When Things Fall Apart

When things fall apart, have you ever considered the situation or event might be the breakthrough you’ve unconsciously been waiting for? Or a release from circumstances that were limiting your ability to thrive? Perhaps it’s exactly what you needed to break down defenses and receive what you deserve. 

There’s a difference between perceived destiny and true destiny. Most of us experience some confusion around this abstract concept. Defining our lives can be barriers to happiness. And beliefs can set up obstacles limiting the amount of truth and prosperity we’re able to receive.  However, if we’re open to the spontaneous flow of life. It guides us to our heart’s destination and dreams that felt impossible to reach. 

This episode explores what the hidden implications may be, when something in life falls apart. We also look at what may entice us into relationships and situations destined to fail. 


When we have no control over outcomes, we gain incredible knowledge about ourselves. And as we release ideology and perceptions that have filtered the truth. We begin to soar with boundless freedom, and live life without becoming a victim.

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Violinist Will Taylor,  Strings Attached,  & Guitarist, Patrick Ki            stringsattached.bandcamp.com and PatrickKimusic.com

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Transcript

Hi there, I’m Riverann. And this is Heart Sense. A podcast for aligning, strengthening, and opening our hearts. To a frequency of love that heals ourselves and our planet. Thank you for being here!

In today’s episode we look at what happens to us when we experience things like broken relationships, the loss of good health, a loved one, or a dream.  All of these can be debilitating. But what’s really confusing is how they affect each of us differently even though they look similar. 

For me, the most significant breakthroughs are the ones we discover ourselves. And they come when we’re ready to receive them, not before. I recently learned something I’d not understood about my own patterns. It surprised me how long it took me to see them. So today, we’re exploring When Things Fall Apart.

Have you ever wondered why we’re led into relationships and situations that test us? Is it possible that we choosing them to learn more about ourselves. 

What are we really looking for? I think it’s a deeper connection with self more than with others. That’s kind of convoluted, because it’s not what we’re trained to do. However, when we’re in harmony with ourselves, we make better choices in life, because we know what’s right for us.

In distress, our emotions become a revolving door prioritizing the input of the outside world, instead of listening for inner clarity. So when things fall apart we’re often reeling with internal conflict. Blaming ourselves for things we missed, mistakes we made, or opportunities we didn’t take. 

What if you were aware of the impact your choice would have before you ever made them. Would you make different decisions? Maybe. But humans are stubborn and often use their will to, push the envelope as some call it. 

But what does having something go our way really mean? Could it be that we defer to this behavior because we don’t have a clue what’s possible?Good question! Free will can be an asset, or a deterrent to happiness. Do we really know what we want? Or are we just gambling with outcomes?

In this episode I propose the question, Are the choices we make avoiding personal growth? Or are the blinders we unconsciously agree put on; leading us into experiences where things are meant to fall apart. Because when we can’t control outcomes. We gain incredible knowledge about ourselves. 

I’m suggesting these experiences are intended to be like five alarm fires. Designed to intentionally awaken us to patterns keeping us from self fulfillment. Like, how allowing any kind of abuse creates a victim mentality. In contrast to how feeling worthy becomes self nurturing.

I’m sure we can all relate to places in ourselves where we are in need of breakthroughs. It’s not like we haven’t tried to recreate ourselves as we learn from our experiences. We simply have blindspots that override the present, with haunting memories of the past. 

Fearful of making the same mistakes in our relationships, we allow stress to send us into defensive modes. Or we just keep repeating our behavior. Making decisions that put the needs of others first and discount any responsibility to ourselves. Ignoring the balance we seek to achieve.

Our minds play videos of our mistakes with acute attention to where we failed. Or why something seems impossible to achieve, so we commit to never having that lesson again. But what if we simply misinterpreted the situation and were on the brink of transforming our lives?

What if the primary reason we interpret words and situations differently, comes from the places within us that still need healing? And this person or event was in our lives to hold up a mirror so we could see ourselves and our surroundings differently.

If we have a loving relationship with ourselves. We’re usually emotionally comfortable acknowledging our mistakes, as well as our successes. Often reacting less to people and situations that test us. We stop allowing stress to override our instincts. Because we’re able to see the difference between failure and opportunity.

