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Henlo France, crystal here. You're a vibrant BF. And welcome back to another episode. So I was talking to a girlfriend of mine the other day. And she said something so beautifully profound that I was like, oh yeah, we're talking about this on the podcast. We were talking about. Dynamics of relationships. And there are so many layers to this. Now I'm going to segue for a moment and talk about. A new passion project that I am in the midst of creating, which is another podcast that talks about the relationship dynamics. Of mother daughter estrangement. Now this is something I've been wanting to do probably over a year. And the timing just kind of opened up and. Long story long. I'm so excited about it. In the process of our conversation. She was sharing some relationship dynamics that she was having. And one of the things she said was how she's so proud of the work she's done and the healing that she has, because she could see how, if you hadn't done the work, if you hadn't took the time to heal, if you didn't have self-awareness. That you would be easily offended. And then she said, And I love to stay at my favorite place. The unoffended. And let me tell you. It was so incredible to hear. I love to stay in my favorite place. The unoffended. Wow. So in the book of four agreements, or even the fifth agreement, one of the agreements is don't take anything personally. Excuse me. Can you imagine if, when people spoke to us that we didn't take anything personally? We came from a place from such healing. From such a surety of who we were that even if it was meant to be offensive, it just rolled off. Like water on a duck. An incredible place to be. So, what does that look like? How do you get to this place called the unoffended? How do you get to this place called not taking anything personally? First and foremost, I'm not going to pretend that we're not human. And even the most healed people will have their moments of like, wow, what that really stung that really hurt that was offensive or whatever. But to arrive to a place of such healing where you're like, okay, I could see an older version of me really being activated by this really being triggered by this. And I'm also so proud that new me. Current me healed me. Recognizes it and lets it roll right off. I think most of us are attaining this level of ease, this level of healing, this level of peace. But what is the work to get there? Let's take this step-by-step. You want to get to a place where you don't take offense and you don't take things personally. I recently started therapy a few weeks ago. And one of the things my therapist actually was telling me was how important it is for depersonalization. And maybe about a year and a half ago, I was really working on detachment. The attachment for a lot of things, detachment from what it is. I desired once I got clear on what it is I desired or what I'd wanted, I let it go. Right. I didn't want to create more resistance. I didn't want to ruminate over it. Which really does sound like an oxymoron. we've talked about this before on the podcast. And with detachment also comes depersonalization. If we see there's a trend here, there's a lot of letting go. We let go. Of the offenses we choose to live and our happy place of being unoffended. We choose. To give grace, we choose joy. We choose love. We choose to vibrate at a higher frequency. We choose. Everything is a choice. There's this movie called the book of Eli with Denzel Washington. If you've never seen it, I highly recommended. It's absolutely incredible. It's like a post-apocalyptic world, There's a scene in the movie where he's kind of caught by these mercenaries. We'll call them and they're encouraging him to stay at their establishment. Now he was on a mission. To another destination. And one of the mercenaries told him. You know, you don't have a choice. And. The main character didn't sell, says there's always a choice. And it truly is always a choice we can choose. What it is, we want to believe we can choose. What it is we want to feel now it's not always easy. Right? I don't want this to come off as like, just do it, but in the same breath, just do it. So, what does that look like to choose to be unoffended? Really getting clear on who you are. Understanding and having self-acceptance for you all your little quirks and what makes you, you really coming to a place of acceptance? Really coming to a place of healing, really coming to a place of growth. That way when people come to you or situations arise, that don't align. And to that vibration, you're easily able to recognize it and to remove it or yourself. From that space or to allow more of what I like to call a buffer zone. So, what is this buffer zone? These buffer zones are going to look different for everybody. For myself, I create my buffer zone through meditation and through breath work and through body movement. So me getting up and journaling and moving my body. Creates more of a buffer zone so that when I'm out in the real world, out in, even in my own home, I'm not activated triggered, pinged, if you will, because I've created a buffer zone. I've allowed for space. I will allow for me to still be human. But not to be so effected by my external, because I'm creating such a strong foundation internally. So what does your buffer zone look like? What do you do to create a buffer zone? This can be anything from somatic work, including breath, work, and meditation and exercise. So when you've created