Women of Worth
Welcome to the Women of Worth Podcast with Claire Fealy! I am so excited to have you join me today to kick off this amazing journey and dive into how I got to this place in life. This show covers inspiring stories to help you uncover your worth. You are worthy because you were born. PERIOD.But this isn’t just my podcast. I would never be where I am today without you! So, settle in, grab a nice cup of tea and welcome to the first episode of OUR podcast.
Women of Worth
Massive Loss And The Power Of Emotional Resilience
Tired from trying to do it all but never actually feeling like you're getting anywhere? Get ready to rewire your mind, regulate your nervous system and reclaim your happiness!
In today's episode I open up about losing my granny, and how I turned one of the toughest experiences of my life into power, peace and purpose.
Together we unpack the seven layers of fear, how to get from “people will judge me” to the honest emotion beneath it, and why one song’s worth of feeling can change your brain’s predictions about capacity.
I share the three simple rituals that rebuilt my resilience and how they trained my body for safety, lowered anxiety, and turned peace, power and purpose into a daily practice.
This is where the shift from external to inner locus of control happens: when your calendar matches your core values, your peace stops depending on other people, and your worth is no longer outsourced to output.
We also talk about choosing harmony over hustle, honoring intuition when the world says “move faster,” and the mindset reframe that changed everything for me: life happens for me, not to me.
From there, bliss stops being a destination and becomes a baseline—created by consistent, compassionate and simple systems.
If you’re ready to trade burnout for balance and bliss, you’ll leave with prompts to reclaim your happiness, regulate your nervous system, and design tomorrow around what really matters.
Ready to build your life on bliss in 2026?
Join Blissful Living Academy today and SAVE €1,OOO Cyber Monday offer - linked here.
*Email me claire.fealy@gmail.com or DM me on IG, linked here for the 3,6,9 month plans.
If you want to add your name to the BLA waitlist, click here.
Don't forget to subscribe, share this episode with a friend who needs it, and leave a review with your biggest takeaway so more women can find their power.
Welcome to the Women of War podcast. I am your host, Care Feeding, teacher from Mindset and Confidence coach. Each week I will be bringing you inspiring people, messages, and science talking strategies to help you reconnect with your work. You are working because you will form. This podcast is all about empowering you to stop proving your work and start being it. Because the only person that gets to decide your work is you. Again, if you don't follow me on Instagram, you probably don't know. I was super, super close with my granny. She lives five minutes over the road, and every Friday we call them our spins. I would take her into town. So my granny was 88 and she wasn't able to drive. So I had been taking her into town every Friday for the last probably three years. And we joked that like I was her taxi. Like even coming up to Christmas, every Christmas I'd take around to all of the neighbours with cards and boxes of biscuits. And like even last Christmas, you had want to see her bedroom. It was full of tins of biscuits. Like I was like, Granny, there's no way you know that many people. Like there's no flipping way. But do you know what? At her funeral, so she got sick at the start of October. She was in hospital for a month and she died at the start of November. And at her funeral, at her wake, um, even so many people were just like the house was packed, absolutely packed. Um, we counted up the book of condolences, how many lines was on each page, and how many pages, and there was over 600 um that came to the house um for granny over the three days of the wake, and they all shared stories about just how generous granny was. Like I remember one person saying they just don't make them like that anymore. Sure, they don't, and I was like, Oh my god, they really don't. And I think I've obviously been doing a lot of reflecting in the last month since Granny died, and I think the biggest thing that I admired in Granny, and the biggest thing that everyone talked about after she passed, was just how generous she was, and how kind she always had a smile on her face, how uplifting she was. And when I think of granny, I just think of generosity, and I feel like that's what I want to carry on from Granny. I feel like that's her legacy, is her generosity, and I'm even noticing I'm like I'm still in the very, very early stages of grief. Um granny was more like a mum to me than a girl, like I was just so close with her. And um I promise the podcast is not gonna be me crying about my granny because I'm coming on to share the lessons that I've learned in the last month and even the last two months, because when granny went into hospital, um like even that month was so tough. Um I remember the night we got the call that she went into the ICU and it was in the middle of the night, and basically we were called up to say our goodbyes. And