Caregiving Chaos, Man-Child Marriages, Licked Joints & the Midlife F*ck-It List | Toot, toot hey beep, beep

In this raw, hilarious, and brutally honest episode, Queenie & TT tackle the emotional whiplash of midlife caregiving, the chaos of aging parents, and the rage-inducing reality that patience doesn’t age like fine wine.

Queenie shares what it’s really like managing her mom’s late-night panic calls, behavioral struggles at her adult day program, and the impossible task of correcting someone who no longer processes feedback the same way. The conversation dives into compassion fatigue, caregiver burnout, role reversal, guilt, and the dark humor that becomes a survival skill when you’re the default adult in the room.

Then the episode swerves—hard—into:

• A viral therapist list on “Are you married to a boy or a man?”
• The federal government’s attempt to quietly ban hemp-derived THC products
• The infamous Michigan cannabis recall after pre-rolled joints were licked during production
• And a flawlessly unhinged game segment that proves real life is stranger than satire

Finally, the women add a crowd-sourced nuclear entry to the Midlife Fuck-It List:

Retiring from obligatory blowjobs.

No guilt. No obligation. Just choice, autonomy, and TMJ.

This episode is caregiving reality, cannabis chaos, marriage truth-telling, sexual autonomy, and midlife liberation—served with profanity, empathy, and zero performative enlightenment.

midlife caregiving

aging parent challenges

caregiver burnout

compassion fatigue

sandwich generation stress

adult children caring for parents

caregiving humor podcast

emotional labor in marriage

signs your husband is immature

man child marriage

midlife women podcast

THC hemp ban news

Michigan cannabis recall

weed industry scandal

midlife sexual autonomy

fuck it list after 60

women aging unapologetically

• “Why is caregiving for my mom so hard”
• “Caregiver burnout and anger”
• “When your parent acts like a child”
• “Signs you’re married to

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Transcript

Queenie (00:32)
So hello, TT.

TT (00:35)
Hello Queenie.

Queenie (00:36)
How are you today?

TT (00:38)
I'm good. I'm pretty high. Yeah, you can see my...

Queenie (00:43)
⁓ good! That's great. And how

did you get that? How did you get that way?

TT (00:48)
Well, I ⁓ had a dropper full of this good vibe stuff like you had last week. And I'll tell you, after I mixed it in with my smoothie, I remembered that I had gotten a card about dosing and I looked all over for it. I couldn't find it, but I do remember the first time I tried it, I did not take a full dropper full and I did it as I was instructed.

Queenie (00:56)
that.

⁓

Mm-hmm.

Okay.

See, you and you mentioned that last week that you'd gotten a card. I never got a card. I never got the card. No, no, I did not. So you've ingested a full dropper full, correct?

TT (01:23)
You never got the card? ⁓ well, I got it. But I know where it is now.

full dropper and

it's it's absolutely wonderful I am telling you I am relaxed I'm I don't know I'm chill but also very giggly giggly

Queenie (01:39)
You're having a grand old time.

Just chill, baby, chill. She laxin'. Well,

giggly, there's nothing wrong with giggly, that's for sure. Nothing at all. Ooh, munchies. Mmm. Well, I too opted for, here it is. Jeez, I'm reaching a little place. No, I went to my unflavored Ayrloom Unflavored beverage enhancer, my drops.

TT (01:52)
Mm-hmm. And munchies.

Big time.

Good vibes?

⁓ OK, you're dry.

Yeah.

Queenie (02:14)
my drops. So these are, I've, these are great. I've used these for forever. They're wonderful. They don't change the flavor of your beverage at all. So you just drip, drip, drip them in and you're all set and ready to go. So it's a, so if you want to put it your coffee or just plain water, your thermos. Oh yeah. I heard I took my mother to get her hair done.

TT (02:25)
Wow, that's great.

Nice.

Mm-hmm. You're thermos.

Queenie (02:43)
And the hairdresser has a young son who's in Pop Warner and she was making jokes about, yeah, you know, I drink, but I drink out in public. I don't hide it like these other mothers do. I guess, you know, they've got their little yetis and everything else and...

TT (03:02)
That's right. Yeah. yeah, everybody has a water bottle. Everyone, which is great for the environment, but also wife. ⁓

Queenie (03:07)
Yeah, it's wonderful for the environment, but apparently soccer

moms are getting blasted on the sidelines.

my blueberry water infused. So yes, we do like that. yes.

