Grief - A Witness to Love

Is Grief a Witness to Love?

As we view our world today, it's obvious that millions of people are experiencing grief of one kind or another. From the loss of loved ones to wars taking a toll on whole populations and our children. The number of those who face life-threatening diseases and natural disasters has never been higher. It's overwhelming our mental and emotional bodies.

So how do we deal with our grief? Does it serve a purpose besides creating discomfort, and so much fear that one may ask, "Will we survive this?"

In this episode, I share a personal experience with grief, and what its message is to me today.  I share it to assist in healing your heart and moving into grace.

Because until we can make our life's transitions more transformative, we can't heal. And until we heal our wounds, we cannot be present for others. It's this presence that love uses in every situation and life, to open our hearts and bring us forward in consciousness.

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Music by Robin Miller
CD In The Company of Angels
Songs:  
Sands of Time
Dawns Passing
Lullaby to Lois           
www.robinmillermusic.com

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Artist Catherine Stefanavage
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Transcript

Hello, I’m your host, Riverann. And this is Heart Sense. A podcast for aligning, strengthening, and opening our hearts to a frequency of love that heals ourselves and our planet. Thank you for being here!

Many of us are experiencing a significant amount of loss, both personally and globally. It’s difficult to make peace with these abrupt changes affecting our communities and our families. 

And grief is the visitor that overwhelms our thoughts and emotions. It leads us into uncharted territory to find a resolution that often alludes us. Until we move into acceptance, love, and forgiveness.

Losing someone you love can feel like there’s a hole in your heart. It’s like an icy wind suddenly moves through everything in our physical space, informing us that the warmth of the person we love is no longer present. And for a while, we question if we’re going to be ok. If we will get through the emotional roller coaster of feelings overwhelming our hearts. 

What’s equally difficult is that our memories comfort us, while simultaneously being painful. People try to console us, but we often can’t fully allow them into the space. 

Searching for an exchange of suffering for peace. We begin the healing process to clear our minds and bodies, which have become clogged with an emotional overload.  

I lost a beloved family member a few days ago. And often, along with our personal pain, we feel the pain of others around us. This adds a layer of stress to the emotional body.

I’m very sensitive to my brother. I can see him in my mind, and feel his energy body, and grief. Although I’m presently twelve hundred miles away from him. 

This is how deeply we’re all connected. Tuning in to others is directly related to the openness of our hearts, and our willingness to be vulnerable with what comes in. Because this connective energy is always around us if we choose to receive it. 

The challenge is to learn to hold the love we’ve embraced, for an eternity. Without buying into thoughts that it leaves us. 

For me, love is the one constant frequency of energy that defines us. The inner voice leads us into a fulfilling life.

So today, I’ve decided to share with you how I begin the process of healing my heart. By embracing gratitude for the grief.  

The following was my last communication with my loved one.  I couldn’t be with her as she physically transitioned this world. So I centered my heart and wrote these words; knowing her spirit would receive them.

June 7, 2024

Grief, Is it A Witness to Love?

I lit a five-day candle for you. I will keep one burning to light your way home. I’ve been feeling your heart for several nights… getting ready for a journey without us. One every soul must take alone. 

It’s painful thinking about you not physically being with us. I know you’ll still be in our hearts. But we’ll live in different dimensions. Where we can’t see your eyes, your smile, or hear the sound of your voice. 

Upon hearing the news you’re transitioning, my tears haven’t stopped. I will miss your presence because I love you. We didn’t expect you’d leave us this soon. And we secretly wonder how we will be without you. But enough about me and us.

You’re in hospice now. I remember this place after losing both my fathers and my soul dog, Rumiboy. It’s the waiting room, where there’s nothing anyone can do to change the outcome. 

So loved ones begin sharing their goodbyes. And grief fastens itself to the armchair in the room, for everyone who enters and leaves to take some with them. She challenges us every time we’re in this place of letting go, and it never gets easier.

Is grief is a witness to love? A measurement of our attachment to who or what we have loved. So why then is it so painful? 

Perhaps because grief shows us we’ve lost one of our love anchors. And physical departures are difficult. I see grief representing an eternal love we carry forever with us. And like God or Source, it’s always present! We simply have to find a new way of holding it. 

I want you to know Barbara, that I’m holding you. Rocking you in my arms like a newborn. Reflecting on all the years we’ve been in each other's lives. The monumental moments of birthing joy with that invincible feeling. The deep bonding between our thoughts and positive actions in the world. As well as the heartbreaks and difficult challenges we’ve faced as a family.

Your kind and open heart never went unnoticed. Your wit and humor have always been a bit of fresh air. And your loyalty and compassion will forever be an identifying feature, of what you brought to us. 

I will remind your children and grandchildren to be like you. True to their hearts, faithful to themselves, and inquisitive about life. To find their voice, and be shameless expressing it. And to believe in themselves, goodness, morality, and a Higher Power. 

Please don’t worry about your soulmate. I will stay close and be available to him. I’m sure you must know, that my brother is my hero too. And we’ll all watch over him.

Your love story of half a century was a true testament to love.  

I have witnessed eternity in your connection. Hearts that bond like yours know little separation because the veil between you is thin.

I lift you up to be carried by angels into the light. To feel the face of God smiling into your heart with such radiance, you know you’re in the company of heaven. So dance with those you’ve missed. And occasionally, connect with us through love messages you plant in our hearts.

When you transition this world we will hold one another close, and celebrate your life. Drawing you into our presence with beautiful memories, laughter, and tears that will cleanse us. So don’t worry about any of us. Enjoy the peace and freedom of your new spiritual body and soul family.

But know that the world was brighter with your passion and love for others. And more tender when you showed up for each of us. No words can express the gratitude we feel or how much we love you. 

Life happens so fast! We transition from happiness to sorrow, anger to gratitude, confusion to peace, sickness to health, emptiness to fullness, birth to death, and rebirth to enlightenment. They’re all part of our journey remembering who we are, and what we came to do.

I sense you fulfilled your life purpose. While adding a particular sweetness to our lives. These experiences we will all reflect upon.

You once told me that in your life with Mark, you found your voice. That my sweet sister, is an accomplishment of a lifetime. Your words were always carefully chosen. As kindness appeared to come naturally for you. And your compassionate heart reflected a deeper soul purpose.

Thanks for being in my life, in our lives! Thank you for the love, support, strength, and forgiveness you supplied to make our world better.

Yes, we will miss being in your physical presence. Witnessing your love, and sharing our experiences. You will live in our hearts as a reminder that a gentle spirit is a powerful force! 

Helen Keller said, “What we have once enjoyed, we can never lose. All that we love deeply becomes a part of us.” 💕

So many of us are in the throws of significant change. Our lives are beginning new chapters, that at first may be completely unrecognizable. None of us escape painful experiences, the presence of obstacles, or death. But we can embrace the transformation needed, to make transitions easier and more fulfilling. 

For me, healing transitions always begin with love and gratitude. As I  learn to accept what is, nothing can consume me. Life experiences may discharge tears or heartbreaks — filtering what to keep. But after that, I’m guided to use a breath of kindness. To blow the rest away.

OUTRO

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As a side note. It may be a few weeks before I publish a new episode. I’ll be traveling to Texas for my sister’s memorial and taking some time to be with my family.  

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It's my hope that these episodes bring more light into your heart and more vision to your life.

This is River Ann. Thank you for listening.