More correctly, his own. An important charge. All must bear the cross, but not all the same cross: each one his own.
WHAT YOU WILL TAKE UP…
(τὴν δαπάνην). Allied to δάπτω, to devour. Hence expense, as something which eats up resources.
WHAT YOU WILL LAY DOWN…
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25 Now great crowds accompanied him, and he turned and said to them,
14:25 Great crowds continue to follow Jesus (see 4:37).
26 “If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple.
14:26 If anyone comes to me. Cf. 9:23–24. Those who would be Christ’s disciples must (1) love their family less than they love Christ (14:26); (2) bear the cross and follow Christ (v. 27); and (3) relinquish everything (v. 33). These are complementary ways of describing complete commitment. The first condition for discipleship is to hate one’s father, mother, wife, children, brothers, sisters, and life (cf. 18:29; see 6:20–22). “Hating” is a Semitic expression for loving less (cf. Gen. 29:30–31; Deut. 21:15–17; Matt. 10:37).
27 Whoever does not bear his own cross and come after me cannot be my disciple.
14:27 For the second condition for discipleship, bear his own cross and come after me, see notes on Matt. 10:38 and Mark 8:34.
28 For which of you, desiring to build a tower, does not first sit down and count the cost, whether he has enough to complete it? 29 Otherwise, when he has laid a foundation and is not able to finish, all who see it begin to mock him, 30 saying, ‘This man began to build and was not able to finish.’ 31 Or what king, going out to encounter another king in war, will not sit down first and deliberate whether he is able with ten thousand to meet him who comes against him with twenty thousand? 32 And if not, while the other is yet a great way off, he sends a delegation and asks for terms of peace.
14:28–32 Two parabolic illustrations involving building (vv. 28–30) and going to war (vv. 31–32) both warn against making a hasty decision to follow Jesus. Potential disciples must first count the cost to see if they will persevere in the faith (cf. 8:15; 21:19). 33 So therefore, any one of you who does not renounce all that he has cannot be my disciple.
14:33 The third condition for discipleship (see note on v. 26) involves renouncing all (cf. 5:11, 28; 12:33; 18:22).
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THE COST: What you must lay down…
1. Your pursuit of peace
2. Your pursuit of physical perfection (vanity and denial of age)
3. Your idolatry of Family and Friendships
4. Your “purpose, dreams, and hopes”
5. Your Time
6. Your love
7. Your thoughts
YOUR CROSS: What you must take up…
1. The life of humility
2. The life of inconvenience
3. The life of surrender
4. The life of an alien in this world
5. The life of the ridiculed
6. The life of the “mystic”
7. The life of a believer existing in the perfect life, death, and resurrection of Jesus