TT (03:23)
well.

Nice, very nice.

Queenie (03:48)
anything exciting happen this week?

TT (03:52)
⁓ yeah, we had, we were out two nights. was a lot. Wednesday, Wednesday and Friday. You were? Do tell.

Queenie (03:56)
Two nights. I was out two nights also.

Well, I was out ⁓ for our reunion committee meeting on Tuesday and then ⁓ Hubby and I went out to dinner last night, two nights ago, two nights ago, Thursday night. I have no idea what day it is. But anyway, ⁓ yes, we had a lovely time at one of our favorite restaurants, the Scarlet Knife there in Latham on Route 2. Delicious.

TT (04:10)
Mm-hmm.

Wednesday. Oh, okay.

⁓ yay.

Queenie (04:33)
delicious food. It's just so good to have just great food. was so good. So I really do miss eating out. Oh my god, it was so tasty. Yum, yum, yum. So that was was that was a lot of fun. That was tasty. I had great leftovers for last night. So it was it was a it was a big win. It was a was a check in the W column.

TT (04:40)
Mm-hmm. ⁓ good.

You

⁓ great. Yeah.

Queenie (05:02)
But the place is so cool, you know?

TT (05:03)
Well done.

Queenie (05:04)
Yeah. You could go there, you could just have a drink at the bar and some snack edges. They've got a separate little bar menu and they typically on the weekends have a piano player, some music there. And ⁓ then big, it's a lovely setup. It's so not like this area. It looks like something you'd find in Manhattan, actually. ⁓ A separate dessert room.

TT (05:15)
Cool. ⁓

Mm-hmm, mm-hmm, wow.

Mm-hmm, wow.

Queenie (05:29)
you where you'd go

and you can have a grand dessert. So people go there just for dessert. It's we had my mother's 90th birthday party there. Yeah, yeah. Yeah. So they were wonderful then. Yeah. So I can't complain. So same wonderful level of service. The food was delish. Yummers. And we and of course, you know, had a fun time with the crew at the diner at five p.m. So

TT (05:34)
Cool. I remember that. Yeah, yeah. And they were wonderful then, right?

Mm-hmm. ⁓

Queenie (05:57)
⁓ let's do a header.

TT (05:58)
Your

early bird specials.

Queenie (06:01)
our early bird specials, but imagine my shock when the issue of the time was brought up and our friend Susan said, I can't believe we're sitting here eating at meeting at five o'clock. What's wrong with us? And I thought, finally, a voice of reason. Maybe someone will suggest six o'clock, six thirty. No, three p.m. Why are we here? None of us are working. Why aren't we meeting at three p.m.? I was like, ⁓ my.

TT (06:18)
hahahaha

Queenie (06:30)
God, But, well, have to adapt. It's a very productive meeting. It was a very productive meeting. So we're moving forward. Yes. So I can't complain. And we had a lovely time. ⁓ yeah, I was actually out another evening too because our classmates' dad passed away. So we did go to that. ⁓

TT (06:33)
⁓ But it was a productive meeting from what I understand.

Good, good, good, good.

Yes, know. Yeah,

sending, sending sympathy to the family. Yeah.

Queenie (06:57)
that week, but...

You know, and this sounds

really cold-hearted, but I think you agree with me. It's just not right.

TT (07:14)
What? What's just not right? Wait a minute. Death?

Queenie (07:17)
Don't, there's just...

know that these police, years old and your parents are still alive. It's like, my grandparents died when they were 68.

TT (07:31)
They had the good sense to lay down and die.

Queenie (07:33)
They were

out of here by now. And my parents could enjoy themselves.

my god, I didn't just say that, did I?

TT (07:42)
⁓

Yes, you did. It's the truth coming out. Yes.

Queenie (07:46)
I did, it's the truth. It's the truth. I

got a call last night at nine o'clock PM, nine PM on a Friday. Where's the bus? I'm sitting here all dressed ready to go.

TT (07:59)
⁓ no. ⁓ and it's dark out too. It woke up.

Queenie (08:01)
Hmm?

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. She had fallen asleep and woke up and thought and just

got herself going.

TT (08:14)
Yep. Well.

Queenie (08:16)
Woo!

TT (08:17)
They can see how it might happen.