the buffer zone and you are really solid and rooted in who you are as a person. Let's go back to understanding who you are as a person. Being rooted, being grounded. Understanding and being self-aware. This is going to happen. By being honest with yourself. Your shadow areas, learning how to integrate all aspects of you. The sad versions of UVA, angry versions of you, the happy versions of you, the disappointed versions of you, all the layers. That make us humans. And having acceptance and a space for all of it. Because we all have different facets of us. We're not always happy. We're not always. Motivated. We're not always grateful. But when we can start incorporating these spaces and these places in these energies. That make us us. We can understand and give grace and give space for who we are. Through our roots. Being authentic to what lights us up, leaning into our intuition, which is another thing. Do you know, your intuition? Do you know what it is and how it is. You read energy. What about your spirituality? What does that look like? We are mind, body and spirit. And we are made up all the components. Do you know, your astrology's, your human design, all these different aspects. Again, you don't have to believe in all the different nuances of our humanities, depending on where you were born and what you believe and all that. But at the end of the day, understanding that you are mind, body and spirit. And it's not just about what you intake for your food, but it's what you intake through your eyes. It's what you read. It's who you hang out with. It's the energies, it's the vibration, all of that is going to have an effect. And all of that is going to impact. How, and when you're able to live in A place of unoffended a state of carefree, a state of ease because when I think of being unoffended, I think of being a place of ease, you are generally calm. You're really unaffected. By what goes on in the external, because you've created such solid stability on the inside. Say you're on an ocean. And bad weather comes in and the waves are crashing against the shore. The further you go down, it's going to get very quiet and it's going to get very steel. That's how it feels when you are very rooted and grounded. When you're in a state of NFS. No matter what is going on in your external, you're not allowing that to rock you at your core. At the core at the base on the ocean floor, as far as we can go down as humans, it's quiet. It's still it's peace. So that is the same aspect for us as human. Going internal and getting very steel, understanding what it is, who it is we are, and having peace with that detaching from whatever is going on externally. Yes. We're still in the world. Yes. We're still going to be affected by a driver that slammed on their brakes that may cause you to get an accident. Or whatever it may be, but we still get to choose. Remember every day, every hour, every minute we get to choose, do I take offense to this? Do I let it go? Do I choose to be activated or do I let it go? Do I choose to operate in my higher self. My healed self by expand itself. Or do I choose to repeat evolve or repeat? Every day is a choice. I want you to take this moment. And just take a deep breath in. And then exhale. I want you to think. And understand the power that you hold. You are a magical, powerful being. We allow so many external things, places, people too. Rob us to take from us too. CAEP to suck to evaporate our energy, our magic, our power. But no longer. Don't allow for the energy leaks. Call in your energy. Call back your power. Remember who you are. Remember that you are co-creating with the universe. You are infinitely supported. Everything that you think and feel, and desire is available. You are not only the author. But the director of your life live and your main character energy. If you desire to live in a place of ease and flow and abundance. And peace. And joy and love. So be it. It's not to say that you'll never come up against opposition or frustrations or anything that makes this human experience, a human experience. But it's to say that you still get to choose how you navigate through each encounter. And that you can still remain and hold onto your power. Even when the ocean is roaring. You too, can be like the ocean. You too, can be, as my girlfriend said, And your favorite place of unoffensive. This is a choice that we all kit. And the more you understand and realize and take back your power and call back your power and live in your power and operate from your power. Your magic. Remember your magnetised aligned. Guided intuitive clarity. The more ease you will feel and all aspects of your life. The more harmonious, you will have a new relationships. The more alignment, you will feel the clarity you feel all of it plays together. Mind body and spirit. I hope today's episode has encouraged you to. Get into a space of ease, to get into a space of flow and to remember to detach. Is it serving you? Is it helping you? Is it healing? You. Or is it hindering you? Get curious on what it is that makes you, you. Have love for yourself. Except all aspects of yourself. Show yourself, mercy and grace. And understand that we are all just walking each other home. And that none of us are making it out of here alive. So choose today to live in peace, to live. Enjoy. To live and your happy place of an offense. If you enjoyed today's episode, be sure to leave a comment, a like subscribe, you know, the drill. Follow me over on and until next time friends bye-bye.