What situations in your life can you identify that continue to spiral into repetitive patterns that are not serving you? Are they occurring in your personal relationships, work situations, or how how you prioritize or ignore your own needs? 

Those experiences are signaling us where we need to work. They’re literally mirroring what we need to see. Because breakthroughs are most significant, when we stop unconscious patterns of self sabotage. The patterns that plague us with repetitive behaviors we can’t seem to change.

It can be frightening to release them. Because like habits, they’re so ingrained it can feel like all we know. And for awhile they owned us. 

Have you ever noticed the moment you push back at a situation to claim your own well being. Is the one that changes the course of your life? It’s a moment that requires great courage to prioritize your value! And in that instant, something within you awakened.

Most of us at some time in our lives have had limited vision. It’s seems to be prominent when we set goals of acquisition, where the focus is on the prize. This is usually when we miss red flags or ignore our intuition.

We’re all attracted to one another by different kinds of chemistry. Perhaps it physical attraction, mental stimulation, emotional connection, or a feeling of home. If you knew that a relationship would cause you great pain, but would assist your growth. Would you consciously choose it? I think most people would say probably not..

Let’s explore a person’s blinders for a moment. I see them kind of like those a horse wears to restrict its peripheral vision and only move forward. But I think we can probably all agree that straight lines don’t represent life.

Could the blinders we wear be how our soul steers us to focus on growth through disappointments and hardships? Do they represent some of our soul contracts to keep us on track to explore what we need to heal? And is the chemistry or attraction we have to something; the carrot that entices us into  relationship with it? 

People enter an experience with expectations of receiving something from the outer world. But the real value as I see it, comes when we dive deep into our patterns and rise discarding them for an authentic relationship with self. It’s about having the best connection. Relate it to a cellular one if you need to. Isn’t it the strength of the signal that matters?

When things fall apart, the internal trauma we experience can uproot us. Our reflections may include self doubt, remorse, anger, or emotional turmoil. As we attempt to understand why we went down that particular rabbit hole.

If we’re able to balance and realign ourselves after an experience. There’s an opportunity to see our own reflection differently. Especially if we feel a shift when discarding what no longer serves our highest good. 

This is the moment where awakening begins. A silent recognition, catalyst by a willingness to look for answers with focused clarity.

Follow that recognition. Those emotions are leading us to embrace the truth of who we are and the gifts we bring. Give this moment time to settle into the heart, with gratitude for the insights arriving. They’re like rain washing the dust away… our vision expands. 

Clarity replaces confusion and repetitive behavior. And sometimes we witness our own reflection in other people. That’s when our minds and emotions begin to reveal their secrets. And we realize that we were showing up for the same class for decades… but not graduating. 

Our life frequencies are interacting with people and situations to uncover and liberate our hearts from fear based unworthiness. If we’re not paying attention to messages coming from our inner voice. Our behavior can halt any potential breakthrough. 

But if learn to we calibrate the projected image of ourselves with our true nature. We begin to define our destiny. It’s the gift to understanding why things fall apart. We separated ourselves from our spirits and one another.

Self awareness is being tuned into both the internal and external energies affecting us. The advice to “Be careful of the company you keep,” applies not only to people, but also to thoughts, emotions, and physical reality.

When things fall apart, it may be a sign you’re in a field of opportunity, to dismantle old patterns and change your life. It can be an wake up from a sleepless hibernation of unresolved issues. 

We’re all going through different stages of growth. Our challenges are different, but equally as difficult. Strength and weakness are the same - they’re simply different sides of the coin. Representing choices on a path to whatever frequencies we choose to live in.

Science has confirmed that everything is energy. And energy is  consciousness interacting with consciousness. The frequency determines whether it’s positive or negative. 

So the next time you feel something falling apart. Know there’s a larger plan unfolding, that will lead to meaningful change. It probably means you’re on the edge of breakthrough… Depending on what you choose.

What we interpret as the death of anything, is really just transition. Life doesn’t die. It changes into something new. Know you’re changing too!  

OUTRO:

I want to thank Will Taylor with Strings Attached and Patrick Ki for providing their original music for today’s episode. You can find a link to their music in the Show Notes or by online by going online to: stringsattached.bandcamp.com and PatrickKimusic.com Ki is spelled Ki!

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This is River Ann. Thank you for listening.