I think most people once you get that CrossFit experience under your belt, a lot of people like to transition to the weightlifting and honestly, it's hard on your body. CrossFit is very hard on your body when you're doing it at the levels that I was doing it and bodybuilding is sustainable. I think through your whole life. I see 7075 year old ladies who are like killing it CrossFit, you can but it's going to be scaled, but I think for longevity reasons I'm leaning more towards on the bodybuilding side. Nice. Okay, so let's talk about one concept that we talk about a lot is that, you know, sometimes our brains are ready to lose weight. And it's like, Okay, let's get this show on the road, let's cut some calories, let's do some weight. But it doesn't mean that our bodies are ready for weight loss or for cutting calories. And that it would be a good thing for our body to enter into a fat loss phase just because our brains come up with the idea that we want to do that. And sometimes that relates to Hormonal Health. And so I know that you recently went through a cutting phase, but you waited and you also had a baby, you have a one year old, right? Yeah, but she waited to do that because you knew there was some stuff going on with your Hormonal Health. So tell us about that. And you waited an entire year, I ran tests to make sure your hormones were in a good place for you to try to lose weight. Yeah, for me to back up. Again. I mentioned with both of my kids I did IVF. And really within the long stretch, it was about one of those unlucky ones that it took six traits for us for me to get my two kids. So in between there was a solid five years to where I was either doing hormones or the shots, egg retrievals it's a lot. It's a lot on your body. And so for five or six years, I was either trying to get pregnant, getting my body prepped to be pregnant being pregnant, breastfeeding and then I basically did the cycle all over again. My first pregnancy was easy peasy. I think some of it has to do with I was 29 or 30 when I had her the second one was rough. And so that's kind of my story to lead into the hormone place. I had placenta previa with my youngest daughter so I was literally bed rest at one day I went to the doctor and never came home essentially. So I was in the hospital bed rest for 30 days. And if anyone who knows me knows that was like it was living hell, I didn't get to see my oldest daughter because it was during COVID But long story short had her part of it is stress. I mean it was an extremely stressful time she was in the NICU she was healthy but still had to grow. So I was balancing for a whole month life of you know, finally getting out of bed rest trying to get my oldest daughter back into a normal routine. Still being supermom to her going to the NICU all day it was really and truly looking back my body was just in it was simply trying to survive. And my pregnancy post pregnancy was so rough and I'm not talking about for the moment I think I was just running off of steam But about four months in my hair was falling out in clumps. I was sick all the time. I normally am like anyone you know I have super high energy super like to me I don't understand how people don't work out everyday. Like if I have to take a rest day I'm like do what I do with all this time. I'm just a super high energy high motivated person and I tell you I couldn't get out and I knew something was wrong. So finally went to the doctor and they pulled my bloodwork and they were like I had literally zero testosterone and zero estrogen. And so she my doctor told me, you know, you've got to stop breastfeeding. Like she's like, if it's very important to you, you can continue but you're never going to get better until you stop breastfeeding. So I made the choice to stop breastfeeding just to try and feel better. I mean, I was desperate. And I at six months, I went and got my bloodwork done still nothing at nine months, I went and got my bloodwork done. So nothing, it took an entire year for my body to get back to normal. And I think it really was, we don't recognize how stressful stresses and a lot of us are living and just work. We're all busy, right? But we don't, it's crazy. When you truly break down lab work. I think lab work is so important thyroid hormones, I think a lot of times when people say hormones, they think of like just your sex hormones, and you know, that kind of stuff, but it's literally the foundation for your body. And if your body doesn't feel safe, it'll always be in fight and flight until you give it something. So basically what I did during that time was I ate at maintenance. And it is hard. I'm an athletic, lean, fairly lean person with my daughter, I literally gave birth and two weeks, I looked like I had never given birth it was it was crazy. It was not the case this time. But I knew I knew that I had to put my body and myself first and I ate at maintenance, which for me looks about 23 to 2500 calories every single day until 13 months postpartum. Okay. And finally, I got the green light from my doctor in March that said, You look like a normal human being with blood leptin. But it took 18 months of listening and giving grace to myself and fueling it, which is what a lot of us miss, I think you made a good point. It's like the frog boiling in the pot. We don't experience it as a stress. Like you would probably say, Well, maybe not when your hair was falling out and all that but like, I feel