Are we at a breaking point?

In this episode JC succinctly discusses Human to Human connection.  Have we lost it? Are the scales tipped too far the other way whereas were conditioned to "avoid" everyone + do it ourselves?  The adage that it "shoved" down our thoughts to "Do you" and the impact of it all which actually leads to disconnect and fear. 

Listeners are left with small micro movements: Send someone an "agenda" free text.  Make the call.

When we connect with others magic happens.

Lead yourself and your sites with a People First Approach.

Transcript

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What's happening, folks? Jonathan Sonelli here, another episode of People First Podcast. Here I am today, wearing my construction life t-shirt enjoying my espresso. And today we are talking about human-to-human connection. Because when we leave a people first approach, everything changes. Curiosity shifts, insights occur, and great conversations happen. And so that sparked a little thought for me today. Are we at a breaking point within our industry, within our society, within the environments we live in? And what I mean by the breaking point is that connection with people. See, we are incubating a society where it's shoved down your throat. You do you, and you be happy, and you do what serves well for you. And if you want to fucking look like a ping pong ball, that's on you. Or whatever narrative you want to subscribe, you do you. And well, I'm not opposed to that because I believe with every single cell in my body that unless we're whole and complete ourselves, I can't be of servers and be can and be connected to other people if I'm broken. So I do need to look after me first within reason. Now I believe it gets pushed too far the other way. Like right now, we're we're in a space where we are conditioned to be fearful. Think about it. When you get another, what do people do? Look down. When you walk down the road, what are people doing? Their head, their heads are buried inside uh their their phones. And see, we our society is hey, you put in a garden, and then guess what? Don't tell anybody about your garden. And rather than not telling anybody about how great your garden is and how much time and and effort you put into it and how proud you are of it. In fact, put an eight-foot fence up because you want to keep people out. You see, we're conditioned from fear marketing. Oh my gosh, what if oh by the way, after you put your fence up, make sure you put you know the uh a shit ton of floodlights and like security systems. And oh, by the way, you might as well protect your house and put 3M millimeter uh 3M protective film on your glass because you don't want people breaking into your house. And then it shut down our throat. Security, security, security, distance yourself, put off cameras. You can't go and ring the doorbell anymore and somebody enters the door, it doesn't happen. And so why am I bringing this up? Because I want to flip the script on this and give you a different perspective. You see, there was a point in time, which I believe is, if not lost, certainly getting there, where we built sense of community. I don't need to tell you this, you know this, that for thousands of years, what's allowed people to survive and thrive is community, is groups of people around them. Nothing ever got done in a silo. That's why the reverse of having a garden and then telling all your neighbors about it and you know, being proud of the work you're doing. In fact, like I would say, hey man, I'd say my neighbor, hey man, I'm going away this week. Do me a favor, look after my garden. Can you water it? Just you know, make sure that everything goes okay. And by the way, hey man, if there are cucumbers that show up, take them, enjoy them, share them with people around you because I can't consume all of the commute uh cucumbers or tomatoes that I grow. So give them to people and create sense of a community. It's the exact opposite of fear mongering. It's like, look, I want you part of what's going on, and then what happens is we have a connection, human-to-human connection, not this device, the device that sucks us away and pulls our attention apart. Why am I bringing this up? Because it triggered me today. Like, life is about experiences, and until we understand that and grab that, nothing else matters. I had the pleasure of hanging with Christian today, and we were driving, and we were near home, and at the side of the street, there was a gentleman pulled over, you know, middle-aged guy. It was it was it was a Saturday morning, sunshine's out, so he took his car for a drive. This happened to be a GTI, a nice GTI, I gotta say circa 2000s. Haven't seen one like that for a while. So I stopped and and and rolled down the window and said, Hey man, everything okay? I see your hoods up. He literally jumped. Yeah, why? Why you ask? I see your hoods up. And um, if you need a hand, if you you know, I'm not too far from here, I I can I can help you out. He sighed. No, no, it's okay. It's just uh, you know, old car overheating. I'm like, are you sure? You know, would you like me to bring you some anti-freeze or you know a jug of water? Because I'm probably 10 minutes from here, and I can give you that. No, no, no, it's okay, it's okay, it's okay. Alright, fine. So we go on with our day, and about an hour later, I try flying again. And the guy's still there. And Chris's like, Dad, should we should we ask for help? Roll on the window. Hey man, checking on you again. You cool? Because an hour ago you're still here. You need a tow truck, you need a No, I'm fine, leave me alone. Whoa, okay, sure. Right? And I get we're all dealing with something. But I'm here to bring this up, like the opposite occurs. We become so fearful of people around us because we're conditioned that you look after yourself and fuck everybody else, and they're only out to get you in order to hurt you, in order to take something from you. Are they? Because I haven't got to where I've got by myself. I've had a lot of great people around me to amplify me. To pick me up, take me to the next level of my life, of my career. And some of those people and or different people have been around when I'm at my lowest points. Look I'm bringing this up because it sort of triggered me and like we live in in a society where it's like fear, fear, fear, don't share things, do it your way, and screw everybody else. And I'm here to re remind things, remind you that things change when you lead the way people first approach. Like, why and and and hey Jonathan, who gives a shit? Why are you telling me this? Because I care. You know, my mission is the same, but to change the way we lead our construction sites, the late the way we connect with people, because that changes everything, that leaves our legacy. That's what it's about. So that's what I got for today. Make it your mission today to make somebody else smile. Send them a text. Take a send a phone call. And a simple text just say, Hey man, thinking to you. Sending you love and energy, or whatever it is you need to say. A simple thought to know that you're thinking of somebody else. And make it agenda free. There's no intention. I'm simply checking on you. I'm simply saying hello. And while we lead the people approach, you'll see everything changes. Thanks for being a part of this. Till next time, Jonathan Snelly. People first. Make your day great.