you have the time.. but is it a priority? you set the standard

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All right. Welcome back to another episode of the Extreme Lifestyle Living Podcast. Now, I hope you guys are all off to the absolute best start to the motherfucking year, and you guys are feeling a momentum. This is now going into the second full week of 2026, and it's cra, I mean, I feel like I broke a record when I say this, but I feel like for myself personally, if I'm gonna continue to lead from the front and just kind of, you know, create a standard. And like a flow, I guess you guys always know what you guys are getting into in episodes and to take things to another level is, you know, I, like I said, I feel like a broken record when I bring this up, but like natural reflection is what I do all the time. Reflecting on life and reflecting on what I've been through and everything in between, and it blows my mind. We're into 2026 right now. Absolutely. Blows my fucking mind. We're already getting into the second full week of 2026, so, you know, I hope you guys are genuinely off to a great start and feeling fucking in momentum like you guys are crushing it. Um, you know, it can be very, very daunting starting the year'cause you're not only trying to start a new year, new you, and it's not about anything that's, um. You know, I talk about that a lot. Like it's not about a New year's resolution per se, but organically we all start the new year wanting to be the best version of ourself to get the most outta the year. And the second thing is we're doing that on the back end of the holiday hangovers, you know, not physically, or not literal hangover story of actual drinking, but hangovers of the social exhaustion and the irregular schedule and just keeping up with life, right? So it is hard to get started, but by now you just gotta focus on one step at a time. I mean, that's the name of the game every day. But you know, at the end of the day when you're starting off from scratch, building a new momentum into the year, just be where your feet are at and try to do the best you can with what you have access to organically everything, every single thing else will. Be okay and work out. It always works that way. But to jump into today's topic, I wanted to talk about your schedule and how, you know, we tell ourselves we don't have time for, we don't have time for certain things, whether it's self-development or reading a book and taking a course, or you know, learning more about who we are as people and what we struggle with, whether it's anxiety, depression, or just life in general. Whether it's that, whether it's a, a, a skill that you want to pick up, like guitar or piano or you know, fucking, let's say data coding. I don't know what it is, but something you wanna get into that has no relevancy to anything outside in your life other than just making you feel good'cause you're interested into it, you know? And it obviously, it means your, your fitness goals as well, and you know what the, what that is in your life in terms of how you wanna be going to the gym, whether it's you wanna do a marathon. You wanna do a bodybuilding show, you wanna just lose 20 pounds, you wanna get the best shape of your life, or you just wanna show up for yourself more in a physical manner. Like all these different things, right? Like we wanna put into our day-to-day, week-to-week life. And we have these things we, we strive to do and we're doing some of them, you know, maybe not to the standard that we want. We all have something in our life we wish we could do more of. And for me personally, it's video games. Like I 100% wish I could play video games. I always tell myself on a day off, I wanna sit down and play video games for four to six hours. I just wanna get it outta my system. Remind me that I'm a kid, you know, fill my brain with a bunch of shit that's not relevant to anything else that's going on other than just the video game, learning about it and getting back into it. It's something that I used to enjoy a lot. So being able to be in the position now to have it, I wanna make time for it, but I don't, and that's the topic of today's episode, is we're just talking about your time and what you make, what, um, your schedule, sorry, what you make time for and what you're filling things into it. And, uh, you know, obviously work comes first. What, you know, without work, we don't have no life. We don't have no way of paying for our bills or investing into the things that we're chatting about to have a better time in our lives. Whether it's, you know, you gotta invest into a course or invest into even your fitness goals, you gotta invest into groceries, you gotta invest into a gym membership and everything that comes with that as well. So, you know, we don't work, you don't have no freedom, you know, so we obviously, our schedule takes a lot of precedence. To the schedule or to the work schedule and what we gotta do in there, right? So obviously you gotta layer that down and you know, that is what it is. You gotta sell your soul to that too. Uh, within reason, you know? But then everything outside of that. Is honestly subjective to your opinion. Yeah, you may have a