I Decided To Take Myself Seriously And Show Up (Jhanilka Solo Ep)

We share a candid shift from knowing to doing, moving from coasting to intentional action in content creation and personal goals. We map clear steps, debate coaching vs DIY, and commit to routines that treat this work like a real job.

• setting 2025–2026 goals and naming the gap between desire and action
• redefining seriousness as intentionality with consequences
• weighing DIY learning against hiring a coach for clarity
• choosing presentation as strategy to stop the scroll
• building a weekly system with schedule and pillars
• tracking meaningful signals over vanity metrics
• faith, community impact, and keeping promises to self
• public commitment to show up consistently

Follow along with me on this journey as I continue to show up for myself, for you guys, and grow with intentionality

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Transcript

Naming The Mission

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I need a name for my videos. Jenny Rant. Like, I don't even know what the name is gonna be. But this video is about taking myself seriously. And how bad do I really want things? And you may need to hear this because you gotta be honest with yourself. First of all, I am a very realist, realistic person. And when me and my husband was going through our goals, our we kept our 2025 goals and then we were going over our 2026 goals. Um it came to my part because I have a section and he has a section. And I said to myself, This year I would like to take myself seriously. And that's the first time that I've ever said anything like that out loud. And my husband's like, Whoa, what do you mean by that? I'm like, I don't, I don't know how to explain it. I'm I I'm serious in that I get things done, right? Yes, I'm a mother, I'm a wife, I'm a friend, I do the things that I have to do, but the things that I said I wanted to do, I guess specifically maybe to weight loss or even just mostly social media, I would say. I don't feel any consequences when I don't complete it. Does that make sense? Like, I want to feel bad that I didn't do it. So then I'm like, well, how bad do I really want it? Is it because I'm coasting and that's why I don't feel bad? And I'm like, I'm not taking what I want seriously. And I see videos all the time, and I wholeheartedly agree. If you want to change something, you need to do something about it. And it's not that I don't have the time to do it because I record content and is it time consuming? Yes. The things I've done is time consuming, yes. But so is getting my master's, so is getting you know everything else in life. It takes work, it's not like it's just gonna fall in your lap. And I had that understanding, but still I'm not doing. It's like, do I not have enough drive? And these are questions I'm just asking myself throughout this time. So I I started, and I still say that like I want to take myself seriously, I want to go hard on myself. Like, if you don't get something done that you said you was gonna get done, why are you just like, okay, well, next, you know, does it mean like you're not prioritizing enough? Does it mean like it's not that important to you? I don't have the exact answer, but that's the way that I'm feeling about it. And so let me just come on and talk, and maybe some other people talk about feel this way. Maybe you kind of have set goals or things that you want to do and it hasn't happened, you just kind of keep it pushing. But then I still think about it, so I I do want it, I I just need to put the work in, and I don't know how I get that going, but I'm gonna figure it out, okay? I'm gonna figure it out about getting the work going. And my husband has said, because both of us kind of live in a mindset of if there are other people doing the thing you want to do, then hire them to train you or to help you. Because in 2025, 2026, there's probably nothing new that you're coming up with that someone else hasn't done, and at this point, someone else is probably teaching it. Like, why struggle on your own to figure it out? And I agree with that as well. But for some reason, when it comes to the content creation and the growing and stuff, I'm like, no, I know I know how to do this part, and I know how to do this part, and you know, I listen to this person say this, and it's all about the hook, and you gotta be quick and change clips 0.8. You know, I know all the like this is this is my conversation that I'm having back with him, and I'm like, I don't feel like you have to pay someone to learn to grow somewhere, which you absolutely do not, but it's kind of like you are me trying to piece things together that you think will work best versus kind of just investing in someone that probably can look at your profile and tell you, okay, you think you don't have pillars, but this is what you talk about. You only talk about these things, or you think that whatever, whatever, this will be better if you do it this way. Little slight tweaks can get me way further than me struggling for one, three years trying to figure it out. And I don't know why I am hesitant to go ahead and hire a coach or work with someone because I agree, I've seen what we've had a business coach now. I want to say four or five years. I've seen what a business coach has done has changed the trajectory of our life. Okay, the trajectory of our life by having a coach in our life and what we do for our students. We are coaches, we are business coaches ourselves, we are cleaning business coaches ourselves, where it changed the trajectory of some of our students' lives. So one may say, like, so what you went on? You what are you waiting on? Like, what's the hesitancy here? I don't have the answer. I really don't have the answer. I don't know if it's that I want to make sure that like whenever I hop in and get someone, it's the right fit, but you just never know. So you just have to go for it regardless. And I'm saying this out loud so that hopefully it becomes a place that I go for it regardless. Part of me taking myself more seriously when it comes to this world of social media, and I kind of mentioned it in my previous video, is me dressing the par, dressing for the job that I want. What do I mean by that? Sometimes, like I know, I understand now that I need to get dressed, get ready. When I think about people that are following stuff like that, they ain't coming up on here on social media looking busted, right? They at least have a little face on, maybe they have hair done, they're well dressed. That helps you to stop the scroll. Immediately that helps to stop the scroll. Now, I'm not saying that people don't put on, you know, give content without that. Obviously, that does happen too, but I enjoy when people are kind of like dressed, and I'm like, I need to dress for the job that I want. The job that I want is to grow, is to build a community, is to monetize, is to do all these things. That's the job that I want as a content creator slash influencer at slash expert, whatever the title is. That's the job that I want. So I understand now that I need to get dressed for it. I need to show up for it. I need to say, okay, on Tuesdays, that's when I do my content. I need to be specific about it. I need to train myself the same way that I would with the nine to five. Like, okay, you gotta get up because you gotta get to work at 8:30. You're there, you lock in, and then you finish and you go from there. I'm in a place that I know that I need to do that. I think that is going to help me to feel like I'm being more serious about it and being more intentional about it. And I think that may be the real word, not necessarily not taking myself seriously, but being more intentional about the things that I say that I want, specifically, like I said, social media and getting it done. And I'm just excited to see. You know how they have that phrase, you know, like I want God to show me how good it can get. That's what I want. Because I truly believe with me being intentional and me talking about it and me putting my mind and actually doing what I want to do, I can make an impact. I truly believe that that I can make an impact on people that listen to me, people that look like me, people that have things going on like me. I feel like I can make an impact, but I need to show up. I need to actually do it. I need to do the things that I set my mind to. It's pretty simple. I know it's just like it's like just do it, duh. Just do it. And if I was speaking to somebody else, I would tell them the same thing. Like, girl, if this is what you want to do, make sure you get it done. It's a bit harder when you're doing things in the home, whatever. But enough of excuses. Enough of excuses. This is the year that I will be taking myself seriously and doing this thing that I said I wanted to do. Okay, so take my hand, please. Follow along with me on this journey as I continue to show up for myself, for you guys, and grow with intentionality.