Queenie (08:19)
Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. And this is on top of, you know, getting the call from the daycare, from her program. I have to speak to her about her behavior when they're playing games. She has little patience for those who might be struggling a bit.

TT (08:31)
yeah, little reprimand.

Queenie (08:47)
So I to counsel her that she can't try to speed people up and come on, come on, come on. Answer the question. Come on, come on. What are you waiting for? Yeah, this kind of stuff. Come on, come on. Come on, what's going on? Move along. Just answer it. So I had to have that chat.

TT (08:54)
What's really, I don't know what's taking them so long. What is going on here? Stage whisper, yeah.

you

That's good stuff. Good stuff.

Queenie (09:17)
So yeah, what goes around comes around. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm. I have to have that little chit chat. So that was fun. I think our time is coming closer and closer to not... Yeah, she'll be expelled. ⁓ well, maybe that too, but I fear she'll be expelled from daycare.

TT (09:31)
Yeah.

Yeah. To being roomies. To being roomies.

Ha

dear, the expulsion, yeah. I don't know, do you think? It takes a lot, it takes a lot.

Queenie (09:46)
Yeah, I think it's coming. it's good stuff. I think,

well, right. ⁓ She's still, you know, fairly compliant.

TT (09:56)
long as it

yeah and it's long as you know she's not hitting people you know come on come on we're waiting

Queenie (10:01)
Well, not yet. Move your ass! And she's very, I know,

and she's very solid on her feet. Like she can move. The only thing that slows her down is her breathing. Now, if she wasn't short of breath from smoking she'd be really, she'd be unstoppable. But ⁓ yeah, she's very agile and steady on her feet.

TT (10:12)
Yeah.

Right.

Right.

Yep.

Queenie (10:31)
Yeah, we'll see. So I have to have that chat tomorrow.

TT (10:35)
Fun, fun, fun, fun, fun, fun. But she won't remember it.

Queenie (10:38)
Yeah, looking forward to it.

I know, but I still have to be able to say that we addressed it. You can't be a bully yet. Take care.

TT (10:52)
You've addressed it with me. You could say I did address it and you've addressed it with me. She may not remember.

Queenie (10:52)
You're going have to go into time now.

As you well know, I'm not telling you anything you haven't seen, but yeah. ⁓ Yep. So, we'll take it a step at a time. One day at a time, they say, one day at a time. Yeah, sweet Jesus. Isn't that the next, isn't there a song that says one day at a time, sweet Jesus?

TT (11:18)
One day at a time.

well, that's one toke over the line, sweet Jesus.

Queenie (11:29)
I knew it was one something.

You'd think I'd know that, wouldn't you? You'd think, but I didn't. ⁓

TT (11:37)
You think?

wanted to tell you about something I ran across ⁓ that that just kind of ⁓ rang true to me and I wanted to share it with us ⁓ with you and our listeners to see if it rings true to you. So there's this there's a therapist and he's saying you know he's giving these signs that you're married to a boy not a man. He's talking about how there is a point at which you know young boys boys will

Queenie (14:34)
Okay.

Right.

TT (14:48)
turned into men, but a lot of them keep,

Queenie (14:50)
Maturing.

TT (14:51)
yes, a lot of them never do that. They don't mature and they carry their boy-like patterns into adulthood, into their marriages, into their jobs, whatever. So anyway, here are signs that your man is a boy and not a man.

Queenie (14:58)
dear.

boy. So to speak. So to speak.

Man man man. Okay. Hit me.

TT (15:13)
He needs to be asked.

So, honey, could you please do this? Even though it's obvious that it needs to be done, right? So, ⁓ and that's, I find that to ring true.

Queenie (15:24)
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

Okay.

TT (15:32)
⁓ And then the second one is ⁓ they avoid hard conversations. So rather than wanting to sit down and say, OK, let's talk about this. OK, we will sometime. Yeah, we'll talk about it. Right now, Right. Exactly.

Queenie (15:47)
Yeah, yeah, this isn't a great time. This isn't gonna really work for me right now. Could be, you know, can we put a pin in this and talk about it? Put a pin in it. Put a pin in it. Okay.

TT (16:02)
so that one kind of resonated. ⁓

Queenie (16:02)
Pin in this. ⁓

TT (16:07)
they keep score. So like, well, I did this. So, you know, it's your turn to do that or, you know, well, if I'm doing this and, know, well, I put my own stuff away and whatever, I don't know. But yeah, there's that one. ⁓ the other one, this one drives me crazy is being told.