fine. Yeah. It takes, you know, getting out of that to be like, Oh, I was really exhausted. Or, you know, I wasn't doing so great. But you don't necessarily feel it in the moment. Right? So what do you think would have happened? If you had ignored all of that and said, you know, by goodness, I'm gonna get this baby weight off and you had slashed calories? Like, I don't know, my body would still be trashed. I mean, I think I would still feel the same. I probably would have honestly, I don't think I would have ever lost the baby weight. I don't think my body My body would have been so stressed out, it probably would have backfired on me. Absolutely. I would have I would have put my body in some type of even more stress in the starvation mode, and it would have just given up on me completely. Yeah, I always say about half of the clients that we have that come to us are in that situation. Maybe their hormones aren't out of whack, but they've been eating at a calorie range for so long. Like their bodies are kind of in like metabolic chaos. They are usually of eating very low calorie, which I would say is like 1500 calories or below for a grown woman, but they are often carrying quite a bit of weight, but are unable to lose weight when we have to deliver the bad news. Like, guess what? You've got to eat more, we got to do some things before we start cutting calories. And so I guess though I think in a lot of people's brains, they think like, Okay, well, you just have to there goes my dream, or I have to wait six months. But this is not a situation, you can still make huge improvements during that time period where you're repairing things, it's not like a just retire to the couch with wine and Oreos. So now talk about what someone can do when they have to do that repair work, what they can focus on. And it's not. Nobody wants to be, especially when you have a goal, or very few people are able to flip their brain and say, Okay, I know that if I treat, the way I look at it is if you treat your body, right, your body will treat you right Period, end of story. So if you feed it and fuel it, and you tell your body, okay, I promise you, I am not going to starve you anymore. Here's all the food and the goodness. And if you do that consistently, and I don't mean for two weeks, I don't mean for three weeks, I don't even mean before you're talking, this is a six, three to six month process. At minimum, if you will just allow your body to repair itself and to trust you again, it will trust you. I'll go into my cut. So I did a cut. And what people don't want to hear is that at the end of the day, it truly is a calories in versus calories out. It really is. But in order for that math to work, your body has to trust you. And for 13 months, I told my body every single day, you're going to get 12 2500 calories, you're going to you know I treated it right. So when it was time for me to get ready to a concert and I knew I would be in a bikini for five days and I had a goal. So I mathematically did it backwards and I gave myself six weeks. I said okay, I'm going to, again, purely mathematical. I'm going to take this amount of calories minus this equals you know, about 500 calorie deficit a day equals a pound roughly a week. Here's my vacation and it worked to the tee And the only reason it did is because I had fueled it properly for a year. So my body said, Hey, I know this girl, she will beat me. She will treat me right. Oh, look, she wants to do something. She said that three or four pounds had the time, my life. And now I'm right back to maintenance. And the next time I cut, maybe it'll be I think we're going on a vacation in November, December. So what will my life look like? My life will look like 25 to 2600 calories every single day. Up until September, October, I'll say, Hey, buddy, you've done fantastic. Let's look really good in this bikini in Mexico for four days, I will mathematically do but backwards. You just you have to trust the system. But you have to treat yourself properly. And that does not look like 1000 calories that doesn't look like 1200 calories. Doesn't even look like 1500 calories like yeah, my 14 month old probably eats more than 1200 calories. So any grown adult woman should be as well. Yeah, so you adapted the are already full believer in the calories up is cool lifestyle before we were out promoting it. You ever seen that? 1200 calories is so 1990. So, so that's you know, I think for a lot of women, that's that might be a generational thing. But we do spend a lot of our time coaching women that like No 2000 calories is that's adequate nutrition for an adult woman, not 1200 calories. So how did you learn that? I mean, that is news to most women that we work with. So and I think I look back and it's not it's certainly not my mom's fault. But I grew up where you know, the moms are drinking SlimFast in the morning for breakfast and the SlimFast at lunch, and maybe a side salad for dinner and to snack. Well, cookies like that is what the 90s were kind of about if you look back at it, so it's really answer that gets brought into our minds. And that's what for whatever reason, this 1200 calorie, I don't even know where it came from. But that has stuck with us for literally 40 or 50 years. And I think just now people are realizing that's not enough for a toddler. Like it really and truly is not enough for the toddler. And you can go down the range of like the USDA Food Pyramid and what mess that