The Leader Learner Podcast

S01E02 The Be Equals Episode

February 07, 2022 Theresa Destrebecq & Vincent Musolino Season 1 Episode 2
The Leader Learner Podcast
S01E02 The Be Equals Episode
Show Notes

Check in Question:

  • If you could spend a whole day with any one person, who would it be?

Big Ideas:

  • Learning from anyone through their experiences
  • Thinking that one has potential doesn’t commit to anything, but believing that people have the keys to their own happiness and that you are equals
  • Seeing your children as your teacher, rather than you as their teacher.
  • Equalize the relationship to reduce status/rank, and exploring how the relationship shifts when we relate to them with more equity
  • Children not as spongers, but as mirrors.
  • Start looking at those who we thinking can’t teach us anything, to teach us something. 
  • Shifting power dynamics so we are all on the same level
  • Stepping down the pedestal, and/or inviting people up onto our pedestal, or giving ourselves permission to step up
  • Moving from calling people patients to clients to create more of a partnership
  • Fitting in, being liked, and societal shoulds being the drivers away from who we are, and our authentic selves
  • Balancing group dynamics with personal needs
  • Tension between who we think we are and what the group needs - finding the “right” group
  • Transparency about who you are as a leader and asking team to hold you accountable to being who you are
  • Which comes first, trust or vulnerability? 
  • Creating relationships where there is more reciprocity with intention
  • In a “help relationship”, both parties are helping each other
  • Not needing to be someone special to support other people and have a special role in their growth and/or learning
  • Finding mutuality in our relationships


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