I was just having like an actual panic attack in the car of I was having a panic attack in the car of like I can't I can't handle if it happens to Granny. Um that like that was always one of my biggest fears was if it never happens to Granny, I just I know I won't be okay. And that's even what I was telling myself on the drive up. I was like, she can't, like, she just can't go. And this is one of the biggest lessons I've learned over the last two months. I think one of the biggest reasons why we are anxious and stressed and overwhelmed. This is the one of the biggest lessons I've learned is we're so afraid of things happening because we don't think we'll be able to handle it. So I didn't think that I'd ever, ever be able to handle anything happening to Granny, and obviously she's 88. Like, I'm not stupid. I obviously knew she was going to pass, you know, at some stage, but her mother lived until 99, and that side of the family, you know, longevity is their thing, and I definitely thought we'd another 10 years with granny. Like, I was like, and I would joke, I would say to granny that you know, you've another 10 years and you like, will you stop that? Do you know? But I know it was Granny's time, I know, um, yeah, I just I know, um, but I really want to share this because it is so, so, so powerful. The shift in me in the last two months has been monumental. So I have experienced grief before. I lost my brother. When I was 14, um, we had um, I don't know if trigger worn, and I don't know if I've I don't know if I've shared this on the podcast. I probably did in my very first episode. But when I was 14, we had a gas explosion in the house, and my brother, who was 15, he didn't get out. Me and my older sister got out. So I've experienced grief before, but this is on a whole other level because it's the first time I've been fully in my body. Like I was feeling everything, and I was letting myself feel everything because I know what it's like to push all of your emotions down. I know that suppression makes you sick, suppression makes you chronically stressed. Like when we push our emotions down, they don't just disappear, they turn to chronic stress, and I knew that if I didn't process this in real time, if I didn't allow my emotions, and it probably worked well. Granny being in hospital, the hospital was about 40 minutes from my house, and I cried on the way to the hospital, like pretty much every day. I cried on the way home, and I just like even at the wake at the funeral, uh maybe not so much at the funeral, but I feel like I I just I let my emotions come up, I let my emotions come out, and it was just so powerful. I know I still have such a long way to go with my grief. I know that like I'm still only at the start, but it proved to me like if you can handle the hardest thing that ever happens to you. Like I remember after Granny died, the week after I remember going for a drive. I had to go over and get my car NCT'd. Um, it failed, of course. And I was just like, oh for fuck's sake, and I was on the drive on the way home, and I I was falling back into my old numbing behaviours. So food pushing my emotions down, scrolling, like my screen time was through the roof. I wasn't sleeping at night, but um on the way back from that drive, I let the pain come up, and obviously do not recommend drive safe. This was I probably should have pulled over, but it was this like um the best way to describe it is like it was primal, like you know, that like guttural, like, oh my god, this is so painful. Like I was playing sad songs because I wanted this to come up and to come out, and it was just like, oh my god, I I felt the pain and I didn't die. So I do something with my clients called the seven layers of fear, and I go to your deepest level of fear, and most people's deepest level of fear is actually a feeling. So I'll just give you an example. Somebody comes to me and they want to start a business, like I work with a lot of entrepreneurs, and they're afraid of showing up online. I know that's not the real fear, so I'll go seven layers deep. And with the seven layers deep, you know, so I'm afraid of showing up online. Okay, tell me what would happen. Well, if I show up online, people are gonna judge me, they're gonna laugh at me, I'm gonna look stupid, I'm gonna fail. Okay, I want you to imagine, and this is just for fun, like I do this in a really playful way because fear is not logical, it is biological. Like fear doesn't make sense, so you have to have fun with it. Um so okay, I show up online, people are laughing about me, people people are talking about me, I look stupid, who do I think I am? You know, and then we go a layer deeper of um okay, people are laughing at you. What are you afraid of? Well, I'm afraid that I put myself out there and I failed. Okay, tell me what you're afraid of then. Well, I'm afraid that then I'll have no money and I'll have no job and I look really stupid, and okay, and we keep going and keep going, and it's always an emotion that people are afraid of, and the two emotions, and they're probably the same, but unhappiness. So I'm so afraid of being unhappy, or I'm so afraid of being lonely, like everyone in my life leaves me, right? And I have