The Leader Learner Podcast

S02E11 The Failure Is An Option Episode

February 06, 2023 Theresa Destrebecq & Vincent Musolino Season 2 Episode 11
The Leader Learner Podcast
S02E11 The Failure Is An Option Episode
Show Notes

Check-In Question

  • Have you given yourself a life mission?

Big Ideas:

  • How different industries look at failure and learning
  • Not being criminalized for making mistakes
  • Can we really trust people? (ie, Body Cams)
  • When to be treated as a criminal for a mistake that kills someone and when not to
  • The situations that draw us into making life/death decisions
  • Does black-boxing situations help us be objective?
  • Hold people accountable without blame.
  • Is blame the opposite of accountability?
  • Blame has a sense of judgment and can be poisonous to culture
  • Cultural differences in using blame
  • Blame puts us on a pedestal and the other below us
  • Blame leads to defensiveness
  • Cognitive dissonance - when what we believe goes against the reality of a situation
  • The smarter we are or the higher up in the organization, the more likely we are to fabricate evidence
  • People not letting go of the idea of being wrong
  • Fundamental Attribution Error - responsibility being context specific, or a character trait
  • Difference between responsibility and accountability
  • Historically, we would ostracize people from the tribe to keep it secure
  • Emotional engagement in our own opinions - echo chambers
  • Sense of worthiness entrenched into our relationship with being wrong
  • "The paradox of success is based on failure."
  • Persistence past failure
  • If success is based on failure, keep failing again and again
  • Blame and guilt assigned to others stops people
  • Do we know what failure looks like?
  • What are we looking at as our metrics of success or failure?
  • How do leaders know if they are being successful or not?
  • Subjectivity of success/failure
  • When managers don't understand us - asking managers what they need
  • Expect managers to have the conversation with us, though we can start the conversation. What do you need? How can I help you?
  • Doing your job the way you think you should be doing it, versus how your manager thinks you should be doing it
  • "Those who are the most successful are the most vulnerable." 
  • Personal vulnerability versus product vulnerability
  • Failure is opportunity to learn
  • Self-handicapping - when you purposely create an alternative explanation for a possible failure (self-sabotage)
  • Using constraints to create creativity
  • If willing to accept mistakes more quickly, can be more successful
  • Growth and fixed mindset
  • Not getting evidence to go against labels of self


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