is. That's very, to me, the food pyramid is very much like the 1200. It's outdated. It doesn't matter. I kind of went on a rant there. But yeah, we have to figure out how to get this message out that women should be eating 1700 calories a day. And that should be normal. That doesn't even you don't even have to work out for to reach that you don't have to hurt yourself for that. Like can we get rid of 1200 calories and the word goal. If we can get rid of those two things, I will consider my life and I'll move on. If I was a if I was a pageant, that's what I wish for. Get rid of 1200 calories and the word bulking. Yeah, well, that might bring about world peace in a way. Yeah, you definitely practice what we preach, because like you just mentioned, I just did the math. It sounds like you were dieting on 2000 calories. Yeah, for a period of time. And honestly, if you asked my husband or kids, they probably didn't even notice. Yeah, like that, to me was what I took out was like, I love a trail mix. Girl, I love me some trail mix. And that honestly, just getting rid of trail mix was really my biggest change. I mean, maybe I did less steak and more grilled chicken, you know, something like that. But for the most part, if you ask my husband and kids, they didn't even notice that I changed anything about it's a very small change that can make a massive difference in your life. Yeah, I know, people are gonna be like, well, she just has a fast metabolism. And she's just someone who can eat a lot. But what we try to explain is like, no, it's really a matter of lifestyle inputs. And you you know, there is some genetic component to metabolism. But you also like this during this last year while you were waiting to die. I mean, you've been lifting and lifting heavy for years. So part of this is just the sheer amount of muscle that you have on your body. Hillary is a very petite person. She's very muscular, but I don't that's not like accidental and intentional lifestyle input. Yeah, but again, that's where that's where the muscle is truly the magic. Like if I could get everybody to lift, you would be amazed at what you can do. And I was always my only two really big life changes have been pregnancy, but it always amazed me at how fast muscle memory is. You know, you can sit out for those six to eight weeks roughly is how you know what they asked you to sit out and I was amazed at that first day back I'm like, Oh, this felt good. And your your muscle starts clicking and everything works together. And if you can get that foundation of muscle down the world is your oyster. Yeah, I agree. Yeah. And and just as we're talking I mean, this is just such a very different approach this mindset piece and like getting your body to be healed and in a place where it's healthy enough to lose weight. Very, very different approach is really important. We encourage our client You know, obviously we're not doctors, but you should be you should know your lab work, you should be getting your lab work six every six to nine months. And sometimes, which blows my mind, I really have to push my primary care physician that can check Well, I don't know. And I'm like, No, I pay, I pay for insurance. I want to pull my labs because it gives me a good idea on you know, your thyroid, all your hormones, your blood, sometimes you can be vitamin D deficiency, and we need to be assertive for ourselves. And it's weird to me how many times clients have been like, Well, my doctor won't pull this or my doctor, that's part of your overall health, like, right, you should be having draws every six to nine months. And it helps us and helps you. It helps your doctor. It's a puzzle piece. another data point that's very helpful to another day. Yeah. But yeah, I think it's interesting because I'm older than you. I'm about 10 years older than you were a little bit older than that. 13 years. I'm 48. So I can mine. Yeah, I have a 15 year old so I had very tough pregnancies, morning sickness every single day. I could not work out. I mean, it wasn't just the whole time. No, I mean, I was just was nauseous. It was just getting, I would say even more than getting out of bed. I mean, it was just everyday was a struggle. So I lost a lot of strength, I would lose weight, I lost weight, the first six months of my pregnancies from the morning sickness and then gained a ton in three months. And I had big babies CEF deliveries my the you know, the delivery with my daughter. I mean, it wasn't like terrible, but I came out of those pregnancies not in tip top shape. But the I remember the goal of my maternity leave was to lose all the baby weight that didn't happen. But that's why I had this like pounding pressure that you know, I got back on weightwatchers unit. So our media doesn't do us any favors, there is massive expectation. Now on the flip of the coin, I will say, and I think we're getting better at this, but people would find out I'm pregnant, well, you get to eat for two. Well, you don't you don't the first trimester, you eat just as normal. As you do the second trimester, you get an additional, I think it's two or 300 calories. And then third trimester, you get an additional 500 calories, but I was half lucky, but also have discipline, you know, I gained about 20 pounds for both of my kids. So it was fairly easy. But that's also a choice. That is a choice, I would get dirty looks when I would be at the gym nine months pregnant. And then I would also get people like