learned, so that's as far as I used to go, but what I've actually realized is people are really afraid that they will feel that way forever. So we're not just afraid of unhappiness, and I'm so depressed, and I can't get out of bed, and you know, I'm not afraid of loneliness, like not having anybody around me. It's I'm afraid that I'll feel that forever. And I think that this is because when you don't know how to feel your feelings, you don't know that feelings don't last forever. You don't know that the pain passes. And I want to talk in today's podcast about the power of resilience. So because I have been working so hard on myself the last few years and my daily rituals, so I do my magnetic morning, expansion evening, and bedtime bliss. And because I have been doing these rituals for the last few years, I didn't realise how much resilience I was building, right? So I now know that feelings are like waves, they come and then they reach a crest and then they fall. So I know that the pain I feel is not going to last forever, and that's why I'm not afraid of it anymore. So I know that I can go into the pain and I can come out of it. So, like, even sometimes if I'm really struggling, I'll say, Okay, Claire, just do one song, and I'll just do one song of letting myself feel my feelings. You have to prove to yourself that feelings pass, and not because we're trying to get rid of them, but because we're relaxing into them, we're making space for them. Um it's it's like because I feel like over the last two months I felt pain and sadness and grief and all of these things that I just thought I could never handle. And I'm so so so grateful for all of the work that I did that prepared me for the pain and prepared me for the grief. And I do think like I heard something obviously, like I've been watching videos and stuff on grief and looking for resources, but grief is the hardest emotional work you will do, and I want to say on the other side of this that I just have this newfound sense of power that if I can handle this pain, like the pain of losing granny, probably the person I loved the most in my life. Like, I just I can't even describe the relationship I had with granny. We just had crack, we just laughed. Granny grounded me. Like, I would go to her on a Friday and I might be stressed about something silly, and just five minutes with granny, and I would be laughing again. I would see that, like, oh it oh, I just I can't even describe granny. It's granny's energy, like she was just class, and I swear to God, if I am like half the woman Granny like was, I will be so flipping proud of myself, and I can feel the emotions coming up, I'm letting them come up, um, and I'm not gonna get sidetracked because I really want you to get this message that like the the mantra that I've been saying to myself is temporary pain for permanent peace. So, you know, that like no pain, no gain. It's like when you let yourself feel the pain. Now, I want to say I've obviously been doing this work for a long time, and I've realized that there's two things that you need. Number one is safety, so for your body to actually feel safe with these sensations, and to feel safe that these sensations are not going to overwhelm you. I'm not saying sit with your pain, and you know, like I've done this gently over the last few years, and but I I'm sharing this with you because I want you to know that just a few years ago I had zero resilience, like I can't even describe I had such little resilience, it's not even funny. But because I've been doing these rituals over the last few years, I've obviously built the practice of feeling safe in my body, and then once you have that safety, then you can start building capacity. So a lot of the psychologists um and somatic soma just means body, so somatic experts they talk about capacity, they talk about titrating, so it's like micro-dosing your emotions, micro-dosing your pain, and proving to yourself that you like I swear to God, the point of me doing this podcast is to tell you that you are a million times more powerful than you can ever imagine. That has been one of my biggest takeaways of the last two months is I am so much more powerful and so much more capable than I ever give myself credit for. And I feel beyond proud of how much safety and how much capacity that I have built to be able to grow through what I go through. So to be able to take the worst experience and to find the wisdom in it, to like turn pain into purpose, turn pain into power, it is the most freeing feeling because then you know the challenges come to clear your blockages, the challenges come to build your strength. That you know, I used to have such a victim mindset where I always thought life was happening to me, and one of the most powerful beliefs you can have is that life is happening for you. I always look like it doesn't matter how shit life is, I'm always looking for how is this happening for me? I would have loved another, like I would have given my right arm, my left arm, everything for another, even just a year with granny. Like I would have loved to have known it was her last year and just made the most of it. But obviously, I am grateful. Like when I finished school, I lived in Dublin