Queenie (16:14)
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm.

TT (16:31)
calm down.

Yeah. And he needs you to calm down because he's not comfortable with your emotion.

Queenie (16:46)
well, good Lord.

TT (16:51)
The other thing is ⁓ he blames life or you or anybody else for everything, cannot take responsibility for his own actions. Also, another one is he needs praise. So like if he does something, like thank you so much for taking out the trash. Even though it's kind of his thing that he does as part of the partnership.

Queenie (17:00)
Mmm. Mmm. Really?

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

TT (17:21)
Right? So all of

this, he has a difficult time apologizing.

Queenie (17:27)
Mm-hmm.

TT (17:29)
And the last one is that he, ⁓ his wife, he wants a wife who will ⁓ coddle him rather than helping push her forward. So like, you know, I want to be taken care of, you know, all that stuff. And rather than saying, this is great.

Queenie (17:31)
Mmm.

TT (17:56)
You know, you're up for promotion. This is great. You're going to do a good job. Blah, blah, Now it's like, ⁓ how, you know, how's that going to affect me? Yeah. Right. Yeah.

Queenie (17:59)
Woof!

Then what, what, right, right, right. Who's going to cook dinner? Who's going to do this? Who's going to

drive kids around? Who's going to make sure they get to practice?

TT (18:10)
Right.

Yeah. So anyway, I thought those were interesting. wanted to share them. Be interesting to hear if they resonate with other folks. How many men, so-called men, are still stuck in boyhood in some respects

Queenie (18:16)
Hmm. Mm-hmm. I think...

Boy

TT do you have a story for us today?

TT (19:19)
Yes. ⁓

Queenie (19:27)
Okay. Okay.

TT (19:27)
I do. However,

it has escaped me, which of the 27 tabs I have opened, it might be. Okay. Yeah.

Queenie (19:34)
Okay, fine.

Yeah, I understand.

I've had tab issues myself.

TT (19:46)
So, yes, I am back with us and ready to do the news.

Queenie (19:52)
You're back with us? Where were you?

TT (19:54)
I was, I don't know, flying around out there in outer space. I think I...

Queenie (19:57)
Okay, okay, okay.

What is your story, TT?

TT (20:04)
So, well, as we reported last week, there is a ban on hemp-derived THC products and any hemp products at all that's just been approved by the federal government ⁓ when the government reopened.

Queenie (20:07)
Mm-hmm.

TT (20:28)
What's happening is it's under regulated right now. And everybody knows it's kind of under regulated, right? We've talked about that. But instead of saying, OK, let's put in place some regulation, they are like, nope, we're prohibiting everything. ⁓ And the other thing that I read, they snuck into this is that it

Queenie (20:35)
Mm-hmm.

TT (20:55)
was language prohibiting Congress from moving it ⁓ to a different place on the

Queenie (21:05)
I am curious like how this is sitting a week later. You know what and you said what was hidden in this? So what something was hidden in the bill?

TT (21:08)
Right, right.

⁓

Yeah, that it cannot be moved from a schedule.

Queenie (21:24)
Three to one or one to three.

TT (21:25)
to

get four to three I think it is. Yeah. Yeah.

Queenie (21:28)
Whatever it is.

Wow, that was tucked in there.

TT (21:35)
That was, now I read that today. I have not seen that in other sources. So ⁓ maybe we should go back. I should go back and double check my source, but ⁓ I generally only report from credible sources. But you never know, something snuck in there. yeah, that it was that it's not in this particular article. That's why I'm kind of looking here to see, but wait.

Queenie (21:41)
Mm-hmm.

TT (22:05)
Da da da da.

Queenie (22:08)
So basically banning rescheduling.

TT (22:08)
No, that's not it. That was what

the report was, so what, lot of, again, a lot of people are, ⁓ in the industry, are actually glad that they're gonna be addressing some of the problems with access and right, because it's unregulated and quality, even quality, you know, that... ⁓

Queenie (22:16)
Wow.

Right, with gas station. Yeah, yeah.

Right.

TT (22:38)
that that's a good thing, right? Especially for businesses that are legit, you know, and you're getting, and they're playing by the rules, right, right. ⁓ So anyway, so it's, people are not anti-regulation or, you know, anti-safety. They're just, ⁓

Queenie (22:45)
Right, and it being held to certain standards. Right.