way to go. You know, it's funny how it varies. But I think pregnancy, how you decide to choose your pregnancy is your choice. And if you want to say forget about it, I'm gonna eat for two for nine months. That's totally up to you. But you also have to expect afterwards, it's it's going to be hard. You know, I think I think that mindset that we banish is that if that if you can't be cutting calories, you can't be making any body composition improvements, or investing in your health, the opposite is actually true, you only want to be cutting calories for a short period of time. And just because you're not cutting calories, you can be making all sorts of investments in your physique, your health, your body composition. So that's what we really need to change this kind of all or nothing thinking, not agree more. And you know, I know people always want to weigh Well, I did 1500 calories for three weeks now. Can we do 1200 calories? And you're like, No, no, no, you, you think of it, I heard a really good, I'm always listening to podcasts. And I heard it was like think of it as a bank account. You know, you have to, before you withdraw, to go buy a Louis Vuitton purse, you have to sock away money. And that's what you're doing. The longer you sit in reverse and maintenance, you're socking away that money into your bank account. And then when it's time to do something fun and you want to go on a cut, you've earned it and you get to buy by that purse slash go on the cut, but you can't you can but it's called credit card debt. You know, you can't buy that first. With nothing in there. You have to think of what you've lost it like that. You have to put in the time and the commitment and the consistency of working out and eating at a high calorie. You know, you have to just say, Okay, I'm gonna stop all this away. And then when we want to do our cut, then we can take away from that, but you can't draw from an empty bank account. You just can't and that is that is what a lot of I think that's where we get stuck somehow, is that everybody always wants to have the newest Louis Vuitton bag and you just can't sit at 100 and whatever pounds your whole life you can't Yeah, no, that's a great analogy. Well, let's switch gears a little bit and talk about coaching and what you love most about coaching clients. I love to be people's cheerleader and therapist and counselor and anything and everything else advocate you know, I like to always tell my coach I can read people and I pride myself on knowing what someone like so I mean very old school big Biggest Loser reference that in my real life on In a very Jillian Michaels like I run a tight ship, you don't mess around. But not all clients like that there are some clients that need to be called and loved. And so it coaching is fun because it's a psychological, you know, figuring out who needs what. And there are there are some people who are like, I'm tired, your excuses buck up and they're like, Thank you for telling me that. And then some people are like, Okay, well, let me see, let's break it down. I just absolutely love women. And I also I love when it clicks. And there's always that time. And it's typically I don't know about you, you may agree or disagree, but it's usually that third to fifth week when they're with us, it clicks. And I think at the beginning, you're the ride on high and emotion and they're like, you know, doing this, and if we can just continue, you know, the newbie gains and then or, you know, newbie losses, if you want to say right, fine, but that my favorite part is when it's now just part of your daily life, and it clicked. And I think something else that coaching a coaching secret would be we don't want you to need us or we don't want you to need us your whole life. You know, we want to give you the foundations, we want to give you the tools we want to see you succeed. But there's nothing prouder when I have a client that's like thank you for the past 12 months, this has been awesome. I figured it out in their flying on their own. You know, every once in a while we have someone come back and say hey, just hold me accountable all about it. But I think those are my two favorite things about coaching. For sure. The light bulb moment and then when they fly on their own. Yeah, I agree. That's fine. Okay, and then what's your favorite thing about coaching with couture fitness? Oh, I love the mindset piece. I have never seen a mindset piece I think I told you like this is why I decided this couture was for me is because you know anybody, there's a million and a half calculators out there that you can put in your weight and your height. And it'll give you if you want a simple calculator, there's 1000 on the internet, but nobody holds you, you get your own coach, you get mindset piece, you get to hear from people on the weekends, there's these podcasts, like, without a doubt, this is my favorite part of couture. Okay, and I am so proud of the women's group, you know, and sometimes it's just hey, I found this at the grocery store. That alone is worth its weight in gold, you know, are just small, simple tasks that someone will post them like, oh my god, it's genius. Like they never even thought of it. It's like having what do we have now? How many members? Do we put out a number over? 70? Yeah, okay, I'm just gonna say, it's like having 70 and your friends that all have the same goal. And we may not all have truly the same goal as in, you know, physique