family, yeah, you may have kids, may you have these commitments. But again, that just comes down to you to decide what is worth your time in that regard for those things that you think are worth your time. And what I mean by that is like, you know, family time, obviously if you have a weekly dinner and that's important to you, you don't wanna miss that. You pencil that into your schedule, you know? Um, and other things, your life too, like whatever it may be, whether it's friends outings, whether it's whatever social commitment. And things that you're already aligned in your schedule like that is everything's subjective to you, and that's kind of the main point of this entire episode is to show you that we have time for whatever we want to have time for, but. We make time for the things that we think are important. So those tasks and those things that you really want to add into your schedule, whether it's taking a guitar lesson or investing more into your health, or I don't have time for the gym, or I don't have time to track macros or whatever it may be, it's a lie to yourself. So we make time for the things that we truly care about, and it comes down to your standard. Right? And the reason why I'm saying this, because when I talk about family, like, like for me personally, my viewpoint of family and those, those things. Is a lot different than many other people. Like I think you should have family touchpoints and things like that, in my opinion. You know, I don't really like it every single week. I think it's too much. I like to be pretty selfish with my time and especially with just what I'm doing with my life and the way I grew up. It works for me. For you, it may not work for you'cause you have kids and other commitments. But again, once you have that part of your schedule layered down and you know that's gonna make you feel your best for other areas of your life, it's an investment into the time to hang with your family or friends. So you can show up everywhere else that much more integral. Because the thing is, is you're not enjoying what you're doing at all. Then that's what we just start to. Overwhelm ourselves and not do anything with our time, which is why I'm kind of ranting about this because the thing is, you do have time for everything, and I really want you to, I really wanna make that clear to you, but you put it on in an, in an accordance of importance to you. Like, like a prime example, cheesy, cheesy example, right? Is we've all got into a relationship before and all of a sudden it's the honeymoon phase. Everything's every, everything, every, everything feels amazing. All of a sudden you have a lot of extra time to commit to these people. Go get food, spend time with them and all these things. You're investing a lot of time and all of a sudden you have it. You know? Or if you're into video games, or if you're into reading books, or if you're into anything like that, you know, sparks your interest. That comes into seasons. You Mira miraculously have time as soon as we start to wanna put more time into these things, right? So when it comes to building our life and our dreams, the things that we know that's gonna make her feel our best, like whether it's going to the gym, investing into a course, investing into just areas are putting time in other areas, like you really gotta make time for it. And you have the time, time. We all have the same 24 hours. I know it sounds. Like, it may sound harsh to hear it that way because you may be frustrated even hearing that, right? Like, oh fuck, like I know I have more at the same time, but third day looks different than my day and all these different things and yeah, sure. Comparison is, is literally the thief of all joy. So if you start to compare, you're never gonna win, you know? But you know, the, what I will say to that is like, you know, where you are starting versus where other people have started is a whole lot different. Some people have been doing a lot more work. Behind closed doors and they let you let they let on. So what I mean by that is that you may be looking at your fitness goals and be like, I deserve to be further ahead because of the time I've been putting in. Whereas other people, they may put in 10, 15 years and you may put'em two, three years. You know, some people put two, three years, you put in two, three months. You know what I mean? And some people down place. A lot of the work that you're doing, you know, even with other curricular activities, right? Like, you know, if you want to pick up a, I don't know, I'm saying guitar and piano, but I think a couple, a couple of my clients are actually doing that. But it's like you can't expect. Do play perfectly after three sessions. If someone's been doing three sessions a week for three months, do you know what I mean? Or three sessions a week for four fucking years. Like, so when you look at it from this perspective, it's like everything you want out there in life is fucking very attainable. It's just you gotta manage your time. And the big thing with 2026 is I want all you guys to be super selfish with your time, and as you build your schedule and set the standards for it, it really comes down to your opinion as to what's important. Is