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

TT (23:02)
just.

I'm losing my train of thought, I'm sorry.

Queenie (23:05)
Think of it. She's lost her choo-choo.

The choo-choo has left the station. The train of thought has chugged away.

TT (23:13)
I can't speak and scroll at the same time, apparently.

Yeah. So anyway, people in the industry are actually, they don't want it to be a ban. And we have a year, they're saying, you know, to make sure that it isn't banned. But they have a chance to make the case for responsible, safe ⁓ products being out there for people to participate with.

Queenie (23:40)
Wow. And this is a multi-billion dollar industry we're talking about. It employs thousands and thousands of people. Wow. Sneaky little buggers, aren't they?

TT (23:45)
absolutely.

Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

Yeah, they are.

Queenie (23:56)
This, well. What a slimy, slimy business.

TT (24:00)
So anyway, that's, but there's,

know if we can, the thing is now that there's a year, there has to be a really coordinated and concerted effort for everybody to come to the table together, right? Like the hemp people, the CBD people, the THC people, and just present a united front and say, this is too important.

Queenie (24:17)
Yes. Yes.

TT (24:28)
to our economies, to everything.

Queenie (24:31)
Well, this will be interesting to watch. ⁓

TT (24:36)
Mm-hmm.

Queenie (24:40)
Wow. Unreal, totally unrelated to the government being opened either. You know what I mean? It's like, it has nothing to do with the fact that the government was shut down. It wasn't shut down because of hemp regulations. wasn't, you know, it was just snuck in there, snuck in there to, you know, give people the twist.

TT (24:42)
Yeah.

I know it's no.

Right. Nothing. was right.

Exactly. Yeah. It's like getting beat over the head, you know, like boom.

Queenie (26:36)
So TT are you ready to play our game?

TT (26:40)
I, yes, I'm ready. I said that last week and I completely struck out just like the week before. So I say I'm ready, but am I really? Only time will tell.

Queenie (26:49)
We'll see how ready you really, really, really ready are.

time will tell. Could you, should you, would you, were they stoned? Or is this caca? Is this just made up stuff? Well, it's up to Titi to determine. I'm going to present her with two scenarios and then she's going to determine. Did this really happen or did someone make this up? Is that an accurate representation of what we're doing? Okay, great. I'm glad you're, you know.

TT (27:15)
It sure is.

I

like I should be saying Pat after that. It sure is Pat. Like Pat, Pat Sajak. I don't know.

Queenie (27:22)
That's

Say Jack.

All righty then, so the first scenario. Michigan ordered a cannabis recall after discovering products that had been licked.

TT (27:45)
dear. ⁓ dear.

Queenie (27:47)
Did this really happen?

Or is this, you know, someone with a fantastical imagination made this up?

TT (27:50)
Hahaha!

this is funny. ⁓

I that's made up.

Queenie (28:06)
So TC just doesn't believe that there was a mass recall of joints in the state of Michigan because products had been licked. Is that correct?

TT (28:16)
⁓

no, no, no, no, no, I'm sorry. When you said product, I was thinking, you know, the flower had been about, you know what? think this is, because you have, there might be people licking the rolling papers if they're making joints, right? So that they, instead of doing whatever moistened other option there is to licking it,

Queenie (28:34)
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm.

TT (28:43)
Maybe they were like, okay, so that to me is very plausible.

Queenie (28:48)
So you're retracting your initial answer. Okay. So to.

TT (28:48)
So I am retracting. Yes, I am. Because I was thinking about

people picking up flower and licking it when you said product. I was like, that's the product, right? OK, yeah.

Queenie (29:03)
Yep. Okay.

I gotcha. Okay. ⁓

TT (29:07)
Okay.

Queenie (29:13)
You are

Michigan did order a recall of pre-rolled joints that had been licked during production. that resulted in 3,200 pre-rolls being recalled. Because there was no way

TT (29:27)
instead of some other stickamy.

And what happened to them

after they were recalled, I wonder.

Queenie (29:41)
Well, I'm sure they were repurposed, but they were prohibited from being sold or transferred. So the retailers or the production place had to take that back and an individual at the facility had licked a pre-roll. So that just one. That's all it took. Only took one, ma'am. Only took one. The mad licker

TT (29:50)
Wow.

Just one.

You

We can't identify which one of these thousands.