for 10 years, and then I went to Abu Dhabi for two and a half years, and then I was living in Portugal for a year, I was living in Bali, then I was back in Portugal. I'm so grateful that I lived at home for the last three years, and that I did spend those last three years with granny and got to like got so close with her and got like all of that gold that like granny had. Like I'm I'm so so so grateful for the last three years, and I wouldn't have had the last three years if I hadn't got so clear. Like I always thought I would be living in a hot country. Like I thought I I used to joke, I am solar powered, I have to live in a hot country to be happy, right? Which is ridiculous. But I um I got so clear on what mattered to me, what made me happiest. And that's why I've been home the last three years. Like, even I have a friend that's in Bali that would say to me, like, Oh Claire, you know, come back, it'd be lovely to have you back. I've another friend in Australia, she has a spare room. My best friend, the one I was made of honour for um in the summer, and she was like, Claire, there's a spare room there, like the lifestyle, like everything, you know, and even I have another friend that is still in Abu Dhabi. Like a few times I've been like, Maybe I should go out to her. Like the last three years, I have stopped running away from myself, and I have aligned my life with what brings me the most joy, the most peace, the most purpose. And it's not, I don't think that if you live abroad, you're always running away from yourself. It's not that, but just I'm so glad because I really did think Granny would live to 99. I'm so glad that I listened to my gut and my intuition, and I don't know, like when friends were saying to me about like, oh, come back, or would you not go here, would you not go back to Portugal? Um, oh, that was it. And I a friend as well in Portugal, she moved to a place with two bedrooms and she messaged me to say, like, there's a bedroom here. It I was so listening to my gut and my intuition. And if you told me like it was granny's last three years, like it's just mad, it is mad, it is mad, it is mad. But I am saying all of this to say to you that one of the most powerful things I do with my clients, and don't know if I've talked about this on the podcast before, but it's the difference between an inner locus of control and an external locus of control. So an external locus of control is when your outer reality controls your inner reality. And I used to have a complete external locus of control where what was happening in my environment controlled my emotions, right? And now I'm at a place where I have 80, 90% inner locus of control. I don't know if there ever is such a thing as 100%, but even to be at 60, 70, like I see this with my clients all the time, when they start building this inner locus of control. Um it's when your emotions, like you are not controlled by your emotions, you are choosing your emotions. Um, it is just, I swear to God, it is so, so powerful. So, what I want you to do from this episode, um, I want you to ask yourself, how can I grow through what I go through? If life was happening for me, why is this happening for me? Um, like I believe that Granny passed for me to connect with this power that I didn't even know that I had. And now that I feel so connected to that power, I just feel so like nothing can stop me. Like, like I can handle that, I can handle anything, right? So um I want you to ask yourself, where are you putting your happiness, your peace, and your confidence outside of yourself? Like I did this visualization with a client recently where she was finding it really hard to get over a breakup. And I asked her to imagine putting her happiness, all of her happiness, all of her peace and all of her confidence in the hands of this person, and what did that feel like? And we did a visualization of her putting it back in her hands and what that felt like, and for her to notice when she was outsourcing her happiness, her peace, her confidence, and to bring it back. So I want you to do that, I want you to notice where you're outsourcing and start flipping, owning it. You are so much more powerful, I swear to god. Um, and I'm gonna finish up today with by the time you're listening to this, it is Cyber Monday, and I know you are so sick of offers, you're so sick of deals, I totally get that. But this is one that is just oh, I'm buzzing to share it. So, this is a new programme that I have been working on for the last year, and it's all about building your life on bliss. Um, and I want you to know that information is not enough. So many times women come to me and they're like, Claire, I listened to your podcast, I've read all the books, I've done a meditation course, I've done this, I've done that. Your body doesn't care what your brain knows. Your body's language is safety and threat. In the age of information, what we're missing is implementation. I did not build the safety and capacity that I have today. I didn't build the resilience by reading books. I built it by my magnetic morning, my expansion evening, my bedtime bliss, my rituals. That is what built my flipping resilience. And the blissful living academy is for ambitious