S02E04 The What Does It Mean To Be Humble Episode

Check-In Question:

• What personal quality do you know people appreciate about you?

Big Ideas:

• 3 attitudes - Unconditional Responsibility, Essential Integrity, Ontological Humility
• Ontology - Philosophy related to being, relationships one has to being
• Dividing responsibility starting from 100% doesn't work, each person has 100% responsibility for themselves
• Keeping your word is not the same as honoring your word
• Keeping your word with others sometimes means NOT keeping your word with yourself 
• Integrity is different for every person because everyone's values are different
• Humility being pushed, but is it really what people need or expect
• It's all about our mindset - we can see things as a challenge or an opportunity
• You can choose
• When am I saying it was external circumstances, versus my responsibilities
• When feeling overwhelmed, easier to point to external circumstances because feels more overwhelming
• Player and victim - the player takes responsibility, the victim doesn't
• Take responsibility for not knowing
• Circle of concern and circle of influence - when we focus on our circle of concern, we diminish our ability to influence
• We don't have a lot of influence on the "IT", but we do have responsibility for the "I" 
• The answer is not to worry about what we can't control
• Trust is important before creating change and influencing others
• Coaching and psychotherapy are about helping people take responsibility
• Society that is very outcome based ("It" based) 
• Most effective when we operate from our basic human values
• People can share values, even those values show up differently
• What's the difference between a value and a belief?
• Values versus virtues?
• Operationalizing values - from Brené Brown
• Values are a noun and define something abstract, 
• Virtues are like a character trait 
• Relativeness of point of view - can we know the truth?
• Employees need to feel safe to make mistakes, so as leaders we need to model it
• Proving our way to success hooks our ego
• Ego gets hooked when focused on external validation
• How we were conditioned to believe we were worthy influences our ego
• Tallest poppy syndrome
• What's so difficult about being humble?
• Opinions being the end of democracy - how can you construct something without values? 
• What's bigger than values? 

Resources:

• Conscious Business by Fred Kofman
• The Big Leap - Gay Hendricks
• Man's Search for Meaning - Viktor Frankl
• The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People by Stephen Covey
• The 4 Hour Work Week by Tim Ferriss

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