Queenie (30:11)
was caught, which one of 3,200 joints were licked. So they're

all going. Yeah. Yeah. So that was that. The second, so congratulations. The second scenario is thus. ⁓ Dank stop sounds like it was like a internet store.

TT (30:25)
Why, thank you.

Yeah.

Queenie (30:38)
offered a Chiba Chiabong decorative planter for $41.22 that quickly sold out.

TT (30:49)
I believe it. Yes.

Queenie (30:51)
Titi believes that there was a Chiba Chia Bong selling for $41.22, decorative planner mind you, and then it quickly sold out. Am I to understand that's your answer? Okay, sure now. That also did happen.

TT (31:05)
Yes. Yes. Yes.

Queenie (31:14)
There at one point was a Chia Bong and they sold out like, pshh, flew off the shelves.

TT (31:20)
I believe it, yeah.

Queenie (31:22)
So, see? There's a little something for everybody. Little chia something for everybody. I wish they'd have one of those now, did you? The chia pets, yeah. you had a head.

TT (31:24)
I mean, why not?

I had a chia head. Do remember that?

⁓

a chia head. Yeah. So it went, it got hair, but it was grass. mean, chia.

Queenie (31:38)
⁓

Chia sprouts. Yes, that's basically what they were. So TT ⁓ 100 % is sweet. You got your mojo back, yay. Well, you came real close with that first one. Changing your answer at the very exact last minute. See, you did not go with your first immediate.

TT (31:48)
sprouts. Yes.

He aggressed.

Hey! She's cracked the code

I thought it through.

Queenie (32:16)
impulse. Sometimes we need to just sit back a little bit.

TT (32:19)
I had to

reframe what the whole thing meant, the licking thing. I wasn't sure about the licking thing yet.

Queenie (32:22)
Licking?

I can, yes, I can understand where licking could be confusing.

TT Do you have anything to add to our fuck it list? Have you spoken to anybody that might have something to add to the fuck it list? ⁓

TT (33:36)
Yes, this

is.

Queenie (33:42)
⁓ Does it have, does this have something to do? ⁓

TT (33:42)
This is a compilation of several

reports that have been received.

Queenie (33:51)
Okay, I like this. So you've had input from several people.

TT (33:53)
This is...

This is women who are married and have been married for quite a long time.

Queenie (34:03)
Okay.

TT (34:04)
They want to say, fuck it, to ever, ever having to give head again.

Queenie (34:13)
Okay, fuck the blowjobs fuck it to blowjobs

TT (34:15)
Fuck the blowjob.

Yes, that one's on the fuck it list.

Queenie (34:22)
Do think there should be a certain age limitation or ⁓ number of years married that you should, you know, be like relieved of the, ⁓ the obligation.

TT (34:36)
It's a holy day of obligation.

birthdays, hotel rooms.

Queenie (34:43)
It's your holy obligation. ⁓ geez. So, yes.

Okay. Well, and that's assuming it's been a feature.

TT (34:50)
I don't think,

I think that, yeah, guess, yeah. Yeah, you can't give it up if you've never done it, but. ⁓

Right? Yeah.

Queenie (35:06)
Well,

never? I guess there are people that have never, yes. Well, I'm sure there are lots of people that have never. Women? Do you think a lot of women have felt empowered enough to say no?

TT (35:12)
I think you're right.

Queenie (35:25)
Like honestly, no. From day one.

TT (35:29)
I don't know.

Queenie (35:30)
Like, you want me to do what to what? Huh? What?

TT (35:33)
Yeah, right.

Yeah, that's pretty subtle actually. Here's what they like to do. Grab your head and just direct it right into their laps.

Queenie (35:44)
Well, that's

subtle. This is...

TT (35:52)
Yup.

Queenie (35:55)
Well, I would have to, I think that's a great thing for the fuck it list and I hope it doesn't take any woman reaching the age of 68 to be able to say no.

TT (36:01)
Yeah.

Unless,

And

if you derive pleasure from it and you want to do it and you're in a moment where you think, this would be fun, great, go for it. I'm not saying it's for everybody, but.

Queenie (36:13)
Yes.

A of women

get a lot of pleasure out of providing pleasure.

TT (36:26)
Mm-hmm. Mm-hmm. So yeah, but don't feel Obligated that's the thing. Yes, don't feel obligated Yes Yes, I have I should do this Should I should if I was a good wife? If I was a good wife, I would do this. Mm-hmm, that's right. Be don't be selfish

Queenie (36:29)
Go for it. Obligated.

