The Leader Learner Podcast
S01E09 The Theresa Gets Bad Feedback Episode
May 16, 2022
Theresa Destrebecq & Vincent Musolino
- Do you think it's appropriate to cry at work, and when was the last time you cried at work?
- Is appropriate the right word to refer to having emotions at work?
- Judgment behind the work appropriate
- Permission to have the full range of emotions, even at work
- How criticism brings up a sense of threat, even if we don't consciously think of it
- The importance of specific feedback, so we know what to do differently or more of
- Negativity bias
- What makes feedback appropriate, useful, or adequate?
- Imposter syndrome
- Knowing what triggers us to get defensive
- How style interacts with purpose/vision, from a tactical perspective
- Clarity up front about your style
- Turning threats into opportunities
- Making our methods/styles into a differentiating factors (USP)
- What are people's expectations before engaging in a learning space?
- Is the feedback touching the core of who I am, or is it more tactical?
- Looking at making abstract ideas more actionable
- "Our judgments are the tragic expressions of our unmet needs" ~Marshall Rosenberg
- Bias coming from expectations
- Respecting and honoring other people's feedback and their stories, rather than explaining away or defending their perspective
- Letting some feedback float away in the distance
- Looking at the needs behind people's feedback
- How are we prioritizing feedback? Is the feedback in line with our values? What feedback are we holding on to, and what are we letting go?
No Hard Feelings by Liz Fosslien and Mollie West Duffy
Big Feelings by Liz Fosslien and Mollie West Duffy
- Brené Brown's discussion of creating observable behaviors for abstract ideas in the book Dare to Lead
- Marshall Rosenberg and Non-Violent Communication
Atlas of the Heart by Brené Brown