S01E10 The Hero On The Balcony Episode

Check-In Question:

• What do you think people regret the most when they look back on their life? 

Big Ideas:

• Different stages of life: the call, the messy middle, the resolution
• Life being one long journey, with lots of small hero's journeys throughout
• Stage 1: Ordinary World; Stage 2: The Call to Adventure; Stage 3: Refusal of the Call; Stage 4: Meeting with a Mentor; Stage 5: Crossing the 1st Threshold; Stage 6: The Adventure (enemies, shadows, etc); Stage 7: The Elixir
• Saying no in my mind, and not feeling like I had a choice.
• When our ego says that we don't have a choice
• When our mentors muddle the waters by giving us another perspective, which doesn't align with our values or intuition
• Who is the 'right' person to ask? 
• Going to the outside for advice because we don't trust ourselves
• Having a challenge network (band of pirates) to rattle us and keep us integrity
• Use criticism as a way to reinforce our values
• Can you refuse a call and be the same afterwards?
• Choices aren't always crossroads, but exits on a highway.
• Archetypes: The Hero, the Mentor, The Threshold Guardian, The Herald, The Shape-Shifter, The Shadow, The Ally, The Trickster -- all at the service of the hero. 
• The journey is the hero's search for identity and wholeness
• We can't always see the arc of our own hero's stories
• Our blinders can prevent us from seeing the truth of our life
• Importance of getting perspective to see the stories we are in
• Look at your life as a story 
• Sometimes we don't see when we need to go to the balcony to get perspective
• Is the shero/heroine journey different from the hero journey?

Resources Mentioned:

• The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying by Bronnie Ware
• The Writer's Journey by Christopher Vogler
• The Hero with a Thousand Faces by Joseph Campbell
• Untamed by Glennon Doyle
• Think Again by Adam Grant
• Roger Fisher and William Ury from the Harvard Negotiation Project

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