number on the scale, etc. But we're all trying to be better women and moms and business people. And, you know, it's really fun to have a collective group of women who are cheering for you. Yeah, what Hillary is talking about is we have root classes, group mindset, coaching classes, and then we have a Facebook community, but we do have a community and so but it's weekly, I mean, it just blows me away have mindset books, and all that kind of stuff. It seriously is just amazing. I love it. I absolutely love it. It is so much more than just me spitting out calculators and seeing if the person complied or not like that is totally not our job. And it's so much funner and more entertaining. Yeah, I agree. What do you think it takes to be successful on our program? Like, who is this for? And who is it not for? I mean, at the end of the day, we're all here to be your biggest coaches and your biggest support and to keep you accountable, but I can't come to your home and monitor every single thing that you put in your mouth. I think the people who are successful are the ones that are okay, with ebbs and flows. There are some people who if they didn't hit their, their macros were 1980 and they didn't hit it, they forget about it and throw it out the window. That's, that's not the people we want for this isn't supposed to be perfect. It's going to be ebb and flow. But you have to be willing to put in the work. There's a learning curve, there's a learning curve to Macros into lifting and to, you know, maybe not doing cardio and shifting your weights towards your you have to be willing to work for it. And we're here to hold your hand as as much as possible, but you're also gonna gotta be able to roll on your own. Yeah. And you don't think you can do that, that we're not for you. Yeah, I think the best way I've heard it explained is like coaches will help simplify things for you. And we will tell you what to do, though. You have to do the work the client, yes. There's no way I can write the most detailed plan on the face of the earth. But at the end of the day, I can't sit over you like a child and see if you're doing it or not. You've got to be willing to put in the work agree. Okay. What do you think the biggest excuse or lie that people tell themselves about MTV? Oh, yes, I agree. That's the number one. I think what people what's actually going on is people are feeling overwhelmed. And that's normal. That's totally normal. If you were going to try to make any big lifestyle change, you know, you're going to be a little overwhelmed at first. So instead we tell ourselves, I I'm too busy. And they're small hacks, I'll tell people get a treadmill at home. There's, there's like a one on Amazon for $200. It's a full duck treadmill. And if you have for zoom calls that day, take one of them on the treadmill. And there's your low intensity walk from the day, you know, like, there's no, I'm sorry, but there's no excuses. I also don't believe in the word motivation. People aren't motivated. You either do or you don't. To me, I brush my teeth. Every morning, I wash my face at night. I don't always feel like washing my face. Like who wants to, you know, like you're comfy, you're in bed, you're already in your show, but you get up and go wash your face. Because you know, that's what's best for you. To me. That's the same with exercise and eating right? It's not always fun. And I don't always want to go to the gym, but it's a non negotiable. Going to the gym and putting in the work and eating my, the correct amount of food is just like brushing my teeth and washing my face to me. And I think that that is a mindset that people just have to understand and just learn. I hate when people are like, Oh, how do you find motivation? You don't You're a big girl or boy, you know, like, you look at yourself in the mirror and you say, I'm going to do this today. And then you follow through with your your work. Yeah, the motivation, actually. But it's the truth. Yeah, the motivation usually comes at the end when I mean, no one regrets a workout. No one regret ever hitting their macros or tracking their food. Yeah, I think once you start seeing results, it's easier to be motivated. You know, I mean, but at the beginning, you're just gonna have to put in the hard work. You're just and I also heard something I'm not sure I'm not telling anyone anything new. But it was like don't ever skip a habit two days in a row. Right. And that's, that is such a good, you know, you can ever, we all have bad days. And I hate when clients start with emails that are like, I had a bad weekend. Like, you don't have to make excuses for me or for yourself. We're all human things happen. We get sick. You don't ever have to make an excuse. But the important part is is okay, I had a bad week, I got emotional, this is what happened. But today is a new day. And this is where I'm going to start you know, like it to me, it's how you pick yourself up rather than put yourself. I agree. Okay, and then what's your best advice for someone wanting to get started on a fitness or weight loss journey us obviously, reach out to us. But really, I mean, the wonderful thing about the internet is that there are and they're not always right, but there's 1000 different resources. And you can find, I mean, again, it's small steps, it's swapping chicken breasts instead of a burrito or it's if you have 30 minutes to work out make it a make it a lifting session, instead of a 