Yes, the obligatory. That's what we're talking about. The obligatory fellatio. Yes. You should. You would and should. That's right. If you really cared, if you loved. Mm-hmm.

I do recall us having a conversation with a priest.

who was incredulous that anyone would want that done to themselves, number one, done to themselves, if you recall.

TT (37:14)
Right. I would not even do it. Yeah. Right.

Queenie (37:16)
and ⁓

Secondly, that

you'd even do it. Someone would willingly do that. Well, I can't even imagine someone wanting to have that done. think was a quote, something along those lines. And we were like,

TT (37:24)
Who would do that?

Something like that. It was. It was. He was the most

asexual person.

Queenie (37:40)
Really? I mean, we're only 16 and 17 and we get it. We know why.

TT (37:44)
love you.

He was,

he may have been virginal.

Queenie (37:54)
I so. I do. Well, and I, he, I,

TT (37:55)
You think? Yeah, I think so. But what about nocturnal

emissions?

Queenie (38:02)
Well, have no control over those. Well, you can claim ⁓ it was a blessed event. I don't know. I don't know if you're held to a standard. I don't think that's punishable. Although I'm sure in times gone by, people probably ended up flogging themselves and doing all sorts of

TT (38:04)
That's what I mean.

Yeah.

Queenie (38:31)
nasty things to themselves or

TT (38:32)
Right. Right.

Queenie (38:34)
because you know if that's not normal it's just not normal so there's already something awry i'm sorry if you know you're the whole deprivation thing total deprivation i mean that's it that's it that's it ⁓ what do call it involuntary thing

TT (38:44)
Yeah, right.

Right.

Right.

Queenie (39:01)
Mean.

Is that controllable? I don't think so.

TT (39:08)
I don't think so. I think it just happened as a matter of fact.

I woke up the other day.

Queenie (39:14)
Did

you have a nocturnal emission?

TT (39:17)
I believe I did.

Queenie (39:20)
Well, women can have orgasms when they're sleeping.

TT (39:22)
I

think it happened the other night. I was like, I woke up and I thought.

Queenie (39:28)
Hmm.

TT (39:29)
What? I just

felt really good.

Queenie (39:33)
Feel good. Here we go again. Yeah. yeah.

TT (39:35)
Yep, and then I

realized what it yeah, I remember then you know the dream came back to me, so Sorta yeah, I remember like the very end of it. Yeah

Queenie (39:42)
you remember the dream too? ⁓ little flashes. Well, the end of it. How could you forget that? ⁓

But yes, that does happen to women also. Very common.

TT (39:55)
Yeah, yeah. So,

but you know, for women, if they were ever caught or, you know, just, you know, displaying that behavior, they would have been, they would, yes, anybody, they would have been flogged.

Queenie (40:07)
What behavior? Having an orgasm while they're sleeping? ⁓ baby what?

⁓ maybe. Well, or deemed crazy. Deemed crazy. Hysterical. That's where hysteria comes from the uterus.

TT (40:19)
Yes, they would. Yes. Hysterics.

Yes, hysterectomy, yep, yep.

Queenie (40:30)
Well, Hister has something to do with the uterine something or other. I don't know. Latin.

TT (40:36)
Okay.

Yeah. Anyway.

Queenie (40:40)
But yes, but yes, women are able to with, you know, just through dream like states or whatever subconscious activities. So it's not just men, which would stand to reason. You know, because until a certain point, until the gender is differentiated, we're the same parts. Well, the same parts just gets flooded with

TT (40:48)
Mm-hmm.

Mm-hmm.

Queenie (41:07)
different hormones and develop differently. And yeah, that's why, you know, there can be some boo-boos down there.

TT (41:08)
And yeah. Yep.

Right, I know, I know.

Queenie (41:16)
You know, things, well, you know, if it doesn't

happen, if it doesn't happen completely or there's a problem during mitosis or something. So that's. That's right, that's right. So everybody has to, you know, chill out.

TT (41:24)
Right? Yep.

That's why we have a continuum.

Right, what the hell? And whose business is it anyway?

Queenie (41:39)
And you know,

Well, I think that's a great fuck it and a great addition to the fuck it list. And I think it'll be a popular one,

Fuck it. Fuck it's what we say. I can't imagine if there, you know, if a guy really didn't like ⁓ giving women ⁓ pleasure orally, that I'd have a hard time seeing women like forcing the issue.