women who want it all without the burnout. So inside of this six-month transformation, I am going to show you how to take back control of your time, of your energy, and how to live a life you genuinely love. So if you are like my clients, you have the outer success, you have the job, you have the house, you have it on the outside, but you're craving, craving the inner peace, the inner happiness, the inner confidence. You're amazing at what you do, but you're exhausted from constantly doing, and you are so ready. Like you have to be at this place where you're like, oh my God, I'm so ready to do things differently, to challenge your way of thinking and to see what you're capable of when you build safety and when you build capacity to see what you're capable of, when you build your success on bliss, when you are running on ease and peace instead of exhaustion. If you are the woman who can never switch off, you can never relax, you can never just let yourself enjoy the moment. I need you to know that you are not broken, you are burnt out, and I'm speaking from experience. The answer is not outside of you. It's not that you are doing too much, it's that your mind is not switching off, you're stuck in survival mode, and the solution is not outside of you. It is not in a spa, it is not in another book, it is not in another course, it is inside of you. That's what I am doing inside of bliss. I'm connecting you with your inner power, with your inner purpose, with your inner peace. So it's about, and this is what I wish I knew sooner. Stop consuming, consuming, consuming, and start connecting, start going inward. You don't need less action. That's not the solution to busy and burnout. You need more alignment, you need daily rituals. Morning, my magnetic morning aligns me with my power, it aligns me with the power of my mind. My expansion evening aligns me with the power of my peace, my body, and my bedtime bliss ritual, it aligns me with my purpose. I remind myself why I'm here. I remind myself what really matters, and then I design my day. So in my bedtime bliss, I always decide my priorities for the next day. I design my day around what brings me the most joy, what brings me the most peace, what brings me the most fulfillment. You need a simple, simple, simple, simple step-by-step system that makes feeling good your new normal, that makes bliss your baseline. Because bliss is not rocket science, it's rituals. This is what I wish I knew when I started on my journey. It's in your daily rituals. I always had happiness as a destination. Once I have the dream house, once I have the dream partner, once I have a six-figure business, I'll be happy when the hamster wheel. And it took me moving to Abu Dhabi and having the dream job, the most amazing group of friends, like luxury holidays. I was living by the beach, I had a rooftop pool, I had more money than I could ever spend. Like it was wild, and I was so anxious, overwhelmed, and exhausted. And it took me all of that to realize that happiness is not in the future, it's in the now. And that is What Blissful Living Academy is all about. It is living a life that is built on ease and peace and purpose and passion so that you can fulfill your potential without killing yourself. You deserve, I need you to know this. I don't care whether you sign up for this or not, it does not bother me. But I need you to know just from this episode, please, please, please know. You deserve a life that is overflowing with joy and ease and love and peace. Bliss is your birthright. You were born to be blissful. I want you to think of a baby. This is why we love babies so much because they're a complete blank slate, they're completely in the present. Um, and actually, the um is it a paradox? Irony, my cousin just had a baby, and it's the baby was six weeks at Granny's wake, and it was just that is it that paradox, the irony of new life, and like granny passing, it was like, yeah, but I just wanted cuddles with the gorgeous little baby. I was like, oh my god, give me the baby. Anytime like the baby was in the room, I was like, Yeah, I'll hold them. Um, because babies are that remembering that before the world told you who you had to be, before you started putting your worth in your appearance, in your achievements, and in the approval of others, before you started outsourcing, before society conditioned you for lack, before society conditioned you for scarcity, most people live in lack and scarcity, right? So before the world programmed you for pressure and overwhelm and stress, so this is not about achieving bliss. This is about aligning with bliss. This is about getting rid of all of the bullshit beliefs that block your natural state of being. This is about going back to the way that you were born for bliss. So it's getting rid of, like I used to be so obsessed with fixing myself. I need to fix my emotions, I need to fix my mindset, I need to fix my body, I need to fix my business. You don't need to fix yourself, you need to free yourself from these bullshit beliefs. So the bullshit beliefs, like my worth is in my output. I don't deserve good things unless I'm constantly doing. I'll be happy when. So when X happens, when Y happens, when you free