The Leader Learner Podcast

S02E04 The What Does It Mean To Be Humble Episode

October 24, 2022 Theresa Destrebecq & Vincent Musolino Season 2 Episode 4
The Leader Learner Podcast
S02E04 The What Does It Mean To Be Humble Episode
Show Notes

Check-In Question:

  • What personal quality do you know people appreciate about you?

Big Ideas:

  • 3 attitudes - Unconditional Responsibility, Essential Integrity, Ontological Humility
  • Ontology - Philosophy related to being, relationships one has to being
  • Dividing responsibility starting from 100% doesn't work, each person has 100% responsibility for themselves
  • Keeping your word is not the same as honoring your word
  • Keeping your word with others sometimes means NOT keeping your word with yourself 
  • Integrity is different for every person because everyone's values are different
  • Humility being pushed, but is it really what people need or expect
  • It's all about our mindset - we can see things as a challenge or an opportunity
  • You can choose
  • When am I saying it was external circumstances, versus my responsibilities
  • When feeling overwhelmed, easier to point to external circumstances because feels more overwhelming
  • Player and victim - the player takes responsibility, the victim doesn't
  • Take responsibility for not knowing
  • Circle of concern and circle of influence - when we focus on our circle of concern, we diminish our ability to influence
  • We don't have a lot of influence on the "IT", but we do have responsibility for the "I" 
  • The answer is not to worry about what we can't control
  • Trust is important before creating change and influencing others
  • Coaching and psychotherapy are about helping people take responsibility
  • Society that is very outcome based ("It" based) 
  • Most effective when we operate from our basic human values
  • People can share values, even those values show up differently
  • What's the difference between a value and a belief?
  • Values versus virtues?
  • Operationalizing values - from Brené Brown
  • Values are a noun and define something abstract, 
  • Virtues are like a character trait 
  • Relativeness of point of view - can we know the truth?
  • Employees need to feel safe to make mistakes, so as leaders we need to model it
  • Proving our way to success hooks our ego
  • Ego gets hooked when focused on external validation
  • How we were conditioned to believe we were worthy influences our ego
  • Tallest poppy syndrome
  • What's so difficult about being humble?
  • Opinions being the end of democracy - how can you construct something without values? 
  • What's bigger than values? 


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