TT (42:02)
Right, right, yes. Right.

Queenie (42:03)
Right? Come on! Pouting. Why would you want

someone down there that doesn't want to be down there? Are they going to do their best work? No, they're not. They're not. They're not into it. A heart isn't into it.

TT (42:10)
Exactly right.

You're right, if they're not into it. And

it's not gonna be good for anyone.

Queenie (42:26)
No,

no. So why don't we all just agree? Agree to disagree on this? Some people likes it, some people don't.

TT (42:34)
Right, right, but it's always, you always have a choice.

Queenie (42:36)
And you may

have liked it at one point and now decide, you know what? No. I'm done. I'm done. TMJ, that's some, you know, little nerve damage. Not doing it. Not doing it. Good for you. Good for you. Proud. Proud,

TT (42:40)
at one point and now I don't like it anymore. I've got TMJ.

Queenie (43:16)
You got anything exciting going on this week? We've got Thanksgiving.

TT (43:20)
⁓ yeah, I'll be leaving town in a days. Yes, our next time we record we'll be in person. We should make a plan for that when that should be.

Queenie (43:23)
Yeah, you'll be coming here!

will be next to one another.

sure. Yeah.

TT (43:36)
Yeah.

And then, yeah, so I'll be in town for whole week with you.

Queenie (43:42)
Cool beans.

And at least it sounds like the airlines are bouncing back a little bit. So hopefully you won't run into any, any trouble. So keep our fingers crossed. We'll have, a safe journey and I'll see you very shortly. what does he have?

TT (43:49)
Yeah, I think so. Right. Yeah. Mm-hmm.

I know.

Queenie (44:04)
So, oh, that'll be so exciting. Yay, back together again. So absolutely need it. So, all right, I'm going to start. We'll see. I choke. We'll see everybody next. We'll talk to everybody next week, I guess is the proper thing to say. So ta-ta TT

TT (44:08)
I know. Yes.

Yes, ma'am.

Bye bye!

Queenie (44:33)
Bye!

So yeah, one, two, three, clap.

All right.

TT (45:10)
I

Queenie (45:12)
We're gonna have to try that one more time.

Okay, if it helps you to close your eyes, close your eyes. Okay, listen to me closely. We're gonna do one, two, three, clap, okay? One, two, three, clap. my God.

think you should be driving.

TT (45:41)
I'm not driving!

Queenie (45:43)
You I don't I meant you're you're you're you're respond you're Wow. What do you call that response time or

TT (45:56)
Reaction time.

Queenie (45:57)
Reaction time. Okay, let's try it again. One, two, three, clap. Wait, wait, wait. Okay, ready? One, two, three, clap.

Okay, I'm going to take... We're not synchronized at all. I'm clapping first and then you're clapping. Are you not hearing that? You're not hearing me clap?

TT (46:07)
What happened?

We're not?

Uh-uh, uh-uh.

I hear us doing it at the same time. That must be the time it takes for the image to travel or something.

Queenie (46:27)
Okay. Where I'm sitting, there's a two second delay.

TT (46:31)
Because I was, and

I was watching your hands waiting.

Queenie (46:36)
Okay, all right, do this, do this. One,

two, three, clap. my God. It's like I clap and then you clap. Okay, well, that's what I'm seeing. So maybe when it...

TT (46:48)
No.

⁓ okay, okay.

I think it's the travel, you know, it's gotta go, you know, for the... I mean, it must take a certain amount of time, like a split second to travel. I don't know. You know, I hear that a lot on news reporting, you know, when they're interviewing someone in another state, no, but that they're...

Queenie (46:58)
Travel time. It could be. I do not.

I would think.

that they clap.

TT (47:19)
person who's, know, the, ⁓ we're going to pass you over to Jessica now. And then Jessica's just like this for a few seconds. And then she goes, thanks very much. You know, Stu or whatever. Yeah.

Queenie (47:30)
Don.

Alright, I guess so maybe maybe when I when I go to edit it and play the video, it will line up.

TT (47:36)
And there's a gap, so maybe that was what we.

Who knows? Who knows? I suppose. Who knows? I suppose.

Queenie (47:45)
Well, who knows? And that'll be the test, I guess. I, I, ⁓

I do not know you're