yourself from those bullshit beliefs, I swear to God, you like the lightness, it I just oh, it's unbelievable. These beliefs is what keeps you constantly chasing more. You're living in your ego. I always say if you're not enjoying life, your only goal in life is to enjoy it. If you are not in joy, you are in your ego, and your ego is endless getting and obsessing. Eg O, endless getting and obsessing, because your ego needs the externals to feel good enough. You don't feel wholeworthy and complete, exactly as you are. So your ego is always looking to the externals. Bliss is a way of living, it is not a destination, it is a daily practice of aligning with your power, with your peace, with your purpose. When you master your daily routine and your daily rituals, the results take care of themselves. So inside of Blissful Living Academy, we are going to realign you with your purpose, your power, your peace. Then we are going to redesign your week and your day around these priorities. And then you are going to rise into your next level life. This is not a course, this is a complete lifestyle transformation. And I want you to know, because this is what I wish somebody had told me, you're not doing it wrong, you're trying to do it all alone. When you have the right strategy, when you have the right systems, and most importantly, when you have the right support, and not just a coach, but a flipping community of women who want the same, who are on the same journey. It's why I love the power of group coaching, because we all like we're so much stronger together. And even when I'm in business coaching, I just find that like watching other women win and watching them do it, it makes me feel like if she can flip and do it, so can I. Like, that is what I love about group. Like we rise to the level of the people around us. It is so powerful. I want you to have the strategy, I want you to have these systems, I want you to have this support, and I want you to have it Cyber Monday. I want you to have it for the stupidest price I've ever, ever, ever done this. So for six months, the program is 1999. On this Cyber Monday, I'm given 1k off. So for 997, you can go on this six-month transformation and go from busy and burnout to bliss and balance and peace and freedom. I also have, I'm telling you, I'm like making this so flipping available, it's stupid. I have three, six, and nine-month payment plans. So you've no excuse, which means you can start on the nine-month payment plan, which is 111 euros starting today. I will leave the link for the pay in full in the show notes. And if you want the three, six, or nine-month payment plan, just drop me a message. I leave my email and I leave the um, you can message me on Instagram or I leave my email in the show notes as well. If you are listening to this after Cyber Monday, I am so sorry, the offer has passed. But if you want to be on the wait list, I'm officially launching in January. If you want to be on the wait list to find out more, and the wait list will get the early bird special. It won't be 1k off, but it will be worth being on the wait list. The wait list will get early access, early bird pricing, and extra bonuses. Get your name on the list. If you're not sure if this is for you and you, you know, want to just see what it's learn more about it, all of that, put your name down on the wait list because I'll be sharing more about it over the next few weeks. But obviously, if you know shit, 2026 is going to be my year of bliss, balance, and flipping brilliance. Stop sitting on the fence, get in today. Um, a few questions that people were asking. So it starts in the middle of January, and I'm thinking provisionally Tuesdays at six o'clock on Zoom. Um, but if you've any other questions, please drop me an email or um drop me an email or you can um drop me a message on Instagram. So any questions, let me know. But I promise you this: whether you join me inside of Blissful Living Academy or you just keep listening to the podcast, I promise you 2026 is going to be the year of bliss. It is going to be the year of balance, and it is going to be the year of brilliance. Um, because when women align with their purpose, power, and peace, and when they build their success on bliss, the world becomes a better place. It is so flipping powerful. I hope you enjoyed today's episode. It's longer than I normally do, but and I didn't expect to talk as much about Granny, and I was kind of I was dreading doing the episode a little bit because I was like, oh, like I didn't want to come on when I was really raw, like when I was like in the very, very early stages of grief, but I also needed to share this breakthrough with you and this lesson. Um so I hope you got um I hope you got something from today's episode. I would love to hear your biggest takeaways. Um, I'd love to hear your thoughts. Um please drop me a message over on Instagram or drop me an email, and please help me to help more women. Share this with a friend. Bonus if you share it to your stories, and don't forget to tag me so I can thank you. And I will see you in next week's episode. Remember, your only goal in life is to enjoy it. Take care, sending you loads of love, and I will chat to you soon.
