Grace + Boundaries: Navigating Intergenerational Trauma with Erin Hearts

Rewind: Dating Deathtrap #2: Jumping to Conclusions

February 14, 2024 Erin Hearts
Rewind: Dating Deathtrap #2: Jumping to Conclusions
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Grace + Boundaries: Navigating Intergenerational Trauma with Erin Hearts
Rewind: Dating Deathtrap #2: Jumping to Conclusions
Feb 14, 2024
Erin Hearts

Rewind: I'm re-releasing this episode from 2022 because I hope others can learn from my bad mistakes.
Trigger Warning!
I mildly discuss a date-rape situation in this episode. No major details, just feelings and thoughts about the situation.
My third installment in the "Dating Deathtrap" series is about my second relationship after my divorce, which is more than super-cringy. What happened with this man I dated was what plunged me into truly taking therapy and my immediate need for healing seriously. It led me to finding a new therapist who specializes in EMDR.
Jumping to conclusions about someone we're dating is a "deathtrap" because on the positive side or the negative side, we're not living in reality. This causes problems and it's a recipe for a dating disaster. I learned from this relationship that even if someone seems like a great person and checks a bunch of boxes on my list of qualities I want in a partner, I need to take my time and pay attention.  He could still be a psycho-boundary violator. It's in those more subtle moments that we get to know another person, not necessarily in the big things.
Thank you for listening!
What's a dating deathtrap for you?
Episode 41: Dating Deathtrap #1: Believing Words Over Actions: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/grace-boundaries-navigating-intergenerational-trauma/id1597600839?i=1000578487781

Episode 67: Dating Deathtrap #7: Clamming Up: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/grace-boundaries-navigating-intergenerational-trauma/id1597600839?i=1000603234643

Healing is possible!

I'd love to hear from you! https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/

Please rate and review the podcast to let me know you're listening! Thank you!

Show Notes

Rewind: I'm re-releasing this episode from 2022 because I hope others can learn from my bad mistakes.
Trigger Warning!
I mildly discuss a date-rape situation in this episode. No major details, just feelings and thoughts about the situation.
My third installment in the "Dating Deathtrap" series is about my second relationship after my divorce, which is more than super-cringy. What happened with this man I dated was what plunged me into truly taking therapy and my immediate need for healing seriously. It led me to finding a new therapist who specializes in EMDR.
Jumping to conclusions about someone we're dating is a "deathtrap" because on the positive side or the negative side, we're not living in reality. This causes problems and it's a recipe for a dating disaster. I learned from this relationship that even if someone seems like a great person and checks a bunch of boxes on my list of qualities I want in a partner, I need to take my time and pay attention.  He could still be a psycho-boundary violator. It's in those more subtle moments that we get to know another person, not necessarily in the big things.
Thank you for listening!
What's a dating deathtrap for you?
Episode 41: Dating Deathtrap #1: Believing Words Over Actions: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/grace-boundaries-navigating-intergenerational-trauma/id1597600839?i=1000578487781

Episode 67: Dating Deathtrap #7: Clamming Up: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/grace-boundaries-navigating-intergenerational-trauma/id1597600839?i=1000603234643

Healing is possible!

I'd love to hear from you! https://www.instagram.com/iheartserin/

Please rate and review the podcast to let me know you're listening! Thank you!