everyone else around you in your life always gonna make you feel like you owe them time for. From you, like a hundred percent. Like, you know, you like a big thing that I learned coming back from Mexico, and I learned this from someone down, down in Tulum in Mexico, and I thought it was actually amazing, um, an an amazing perspective they had. But like when you, when you have other people to fit into your life, you're playing the role of who you are in their life. So if you, if you're trying to figure your mom and your dad into your life and your grandparents, you're playing the role of son. Uh, daughter, um, two mom and a dad, and great grandson or great or and great granddaughter, whatever it may be. And you're playing like, you know, an niece and a nephew. So you have these other hats you're wearing. So all these hats add layers of emotional things that just add into your plate. So it's up to you of how much of that emotional plate you want to. You know, in my, my, me personally, the, the least amount is best for me just because I feel like I get overwhelmed easily with those things.'cause they're very emotional and some of the family stuff can be, not say dramatic, but again, emotional, like,'cause there's a lot of stuff going on sometimes. But again, if it's already in your schedule and routine and you don't skip a beat from anything else, so settle life and it motivates you to put in the work then, you know, double down on it. We all have time and we can all do everything that we wanna do in our life. It just comes down to us making that time, making it important, you know what I mean? Because we always make time for, um, doom scroll and social media. We all make time for Netflix and we make time for things, but when it comes to our goals, it's really on us to double down on it. And you know, so this year I really want you guys to look at your guys' goals and understand if it's not fitting in your schedule, it's entirely just because it's your standard. You're allowing it not to fit in your schedule. If you want to take a course, fucking plan and do it, it's just about action, you know? And same thing when it comes to a real, anything in your life that you want absolutely fucking anything in your life, it comes down to, do I want to do it? Then I make a plan and schedule four, and then once you make a plan and schedule and show up for it, that's the next thing is showing up and committing to it. Nothing in life comes fucking easy. Everything you gotta get up off your ass and fucking work for it. And trust me, be me being an entrepreneur, as much as I love this life that I've created, it is super fucking stressful. But everything comes with stress. So you sell your soul to the side of the stress that you want to be on. So it always comes down to your perspective on things. And I'm telling you right now with 2026, I want you guys all to be incredibly motherfucking, just selfish with your guys' time.'cause like I said, a lot of these, a lot of these things would come down to, um, oh, side of work. That takes our time away from the things that we want to invest our life into is subjective to your opinion. You don't owe, you don't owe anybody anything. You don't owe anyone any, uh, any, any ounce ounce of your time. You owe it to yourself 110% because at the end of the day, and not the, this isn't 100% my belief, but at the end of the day, that quote that says, you're born alone and you die alone. It's true. You know? Yes. We have a lot of loved ones around us. But it's still, you gotta be selfish. It's like the analogy again, you put the mask on yourself first when you're in an airplane versus putting on anyone else first. No matter how close they're to you and what they mean to you.'cause you can only be the best version of yourself at all times. Everything else organically will take care of itself and be better if you're the best version of yourself. Of those things, you know? And you have to be super fucking selfish on that. And I, I know that because I protected my time and my boundaries so long in the last three to five years. And I'm super grateful that I did it, because at the end of the day, it's on you. It always is. You know, and there's life out there that you guys all can get. Like 1000% all can get. It's very, very achievable. You just gotta be willing to commit to it, show the fuck up on you, and honestly, do the fucking work. The work is the hardest part. And again. Be selfish because you know what you deserve. And if you know what you deserve, focus on that. Show the fuck up and schedule in your fucking schedule, you know, put the time in. But other than that, I hope you guys are start, like I said, have a fucking absolute rockstar start to the fucking year and you guys are catapulted into this year, into momentum. And if you're feeling good and if you're not, take a step back. Take a deep breath and keep fucking showing up because it's better to show and put the work in now. Than it is to look back in three months and regret that you never even fucking showed up. So other than that, if you guys need anything, always know to reach out and to keep doing what you guys do best, which is set the fucking standard and leave from the front. Let's go.