30 minute on the peloton. And I'm the peloton. Queen I love I love it. But I choose the strength and conditioning 90 times more than I do the cycling or the running now you will see huge changes in your body. I promise you if you will lean towards the weights rather than the company and that's coming from very old school. Loved Me a cardio been Yeah, I agree with all of that. Okay, well, here's how some of your clients have described you. I owe them once that I can feel Hillary's energy and every check in and it gives me a mood boost every week. And other ones that I know that Hillary is cheering me on and she is always helping me achieve the best for myself. And then another one said Hillary is energetic and positive. I love her enthusiastic support. So that's crying Joe wasn't expecting that. Yeah. Oscar. That's how our clients describe Hillary. So if you'd like to work with Hillary, we can set you up or you'd like to have we are very energetic person so well. And I truly love Yeah, I am high energy. I love to be a cheerleader, and I will always be your cheerleader. Well, and that's what I will say is I mean, Allison and I we all have day jobs. You all of our coaches do important day jobs that are and but we're all doing this because we love it. And I love that we've been able to create that like a place where women who have a passion for fitness and nutrition and have finally figured out that fuel or that food is the ally, not the enemy come together and help other women and I just want to share my passion with everybody else. You know, like I love that I figured out in my mid 30s what I'm good at what I love like genuinely brings me joy and I just want to share that with people and I think that's how you know that you found your passion and where you want to be because it doesn't feel like work. Exactly. I love it. Yeah, I do too. So and I'm glad that you're part of our coaching team. So we usually end this with what we're fitting my favorite food we're fitting into our macros these days. So I assume for you trail mix again trail mix, or yet turtle trail mix turtle Chex Mix. I'm having a bad day and my husband looks at me and he just knows that I'm not to be grumpy. He will go to the store. Buy turtle Chex Mix and I like a brand new person like turtle chex mix to me sweet, salty money. What about you? Yeah, sounds good. I have been on a bit of a tour cheese tacos kick. I know you're From Austin, and we now have torches in Kansas City because it's an Austin chain. But so I've been enjoying some worksheets. And now that I'm out of this, you know, I can, I can easily fit it in now that I'm out of, you know, competition prep, so I haven't Yeah, I was gonna mention, I think I don't know about you, but I don't really count macros. Sometimes it's a good lesson for me just to remember what my clients go through. But the goal is to get to a place where, you know, you just kind of know how to fuel your body. And every once in a while, I'll do it a to remind myself what clients are, if I make a recipe and want to share it with everybody, you know, I'll go in and have a rough idea what it looks like. But the ideal is, you know, you said, What does it fit into my macros, I know my body so well. And I want you to know your body so well that, you know, when it's being fueled correctly, one day, you won't have to walk around with your phone and my fitness pal or chronometer or however you choose, you know, that's all of our end goal is for you to feel good in your body, but not to have to micromanage it. So it's funny, you know, like I have to every once in a while just to remember, but once you do it for so long, it just comes back. You know, it's I'll say next Tuesday, I'm going to track everything. Okay? Yes. I'm hitting 2800 calories. I'm hitting that protein I'm going to go for and, you know, and that's the goal. Yeah, I am a weirdo. But I think part of it is because I spend a part of the year in competition prep, and it's changing all the time. Yeah, I have to track I love it. It gives me comfort every day. And that's, that's another thing. And we talked about multiple clients, you got to figure out the kind of person that you are like, I'm the type of person who once I figured it out. I didn't want to do it on the daily and I have plenty of friends who they don't excuse me have a competition goal or anything like that they track every single day just to have where they are. So it is totally up to the personality. And I'm more than happy to help clients go either which way? Yeah, well, thank you so much for your time coach Hillary and like I said, if you like what you heard, and you'd love to have Hillary as your coach, we can make that happen. You have some spots available. So I would absolutely love anyone who wants a cheerleader sometimes name Yeah, I can bring up a joke. So if that's the kind of personality you need, feel free to call me out on it. Yeah. Okay. Well, thanks, Hillary and we'll talk to you all later. Thank you. Thanks, everyone. Bye. That's what we've got for you today about how you can invest in your metabolism and start losing weight by eating more and exercising less. Trust us you aren't too old and it's never too late. If you want to learn more about this topic, head over to our Facebook group, Boost Your Metabolism After Age 30. You can also follow us on Instagram or Facebook at Couture Fitness Coaching. And if you want to work with us, join us for our next 12 weeks session.