S01E02 The Be Equals Episode

Check in Question:

• If you could spend a whole day with any one person, who would it be?

Big Ideas:

• Learning from anyone through their experiences
• Thinking that one has potential doesn’t commit to anything, but believing that people have the keys to their own happiness and that you are equals
• Seeing your children as your teacher, rather than you as their teacher.
• Equalize the relationship to reduce status/rank, and exploring how the relationship shifts when we relate to them with more equity
• Children not as spongers, but as mirrors.
• Start looking at those who we thinking can’t teach us anything, to teach us something. 
• Shifting power dynamics so we are all on the same level
• Stepping down the pedestal, and/or inviting people up onto our pedestal, or giving ourselves permission to step up
• Moving from calling people patients to clients to create more of a partnership
• Fitting in, being liked, and societal shoulds being the drivers away from who we are, and our authentic selves
• Balancing group dynamics with personal needs
• Tension between who we think we are and what the group needs - finding the “right” group
• Transparency about who you are as a leader and asking team to hold you accountable to being who you are
• Which comes first, trust or vulnerability? 
• Creating relationships where there is more reciprocity with intention
• In a “help relationship”, both parties are helping each other
• Not needing to be someone special to support other people and have a special role in their growth and/or learning
• Finding mutuality in our relationships

References:

• The Carl Rogers Reader
• The Conscious Parent by Dr. Tsabary Shefali
• Gedankenexperiment
• Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown
• Marc Brackett researcher
• Social Identity Theory
• Non Violent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg
• Healing Circles Global
• Time to Think by Nancy Klein
• Mary Parker Follett

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